We are four clinical psychologists, bringing you ideas from psychology that can help you flourish in your work, relationships, and health.
Managing Anger and Irritability, featuring Russell Kolts
Anger and irritability are running high, and we're here to help! Learn strategies for managing anger, and listen to Dr. Russell Kolts talk about compassion and anger.
How to Change with Katy Milkman
Behavioral Scientist Katy Milkman provides evidence backed strategies for initiating and maintaining behavioral change.
How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Jerks with Melinda Wenner Moyer
Worried your kid is an a*****e? Or that he or she is well on the road to becoming an a*****e? You're not alone.
Bad behavior (read: assholery) is no fun to be around, let alone to parent around. In this episode of POTC, Yael and Melinda Wenner Moyer, author of How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes, discuss what kinds of behavior to be concerned about, the risk factors for assholery, and evidence-based practices for intervening with a*****e behavior. Listen in to this episode for practical advice on identifying the function of a*****e behavior, instilling theory of mind, setting the stage for empathy, responding to sibling rivalry, and much more!
Listen and Learn:
Yael and Jill’s personal experiences and struggles raising kids in a world of too much parenting adviceThe conflicting responses to Melinda’s book’s titleA science-based explanation of why kids act like assholes Melinda’s personal experience managing parenting and work (and practical advice on how you can too)Expert-approved recommendations for teaching kids to take responsibility for their behaviorPractical advice for teaching kids to consider others’ perspectives and how their own behavior impacts othersMelinda explains growth mindset, fixed mindset, how the two differ, and why they’re important for your child’s developmentPractical advice for utilizing rewards without fostering assholeryWhat the science says is an effective approach to curbing sibling fightsHow to approach kid screen time with younger kids and teensHow to know when assholery is code for needing additional support from a parent or an expert (like a psychologist)And much, much more!
Melinda’s book, How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes: Science-Based Strategies for Better Parenting--From Tots to Teens!Check out Anders Ericcson’s and Robert Pool’s Peak: Secrets from the New Science of Expertise Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Melinda Wenner Moyer:
Melinda Wenner Moyer has a master’s in Science, Health & Environmental Reporting from NYU and a background in cell and molecular biology. She is a contributing editor at Scientific Americanmagazine and a regular contributor to The New York Times, Washington Post, and other national magazines and newspapers. She is a faculty member in the Science, Health & Environmental Reporting program at NYU’s Arthur L. Carter Journalism Institute. Melinda was the recipient of the 2019 Bricker Award for Science Writing in Medicine, and her work was featured in the 2020 Best American Science and Nature Writing anthology. Buy Melinda’s most recent book, How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes: Science-Based Strategies for Better Parenting--From Tots to Teens! Keep up-to-date with Melinda’s work by subscribing to her newsletter, here!
Episode 58. Balancing the Big Stuff with Miriam Liss and Holly Schiffrin Episode 83. The Tao of Work and Family Balance with Tod Perry and Carl TottonEpisode 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Susan PollakEpisode 123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Rebecca Schrag HershbergEpisode 149. How Not to Lose it With Your Kids with Carla NaumbergEpisode 166. How to Manage Multiple Life Roles Skillfully with Sarah ArgenalEpisode 187. Raising a Child with ADHD, with Russell Barkley Episode 200. Growing Grit with Angela Duckworth
How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance and A Happy Home with Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson
Parenting and education experts, Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, discuss how to talk with kids about anxiety, stress, motivation and technology.
Stuff That's Loud: OCD and Anxiety with Lisa Coyne and Ben Sedley
OCD and Anxiety experts Dr. Lisa Coyne and Dr. Ben Sedley talk about ideas from their book, Stuff That's Loud: A Teen's Guide to Unspiraling When OCD Gets Noisy!
Subtract with Leidy Klotz
At the beginning of Dr. Seuss’s The Lorax, the Once-ler says, “I meant no harm. I most truly did not. But I had to grow bigger. So bigger I got.” Biggering, it turns out, is the default setting for most of us. For years, Leidy Klotz, author of Subtract: The Untapped Science of Less, has studied how we transform things from how they are to how we want them to be. Both his research and the Once-ler’s tale relay similar sentiments: we gravitate towards adding and systematically neglect subtracting. This remains true even when subtracting might add considerable value to our lives!
On this episode of POTC, Yael and Leidy discuss the science supporting addition by subtraction. Listen to this episode today to learn how to be deliberate in your choices, subtract what’s no longer serving you, and add value to your life in the process!
Listen and Learn:
Yael and Diana discuss the role of values and subtraction in their personal lives The values reinforcing Leidy’s life journey to “less”The important distinction between “less” and “subtraction”What happens to subtraction options when we're under pressureWhy we tend to add when subtracting is the better optionPractical advice for being more deliberate in your choices Important differences between saying “no” and subtractingThe story behind Leidy’s interdisciplinary approach to behavioral scienceEvidence based advice for subtracting in your personal lifeHow to be more deliberate about making subtractive changes at a global level
Buy Leidy’s book, Subtract: The Untapped Science of LessCheck out Leidy's experimental findings in his Nature paper, "People systematically overlook subtractive changes."Learn more about the KonMari Method Check out Dr. Seuss's book, The Lorax Attend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat! Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Find out more from the co-hosts, Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s by heading to their websites where you'll get access to their offerings, can sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Leidy Klotz
Leidy Klotz, PhD, studies how we transform things from how they are to how we want them to be. His research on the science of design has appeared in both Nature and Science, and he has written for The Washington Post, Fast Company, LitHub, The Globe and Mail, and The Behavioral Scientist. Leidy’s work applies whenever we are designing and problem-solving, whether for climate change, art, parenting, or personal finance. The range of implications of Leidy’s research have been highlighted in outlets including The Wall Street Journal, Grist, The Boston Globe, and national newspapers on five continents.
A professor at the University of Virginia, Leidy has authored more than 80 original research articles and secured more than $10 million dollars in competitive funding to support his and others’ work in this area. Recognized nationally as a professor who inspires, Leidy has taught thousands of students, including 21 Ph.D. advisees, whose designing and teaching shapes the world. Before becoming a professor, Leidy designed schools in New Jersey and before that he played professional soccer. Buy his latest book, Subtract: The Untapped Science of Less, and follow him on Twitter @Leidyklotz!
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Episode 45. Rest with Alex PangEpisode 73. Essentialism with Greg McKeownEpisode 99. Make the Most of Your Time with Laura VanderkamEpisode 130. Working Less with Alex PangEpisode 182. Do More With Less: How to Stretch in Work and Life with Scott Sonenshein
Amazing ACT specialists and great guests!
This podcast has been so informative and helpful to my budding career as a therapist. Diana, Yael, Debbie, and Jill all offer unique perspectives and skills that have helped me with pandemic stress, working with clients (and others…) with narcissism, and working with suicidal ideation in clients, amongst many other things. Diana and Debbies “ACT daily journal” book has also been a great resource for me personally and professionally. For anyone wanting to incorporate ACT principles into their lives or the lives of their clients, this podcast is a GEM. I’m so thankful I have found you all as my guides, thank you thank you thank you!
LOVE this podcast! The Why
Great content presented in a relatable way without dumbing down the research and expertise presented by many guests who are leaders in their fields of psychology, social science and business. The hosts are extremely well trained psychologists who know their stuff. Thank you POTC!!
Wonderful Journey Along the ACT Road
This is a very accessible way to learn about ACT and catch a ride on the journey to psychological flexibility.