In this behind-the-scenes episode of Deepen with Christina, host Christina Weber introduces WeDeepen's brand-new Community Manager and Events Coordinator, Roxy Ruse, on day three of the job. What unfolds is a vulnerable, playful look inside a growing organization: why WeDeepen treats new hires like new relationships (complete with a three-month "dating contract"), and why announcing a partnership this early feels as tender as telling your friends about someone new. Roxy opens up about her own extraordinary love life, including transitioning a 15-year marriage into a thriving co-parenting partnership, loving two partners, and building the Austin chapter of Skirt Club from 42 members to over 350. Together they map the anatomy of desire, the repair skills nobody taught us, and why the antidote to a fading spark is almost never found in the bedroom first. Main Topics Covered Hiring as Dating: Why WeDeepen starts every new team member with a three-month dating contract, and the vulnerability of letting listeners inside the relationship from day three. The Real Reason Desire Fades: Roxy's journey through therapists, doctors, and hormone specialists before discovering the true culprit: an unrepaired relationship erodes safety, and eroded safety erodes desire. Repair as a Trainable Skill: Nonviolent communication, practicing tools before rupture strikes, and why a dysregulated nervous system can't access what it hasn't rehearsed. FOU (Fear of the Uncomfortable): Why we avoid the messy conversations, and Christina's practice of being unoffendable to create spaciousness for imperfect words. Transitioning, Not Failing: How Roxy and her former husband consciously evolved a 15-year marriage into a solid co-parenting partnership built on love through their children's eyes. Inside Skirt Club: Building a community for bi-curious and bisexual women outside the male gaze, and growing Austin's chapter from 42 to 350+ members. Community Is Your Third: Why every relationship needs a third in the form of a love council, coach, or community enrolled in your staying in love. The Power of Being Seen: Roxy's answer to truth or dare, on the excitement and terror of bringing your full, imperfect, human self to a new role. Christina's Crush Practice: A candid share about cultivating a crush from afar for inspiration, listening for butterflies over safety, and refusing to settle while calling in an aligned partner. Key Takeaways Repair Requires Two Willing Hearts: When one partner sees that repair is needed and the other refuses to look, the space between them is where desire goes to fade. Practice Before the Rupture: Communication tools only work in conflict if they've been rehearsed in calm. Practice in community, with friends, even with your kids. Brilliance Is Failing Repeatedly: Drawing on the Gene Keys, creativity is a spark from the divine, and mastery is the willingness to make mistakes again and again while building something that's never existed. You Don't Find Belonging, You Contribute It: Real community happens when members stop receiving with open hands and start actively adding their gifts, self-organizing dinners, and leading sessions. Bring Your Life Force: Whether it's a new role, relationship, or chapter, your life force is the most valuable asset you carry through the door. Connect with the Guest About Roxy Ruse: Roxy Ruse is WeDeepen's Community Manager and Events Coordinator, based in Austin, Texas. A longtime community builder in the conscious connection space, Roxy spent five years supporting kink educator Kimmy In and grew Skirt Club Austin from 42 members to over 350 as an ambassador and event host. She brings deep experience in creating environments where people feel safe to explore sensuality, connection, and belonging. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/roxy.ruse/ Connect with the Host Website: https://wedeepen.com/love-club/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christinaweber Your intimacy journey is your life story, and love is a trainable skill to be mastered. If this conversation opened something in you, follow the podcast, give it five stars, and share it with a friend who needs to hear that repair is possible. Then come play with us: visit wedeepen.com to explore upcoming Love Immersions, virtual Love Masterminds, and the new $99 monthly Love Club membership. Whether you join us in Austin or tap in virtually from anywhere in the world, come join us. Come play with us.
