The Coach Approach Ministries Podcast

Coach Approach Ministries

Welcome to the Coach Approach Ministries Podcast! Coaching is a skillset and a mindset that helps people find focus, discover options and take action. At CAM, we train the very best Christian coaches in the world, and over the last decade, we've trained well over a thousand. Through this podcast, we want to share insights from the Coaching Community and help you to develop a broader understanding of coaching. You can find out more about us at www.coachapproachministries.org and sign up for our proven coach training.

  1. 1d ago

    When Not to Coach

    Episode Overview Coaching is a powerful leadership tool—but it isn't the right tool for every situation. In this solo episode, Brian Miller explores when coaching is appropriate and when other leadership approaches, particularly giving direction, are more effective. Using the Situational Leadership model developed by Paul Hersey and Ken Blanchard, he explains how leaders can match their approach to a person's level of development and avoid the common mistake of using the wrong tool at the wrong time. Key Ideas & Takeaways 1. Coaching Isn't Always the Right Answer Coaching is one of several leadership skills—not the only one. There are situations where people need clear direction more than thoughtful questions. The key is knowing which approach fits the moment. 2. Leadership Is Situational Leadership isn't limited to people with formal authority. Anyone who seeks to influence or help another person is exercising leadership. Effective leaders adapt their style to the situation rather than relying on a single preferred approach. 3. The Two Leadership Levers Situational Leadership revolves around two variables: Direction – telling people what to do. Support – encouraging, listening, partnering, and building confidence. Every leadership interaction adjusts these two "levers." 4. Four Leadership Approaches Depending on a person's development level, leaders should provide: High Direction / Low Support High Direction / High Support Low Direction / High Support (coaching) Low Direction / Low Support (delegation) 5. Coaching Fits Development Level Three Coaching is most valuable when someone: Knows how to do the work. Needs encouragement more than instruction. Is ready to develop ownership rather than receive answers. This is where asking questions becomes more powerful than giving advice. 6. Coaching Creates Ownership The greatest return on coaching is not simply better performance—it's ownership. People begin to see themselves as the expert. They develop confidence in their own judgment. Leaders can gradually release responsibility instead of maintaining control. 7. People Don't Stay at One Level Forever Development isn't linear. Stress Burnout New responsibilities Changing circumstances may require leaders to temporarily become more directive again. Great leadership continually reassesses the situation. 8. Great Leaders Build Multiple Skills Every leader should learn coaching, but every leader should also know when to: Tell Explain Encourage Coach Delegate The best leaders don't overuse their favorite style—they choose the one the situation requires. Memorable Quotes & Ideas "Half the time you shouldn't coach. The important thing is that at least half the time you should." "If you're coaching when they don't need coached, you're annoying. If you're telling when they need coached, you're annoying." "The greatest return on investment of coaching is ownership." "You can only accomplish what you can keep your eye on—coaching helps you expand beyond that." Mentioned in This Episode Situational Leadership by Paul Hersey and Ken Blanchard CAM 501 – Foundations of Christian Coaching, an eight-week introduction to coaching skills including listening, asking questions, making observations, and partnering with the Holy Spirit.

    When Not to Coach
  2. Jul 16

    How Coaching Changes the Coach

    Episode Overview Coaching is usually discussed in terms of what it does for the person being coached. In this episode, Brian turns the question around: What does coaching do to the coach? Drawing from more than fifteen years of coaching, Brian describes how the coaching mindset has changed the way he relates to other people, handles his own insights, and carries responsibility. Coaching has made him less individualistic, less compelled to give answers, and less likely to take ownership of problems that properly belong to someone else. More than a professional skill, coaching has become a way of understanding Christian community, personal maturity, leadership, friendship, marriage, and faith. Key Ideas 1. Coaching changes how we understand community Coaching is a fundamentally collaborative process. The coach is the expert in the conversation, while the client is the expert in the subject of the conversation. That partnership offers a picture of healthy community. People do not need to have identical strengths, roles, or perspectives in order to work together well. They contribute differently to something neither could create alone. For Brian, this has deepened his understanding of the body of Christ. Christian faith is personal, but it is not merely individual. We are joined together, dependent upon one another, and called to create something collectively that no single person could produce independently. 2. Coaching changes how we steward awareness Coaches regularly notice patterns, connections, and possible solutions before the client does. The temptation is to immediately share every insight. Brian has learned that an awareness does not go to waste simply because he chooses not to say it. When an insight is not immediately released, it can continue to work within the coach. It can mature, connect with other ideas, and produce greater depth. The discipline of not correcting, explaining, or contributing every thought has made him a better coach, trainer, leader, and person. 3. Coaching changes how we carry responsibility Responsibility is a strength, but it can become unhealthy when we take responsibility for things that properly belong to other people. Coaching has helped Brian ask: What is genuinely my responsibility? What belongs to the other person? How can I support someone without taking over? Can my presence help them carry what is theirs to carry? Sometimes helping means solving a problem. At other times, it means listening, encouraging, remaining present, or allowing another person to make a difficult decision. Memorable Quotes "I am a better person because I am a coach." "The coach is the expert of the conversation, but you are the expert of the topic." "That awareness that I don't share doesn't go to waste. It actually piles up in me, and it works on me." "I don't tend to grow when I share everything I know. I grow when I don't share everything I know." "Coaching has changed how I carry responsibility." "Christianity brings something to my coaching, but I think coaching brings something to my Christianity." "Coaching has given me a better life." Reflection Questions How has coaching changed the way you understand relationships and community? What awareness are you tempted to share before another person is ready for it? Where might you be carrying responsibility that properly belongs to someone else? How could you support someone without solving the problem for them? Mentioned in This Episode Brian will teach CAM 501: Foundations of Christian Coaching, beginning August 6, 2026. The eight-week course introduces the foundations, practices, and mindset of Christian coaching. Learn more at coachapproachministries.org.

    How Coaching Changes the Coach
  3. Jul 9

    Why People Don't Take Advice

    Episode Summary Brian Miller records a solo episode on a common leadership frustration: people ask for advice, receive good advice, agree that it makes sense—and then do not follow it. Brian explores why advice often fails to create change. The issue is not always that the advice is wrong. The deeper problem is that advice often skips the internal process people need in order to act. Coaching offers a better kind of conversation by helping people come to their own awareness, develop stronger action steps, and take ownership of the result. Big Ideas & Takeaways Awareness: Advice gives people someone else's insight Advice usually starts with what the advice-giver sees: "Here's what I think you should do." The advice may be wise, but the awareness belongs to the person giving it. People change more deeply when they come to awareness themselves. A coach approach creates space for someone to notice assumptions, patterns, fears, desires, and possibilities they had not seen clearly before. Brian illustrates this through his diabetes diagnosis. Being told he was diabetic did not instantly create full awareness. Later, a simple comment from his brother about giving up diet drinks helped Brian realize he had not yet tried everything. The awareness had to become his own before he could act on it. Key implication: if people do not own the awareness, they are unlikely to own the change. Action: Advice often produces weak action Even when people accept advice, the action can be vague, minimal, or borrowed. They may nod, agree, and even try something—but without a clear plan, the action rarely holds. A coaching conversation helps the person build a stronger action step. The action becomes specific, realistic, timely, and connected to the awareness they just discovered. Brian contrasts merely telling someone what to do with helping them think through the next step: What will you do? When will you do it? Who needs to be involved? What resources do you need? What could get in the way? Key implication: people are more likely to follow through on action they helped design. Ownership: Advice creates compliance; coaching creates responsibility Advice can produce compliance, especially when the advice-giver has authority. But compliance is not the same as ownership. Compliance says, "I am doing this because you told me to." Ownership says, "This is my responsibility, and I choose to act." Brian connects this to leadership, parenting, ministry, board meetings, and personal growth. The goal is not merely to get people to behave correctly. The goal is to help people become mature, responsible, and transformed. This is where accountability comes in. Accountability is strongest when it grows out of ownership. The person names the action, owns the responsibility, and identifies what will help them follow through. The Coaching Framework Awareness People need to see something for themselves. Action People need a concrete, supported next step. Ownership People need to take responsibility for what they choose to do. Memorable Quotes / Moments "People don't take advice." "No one ever washes a rental car." "Advice gives people my awareness." "People do what they tell themselves to do." "What's going to ensure that you take this action?" Timestamped Highlights ● 0:17–1:27 Intro: why people don't take advice ● 1:27–2:40 Story: nonprofit employee quits despite good advice ● 3:17–4:16 Conversations can be transformational ● 4:16–5:35 Advice gives people someone else's awareness ● 5:56–9:33 Diabetes diagnosis + brother's comment about diet drinks ● 11:53–14:33 Advice often produces weak action ● 16:53–18:38 Advice creates compliance instead of ownership ● 18:38–21:17 Accountability, counting carbs, and owning the next step ● 22:21–23:19 CAM 501 invitation and closing Links Mentioned ● Coach Approach Ministries: coachapproachministries.org ● CAM 501: Foundations of Christian Coaching ● Course start date mentioned: August 6, 2026 ● Schedule mentioned: Thursdays at 2:00 Eastern for eight weeks

    Why People Don't Take Advice
  4. Jul 2

    Presidents, Pressure, and the Myth That Things Used to Be Simple

    Podcast Notes: Presidents, Pressure, and the Myth That Things Used to Be Simple Episode Overview In this solo episode, Brian Miller reflects on America's 250th anniversary and his recent effort to memorize the presidents of the United States in order. What began as a personal history project became a reminder that American life has never been as simple, stable, or unified as we sometimes imagine. Rather than entering today's political debates, Brian uses presidential history as a lens for leadership, pressure, maturity, and perspective. The episode explores how history can help us become less reactive, less nostalgic, and more grounded as we lead through complicated times. Key Ideas & Takeaways History Is More Turbulent Than We Remember From a distance, history often looks cleaner than it actually was. We remember presidents as names, portraits, monuments, and eras. But they were real people leading in real time, often with incomplete information, competing pressures, personal limitations, and public criticism. The past was not as simple as we sometimes imagine. American history has always included conflict, ambition, division, compromise, courage, failure, and uncertainty. Remembering that does not minimize the challenges of the present, but it can help us hold them with greater perspective. Leadership Is Always Contextual Presidential history reminds us that leadership is never abstract. Every leader acts inside a particular moment, with particular pressures and constraints. Some presidents were prepared for the moment they inherited. Some were not. Some shaped their era. Others were overwhelmed by it. But each one had to carry responsibility inside circumstances they did not fully control. That matters for how we think about leadership today. It is easy to judge leaders only by personality, decisions, or outcomes. But a more mature view also asks: What pressure were they under? What limitations were they facing? What assumptions shaped their choices? What did the moment require of them? This does not excuse poor leadership. But it helps us understand that leadership always happens inside pressure. Perspective Helps Us Become Less Reactive One gift of history is that it lowers our shock. Not because the present is easy. Not because today's problems do not matter. But because history reminds us that conflict, uncertainty, and pressure are not new. Without perspective, every crisis can feel unprecedented. Every disagreement can feel like proof that everything is falling apart. Every leader can become either savior or villain. Historical perspective helps us become steadier. It allows us to care without being consumed, to act without merely reacting, and to tell the truth about the present without being swallowed by anxiety. This is also where the episode connects to coaching. Coaching helps people make meaning under pressure. It creates space for awareness, discernment, responsibility, and faithful action. Possible Coaching Questions What pressure are you carrying right now? What are you assuming about this moment? What are you afraid will happen? What responsibility is actually yours? What are you carrying that is not yours to carry? What would a less reactive version of you do next? What does faithfulness look like in this moment? Closing Thought As America turns 250, we do not need to pretend the story has been simple. It has not. It has been pressured, conflicted, unfinished, and often complicated. But that does not have to lead us to cynicism. It can lead us to maturity. History helps us tell the truth about the present without being swallowed by it. It reminds us that leadership has always required courage, humility, wisdom, and restraint. And it invites us to ask a question that is historical, spiritual, and deeply practical: What does faithfulness look like now?

    Presidents, Pressure, and the Myth That Things Used to Be Simple
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Welcome to the Coach Approach Ministries Podcast! Coaching is a skillset and a mindset that helps people find focus, discover options and take action. At CAM, we train the very best Christian coaches in the world, and over the last decade, we've trained well over a thousand. Through this podcast, we want to share insights from the Coaching Community and help you to develop a broader understanding of coaching. You can find out more about us at www.coachapproachministries.org and sign up for our proven coach training.

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