Black Millennial Marriage

Mikey and Randie Chapman

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We are Mikey and Randie Chapman, and your hosts of the Black Millennial Marriage Podcast. This podcast was created as a way to stay connected to one another. It was also formed so that we could have representation, meet other couples, and provide a space to talk about our 10+ years of relationship experience, including our years of marriage, and all we’re learning, unlearning, and loving about marriage.

Jun 3

BMM INDIE 187: The Truth About No Contact

(After Model Home by Rivers Solomon and Bless the Daughter Raised by a Voice in her Head by Warsan Shire) Hey y’all, While Mike was in Guyana for the first time since 2001, Randie’s feelings caught up to her. Tune in as she reveals the real about going No Contact with her family. Brought on by a convo with Drew and the propaganda about No Contact being, “trendy” Randie tells you the truth. No Contact is the bottom. The last resort. Because in the words of Warsan Shire, “No one would leave home unless home chased you.” Who would self-orphan themselves for s***s and giggles? Not Ran. Not many people, actually. While one of the best decision she’s made for herself, No Contact has left Randie achy and on many days full of grief. So, in this Indie, the shorter half of the BMM podcast invites you to learn what sovereignty of self and freedom has cost and required of her and other Adult Children making the hard decisions to live a life of integrity and courage. Items Mentioned: Model Home by Rivers Solomon, https://bookshop.org/p/books/model-home-a-novel-rivers-solomon/daba1ac77f597af3?ean=9781250397591&next=t Bless the Daughter Raised by a Voice in Her Head by Warsan Shire, https://bookshop.org/p/books/bless-the-daughter-raised-by-a-voice-in-her-head-poems-warsan-shire/e25042b1966c5b0c?ean=9780593134351&next=t This episode of the Black Millennial Marriage Podcast was edited by Randie Chapman at Wordie Productions www.wordieproductions.com Follow Randie on Substack at little ran aka the Littles' Chronicles https://substack.com/@littleran Follow Randie over on Pagebound https://pagebound.co/users/ranthesolarpunk Other Resources: Out of the Fog website: https://outofthefog.website/ Going No Contact with Parents, A Trauma-Informed Choice (Article), https://www.livewellwithsharonmartin.com/going-no-contact-with-parents-a-trauma-informed-perspective/ Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents (book), by Lindsay C. Gibson, https://bookshop.org/p/books/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents-how-to-heal-from-distant-rejecting-or-self-involved-parents-psy-d-lindsay-c-gibson-psyd/c76b830ed14fe568?ean=9781626251700&next=t Follow us on Social Media FB: http://bit.ly/BMMonFB IG: http://bit.ly/BMMonIG Contact Email: blackmilmar@gmail.com Leave a voicemail: 770-750-4098 P.S. To hang out with us and support our work as independent creators, join us on Patreon at http://bit.ly/JOINBMM there you’ll get access to our Discord channel, unedited, edited and ad-free episodes, zoom meetings with us, and more. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

40 min
May 21

BMM MINI EP 186: Wine? Ft. Drew Chapman

Hey y’all! Tune in for what is probably the most unhinged (and most fun) episode ever recorded on the BMM podcast because this one is featuring Drewbie Drew. Similar to the Chapman’s relationship check-ins, Mikey and Randie interview Drew and ask her to rate them with: thumbs up, middle, or thumbs down on safety, fun, communication, love/connection, and baby Rey. The episode takes many turns (LOL) as the couple discover what Drew really thinks of their parenting and shenanigans. In all, interviewing 7 year olds ain’t for the weak! Still, it’s a lot of fun and they hope you ask the kids in your life these questions and they hope you enjoy. Follow us on Social Media This episode of the Black Millennial Marriage Podcast was edited by Randie Chapman at Wordie Productions www.wordieproductions.com FB: http://bit.ly/BMMonFB IG: http://bit.ly/BMMonIG Contact Email: blackmilmar@gmail.com Leave a voicemail: 770-750-4098 P.S. To hang out with us and support our work as independent creators, join us on Patreon at http://bit.ly/JOINBMM there you’ll get access to our Discord channel, unedited, edited and ad-free episodes, zoom meetings with us, and more. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

41 min
May 14

BMM INDIE EP 185: Selah

In the beginning of January, the Chapmans spent some time in the ER with baby Rey. Tune in to hear the piece Randie wrote about the experience. Shout out to the fellow mother and friend who didn’t even realize she was encouraging Randie to spread this post a little further. And thank God for the babies that change us. Items Mentioned: **Selah: Hebrew. Thought to mean, “pause, reflect, and praise.” Found mainly in the Book of Psalms as a musical interlude or pause. Scholars disagree on its exact definition, and that’s okay. Here’s a piece I found about it: https://learn.ligonier.org/articles/what-selah-means-in-the-bible Tweet mentioned: https://x.com/MindBodyBronx/status/2007474578851766649?s=20 - @ Bronxology This episode of the Black Millennial Marriage Podcast was edited by Randie Chapman at Wordie Productions www.wordieproductions.com Follow Randie on Substack at little ran aka the Littles' Chronicles https://substack.com/@littleran Follow Randie over on Pagebound https://pagebound.co/users/ranthesolarpunk Follow us on Social Media FB: http://bit.ly/BMMonFB IG: http://bit.ly/BMMonIG Contact Email: blackmilmar@gmail.com Leave a voicemail: 770-750-4098 P.S. To hang out with us and support our work as independent creators, join us on Patreon at http://bit.ly/JOINBMM there you’ll get access to our Discord channel, unedited, edited and ad-free episodes, zoom meetings with us, and more. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

11 min
May 9

BMM EP 184: You Still Got It

Tin! Ten! 10 YEARS! In the books. Somebody clap! In this episode Mikey and Randie talk about their 10 year anniversary, their first time at a super fancy restaurant, the gifts, their takeaways, and how they’re ready to go reallll slow now LOL. It was a fun and delirious conversation they can’t wait to share with you. Later, Mike brings a fight or flight that (plot twist, Randie won) even though the Mrs. realized he did in fact have a point. And as always it’s all love as the couple indulge in a little PDA and even play their first voicemail since being back! Listen now. They hope you enjoy! Items Mentioned: Listen to the song written and performed by LOVE LAURXN and produced by Randie: Stayed the Course, https://www.songfinch.com/stories/e9e002b7-f260-40b9-b77f-63ebb7372461?utm_campaign=video&utm_content=Song+Deliver&utm_medium=sharing&utm_source=songpage&utm_id=product The Modern, Atlanta’s Boutique Space for Creators and Celebrators: https://www.themodernatl.com/?utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQMMjU2MjgxMDQwNTU4AAGnC9kpGcg6EtyQEaKFUpYiXjhP8ueHCo_Lx6st7nsPj6zNzpSzwSuLabjHtck_aem_96B8DBGkvcaP3UvVJ_fiJQ GYPSY KITCHEN, https://www.gk-atl.com/ Follow us on Social Media This episode of the Black Millennial Marriage Podcast was edited by Randie Chapman at Wordie Productions www.wordieproductions.com FB: http://bit.ly/BMMonFB IG: http://bit.ly/BMMonIG Contact Email: blackmilmar@gmail.com Leave a voicemail: 770-750-4098 P.S. To hang out with us and support our work as independent creators, join us on Patreon at http://bit.ly/JOINBMM there you’ll get access to our Discord channel, unedited, edited and ad-free episodes, zoom meetings with us, and more. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

1h 31m
Apr 29

BMM INDIE EP 183: Dedication

It’s Mikey’s first Indie back in over a year and he’s here with a dedication. Inspired by his God daughter’s ceremony, Mikey pins a letter to Drew and Rey about what it means to be dedicated to them. Later he gives a head nod to the dad’s and husbands out there doing their best. And he reminds them to not martyr themselves as they devote themselves to their family. To end, Mikey shares that he’ll be talking about his 10-year anniversary soon with the shorter half of the podcast, but in the meantime between time: he wants you to listen to the song Randie had created for him. He hopes you enjoy. Items Mentioned: Listen to the song written and performed by LOVE LAURXN and produced by Randie: Stayed the Course, https://www.songfinch.com/stories/e9e002b7-f260-40b9-b77f-63ebb7372461?utm_campaign=video&utm_content=Song+Deliver&utm_medium=sharing&utm_source=songpage&utm_id=product Follow us on Social Media FB: http://bit.ly/BMMonFB IG: http://bit.ly/BMMonIG Contact Email: blackmilmar@gmail.com Leave a voicemail: 770-750-4098 P.S. To hang out with us and support our work as independent creators, join us on Patreon at http://bit.ly/JOINBMM there you’ll get access to our Discord channel, unedited, edited and ad-free episodes, zoom meetings with us, and more. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

16 min
Apr 22

BMM EP 182: We Had (Another) Baby

The Chapmans done went and had another baby on y’all. Tune in and learn all about their youngest daughter, Rey. Together Mikey and Randie reveal what helped them realize they were ready to try for another baby, what it’s like having another baby after experiencing infant loss, how Drewbie is soaring at being a big sister, and more. Later, Randie brings a fight or flight prompted by a tweet and it gets a little…heated? Tender? You be the judge! And read the tweet: https://x.com/W_Asherah/status/1536052863658561538?s=20 Still, as always it’s all love when the couple show each other some PDA. Listen now. They hope you enjoy! Follow us on Social Media This episode of the Black Millennial Marriage Podcast was edited by Randie Chapman at Wordie Productions www.wordieproductions.com FB: http://bit.ly/BMMonFB IG: http://bit.ly/BMMonIG Contact Email: blackmilmar@gmail.com Leave a voicemail: 770-750-4098 P.S. To hang out with us and support our work as independent creators, join us on Patreon at http://bit.ly/JOINBMM there you’ll get access to our Discord channel, unedited, edited and ad-free episodes, zoom meetings with us, and more. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

1h 41m
Apr 15

BMM INDIE EP 181: Open Water Changed Me

The novel Open Water by Caleb Azumah Nelson shifted something in Randie’s cells. Shortly after finishing the small but mighty book, Randie auto wrote for 20 minutes about the impact the characters left on her. She only lifted her hands to turn the pages. This indie is the result. She hopes you enjoy. This episode of the Black Millennial Marriage Podcast was edited by Randie Chapman at Wordie Productions www.wordieproductions.com Follow Randie on Substack at little ran aka the Littles' Chronicles https://substack.com/@littleran Follow Randie over on Pagebound https://pagebound.co/users/ranthesolarpunk Follow us on Social Media FB: http://bit.ly/BMMonFB IG: http://bit.ly/BMMonIG Contact Email: blackmilmar@gmail.com Leave a voicemail: 770-750-4098 P.S. To hang out with us and support our work as independent creators, join us on Patreon at http://bit.ly/JOINBMM there you’ll get access to our Discord channel, unedited, edited and ad-free episodes, zoom meetings with us, and more. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

14 min
Apr 8

BMM EP 180: All Dogs Go to Heaven

For this episode you must love dogs and should bring tissues, because everybody’s crying—especially Mikey and Randie. For their second EP back, the Chapmans talk about…Groot. The dog clacking in all of the episodes and posing in all of the logos. Their first baby. The soul that made them a family before the human littles entered the world. Why is Groot the focus of this episode? Because after 10 long years, Groot was laid to rest after his year-long battle with Mast Cell Cancer. So to honor him the Chapmans share his origin story, their favorite moments with him, what the end of his life was like, what they would tell anyone parenting a senior dog, and more. Later, having no fight in her, Randie leads the PDA and the couple express gratitude for one another. Tune in and the Chapmans thank you for all of the love. Follow us on Social Media FB: http://bit.ly/BMMonFB IG: http://bit.ly/BMMonIG Contact Email: blackmilmar@gmail.com Leave a voicemail: 770-750-4098 P.S. To hang out with us and support our work as independent creators, join us on Patreon at http://bit.ly/JOINBMM there you’ll get access to our Discord channel, unedited, edited and ad-free episodes, zoom meetings with us, and more. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Happy I Stumbled Upon This Show

08/07/2024

Cxcggujm17

I recently found this show and listened to episode 155. Loved it. Learned so much about myself, and discovered resources I didn’t even know I could have access to. Thank you both for the vulnerability. Looking forward to more
Wish I would have found you sooner

09/11/2023

RayaLinn

I first heard about your podcast from the collaboration y’all did with Sistas who kill. I am currently listening from the beginning. Just finished episode 25 and loving it. I chose the title wish I would have found you sooner because looking at the year you’ll started this was the year my marriage was taking a turn and I think this podcast would have given us great tools for our marriage. Sadly we are divorced but we are still friends and we both think that it’s for the best. Even though I didn’t find you guys sooner I’m happy I found you now and I’m taking all the notes for my future. Love you guys and can’t wait to be all caught up so I can listen in real time.
Inspiration

03/19/2023

LovelyLesReed

Heyy Mikey & Randie , I’m Leslie but I like for my friends to call me Les. I just want to say I wish I could have found this podcast when y’all originally started back in 2018, 😩 oh how y’all’s perspective on life could have helped my mindset, however I found you all right when I needed too! Keep thriving & being a great inspiration to all marriages 🫶🏾
Dope podcast

02/24/2023

Knight_Nola

Five stars for the culture, five stars for the content. This is just too relatable!

We are Mikey and Randie Chapman, and your hosts of the Black Millennial Marriage Podcast. This podcast was created as a way to stay connected to one another. It was also formed so that we could have representation, meet other couples, and provide a space to talk about our 10+ years of relationship experience, including our years of marriage, and all we’re learning, unlearning, and loving about marriage.