Better Divorce Podcast

Paulette Rigo
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Welcome to The Better Divorce Podcast. Paulette Rigo here to guide you through the storm of divorce into calmer waters. Whether you're contemplating divorce, in the thick of it or rebuilding post-divorce, we've got you covered. Each week, we tackle tough topics, share resilience stories, and offer practical advice to help you navigate with confidence. Remember, you're not alone and a brighter future awaits. Ready to turn a tough time into a time of growth? Then let's get started.

  1. Ep. 07 Heike Yates: You Are Not Broken — You Are in Transition

    5D AGO

    Ep. 07 Heike Yates: You Are Not Broken — You Are in Transition

    Summary: In this inspiring interview, Heike Yates shares her journey of rediscovering her spark and purpose after life transitions like divorce and menopause. She discusses practical ways to explore curiosity, overcome fears, and embrace continuous growth at any age. Key Topics: The concept of pursuing your spark and curiosity in midlifeHeike Yates' personal journey from career to purposeOvercoming fear and self-doubt to try new activitiesThe importance of quiet reflection and mindfulnessStrategies for continuous growth and learning at any ageAbout Hieke: Heike Yates is a Midlife Fitness Expert, author, and creator of the SPARK Framework. She helps midlife women rebuild strength, energy, and confidence without guilt, extremes, or starting over. With 35+ years of experience in fitness, nutrition, and mindset coaching, she brings a realistic, compassionate approach to lasting change. Heike is the host of the Pursue Your Spark Podcast and the author of Pursue Your Spark. SIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/bdb WEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/ SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademy Buy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/ RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso... AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div... Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca... #divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport

    35 min
  2. Ep. 06 Ally Iseman: The Art of Relationship Design - Building Love on Purpose

    FEB 19

    Ep. 06 Ally Iseman: The Art of Relationship Design - Building Love on Purpose

    Summary: In this episode, relationship expert Ally Iseman joins host Paulette Rigo to explore the nuances of relationship design, the realities of divorce, and how intentionality can transform love and life. They discuss strategies for navigating relationships, ending them gracefully, and building a life aligned with personal values. About Ally: Ally Iseman is a modern relationship expert and the founder of the global platform Passport 2 Pleasure, your portal to building the love life of *your* dreams, not someone else’s. A featured expert on over 40 podcasts and in publications like The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, POPSUGAR, Grazia, AskMen, Well+Good, and more, she provides private coaching for select clients around the world, brand consulting, and online courses and resources for curious couples and individuals who want to open up without breaking up. Subscribe to her Substack where curious individuals, couples, and moresomes come to write their own Happily Ever After and follow her @allyiseman and @passport2pleasure as she continues her mission to “f**k around the world and find out.” SIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/bdb WEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/ SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademy Buy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/ RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso... AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div... Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca... #divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport

    51 min
  3. Ep. 05 Lori Atwood: Navigating Financial Challenges in Divorce

    FEB 11

    Ep. 05 Lori Atwood: Navigating Financial Challenges in Divorce

    Summary: In this episode of the Better Divorce Podcast, Paulette Rigo speaks with Lori Atwood, founder of Fearless Finance, about the financial challenges faced during divorce. They discuss the importance of financial planning, the need for financial independence, and strategies for managing finances during and after separation. The conversation highlights the complexities of divorce, including the emotional and financial implications of home ownership, budgeting, and the necessity of establishing credit. Lori emphasizes the importance of being financially literate and prepared for the changes that come with divorce, advocating for a proactive approach to financial management. Takeaways: Money is a significant concern during divorce, often causing fear and overwhelm.Financial planning can provide clarity and support for those considering divorce.Many women contemplate divorce for an average of two years before taking action.Establishing a separate checking account is crucial during separation.It's important to build your own credit history and financial independence post-divorce.The cost of maintaining two households can be challenging after divorce.Nesting arrangements can be complex and often do not work long-term.Selling the marital home can provide a clean break and financial security.Understanding financial literacy is essential for navigating divorce successfully.Facing financial challenges head-on is a critical step in the divorce process.About Lori: Lori Atwood is the founder and CEO of Fearless Finance and a CFP® professional. Lori created Fearless Finance to make expert, fiduciary, hourly financial planning accessible to everyone with no sales, no minimums, and no judgement. Lori’s been in finance for over 25 years starting in investment banking, asset management and private equity before starting Fearless Finance in 2016. SIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/bdb WEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/ SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademy Buy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/ RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso... AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div... Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca... #divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport

    44 min
  4. Ep. 04 Kathleen Judge: There is So Much Hope! The Power of Involvement in Relationships

    FEB 3

    Ep. 04 Kathleen Judge: There is So Much Hope! The Power of Involvement in Relationships

    Summary: In this conversation, Kathleen Judge and Paulette Rigo discuss the importance of involvement and sharing in relationships, particularly in marriage. Kathleen reflects on her realization of the power dynamics at play when she was not included in significant decisions, while Paulette emphasizes that true partnership requires sharing every aspect of life. They both agree that without this level of openness, marriage may not be viable. About Kathleen: "My story is one of great loss (and regrowth) through an unexpected divorce. Eleven years before, I quit my corporate job to stay home and raise the kids. Suddenly and unexpectedly, our marriage ended. I was in my 40's, alone with my kids, and responsible for our financial futures. Talk about vulnerable, terrified, and overwhelmed! What did I do? I found a financial advisor I trusted, we walked through the practical steps I needed to take, and the rest is history. Now I work as a financial advisor helping women new to managing their own wealth make smart financial decisions, so she feels comfortable and confident with her financial strategies. My goal is for her to regain - or perhaps reinvent - her most fulfilling life." Takeaways: - Divorce is overwhelming in many ways including financially. - Many spouses have not been actively involved in their family's finances and so it is a shock. - It's important to take time to ensure you're with the right financial advisor who can lead you through this season of life. - What qualities to look for in a financial advisor who can help you rebuild - or reinvent your life. SIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/bdb WEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/ SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademy Buy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/ RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso... AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div... Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca... #divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport

    41 min
  5. Ep. 03 Sybil Cummin: You’re More Powerful Than You Think for Your Kids

    JAN 28

    Ep. 03 Sybil Cummin: You’re More Powerful Than You Think for Your Kids

    Summary: In this episode of the Better Divorce Podcast, Paulette Rigo discusses the complexities of divorce, particularly focusing on coercive control and its impact on families. Joined by expert Sybil Cummin, they explore the nuances of coercive control, its effects on children, and strategies for protective parenting. The conversation emphasizes the importance of understanding the dynamics of high conflict divorces and the need for support systems for those affected. Takeaways: Coercive control is a significant factor in high conflict divorces.The family court system often fails to protect children from coercive control.Children may exhibit different behaviors based on their experiences in high conflict situations.Protective parents can foster resilience in their children through unconditional love.Understanding the dynamics of coercive control can help in navigating divorce effectively.Support groups and mental health resources are crucial for protective parents.Co-parenting can be challenging when one parent uses coercive control tactics.Children's responses to divorce can vary widely based on their personality and age.The court's definition of 'best interest' can be subjective and inconsistent.There is hope for families to navigate divorce positively despite challenges. About Sybil: Sybil is a Licensed Professional Counselor who has specialized in working with victims and survivors of coercive control and domestic violence for the last decade, including the child victims in these families. She owns a small group therapy practice in Colorado and after witnessing the constant ethical issues survivors experience in the family court system trying to protect their children she created Rising Beyond Power and Control (often referred to as The Rising Beyond Community) to help close the gaps in support for this population. Sybil hosts The Rising Beyond Podcast and is active in legislative changes in Colorado for family court reform. SIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/bdb WEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/ SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademy Buy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/ RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso... AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div... Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca... #divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport

    56 min
  6. Ep. 02 Todd Sarner: The Importance of Attachment in Parenting

    JAN 22

    Ep. 02 Todd Sarner: The Importance of Attachment in Parenting

    Summary: In this episode of the Better Divorce podcast, host Paulette Rigo speaks with parenting coach and psychotherapist Todd Sarner about the complexities of parenting in today's technology-driven world. They discuss Todd's upcoming book, 'The Calm and Connected Parent,' which emphasizes the importance of attachment in parenting. The conversation explores the challenges posed by technology, the significance of secure attachment, and the dynamics of co-parenting, especially in the context of divorce. Todd shares insights on how to balance technology use with parenting, the importance of connection, and the role of parents in fostering resilience in children. Takeaways: Parenting is more about who you are than what you do.Attachment first parenting prioritizes relationships over discipline.Technology can hinder children's ability to form secure attachments.Parents need to agree on technology use for their children.Children benefit from limits and boundaries set with compassion.Connection is essential before setting limits with children.Secure attachment is the key determinant of a child's potential.Co-parenting requires communication and alignment between parents.Children often seek connection through technology when they lack it in real life.Understanding attachment science can improve parenting strategies. About Todd: Todd Sarner is a parenting coach and psychotherapist with over 20 years of experience helping families create more connection, calm, and cooperation at home. A former Faculty Member of the Neufeld Institute, Todd has guided more than 2,000 families through the daily struggles of parenting—power struggles, meltdowns, and family stress—always with an attachment-first lens. He is the Director of Transformative Parenting and the author of the upcoming book The Calm & Connected Parent: An Attachment-First Guide to Raising Resilient Kids in the Age of Screens and AI (November 18, 2025). SIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/bdb WEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/ SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademy Buy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/ RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso... AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div... Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca... #divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport

    43 min
  7. Ep. 01 Caryn Gottlieb: Finding Strength After Divorce

    JAN 13

    Ep. 01 Caryn Gottlieb: Finding Strength After Divorce

    Summary In this episode of the Better Divorce podcast, host Paulette Rigo speaks with Karen Gottlieb, a mental health therapist and author, about life after divorce. They discuss the emotional journey of navigating divorce, the importance of mindset, and the process of self-discovery. Karen shares her personal experiences and insights on helping women find their strength and purpose post-divorce, emphasizing that divorce is not the end but a new beginning. The conversation also touches on the stages of grief, the significance of support systems, and the lessons learned through the process. Takeaways: Divorce is a transition, not the end of life.Having a support system is crucial during divorce.Mindset mastery can help navigate difficult times.It's important to communicate effectively in relationships.Many women lose their identity in marriage.Grief is a natural part of the divorce process.Self-discovery is essential after a divorce.Writing can be a therapeutic outlet.Legal aspects of divorce can be overwhelming.There is beauty and growth on the other side of divorce.About Caryn: Caryn Gottlieb is a clinically trained mental health therapist, author, speaker, and soul strategist who helps women rise from burnout, breakdown, and major life shifts through mindset work, nervous system healing, and intuition. A message from Caryn: "My latest book has just been released and is on Amazon in both paperback and kindle formats. "Beauty Within Divorce: A No-B.S. Guide to Healing, Reinventing, and Loving Life Again," is a compassionate, no-fluff guide for women ready to reclaim their joy, identity, and power. I feel it's a must read for any woman who is navigating divorce or who is on the other side of things and struggling to level up in life to an enjoyable place where she is happy, healthy and abundant in all areas." SIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/bdb WEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/ SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademy Buy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/ RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso... AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div... Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca... #divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport

    45 min
  8. Ep. 20 Kate Cruickshank: From Victim to Thriving - A Journey of Transformation

    11/14/2025

    Ep. 20 Kate Cruickshank: From Victim to Thriving - A Journey of Transformation

    Summary: In this episode of the Better Divorce podcast, Paulette Rigo and Kate discuss the transformative journey from feeling like a victim to thriving after divorce. Kate shares her personal experiences with trauma, cancer, and the challenges of navigating a difficult marriage. They explore the importance of self-value, the impact of emotional struggles, and the healing power of art. The conversation emphasizes the need for support, authenticity, and the lessons learned through the process of divorce, ultimately inspiring listeners to embrace their own transformations. About Kate: Kate is a board certified nurse coach who specializes in helping people who are navigating a cancer journey. She is a registered nurse and is passionate about empowering people who are faced with some of life’s greatest challenges. She is also a successful artist and uses the profits from her prints to provide pro bono coaching for people unable to afford 1:1 services. Having hit rock bottom 10 years ago, after health crises, long standing narcissistic abuse and years of fear tactics she sought guidance through a domestic violence support center, ended her marriage and has rebuilt her life and career to make the most of this second chance at life and the gift of helping others. Takeaways: Shifting your mindset is crucial for personal growth.Art can be a powerful tool for healing and expression.Navigating cancer and divorce requires immense strength.Self-value is essential in overcoming difficult relationships.Coercive control can deeply impact one's sense of self.Finding support is vital during challenging times.The legal process of divorce can be daunting but manageable.Embracing authenticity leads to a more fulfilling life.Lessons learned from past experiences shape future decisions.Transformation is possible after trauma and hardship. SIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/bdb WEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/ SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademy Buy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/ RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso... AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div... Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca... #divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport

    57 min
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Welcome to The Better Divorce Podcast. Paulette Rigo here to guide you through the storm of divorce into calmer waters. Whether you're contemplating divorce, in the thick of it or rebuilding post-divorce, we've got you covered. Each week, we tackle tough topics, share resilience stories, and offer practical advice to help you navigate with confidence. Remember, you're not alone and a brighter future awaits. Ready to turn a tough time into a time of growth? Then let's get started.

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  • Creator
    Paulette Rigo
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    244
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Paulette Rigo
  • Show Website
    Better Divorce Podcast