I’ve been listening to your podcast for quite a while now, and I wanted to start by saying thank you. It has become one of my primary resources for learning about Christian marriage. I appreciate your vulnerability, your commitment to Scripture, and your willingness to share both your successes and struggles openly. I’ve purchased your book, listened to many episodes, and have genuinely benefited from your work as I prepare for marriage myself.
One piece of feedback I wanted to offer is around the way feminism is discussed on the podcast.
To be clear, I am not saying feminism should be above criticism. There are certainly ideas, behaviors, and cultural trends that are worth examining through a biblical lens. My feedback is simply that I often find myself wanting more specificity.
The term “feminism” can encompass a wide range of things. Historically, it has included women’s suffrage, political participation, workplace opportunities, legal protections, advocacy against harassment and abuse, and efforts to address inequities affecting women. At the same time, there are modern ideological positions that some Christians may disagree with. Because all of these things often get grouped under the same label, broad critiques can sometimes leave listeners unsure which specific ideas are being challenged and which are not.
As a listener, I would genuinely enjoy an episode dedicated to exploring the intersection of feminism and Christian marriage in a deeper and more nuanced way. I think it could be a valuable conversation, especially if it clearly distinguished between historical feminist movements, contemporary cultural trends, and biblical teachings on marriage.
The second piece of feedback is something I’ve spent a long time trying to articulate.
One thing I appreciate about your podcast is that you share honestly from your marriage. At the same time, I sometimes find myself wondering how these teachings apply to listeners whose lives look significantly different from your own.
As someone who is a woman of color, neurodivergent, disabled, entrepreneurial, and open to dating across cultural backgrounds, I often find myself filtering marriage advice through realities that may differ from the experiences represented on the show.
This doesn’t make your perspective less valuable. It simply means that Christian marriages exist across a wide variety of cultures, abilities, personalities, economic circumstances, and callings.
For example, many conversations within Christian marriage spaces focus on how a wife can support her husband’s calling. That’s an important conversation. But I would also love to hear discussions about the reverse.
What does Christian marriage look like when the wife has the more public calling?
What does it look like when the wife is the entrepreneur, author, speaker, ministry leader, or visionary behind a large mission?
How does a husband faithfully support, encourage, and champion his wife’s calling while still maintaining a strong biblical marriage?
I think many women would find that conversation incredibly valuable.
Similarly, I would love to hear perspectives from guests representing different life experiences, whether that means interracial couples, disabled Christians, entrepreneurs, dual-career households, or people navigating marriage from different cultural backgrounds. Not because biblical truth changes, but because the application of biblical principles can look different across different circumstances.
In many ways, this may be the reason I’ve hesitated to become a patron despite how much I value the podcast. It isn’t because I disagree with everything being said. Quite the opposite.
It’s because I sometimes find myself wondering whether there is room within the conversation for people whose experiences don’t fit the examples most commonly discussed.
I believe there is.
And I think expanding the conversation to include more of those perspectives would make an already valuable resource even stronger.
Thank you again for everything you share and for the work you continue to do. I offer this feedback with gratitude, respect, and genuine appreciation for the impact your ministry has had on my own preparation for marriage.
