Better Sex

Jessa Zimmerman

Better Sex is focused on helping all couples create and enjoy their best possible sex life. Better Sex is hosted by Jessa Zimmerman who is a couples’ counselor and nationally certified sex therapist. Each episode will dive into one topic related to sex. Some will be devoted to addressing sexual concerns like sexual dysfunction, differences in sexual desire, and intimacy problems. Some will help you develop realistic and helpful expectations. And some will offer information and approaches that can just make your sex life better.The information and discussion on the podcast should not be taken as medical advice or as therapy. Please seek out qualified professionals for medical and therapeutic advice.

  1. 2D AGO

    365: Polyagony - Common Mistakes in Ethical Non-Monogamy with Candace Sjogren

    In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman speaks with Candace Sjogren about the intricacies and common mistakes involved in polyamory, as addressed in Sjogren’s book, 'Polyagony'. They discuss personal experiences, motivations behind polyamorous relationships, and essential strategies for maintaining healthy open relationships. The conversation touches on setting boundaries, ethical non-monogamy, agreements, and navigating the dynamics of multiple partners, including poly parenting. Sjogren emphasizes the importance of communication, consent, and the continuous evolution of relationship agreements. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:49 Guest Introduction: Candace Sjogren on Polyamory 01:25 Candace's Personal Journey with Polyamory 02:13 Challenges and Advocacy in Polyamorous Relationships 03:34 The Rise of Ethical Non-Monogamy 07:09 Defining Ethical Non-Monogamy 08:33 Common Mistakes in Open Relationships 12:42 Forming Agreements in Open Relationships 16:43 Exploring Hopes and Fears in Relationships 16:59 The Importance of Moving at the Slowest Pace 17:30 Maintaining Relationship Cadence 18:02 Invitation to Share Personal Stories 18:31 Dealing with Stagnation in Relationships 20:19 Understanding Consent Within and Outside the Couple 22:26 Navigating the Role of a Hinge in Polyamory 25:04 Challenges of Poly Parenting 28:31 Group Dynamics in Polyamory 30:12 Conclusion and Resources If you want to share your story on the show, email us at info@intimacywithease.com Bio: Candace Sjogren is a lawyer, entrepreneur, and transformational leader whose work spans finance, technology, and human development. Born in Cincinnati, Ohio, she graduated from the Salmon P. Chase College of Law and practiced law before founding and leading multiple mission-driven companies. She served as CEO of Bad Girl Ventures, a microfinance firm investing in female founders, and later founded Somolend, one of the first nationally available crowdfunding platforms. Through this work, Candace played a key role in shaping the JOBS Act, the legislation that made securities-based crowdfunding legal in the United States. Over the past fifteen years, Candace has served in senior executive and C-suite roles across venture-backed startups and global payments companies, including Chief Commercial Officer of Lynx, a healthcare payments company, and Senior Vice President of Embedded Finance at FIS, a global payments firm with more than 66,000 employees. She is also the former co-author of Typhoon Honey: The Only Way Out Is Through, a book on emotional intelligence and transformational growth. Today, Candace leads The Liberation Company, where she facilitates emotional intelligence, somatic healing, and identity-based workshops designed to support deep personal and collective transformation. She lives on Cape Cod, Massachusetts, with her husband Andrew, their son Ivar, and their two dogs, Pan and Cinder. Website: https://www.polyagony.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@candacesjogren7056 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/insidethemindofcandaceklein/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/candacesjogren/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/candace.klein/ Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

    33 min
  2. 6D AGO

    364: [Soapbox] Avoid the Quota Trap

    In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the challenges of setting quotas for sexual frequency in relationships. She shares insights from a recent coaching call, emphasizing that focusing on frequency can often lead to feelings of obligation and resentment, particularly for lower desire partners. Instead, Jessa advises couples to create flexible, pressure-free spaces to nurture desire and intimacy naturally. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 00:46 Welcome and Episode Overview 01:02 Discussing Reasonable Amounts of Sex 02:11 The Problem with Setting Quotas 04:05 Creating Flexibility in Intimacy 05:09 Avoiding Obligation and Duty 05:37 Conclusion and Final Thoughts 05:59 Closing Remarks and Listener Engagement 06:47 Credits and Acknowledgements Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

    7 min
  3. FEB 9

    363: Anal Sex for Beginners with Dr. Evan Goldstein

    In this episode of Better Sex, host and sex therapist, Jessa Zimmerman, interviews Dr. Evan Goldstein, an expert in anal sexual wellness and author of 'Butt Seriously.' Dr. Goldstein discusses the fundamentals of anal sex for beginners, focusing on key aspects such as muscle relaxation, preparation, and safety. They delve into common myths around anal sex, the anatomical considerations, and the importance of using the right products for a pleasurable experience. The conversation also explores the performance of safe hygiene practices, effective communication with partners, and techniques to mitigate potential issues. Dr. Goldstein emphasizes the importance of proper education and preparation to enhance the anal sex experience, debunking societal taboos and misconceptions. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 00:48 Exciting Topic: Anal Sex for Beginners 01:32 Meet Dr. Evan Goldstein 02:50 The Birth of Bespoke Surgical 03:46 Common Anal Issues and Myths 06:40 Anal Play for All Genders 08:21 Understanding Anal Anatomy 14:01 The Future Method and Anal Dilating Kit 20:45 The Importance of Uniformity in Vaginal Dilators 21:33 Jessa's Quick Break: How to Get Help 22:01 Misconceptions About Anal Preparation 22:35 Solo Anal Play: Learning Your Body 23:20 Incorporating Dilators into Sex Play 24:17 Positions for Anal Success 26:56 Choosing the Right Lube for Anal Sex 29:06 Gut Health and Anal Play 31:48 Douching: Best Practices and Misconceptions 34:59 Post-Play Hygiene Tips 36:36 Final Thoughts and Resources Want to work with Jessa? https://www.intimacywithease.com Bio: Dr. Evan Goldstein is the leading anal health expert in the United States, founder of Future Method, and one of the few surgeons in the world whose practice, Bespoke Surgical, is dedicated to treating and restoring the human butt. He holds a perennial spot on the list of top doctors for the New York metro area and Crain’s New York Business listed him as one of their notable LGBTQ+ leaders and executives. He has been featured in national publications including GQ, Well+Good, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, New York Magazine, Forbes, Fast Company, Out, and Shape; is a popular podcast guest; and in demand as a speaker for both medical and sex-positive industries. His first book, Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything In Between published in May 2024. www.bespokesurgical.com www.futuremethod.com www.buttseriously.com Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

    41 min
  4. FEB 5

    362: [Soapbox] What “My Love Language Is Touch” Gets Wrong

    In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, the focus is on the concept of love languages and their impact on intimate relationships. Zimmerman discusses the common misunderstanding that having 'touch' as a love language equates to a need for sex, and how this misconception can create pressure and resistance in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of exploring various kinds of touch and incorporating all love languages into a satisfying sexual relationship. Listeners are encouraged to visit the podcast's website for show notes and additional episodes, and to rate and review the show on iTunes. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:55 Exploring Love Languages and Touch 02:15 Misconceptions About Love Languages and Sex 02:49 Integrating Love Languages into Sex 03:38 Avoiding Entitlement and Pressure in Relationships 04:37 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

    6 min
  5. FEB 2

    361: Navigating Your Sexuality After Losing Your Beloved with Joan Price

    In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, guest Joan Price discusses her book 'Sex After Grief.' Joan shares her personal journey of rekindling her sexual life after the loss of her beloved Robert. She emphasizes the unique timeline every individual experiences in returning to sexual pleasure post-grief and addresses common challenges, such as the misconception of betraying a lost partner, societal judgments, and the importance of clear communication with new partners. Joan also highlights various strategies for rediscovering sexuality, including erotic massage and finding a 'pilot light lover.' She offers actionable advice and sample scripts for coping with external pressures and finding supportive communities. The episode aims to provide valuable insights and hope for those navigating their sexuality after loss. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:47 Welcoming Joan Price: Sex and Aging 02:05 Sex After Grief: Joan's Journey 03:32 Navigating Sexuality After Loss 06:38 Challenges and Misconceptions 11:21 Reconnecting with Sexuality 16:00 Online Dating and Finding Connection 19:25 Navigating Conversations About Future Relationships 21:01 Recognizing Readiness for New Relationships 22:58 Handling External Opinions and Advice 25:14 Addressing Sexuality in Grief Support Groups 28:43 The Role of Erotic Massage in Healing 31:15 Reconnecting with Past Lovers 34:39 Promoting the Book and Final Thoughts Bio: Joan Price calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She has been called other things by the media: “senior sexpert,” “the woman leading a sex revolution for seniors,” and—her favorite—“wrinkly sex kitten.” Joan is the author of four books about sexuality, including the award-winning and newly updated Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality after Losing Your Beloved and Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex, recently chosen by the New York Times as one of the eight best books about sex. An internationally popular public speaker and sex educator, Joan, now 82, has been writing and speaking about senior sex since 2005. Find Joan’s books, tips, webinars, and blog—including her sex toy reviews from a senior perspective!—at https://joanprice.com/. In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, guest Joan Price discusses her book 'Sex After Grief.' Joan shares her personal journey of rekindling her sexual life after the loss of her beloved Robert. She emphasizes the unique timeline every individual experiences in returning to sexual pleasure post-grief and addresses common challenges, such as the misconception of betraying a lost partner, societal judgments, and the importance of clear communication with new partners. Joan also highlights various strategies for rediscovering sexuality, including erotic massage and finding a 'pilot light lover.' She offers actionable advice and sample scripts for coping with external pressures and finding supportive communities. The episode aims to provide valuable insights and hope for those navigating their sexuality after loss. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:47 Welcoming Joan Price: Sex and Aging 02:05 Sex After Grief: Joan's Journey 03:32 Navigating Sexuality After Loss 06:38 Challenges and Misconceptions 11:21 Reconnecting with Sexuality 16:00 Online Dating and Finding Connection 19:25 Navigating Conversations About Future Relationships 21:01 Recognizing Readiness for New Relationships 22:58 Handling External Opinions and Advice 25:14 Addressing Sexuality in Grief Support Groups 28:43 The Role of Erotic Massage in Healing 31:15 Reconnecting with Past Lovers 34:39 Promoting the Book and Final Thoughts Bio: Joan Price calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She has been called other things by the media: “senior sexpert,” “the woman leading a sex revolution for seniors,” and—her favorite—“wrinkly sex kitten.” Joan is the author of four books about sexuality, including the award-winning and newly updated Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality after Losing Your Beloved and Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex, recently chosen by the New York Times as one of the eight best books about sex. An internationally popular public speaker and sex educator, Joan, now 82, has been writing and speaking about senior sex since 2005. Find Joan’s books, tips, webinars, and blog—including her sex toy reviews from a senior perspective!—at https://joanprice.com/. Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

    39 min
  6. JAN 29

    360: [Soapbox] They put effort into every other problem

    In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman explores the common misunderstanding surrounding lower desire partners in relationships. She discusses how a lack of evident effort towards sexual intimacy problems is often misinterpreted as indifference. Jessa explains that it's more about a lack of hope and feeling stuck rather than a lack of care. The episode provides insightful reframing strategies for higher desire partners, emphasizing understanding and teamwork to address intimate relationship challenges. Listeners are encouraged to connect to the idea that change is possible and to approach these issues with optimism and shared goals. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 01:02 Understanding Lower Desire Partners 03:21 The Importance of Hope in Sexual Relationships 04:11 Encouragement and Resources 04:28 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

    6 min
  7. JAN 26

    359: [Personal Story] Working through vaginismus with a surrogate partner

    In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes Junvi Ola, who shares her personal story of overcoming vaginismus, a condition that prevented her from having intercourse until the age of 36. Junvi discusses her journey, which included working with a sex therapist, using dilators, and eventually hiring a surrogate partner. The episode provides insights and inspiration for those facing similar struggles, highlighting the bravery and determination required to break through such challenges. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 01:46 Junvi's Personal Story Begins 02:30 The Impact of Early Experiences 03:42 Struggles with Intimacy and Seeking Help 06:09 Discovering Vaginismus 07:46 Therapy and Overcoming Mental Barriers 14:28 Exploring Sex Surrogacy 19:37 Choosing a Therapist 19:53 The Triad Therapy Experience 20:42 Invitation to Share Your Story 21:11 Overcoming Fear and Dilator Use 22:16 First Steps with the Surrogate Partner 23:18 Sensate Touching and Emotional Challenges 24:22 The Turning Point 25:43 Achieving Penetration 28:25 Focusing on Pleasure and Education 32:03 Reflecting on the Journey 34:07 Normalizing Vaginismus and Surrogate Use 38:02 Final Thoughts and Encouragement Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

    40 min
  8. JAN 22

    358: [Soapbox] We should be talking about sex

    In this soapbox episode of 'The Better Sex Podcast,' sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman emphasizes the importance of talking about sex more openly. Jessa explores the cultural taboo surrounding discussions about sex and how it leads to feelings of isolation and shame. Sharing her personal experiences and observations, she highlights the common struggles couples face and encourages listeners to initiate conversations about sex with their partners and friends. By normalizing these discussions, Jessa argues, people can alleviate feelings of inadequacy and seek the support they need. The episode ends with a challenge for listeners to talk about sex with at least one person in the coming week. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 00:58 The Taboo of Talking About Sex 01:10 Real-Life Conversations and Observations 02:50 Common Struggles in Sexual Relationships 04:18 Encouragement to Open Up 05:31 Conclusion and Call to Action Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

    7 min
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Better Sex is focused on helping all couples create and enjoy their best possible sex life. Better Sex is hosted by Jessa Zimmerman who is a couples’ counselor and nationally certified sex therapist. Each episode will dive into one topic related to sex. Some will be devoted to addressing sexual concerns like sexual dysfunction, differences in sexual desire, and intimacy problems. Some will help you develop realistic and helpful expectations. And some will offer information and approaches that can just make your sex life better.The information and discussion on the podcast should not be taken as medical advice or as therapy. Please seek out qualified professionals for medical and therapeutic advice.

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