Before You Kill Yourself: a suicide prevention podcast.

Leo Flowers
  • 4.8 (197)
  • Mental Health
  • Updated Semimonthly

When the pain feels unbearable and we feel alone in our suffering this podcast will sit with you. Let's rediscover our purpose, reduce our pain and regain our sense of belonging. Join comedian Leo Flowers M.A. as he shares his own journey through suicidality, interviews guests with lived experiences and discusses with experts on how to escape the flames and create a life worth living.

  1. 7h ago

    Why mattering matters in suicide prevention

    A simple sentence may be one of the most powerful ways to make someone feel seen: "If it weren't for you..." Drawing from Jennifer Wallace's The Science of Mattering, this episode explores our deep need to know that we matter, why gratitude isn't always enough, and how sharing the impact someone has had on your life can transform both of you. Topics include: The difference between gratitude and matteringWhy humans need significance more than happinessThe "Five People" exerciseWhy we avoid telling people they changed our livesHow moments of mattering suspend timeThe people who may never know the impact they've had on us Thrive With Leo Coaching:  If you want to reduce your psychological pain, regain your purpose and forge your own path, go to www.thrivewithleo.com to begin your journey. If you or anyone you know is considering suicide or self-harm, or is anxious, depressed, upset, or needs to talk, there are people who want to help: In the US:  Crisis Text Line: Text CRISIS to 741741 for free, confidential crisis counseling.  The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 or 988 The Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386 Outside the US: International Association for Suicide Prevention lists a number of suicide hotlines by country. Click here to find them. Gambling Addiction: 1-800-GAMBLER

  2. Sep 28

    Why Can’t We Just Enjoy Being Alive?

    In this episode, we explore one of the most haunting lines from Kurt Cobain’s suicide note: “Why don’t you just enjoy it?” and the devastating response: “I don’t know.” We unpack why human beings struggle to feel joy through the lenses of neuroscience, psychology, evolution, trauma, addiction, overstimulation, and modern culture. From dopamine and cortisol to loneliness, achievement addiction, and the pressure to perform happiness, this episode examines why so many people feel disconnected from their own lives — and what history, philosophy, pop culture, and human connection reveal about truly feeling alive. Topics include: Why the brain adapts to pleasure and noveltyThe difference between stimulation and fulfillmentTrauma, stress, and the nervous system’s impact on joyEvolutionary reasons humans struggle with contentmentWhy modern life can make us spectators instead of participantsThe role of relationships, meaning, awe, and shared strugglePop culture references from Nirvana to Black Mirror to Ted LassoHow to reconnect with ordinary moments and meaningful experiencesWhat we might say to someone who can’t “just enjoy it” Thrive With Leo Coaching:  If you want to reduce your psychological pain, regain your purpose and forge your own path, go to www.thrivewithleo.com to begin your journey. If you or anyone you know is considering suicide or self-harm, or is anxious, depressed, upset, or needs to talk, there are people who want to help: In the US:  Crisis Text Line: Text CRISIS to 741741 for free, confidential crisis counseling.  The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 or 988 The Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386 Outside the US: International Association for Suicide Prevention lists a number of suicide hotlines by country. Click here to find them. Gambling Addiction: 1-800-GAMBLER

  3. Sep 7

    Therapy, Philosophy, Poetry, and the Search for Meaning

    In this episode, we explore the idea that meaning often comes after action. Inspired by a lyric from Robyn’s new album Sexistential, we unpack the difference between therapy, philosophy, poetry, and relationships — and why artists, rappers, writers, and improvisers often don’t fully understand what they’re creating until after it’s made. We discuss why overthinking can block transformation, how freestyle rap reveals unconscious truth, and why some of life’s deepest insights can only be discovered through participation rather than analysis. Topics include: Therapy vs existential sufferingWhy philosophy answers different questions than psychologyFreestyling, flow states, and unconscious creativityCarl Jung, Sartre, Kierkegaard, and existentialismWhy meaning is often retrospectiveThe danger of waiting for certainty before taking actionRelationships as the ultimate test of self-awareness“You live your way into new thoughts” Thrive With Leo Coaching:  If you want to reduce your psychological pain, regain your purpose and forge your own path, go to www.thrivewithleo.com to begin your journey. If you or anyone you know is considering suicide or self-harm, or is anxious, depressed, upset, or needs to talk, there are people who want to help: In the US:  Crisis Text Line: Text CRISIS to 741741 for free, confidential crisis counseling.  The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 or 988 The Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386 Outside the US: International Association for Suicide Prevention lists a number of suicide hotlines by country. Click here to find them. Gambling Addiction: 1-800-GAMBLER

  4. Aug 31

    Mystery: How Not Knowing Keeps Us Going

    In this episode, we explore why mystery isn’t something to eliminate from life — it may be the very thing that keeps us moving, connecting, hoping, and growing. Beginning with a two-year mystery involving peanut shells appearing outside a house, the conversation expands into relationships, neuroscience, detective stories, fear, curiosity, and the courage to enter the unknown. Topics include: Why humans are drawn to mysteries, whodunits, crosswords, and haunted housesThe psychology of curiosity and how uncertainty activates the brainWhy new relationships feel electric and emotionally aliveThe difference between healthy mystery and painful uncertaintyHow “let’s find out” can become a philosophy for livingWhy certainty can sometimes lead to boredom, paralysis, or emotional deadnessReflections on rejection, risk-taking, creativity, science, and wonderThe idea that hope only exists when the future remains unwritten Mysteries (Listen) Mistletoe Murders: https://shorturl.at/qftcN (Read) Fresh Water For Flowers: https://shorturl.at/mcjtL (Watch) Chestnut Man: https://shorturl.at/R5qxK Thrive With Leo Coaching:  If you want to reduce your psychological pain, regain your purpose and forge your own path, go to www.thrivewithleo.com to begin your journey. If you or anyone you know is considering suicide or self-harm, or is anxious, depressed, upset, or needs to talk, there are people who want to help: In the US:  Crisis Text Line: Text CRISIS to 741741 for free, confidential crisis counseling.  The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 or 988 The Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386 Outside the US: International Association for Suicide Prevention lists a number of suicide hotlines by country. Click here to find them.

  5. Aug 24

    Struck by lightning: What we can learn about pain management from lightning strike survivors

    How do we cope with the mental, emotional and physical pain? Survivors of lightning strikes and electrical shocks have lessons for us. Key coping mechanisms: salt packetssaunamassagegroup therapymindset shift Thrive With Leo Coaching:  If you want to reduce your psychological pain, regain your purpose and forge your own path, go to www.thrivewithleo.com to begin your journey. If you or anyone you know is considering suicide or self-harm, or is anxious, depressed, upset, or needs to talk, there are people who want to help: In the US:  Crisis Text Line: Text CRISIS to 741741 for free, confidential crisis counseling.  The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 or 988 The Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386 Outside the US: International Association for Suicide Prevention lists a number of suicide hotlines by country. Click here to find them. Gambling Addiction: 1-800-GAMBLER

  6. Aug 17

    The Odyssey: What Odysseus can teach us about suicide prevention

    What if feeling trapped isn’t about having a bad life—but about having a life that leaves no room for you? Using Odysseus and The Odyssey, I explore the idea that sometimes we can have love, security, success, and comfort while still feeling profoundly disconnected from ourselves. Why Odysseus rejects Calypso’s version of paradiseHow your greatest strengths can become sources of sufferingThe difference between wanting your life to end and wanting your current life to changeWhy boredom, burnout, and entrapment can be signs of lost agencyHow asking “Where do I get to be myself?” can become a first step toward finding a way forward Thrive With Leo Coaching:  If you want to reduce your psychological pain, regain your purpose and forge your own path, go to www.thrivewithleo.com to begin your journey. If you or anyone you know is considering suicide or self-harm, or is anxious, depressed, upset, or needs to talk, there are people who want to help: In the US:  Crisis Text Line: Text CRISIS to 741741 for free, confidential crisis counseling.  The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 or 988 The Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386 Outside the US: International Association for Suicide Prevention lists a number of suicide hotlines by country. Click here to find them. Gambling Addiction: 1-800-GAMBLER

  7. Aug 10

    When Your Job Retriggers Childhood Trauma

    When a boss’s email, meeting request, or tone of feedback feels disproportionately intense, it may not be about the present moment alone. For many people, workplace dynamics can quietly reactivate older emotional patterns tied to childhood experiences of criticism, invisibility, powerlessness, or conditional approval. This episode explores how that happens—and how to recognize when the nervous system is responding to the past, not just the job. In this episode: Why authority figures at work can unconsciously resemble early caregiversHow simple workplace feedback can trigger shame, fear, or collapseThe role of childhood experiences in shaping adult stress responsesWhy “professionalism” can sometimes override emotional self-protectionHow to tell the difference between present-day feedback and old emotional memoryWhat it means to stay grounded when the body reacts before the mind can interpret Thrive With Leo Coaching:  If you want to reduce your psychological pain, regain your purpose and forge your own path, go to www.thrivewithleo.com to begin your journey. If you or anyone you know is considering suicide or self-harm, or is anxious, depressed, upset, or needs to talk, there are people who want to help: In the US:  Crisis Text Line: Text CRISIS to 741741 for free, confidential crisis counseling.  The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 or 988 The Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386 Outside the US: International Association for Suicide Prevention lists a number of suicide hotlines by country. Click here to find them.

  8. Aug 3

    Ceasefire From Intrusive Thoughts

    When intrusive thoughts feel like a war zone, the goal isn’t to defeat every thought—it’s to establish a ceasefire. Just as peace agreements are more likely to hold when neutral third parties monitor them, our mental peace is more sustainable when therapists, friends, journals, or mindfulness practices help us observe thoughts without escalating them. Key Takeaways: Intrusive thoughts can feel like repeated violations of an internal ceasefire.A neutral third party helps monitor, interpret, and de-escalate mental conflict.Therapists, trusted friends, journaling, and meditation can serve as peacekeepers.The goal is not to eliminate thoughts, but to prevent them from triggering emotional retaliation.Healing comes from creating distance between the thought and the response. Thrive With Leo Coaching:  If you want to reduce your psychological pain, regain your purpose and forge your own path, go to www.thrivewithleo.com to begin your journey. If you or anyone you know is considering suicide or self-harm, or is anxious, depressed, upset, or needs to talk, there are people who want to help: In the US:  Crisis Text Line: Text CRISIS to 741741 for free, confidential crisis counseling.  The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 or 988 The Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386 Outside the US: International Association for Suicide Prevention lists a number of suicide hotlines by country. Click here to find them.

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When the pain feels unbearable and we feel alone in our suffering this podcast will sit with you. Let's rediscover our purpose, reduce our pain and regain our sense of belonging. Join comedian Leo Flowers M.A. as he shares his own journey through suicidality, interviews guests with lived experiences and discusses with experts on how to escape the flames and create a life worth living.

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