The Stella Rae Podcast

stella rae

Welcome to The Stella Rae Podcast! A podcast dedicated to helping women lead healthier, more productive, and fulfilling lives. Join me as I explore the latest trends in wellness, lifestyle, and personal development, with inspiring guests and actionable tips. Tune in for honest conversations, expert insights, and the motivation you need to thrive. Follow on IG @stellaraepodcast Follow on TikTok @thestellaraepodcast Business inquiries: stellaraepromo@gmail.com

  1. 6d ago

    Why I’d Rather Be Strong Than Skinny

    in this episode, we’re talking about the reality of being a “locked-in” girl...from staying consistent with your fitness goals and prioritizing your health, to navigating dating, gym crushes, and finding someone who actually respects your lifestyle.why do some people love the results of a disciplined woman but not the habits that get her there? and why should we ever feel guilty for having goals, boundaries, or priorities outside of dating?we’re also getting into the ever-changing beauty standards around women’s bodies, the pressure to look a certain way, and why getting stronger should never be something we apologize for.🎧 welcome to another conversation about fitness, confidence, dating, and becoming your best self without forgetting to actually live.#stellarae #stellaraepodcast #fitnesspodcast #womenwholift #gymgirl #beautystandards #datingadvice #selfimprovement #fitnessmotivation #lockedin🌟Follow me! Instagram: http://instagram.com/stellaraepodcastTikTok: http://tiktok.com/@thestellaraepodcast🌱 Apply for 1:1 Health & Wellness Coaching! https://forms.gle/s3zprpWj8VE5Bkvm8🛍️ Shop my Poshmark: https://poshmark.com/closet/realstellarae📚My Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/10449999-stella-rae▶️ Subscribe to my main channel!http://youtube.com/@StellaRae🌿Get $1000 off the mindbodygreen NBHWC acredited Health & Wellness Coaching program I did with promo code STELLACOACHING https://www.shareasale.com/u.cfm?d=1281553&m=96296&u=1030263💬Join my discord server to chat with the community!! https://discord.gg/3nsk8vvf🛒My Amazon storefront! all my fav products listed in one place:https://www.amazon.com/shop/stellarae💪 Get 10% off PROZIS fitness & health supplements & workout clothes & accessories with code STELLARAE10 http://prozis.com/1LMJG 💻For business & PR opportunities, please email: stellaraepromo@gmail.comFTC: Some affiliate links may be used. All opinions are my own.00:00 Why women are constantly told not to lift weights00:42 My 10-year fitness journey01:38 Being skinny-shamed and internalizing comments about your body02:40 How moving to NYC changed my activity levels04:16 Fitness becoming a lifestyle, not just going to the gym05:20 My history with restrictive eating and learning to fuel my body06:45 The return of the “skinny is in” beauty standard07:25 Taking control of the things you can change08:20 Why lifting weights won’t automatically make you bulky09:00 Muscle, bone density, mobility, and aging well10:15 The “cardio girl vs. muscle mommy” conversation12:18 Why long-term health matters more than other people’s preferences13:57 Trying a new strength-training gym back home15:00 Gym crushes and the “hot bro” saga16:40 Gym clothes, confidence, and unsolicited opinions18:07 Should men approach women at the gym?19:05 The best way to build rapport with someone21:00 A gym crush who only spoke Spanish22:15 Future-faking and empty promises while dating23:38 Gym couples, strength goals, and admiring other women24:47 My fall lock-in goals25:06 Closing thoughts

  2. Sep 22

    Should You Bring Iced Coffee To A Job Interview?

    In this episode, I’m talking about something I’ve been thinking about a LOT lately: accountability, manners, having standards for yourself, and knowing how to represent yourself well.I’m getting into the whole “Gen Z entitlement” conversation, the iced coffee job interview debate 😂, why I think therapy language and boundaries can sometimes be taken too far, the importance of reading the room, and why going out of your way or inconveniencing yourself can actually work in your favor.Then we get into my biggest fall lock-in realization: you have to make a plan and actually give it time to work. I talk about consistency with fitness, content, social media, trusting the process, knowing when to pivot, and balancing being “locked in” with actually having a social life and enjoying NYC.Basically: have standards, take accountability, stick to the plan, know when to pivot, and go live your best life 🤍🍯 Check out Maukora raw honey and get free 10 travel of 850+ travel honey sticks ($30) value with my code STELLA https://manukora.com/STELLA🌟Follow me! Instagram: http://instagram.com/stellaraepodcastTikTok: http://tiktok.com/@thestellaraepodcast🌱 Apply for 1:1 Health & Wellness Coaching! https://forms.gle/s3zprpWj8VE5Bkvm8🛍️ Shop my Poshmark: https://poshmark.com/closet/realstellarae📚My Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/10449999-stella-rae▶️ Subscribe to my main channel!http://youtube.com/@StellaRae🌿Get $1000 off the mindbodygreen NBHWC acredited Health & Wellness Coaching program I did with promo code STELLACOACHING https://www.shareasale.com/u.cfm?d=1281553&m=96296&u=1030263💬Join my discord server to chat with the community!! https://discord.gg/3nsk8vvf🛒My Amazon storefront! all my fav products listed in one place:https://www.amazon.com/shop/stellarae💪 Get 10% off PROZIS fitness & health supplements & workout clothes & accessories with code STELLARAE10 http://prozis.com/1LMJG 💻For business & PR opportunities, please email: stellaraepromo@gmail.comFTC: Some affiliate links may be used. All opinions are my own.00:00 maybe Gen Z actually has an entitlement problem00:44 the iced coffee job interview debate02:22 why people lack nuance online03:21 manners, class & the “I don’t owe anyone anything” mindset04:12 when therapy language goes too far05:04 what I learned about communication in high school06:17 the girl who lost her dream job over a deadline07:40 are phones killing our problem-solving skills?09:28 the Fashion Week event that shocked me 😂11:03 why manners & common courtesy are timeless12:38 how to represent yourself well14:39 what nannying taught me about standards15:49 knowing when to follow the rules vs. push back16:16 fall arc + Manukora17:43 my biggest fall lock-in realization18:01 why having a plan has changed my fitness results18:30 feeling lost with my content19:03 why my content has felt too random19:33 the connection between content & fitness consistency20:30 make the plan. follow the plan.20:39 why you have to trust the process21:01 what my analytics taught me22:29 your fall/winter arc reminder22:54 my ideal fall lock-in routine23:37 habits I’m leaving behind this fall24:00 staying locked in without isolating yourself24:18 final thoughts

  3. Sep 15

    The "Soft Girl Life" Isn't What You Think It Is...

    Do you actually want the “soft life”… or do you just like the aesthetic?The “soft girl life,” feminine energy, princess treatment, hypergamy and provider-man content has taken over social media, but I’ve been thinking a lot about what we're actually being sold...In this episode, I’m getting into why I’m skeptical of the idea that the ultimate goal for women should be finding a wealthy man who can provide everything for them. We talk about financial independence, traditional gender roles, the invisible labor women often take on in relationships, why being single can be incredibly empowering, and what ACTUALLY happens when your partner becomes your entire source of security.I also get into the difference between wanting a comfortable, slower, more enjoyable life vs. building your entire life around being taken care of by someone else. I don't think the answer is working yourself into the ground forever either. I think we should be building lives that feel good with or without a partner.We’re also getting into some random internet lore, books I’ve been reading, relationships, marriage, and why I think every woman should have enough independence to leave a situation that isn't right for her.💭 what do you think? do you want the “soft life,” or do you think social media has distorted what a soft life actually means?✨Check out Thrive Market!! - September Sale: 9/13-9/19: 25% off better-for-you staples to simplify your back-to-routine seasonJoin Thrive Market today to get up to $30 off your first 2 orders + a free gift! (This stacks with the September sale but is always available!)- https://shop.thrivemarket.com/stella6wi Get $1000 off the health coach certification program I'm doing with promo code STELLACOACHING https://www.shareasale.com/u.cfm?d=1281553&m=96296&u=1030263instagram http://instagram.com/stellaraepodcasttiktok: http://tiktok.com/@stellaraeherselfgoodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/10449999-stella-raemy fav books/products/health: https://www.amazon.com/shop/stellarae00:00 do you actually want the “soft life”?01:03 oldest daughter syndrome & why independence comes naturally to me02:19 why I’ve never prioritized relationships03:17 why do we ask women “why are you single?”03:45 why being single can be empowering04:18 why financial independence matters to me04:37 the dangerous side of the “provider man” fantasy05:08 All About Love & keeping finances separate in relationships05:34 what happens when a woman out-earns her partner?05:43 Miranda & Steve got me thinking 👀06:18 the invisible labor women do in relationships08:21 internet lore break 😂08:41 the Adam22 & Lena situation09:02 why household labor creates resentment10:18 what I noticed at a YouTube creator event11:08 there is no such thing as the “soft girl life”11:24 what Priscilla Presley taught me about the “kept woman” fantasy12:27 why material things eventually stop being enough12:56 the weird thing about finally getting what you wanted13:26 wanting a lifestyle vs. having meaning in your life14:01 why you should listen to women who have already lived it14:36 people change — even the people you love15:24 the memoir I’m currently reading15:28 Thrive Market 🛒16:08 why “find a rich man” advice can be dangerous16:38 the slippery slope of traditional gender roles17:12 why I think every woman needs her own money18:00 what an actually “soft” life could look like20:00 building a life you don’t need someone else to fund22:00 relationships should add to your life, not become your life25:00 the difference between wanting support and wanting to be taken care of28:00 what I actually want from a future relationship30:00 quality over convenience32:08 my definition of the soft life33:03 marriage, kids & making logical decisions33:28 final thoughts#StellaRaePodcast

  4. Sep 1

    What Kylie Jenner & Jordyn Woods Taught Me About Female Friendships

    Female friendships change SO much as we get older. In this episode of The Stella Rae Podcast, we're talking about making friends as an adult, losing friends, outgrowing friendships, loneliness, and what happens when you're on your own glow-up or self-improvement journey.I'm sharing some personal experiences with friendships that changed as I grew, including dealing with weird energy, feeling left out, recognizing jealousy, setting boundaries, and learning that not everyone needs to be your best friend. We also talk about codependent friendships, maintaining your independence within relationships, trusting your intuition, and rebuilding your ability to trust people after you've been hurt.Then we get into the bigger picture of getting older and realizing that your friendships naturally change as you move through different life stages, especially when people start dating, getting married, having kids, moving, or simply choosing different paths.I'm also talking about how to make friends as an adult, why quality matters more than quantity, saying yes to more things, making small talk, building community, and why sometimes the most random interactions can turn into meaningful friendships.And of course, we have to talk about the Kylie Jenner + Jordyn Woods friendship breakup and what seeing their old friendship again made me think about female friendships, betrayal, growing apart, and how much our relationships can change over time 😂If you're in your 20s, going through a glow-up, making new friends, losing old friends, feeling lonely, or trying to build a better social life, I think you'll relate to this one.Welcome to the fall glow-up / pre-winter arc. 🍂 We're getting our lives together, building better relationships, and becoming our best selves.Subscribe for weekly episodes about wellness, fitness, lifestyle, relationships, confidence, personal growth & navigating your 20s.Get 10% off PROZIS with code STELLARAE10 http://prozis.com/1LMJGFollow the pod IG! http://instagram.com/stellaraepodcastlisten on spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2DMbeh7EqiqgROIjvW0sI9listen on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-stella-rae-podcast/id125561818200:00 Female friendships & why they change as you get older01:23 The Kylie Jenner & Jordyn Woods friendship breakup03:00 Why old friendships can suddenly feel so different04:00 When your glow-up changes your friendships05:16 The moment I realized the friendship felt different06:45 What I've learned about healthy friendships07:44 Codependent friendships & maintaining your independence09:48 Not everyone needs to be your best friend11:29 Getting older, relationships & everyone entering different life stages14:11 How I romanticize different eras of my life15:11 Learning to make the most of your current season16:19 Why making friends as an adult is so hard18:00 How to actually make friends as an adult20:40 Saying yes, making small talk & putting yourself out there20:53 Quality over quantity in friendships21:00 Building community where you already live22:00 Why you don't need to force friendships23:00 Letting friendships evolve naturally24:00 Being single while your friends couple up26:00 The pressure to get married as you get older28:00 Why everyone's life timeline looks different30:00 Your friendships will change — and that's okay#StellaRaePodcast

  5. Aug 25

    The Q4 Reset You Need to Get Your Life Together & Finish 2026 Strong

    It’s officially time to LOCK IN for Q4 🍂✨ In this episode, we’re talking about how to reset your life after a summer that may or may not have gone exactly as planned, get back into a routine, rebuild consistency with fitness, and actually figure out what you want to focus your energy on before the year is over.I’m also reflecting on getting older, why I’m actually grateful I’m not in my early 20s anymore, what solo travel taught me about confidence, and why I think your 30s might just be your prime 👀We’re talking about the “having a bf is embarrassing” trend, modern relationships, why I’ve stopped consuming so much dating advice, the whole “high value man” conversation, micro-cheating, dating in NYC, and why I will never approach a man first lolConsider this your sign to lock in 🤍✨ Subscribe for new podcast episodes every Tuesday!Get $60 FREE Groceries + 30% OFF 1st order from Thrive Market! https://shop.thrivemarket.com/stella6wiUse my code HF-0449 for up to 10 free meals plus free breakfast for life from HelloFresh https://www.filify.co/SHBn0Get $1000 off the mindbodygreen health coach certification program I'm doing with promo code STELLACOACHING https://www.shareasale.com/u.cfm?d=1281553&m=96296&u=1030263Follow me on Instagram http://instagram.com/stellaraepodcast00:00 Feeling weird & off at the end of summer00:51 HelloFresh + getting back into a fall routine01:23 Q4 is coming… are we ready to lock in?02:09 What actually helps when you're spiraling02:49 Why I'm journaling again03:35 Looking back at what you're proud of04:19 What do you actually want your life to feel like?04:37 Why 5-year plans stress me out05:15 Stop focusing on the exact path05:34 The one small thing you can do today06:05 Getting out of a funk by taking action06:23 Feel your feelings, then get solution-oriented06:47 My “lock in” mindset for Q407:13 The book quote that changed my mindset07:55 Sometimes you just have to DO IT08:34 Things I'm proud of this year08:36 What solo travel taught me about confidence10:16 Why getting outside your comfort zone builds confidence10:29 My biggest fitness transformation yet11:19 What I'm focusing on for Q411:28 Do I need to niche down?11:49 Why I don't want to only talk about fitness12:49 Thrive Market + getting nutrition dialed in13:09 Why I keep thinking about 201614:25 Why this summer reminded me of 201614:31 Saying yes, traveling & actually living15:03 Did we waste our early 20s?15:12 Why I don't romanticize my younger years16:22 Why I'm glad I'm not in my early 20s anymore16:52 Being 27/28 vs. being younger17:38 Why I think your 30s are actually your prime17:46 Is having a boyfriend embarrassing?18:10 Why so many people don't actually like their partners18:38 My thoughts on modern relationships19:20 Why you can't always trust what a man says20:17 When money doesn't mean he's treating you right20:43 Why being single can be a huge advantage20:58 Why I've stopped watching dating advice21:20 The problem with “high value man” content21:47 Why women should focus on making their own money22:12 Do I want a provider? Yes. Is that my life goal? No.22:53 Building your own life & finding fulfillment23:44 Dating in NYC + the first-date culture24:14 Q&A: How to get back on track with fitness after summer24:24 How to actually lock in after being inconsistent24:37 The key to staying consistent with fitness25:03 Is the “boyfriend embarrassing” trend actually real?25:17 A wild story about men being disrespectful25:55 Why some men want to be chased26:09 The dating story that had me thinking27:01 Is he shy… or is he in a relationship?27:13 The “micro-cheating” theory28:15 Why I don't approach men first28:25 A solo-trip airport dating story 👀29:30 The British lady who tried to set us up 😂30:04 Sometimes a conversation is just a conversation30:31 “No one approaches me because I look too good”30:57 Final thoughts + Q4 check-in#StellaRaePodcast

  6. Aug 18

    how to ACTUALLY lock in for fall and become your best self

    It's time for the fall lock-in 🍂As summer comes to an end, I'm doing a full reassessment of my life and thinking about what I actually want the rest of this year to look like. In this episode, we're talking about how to get out of your comfort zone, build confidence, create better habits, set goals, stay consistent, and actually go after the life you want.I'm also sharing some of my current fitness goals, including building muscle and strength, improving my running and core strength, and why tracking your progress can make such a difference. I also get into why I think being “nonchalant” is overrated, why you sometimes have to be willing to look cringe or stupid, and how to know the difference between being uncomfortable and knowing something genuinely isn't right for you.Then we get into the fun stuff 😂 I tell you guys about going to salsa in NYC, getting more comfortable meeting people and trying new things, and a chaotic night out that reminded me why dating in NYC can be… an experience.If you're entering your fall reset, fall glow-up, wellness era, fitness journey, or personal growth era, this episode is for you.✨ Subscribe for new episodes every Tuesday and come lock in with me.#FallReset #FallLockIn #PersonalGrowth #SelfImprovement #FitnessJourney #Confidence #DatingAdvice #NYCDating #GettingOutOfYourComfortZoneGet a $45 free gift from Manukora Raw Manuka Honey with my code STELLA https://manukora.com/STELLAGet 10% off PROZIS with code STELLARAE10 http://prozis.com/1LMJGGet $1000 off the health coach certification program I'm doing with promo code STELLACOACHING https://www.shareasale.com/u.cfm?d=1281553&m=96296&u=1030263instagram http://instagram.com/stellaraepodcastmy fav books/products/health: https://www.amazon.com/shop/stellaraelisten on spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2DMbeh7EqiqgROIjvW0sI9listen on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-stella-rae-podcast/id125561818200:00 Fall is the perfect time for a life reassessment00:42 “Wherever you go, there you are” + knowing when to make a change01:42 How to tell if you're scared or something genuinely isn't aligned02:01 Why you need to get outside your comfort zone02:10 Why I don't believe in being nonchalant03:04 How to practice getting uncomfortable every day03:33 Learning to speak up and stop avoiding discomfort04:02 There is no perfect life — stop waiting for one04:47 Creating your ideal life starts with your current situation05:49 Planning the rest of 2026 + setting yourself up for 202706:14 Why writing things down actually changes everything06:48 How planning your days gives your life more purpose07:41 My new fitness goals: building muscle & strength08:26 My goals for abs, running & getting stronger09:19 What to do when you're discouraged with your progress09:53 Story time: my night out + salsa in NYC10:15 How I went from feeling awkward dancing to actually having fun11:19 Why I'm trying to socialize more outside of nightlife11:58 The weirdest interaction at the bar 😭12:46 When a stranger gives you a VERY bad vibe13:35 Why I want to go to more salsa/dance events13:48 Why dating in NYC is so hard14:28 Why I don't ignore red flags anymore15:32 The problem with “date multiple people” advice16:02 Dating apps vs. meeting people in real life16:26 “Men don't approach anymore” — let's talk about it17:13 How to actually signal that you're interested18:00-ish Dating, confidence & putting yourself out there#StellaRaePodcast

  7. Aug 11

    locking in made me really lonely...here's what i'm changing

    In this episode of The Stella Rae Podcast, we’re talking about self-improvement, getting out of your comfort zone, adult friendships, loneliness, community, and why not every piece of advice is meant for everyone.I’ve been thinking a lot about the difference between learning to be comfortable on your own and actually building meaningful connections with other people. As someone who works for herself and spends a lot of time alone, I’ve realized that being independent is great—but I also genuinely need community, social interaction, and people in my life to feel my best.We’re also talking about why I think some self-improvement advice has gone too far in the “you don’t need anyone” direction, why sometimes you really DO need to try harder, and how to know when you need to push yourself versus when you need to give yourself grace.I share some of the things I’m considering to meet more people as an adult—from trying new gyms and run clubs to potentially starting my own events—and why putting yourself out there can feel so awkward but be completely worth it.Plus: comparing your friendships to other people’s, feeling behind socially as you get older, learning to let go of relationships that no longer serve you, and accepting that cringing at your past self is actually a sign that you’ve grown. 😂If you’ve been feeling lonely, stuck in your routine, or like you want to make more friends and get out of your comfort zone, I hope this episode gives you something to think about.💌 Let me know your thoughts in the comments and tell me: **how do you make friends and build community as an adult?**🎙️ THE STELLA RAE PODCASTNew episodes every week covering wellness, self-improvement, lifestyle, relationships, confidence, fitness, and navigating lifeee.#TheStellaRaePodcast #SelfImprovement #AdultFriendships #MakingFriends #Loneliness #PersonalGrowth #GetOutOfYourComfortZone #LifeAdvice #Wellness #ConfidenceGet $1000 off the health coach certification program I'm doing with promo code STELLACOACHING https://www.shareasale.com/u.cfm?d=1281553&m=96296&u=1030263I edit using Riverside! https://www.riverside.fm/?utm_campaign=campaign_5&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_source=rewardful&via=stella-holtlisten on spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2DMbeh7EqiqgROIjvW0sI9listen on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-stella-rae-podcast/id1255618182#StellaRaePodcast

  8. Aug 4

    doing the bare minimum isn't enough tbh

    If you've been feeling stuck, unmotivated, or like you're waiting for your life to magically change... this episode is for you.This week I'm sharing my biggest lessons after taking my first solo trip to Portugal, why getting uncomfortable is the fastest way to build confidence, and why I think we've started confusing self-care with settling for the bare minimum. We also get into discipline, Gen Z work culture, perfectionism, solo travel tips for women, and yes... my controversial opinions about dog owners lmaooIf you've been wanting to level up your life, leave your comfort zone, or finally start doing the things you've been putting off, I hope this episode gives you the push you need.Get $1000 off the mindbodygreen health coach certification program with promo code STELLACOACHING https://www.shareasale.com/u.cfm?d=1281553&m=96296&u=1030263I edit using Riverside! https://www.riverside.fm/?utm_campaign=campaign_5&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_source=rewardful&via=stella-holtinstagram http://instagram.com/stellaraepodcasttiktok: http://tiktok.com/@stellaraeherselfmy fav books/products/health: https://www.amazon.com/shop/stellaraelisten on spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2DMbeh7EqiqgROIjvW0sI9listen on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-stella-rae-podcast/id125561818200:00 August reset & what's on today's episode01:10 My "locked in" TikTok sparked controversy04:00 Why doing the bare minimum won't change your life08:55 The uncomfortable truth about discipline & growth11:10 Perfectionism, confidence & getting over looking stupid15:35 My first solo trip to Portugal18:10 Feeling lonely while traveling alone20:30 How I unexpectedly made friends abroad22:45 Solo travel tips every woman should know25:10 Why Portugal was the perfect first solo trip26:45 My unpopular opinion about dog owners 😂29:40 Final thoughts & August challenge#StellaRaePodcast

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Welcome to The Stella Rae Podcast! A podcast dedicated to helping women lead healthier, more productive, and fulfilling lives. Join me as I explore the latest trends in wellness, lifestyle, and personal development, with inspiring guests and actionable tips. Tune in for honest conversations, expert insights, and the motivation you need to thrive. Follow on IG @stellaraepodcast Follow on TikTok @thestellaraepodcast Business inquiries: stellaraepromo@gmail.com

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