Do You Feel That? | A Couples Intimacy & Sex Podcast

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Do You Feel That? is a couples intimacy and sex podcast about love, connection, desire, and building a stronger relationship in and out of the bedroom. Hosted by Scott and Brittney, a married couple exploring modern intimacy, each episode blends honest conversations, personal stories, and practical tools to help couples improve communication, deepen emotional connection, and create better sex in long-term relationships. We talk about: • Marriage and intimacy • Sexual communication • Desire differences • Erotic exploration • Guided audio intimacy • Confidence in the bedroom • Reigniting passion after kids • Sex toys, play, and connection • Building emotional safety • Strengthening relationships through intentional intimacy Whether you’re navigating mismatched desire, looking to improve your sex life, or simply wanting to feel closer to your partner, Do You Feel That? offers grounded, real-world conversations to help couples grow together. New episodes every week.

  1. 5d ago

    What Turns You On — And Why Your Partner Has No Idea

    Most couples have been together for years and their partner still doesn't know exactly what turns them on. Not because they don't care. Because nobody ever gave either of them the language for it. In Episode 45, Scott and Brittney introduce the Sexual Self-Portrait — a User Manual for how you're actually wired. They each walk through their own completed portrait live, across nine essential sections: Core Desire, Dimension of Sex, Erotic Blueprint, Emotional Wiring, Arousal Arc, favorite position, ideal music and atmosphere, what lands and what doesn't, and how to meet them well. Scott shares his complete portrait — what he needs, how he arrives, what reliably works and what pulls him out, and what his Enneagram 4 with a 3 wing reveals about how his personality shapes his intimacy. Brittney shares hers — including Scott's working read of her from the outside, and what she'd correct or add in her own words. They also share why building these documents has been one of the most genuinely useful things they've done for their intimate life and give listeners everything they need to build their own, including a free downloadable template. This is the most personal episode of the series. Because the more clearly you know yourself, the more fully you can be met. In this episode: Why most partners have no idea what actually turns their person on and why that's nobody's faultThe nine sections of the Sexual Self-Portrait and what each one revealsScott and Brittney's complete portraits — Core Desires, Dimensions, Enneagram scores, Arousal Arcs, and moreWhy this has been a game changer for Scott and Brittney personallyThe two versions worth building — your own and a working read of your partnerHow to share it without it feeling like a performance review or a complaintNine prompts to start building yours tonightDownload the Sexual Self-Portrait Template Frameworks Referenced in This Episode: Core Desires — Somatica InstituteThe Three Dimensions of Sex — CoelleErotic Blueprints — JaiyaRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

  2. Aug 25

    The Intimacy Playlist — Music, Mood, and What's Actually Playing in Our Bedroom

    What's actually playing in the bedroom? Today Scott and Brittney answer that completely. In Episode 44, they share the full evolution of their intimacy music journey: from the early classics like Norah Jones, John Legend, Lana Del Rey, and 90s R&B, all the way to the four highly specific playlists they use today — each one designed for a different mood, a different kind of encounter, and a different dimension of intimacy. The Chill Covers playlist for warm, unhurried connection. The Erotic Playlist featuring Sabrina Claudio, James Blake, Massive Attack, and BANKS for dark and intentional intensity. The Sensual Playlist with Craig Pruess, Porangui, and Gwairoch for sacred, embodied presence. And the R&B Playlist featuring Isiah Falls, Bryson Tiller, Trey Songz, and The Weeknd for confident, charged energy. Plus: the practical guide to building your own intimacy playlist tonight — the most important variables, why tempo matters more than genre, and the one mistake most couples make with music and intimacy. In this episode: Why music affects mood and arousal neurochemically and why the wrong song is a genuine intimacy killerThe evolution from Norah Jones and Boyz II Men to four highly specific playlistsThe Chill Covers playlist — what it is, when to use it, and why covers work differently than originalsThe Erotic Playlist — "Frozen," "The Wilhelm Scream," "Teardrop," "Brain" and what makes each one workThe Sensual Playlist — "Devi Prayer," "Stardust," "Ancestral Prayer" and the sacred dimension of intimate musicThe R&B Playlist — Isiah Falls, Bryson Tiller, Trey Songz, The Weeknd and the mood each one createsHow to build your own intimacy playlist — tempo, lyrics, length, and the shuffle questionScott & Brittney's most reliable mood-setting tracks and the songs that have become personal favoritesRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

  3. Aug 18

    Dirty Talk 101 — Why It Works, What to Say, and How to Start Without Feeling Ridiculous

    Most couples want to try dirty talk. Most couples never do because they don't know where to start and they're terrified of feeling ridiculous. In Episode 43, Scott and Brittney fix that. This is Dirty Talk 101: the psychology of why it works, the four styles and what each one sounds like, a practical step-by-step progression from complete beginner to genuinely confident, and the honest conversation about what not to do. The research is clear: couples who communicate verbally during sex report significantly higher satisfaction, more intense orgasms, and deeper emotional connection. And women despite the cultural assumption are more likely to fantasize about dirty talk than men. The information gap around this topic is enormous. Today's episode closes it. Scott and Brittney get personal about their own journey with verbal intimacy including the awkward beginning and give listeners everything they need to start tonight. In this episode: The 2021 Journal of Sexual Medicine study — what it found about verbal communication and orgasm intensityThe four styles: appreciative, directive, narrative, and fantasy — what each sounds like and who it's forA step-by-step progression from beginner to confidentWhat not to do including why porn dialogue is the wrong reference pointScott & Brittney's honest personal takes on their own journey with verbal intimacyHow to recover gracefully when something lands awkwardlyRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

  4. Aug 11

    The Intimacy Reset — A 7-Day Plan for Couples Who Feel Stuck

    Scott and Brittney are in a rut. Work, kids, life — all of it has been filling the space where intimacy used to live. And they're naming it publicly because they know they're not alone. In Episode 42, they share a 7-Day Intimacy Reset — a gentle, progressive plan for couples who feel stuck. Not a dare game. Not a challenge. A reset that starts exactly where you are and builds from there, one day at a time. Each day's practice takes fifteen minutes or less. The bar is low by design. Because consistency matters more than intensity when you're rebuilding something. The reset starts outside the bedroom because intimacy doesn't begin between the sheets. It begins in the morning hold, the real conversation, the appreciation said out loud, the slow dinner with no phones, the non-sexual touch that asks nothing in return. By Day 6, the foundation is there. And what happens on Day 6 feels different because of it. Scott and Brittney are doing this alongside their listeners. Not from a place of having it all figured out from a place of being right in the middle of it. In this episode: Why ruts happen to good couples and why naming it is the first step outWhy intimacy outside the bedroom matters more than what happens inside itDay 1: The Reconnection Touch — sixty seconds before the day takes overDay 2: The Real Check-In — one question that goes beneath the surfaceDay 3: The Appreciation Letter — written, specific, and read out loudDay 4: The Slow Dinner — one real conversation starter and no phonesDay 5: The Non-Sexual Touch Practice — fifteen minutes, no agenda, both waysDay 6: The Intentional Intimate Encounter — arrived at, not stumbled intoDay 7: The Reset Debrief — what shifts, what stays, what becomes permanentScott & Brittney's honest reflection on their own current seasonRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

  5. Aug 4

    The Couples Dare Game — 10 Dares to Do This Week

    This week we're giving you homework. The good kind. In Episode 41, Scott and Brittney introduce the Couples Dare Game — ten dares designed to be completed over the course of one week, escalating from easy and playful all the way to genuinely bold. One dare per day. Both partners playing. No skipping. From an unprompted appreciation ambush and a no-phone evening, to a question you've never asked, a handwritten note, an explicit midday text, an extended no-agenda touch session, a genuine fantasy share, an intentional intimate encounter, a bucket list item and a debrief that ties the whole week together. These aren't theoretical. Scott and Brittney want you to actually do them and they tell you exactly why each one matters, what to expect, and how to follow through even when it feels slightly uncomfortable. The couples who do this dare game won't just have a good week. They'll have a reference point — a week that showed them what their relationship looks and feels like when they're both fully showing up. In this episode: The rules — why pacing matters and why skipping is against themDare #1: The Appreciation Ambush — specific, unprompted, out of nowhereDare #2: The No-Phone Evening — what fills the space when screens disappearDare #3: The Question You've Never Asked — Gottman's love maps in practiceDare #4: The Handwritten Note — why paper lands differently than a textDare #5: The Midday Text — anticipation as an intimacy toolDare #6: The Extended Touch Session — twenty minutes, no agenda, both waysDare #7: The Fantasy Share — the most vulnerable dare on the listDare #8: The Intentional Encounter — preparation as its own form of intimacyDare #9: The Bucket List Item — turning inspiration into actionDare #10: The State of the Dare — the debrief that makes it all stickRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

  6. Jul 21

    8 Things That Accidentally Kill the Mood And How to Recover Like a Pro

    Real life doesn't pause for intimacy. The phone goes off. The wrong song comes on. Someone says something accidentally hilarious. The body decides right now is the moment. The kid knocks. In Episode 40, Scott and Brittney get real and genuinely funny about the moments that accidentally kill the mood, share their own most memorable experiences, and turn all of it into a practical recovery guide that actually works. Because the couples who navigate these moments with warmth and humor aren't just surviving real life. They're building the kind of intimacy that only comes from being fully, imperfectly human together. In this episode: The phone notification — why the glance matters more than the soundThe wrong song — and why an ex's song on a shared playlist is a special kind of catastrophicThe accidental hilarious comment — and why laughing together is intimacy, not a failure of itThe body that has its own agenda — and the partner response that makes all the differenceThe kid knock — recovery tips and why a bedroom lock is an underrated investmentThe temperature problem — the most underestimated mood killer on the listThe emotional ambush — what to do when intimacy opens something unexpectedThe tech failure — and why choosing your partner over the Bluetooth speaker is the right callThe five-second rule — the universal recovery toolkit for when anything goes sidewaysScott & Brittney's most memorable real-life intimate moments — with full storiesRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

  7. Jul 14

    Our 12 Favorite Things — The Products We Actually Use and Why We Love Them

    Looking for the best sex toys for couples? Wondering what intimacy products are actually worth buying and which ones collect dust in a drawer? In this episode, Scott and Brittney share their 12 favorite couples intimacy products: the sex toys, personal lubricants, and bedroom accessories they personally use and genuinely recommend. No sponsors. No affiliate deals. No gifted products. Just honest reviews from a real couple who happens to host one of the most candid intimacy podcasts available. They break it down into three categories — her favorites, his favorites, and their couples picks — covering everything from vibrating c**k rings and wand vibrators to male masturbators, a water-based penis pump, prostate toys, penis extenders, sensation play accessories, premium personal lubricant, a massage table, and butt plugs for beginners. They also share the Coelle app sessions that pair perfectly with everything on the list — including their favorite eye gazing session and a new series built around sexual anticipation and couples games. Whether you're a beginner looking for your first sex toy as a couple, or an experienced couple looking for new intimacy product recommendations — this episode gives you a curated, honest starting point from people who've actually tried them. In this episode: Best vibrators for couples — including wand vibrators and vibrating c**k ringsMale sex toys worth buying — Fleshlight review, Bathmate Hydromax water pump, and moreBest personal lubricant for couples — why Gun Oil lube makes the listProstate toys for beginners — the Njoy Pure Wand explainedPenis extenders for couples — what they are, who they're for, and why girth mattersButt plugs for beginners — how to start with anal play toys safelySensation play accessories — feather wand and blindfold for couplesMassage table for couples — why this unexpected pick changed their intimate lifeCoelle app recommendations — eye gazing session and couples anticipation gamesHow to talk to your partner about introducing new sex toys and intimacy productsRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

  8. Jul 7

    Lube: The Beginner's Guide to the Most Underrated Tool in Your Intimacy Toolkit

    It's in a lot of couples' nightstands. Almost nobody talks about it honestly. Today we fix that. In Episode 38, Scott and Brittney break down everything couples need to know about personal lubricant — the most underrated, under-discussed tool in intimacy. Not as a solution to a problem, but as an enhancement to an already good thing. They cover all four main types: water-based, silicone-based, oil-based, and hybrid — what each one is best for, what the research says about safety and effectiveness, which use cases require which type, the ingredients worth avoiding, and the practical tips that make using lube feel like a natural part of intimacy rather than an interruption. Plus, their honest personal takes on what they've learned, what surprised them, and what they'd tell every couple who's never opened a bottle. In this episode: Why lube isn't a sign something is broken and why the stigma is completely backwardsThe anatomy reality: why natural lubrication is a variable, not a reliable indicatorWater-based: the most versatile, the safest for toys, and why glycerin-free mattersSilicone-based: why it's the top research choice for anal play and water useOil-based: what works, what doesn't, and the condom safety rule you need to knowHybrid: the best of both worlds and when it makes senseSpecific use cases: vaginal sex, anal play, toys, condoms, sensitive skinIngredients to avoid and why — glycerin, parabens, numbing agents, fragrancePractical tips for making lube a natural part of your intimate lifeScott & Brittney's honest takes on what they wish they'd known earlierRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

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Do You Feel That? is a couples intimacy and sex podcast about love, connection, desire, and building a stronger relationship in and out of the bedroom. Hosted by Scott and Brittney, a married couple exploring modern intimacy, each episode blends honest conversations, personal stories, and practical tools to help couples improve communication, deepen emotional connection, and create better sex in long-term relationships. We talk about: • Marriage and intimacy • Sexual communication • Desire differences • Erotic exploration • Guided audio intimacy • Confidence in the bedroom • Reigniting passion after kids • Sex toys, play, and connection • Building emotional safety • Strengthening relationships through intentional intimacy Whether you’re navigating mismatched desire, looking to improve your sex life, or simply wanting to feel closer to your partner, Do You Feel That? offers grounded, real-world conversations to help couples grow together. New episodes every week.

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