Grown-Ass Woman's Guide

Jackie MacDougall

You're in the middle of everything changing at once—your body, your family, your money, your home, your identity—and nobody prepared you for any of it. It's not a personal failing. It's just the reality as a woman in this season of life. If you are a kickass, fully capable woman on the outside but quietly drowning in private, The Grown-Ass Woman's Guide is for you. You've been holding everything together for everyone else, and you're fed up with white-knuckling through life. I'm here to tell you you're closer than you think. With the right tools, a little nudge, and someone in your corner, you can start living with more peace, joy, and grownassery. I'm Jackie MacDougall. It was a couple of years ago when I hit my breaking point. I couldn't take another second believing my own BS stories. I started seeing what actually matters right in front of me. Now it's my mission to build a community to help other women do the same. No shame. No perfection. No pretending. And zero judgment. New episodes drop regularly, covering everything from your health and home to your money, your relationships, and your identity—because it's all connected. Follow the show, grab The House Manual at grownasswomansguide.com, and come find your people.

  1. The Disability Insurance Gap Nobody Told You About

    5d ago

    The Disability Insurance Gap Nobody Told You About

    By the time you're in your early 50s, the odds of a new cancer diagnosis are 1 in 35. One in four people in their 50s and early 60s will have a physical or medical condition that limits their ability to work. And most of them have no idea how exposed they actually are. In part two of our insurance series, Wallis Wilkinson Tsai, founder of AboveBoard Financial, is back to talk about disability insurance — what it actually does, where your workplace plan is probably falling short, and how to make sure your bank account doesn't take a 40% hit when life hits the fan. We talk about the tax trap hiding in most employer benefit plans, why your benefit period matters more than you think, what happens to your coverage when you leave a job, and the business-owner mistake that trips up even the most financially savvy women. This is the episode your HR department never gave you. Get the Insurance Cheat Sheet! Wallis Wilkinson Tsai is the founder of AboveBoard Financial, specializing in life, disability, and long-term care insurance for individuals, families, and business owners. She spent over 10 years on Wall Street, including at Goldman Sachs, before starting her own firm. She also happens to have a deeply personal reason for caring about this stuff — which she shares in this episode. Topics CoveredThe Stats That Should Get Your Attention From the US Cancer Statistics Working Group: Ages 25–29: 1 in 331 chance of a new cancer diagnosisAges 40–44: 1 in 86Ages 50–54: 1 in 35 And it's not just cancer. 1 in 4 people in their 50s and early 60s will have a physical or medical condition that limits their ability to work. Disability insurance exists for exactly this scenario. What Disability Insurance Actually Does If you're too sick or injured to do your job and your income suffers as a result, disability insurance steps in and pays you a monthly benefit. The goal: smooth out your take-home pay whether you're healthy or not. Some policies also cover partial disability — meaning if you can only work part-time due to illness, you can still collect partial benefits. The Workplace Plan Gap (This One's Important) Most employer disability plans cover 60–66.7% of your income on paper. But here's what most people miss: your employer is almost certainly paying the premiums themselves to claim the tax deduction. That means you owe taxes on any benefits you receive. Do the math: 60% of income coveredMinus taxes you still owe on that benefit= You could net as little as 40% of your take-home pay For most people, a 40% drop in take-home pay for any extended period of time is a serious problem. Individual Policies: The Better Play When you own an individual disability policy and pay the premiums with your own after-tax money, the benefits are tax-free. If you're getting $5,000/month in benefits, that $5,000 is yours, no taxes owed. Bonus: individual policies aren't tied to your job. They travel with you. They also often give you the right to increase your coverage later without re-qualifying medically — which means locking in coverage sooner gives you more freedom in your career down the road. How to Think About Benefit Period Disability policies come in different lengths: 2 years, 5 years, 10 years, or through age 65, 67, or 70. The longer the benefit period, the more expensive the premium. The practical reality: the average disability leave is just under 3 years. Wallis's take: if the full-career plan isn't in budget, start with at least two years. It gives you runway — time to understand your diagnosis, make decisions about what comes next, and avoid the worst-case scenario of dealing with a health crisis and a financial crisis at the same time. One important caveat: you cannot extend your benefit period once you're on claim. The plan you pick is the one you're locked into. Timing: When to Get Coverage Get it while you're actively employed—carriers want to see your most recent pay stubThinking about quitting? Get coverage first, announce laterAlready have an offer letter? You can generally apply for coverage now, before you startSwitching to your own business in a related field? Some (not all) carriers will still cover you The Business Owner Trap If you're a business owner who minimizes taxable income (and a lot of us do, legally), know this: disability carriers underwrite you based on your reported net income, not gross. If your tax advisor has gotten your taxable income down to nearly nothing, your disability benefit would be based on nearly nothing. Talk to someone before you apply. Free Workplace Plan Review: AboveBoard Financial will review your existing workplace disability plan for free, no strings attached. They'll tell you exactly what you have, where the gaps are, and what to expect if you ever need to use it.

    20 min
  2. The Real Reason Women Over 40 Can't Stick to Their Health Routines

    Mar 13

    The Real Reason Women Over 40 Can't Stick to Their Health Routines

    "Health is the unbecoming. So much of the work around health is unbecoming the beliefs that were never yours." — Courtney Townley What if getting healthy wasn't about doing more but about finally putting some things down? In this episode, Courtney Townley, health and self-leadership coach, author of The Consistency Code, and host of the Grace & Grit podcast, drops some midlife truth bombs we absolutely need to hear. We cut through the noise of wellness culture, talk about what consistency actually means at this stage of our lives (hint: it's not doing the same thing over and over until you die). And we dive into why outsourcing to the "experts" might be the thing holding you back. If you're looking for an episode to guilt or shame you around diet and exercise, you've come to the wrong place. In This Episode Why the first thing women need from their health is relief, not resultsHow to stop outsourcing your life choicesWhat changes when you finally do it for yourselfPre-deciding: why planning doesn't require charts, graphs, or a color-coded notebookGrace vs. excuses: two questions that help you tell the difference Free Resource: The Grown-Ass Woman's Health Cheat Sheet: screenings, labs, vaccines, hormones, HRT, and supplements all in one printable checklist. Download it at grownasswoman.guide/myhealth and bring it to your next appointment. About Courtney Townley: Courtney Townley is a health and self-leadership coach, speaker, and host of the top-rated Grace & Grit podcast and the author of The Consistency Code. She helps midlife women cut through the noise of wellness culture and lead themselves with less overwhelm and more confidence. With over 30 years in the wellness industry, Courtney blends neuroscience, behavior change, and straight talk to show women that deep health isn’t about following someone else’s plan... it’s about learning to trust and lead yourself. A sought-after speaker and educator, she is known for her grounded, no-nonsense approach to sustainable change. When she’s not coaching or podcasting, you’ll find her salsa dancing, traveling, or soaking up time with her family and her Great Dane, Sully. Resources & Links The Consistency Code by Courtney TownleyGrace & Grit PodcastCourtney on InstagramThe Grown-Ass Woman's Health Cheat SheetThe Grown-Ass Woman's Guide on Instagram Mentioned in this episode: Join us for Grown-Ass Study Hall! Grown-Ass Study Hall is a virtual co-working session for women who are done putting things off. You bring your task. We show up together. No camera required, no pressure to speak. Just an hour of actually getting it done. Founding members lock in $27/month for life (regular price will be $37) plus access to a private Voxer channel with direct access to keep the convo going outside of the sessions. Sessions kick off the last week of March! https://grownasswoman.guide/studyhall

    1h 1m
  3. 5 Things You Need to Know About Your Home Right Now

    Mar 7

    5 Things You Need to Know About Your Home Right Now

    73% of women polled said they were either winging it or had no idea how their home worked. Have you ever stood in a flooding garage, phone in hand, searching Facebook for a plumber on a holiday weekend? Or packed up your home during a fire evacuation and realized you had no idea what mattered or where anything was? That was me. Twice. In this episode, I’m sharing the two moments that cracked me wide open — and why I believe every woman, whether she owns, rents, or is currently on a very nice pullout couch, needs to actually know how her home works. In This Episode: The Friday my house rained inside (and what a firefighter taught me)What happened when my neighborhood went under evacuation warning during the LA firesThe poll I ran in my Facebook community, and the 73% statistic that changed everythingFive things every woman should know about her home right nowWhy The House Manual exists and who it’s really for Links & Resources → The House Manual (30% off early bird) → Home Maintenance 101 Mentioned in this episode: Join us for Grown-Ass Study Hall! Grown-Ass Study Hall is a virtual co-working session for women who are done putting things off. You bring your task. We show up together. No camera required, no pressure to speak. Just an hour of actually getting it done. Founding members lock in $27/month for life (regular price will be $37) plus access to a private Voxer channel with direct access to keep the convo going outside of the sessions. Sessions kick off the last week of March! https://grownasswoman.guide/studyhall

    12 min
  4. How to Go Gray: Tips, Products & What No One Tells You

    Feb 8

    How to Go Gray: Tips, Products & What No One Tells You

    What if the scariest change you could make turned out to be the most freeing? After nearly 30 years of dyeing her hair, Katie Emery made the decision at 50 to go gray cold turkey, and discovered it was about so much more than hair color. In this episode, the creator of Katie Goes Platinum shares her raw and honest journey, from the depression that sparked her decision to the surprising joy she found on the other side. We talk: Why going gray became a catalyst for bigger life changesThe emotional rollercoaster of transition (and why it's worth it)Savage comebacks for the haters ("Wow" is just the beginning)Products that actually work vs. total BSDifferent methods to go gray (cold turkey isn't your only option)Why 85-95% of women who go gray never go backThe powerful mindset shift: "You're no longer chasing who you used to be, but enjoying who you are now" Whether you're gray-curious, mid-transition, or just here for the life wisdom, this one's for you. CONNECT WITH KATIE: Blog: KatieGoesPlatinum.com YouTube: Katie Goes Platinum Instagram: @katiegoesplatinum Products Mentioned: • Silvering Tonal Control Concentrated Toning Mix • Silvering Root Cover Powder (white & salt and pepper) • Silvina London Shampoo & Conditioner Mentioned in this episode: Join us for Grown-Ass Study Hall! Grown-Ass Study Hall is a virtual co-working session for women who are done putting things off. You bring your task. We show up together. No camera required, no pressure to speak. Just an hour of actually getting it done. Founding members lock in $27/month for life (regular price will be $37) plus access to a private Voxer channel with direct access to keep the convo going outside of the sessions. Sessions kick off the last week of March! https://grownasswoman.guide/studyhall

    47 min

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You're in the middle of everything changing at once—your body, your family, your money, your home, your identity—and nobody prepared you for any of it. It's not a personal failing. It's just the reality as a woman in this season of life. If you are a kickass, fully capable woman on the outside but quietly drowning in private, The Grown-Ass Woman's Guide is for you. You've been holding everything together for everyone else, and you're fed up with white-knuckling through life. I'm here to tell you you're closer than you think. With the right tools, a little nudge, and someone in your corner, you can start living with more peace, joy, and grownassery. I'm Jackie MacDougall. It was a couple of years ago when I hit my breaking point. I couldn't take another second believing my own BS stories. I started seeing what actually matters right in front of me. Now it's my mission to build a community to help other women do the same. No shame. No perfection. No pretending. And zero judgment. New episodes drop regularly, covering everything from your health and home to your money, your relationships, and your identity—because it's all connected. Follow the show, grab The House Manual at grownasswomansguide.com, and come find your people.

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