Growing Big People with PS‪.‬ Paul Scanlon

I was about 9 years old and in the early hours of the morning to escape my fathers violence I climbed out of my bedroom window and fled into the wintry night.

This is a story from my childhood, I am sharing this traumatic experience in the hope it helps anyone who can relate to be curious about your own trauma and continue to heal and grow from your own negative life experiences. 🙏🏼

We all have things in our childhood, I want to encourage you to go and sit with those memories that will help give you a key to your recovery and moving on.

Your life matters, and you can break generational patterns - and commit to do the work.

Get a hold of this e-book I AM NOT MY FATHER until 15th November - only at £7.00 (valued at £29.95) which includes the audiobook at paulscanlon.com/iamnotmyfather

In part two of this podcast about my Relationship Wisdom I share more about these 3 points.

#3 - All Relationships Come With Distinct Energies

#4 - You cannot control other people’s behaviour, but you can limit the impact with boundaries.

#5 - Never make your emotional home in another person.

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Here is part one of Paul Scanlon's Top 5 Relationship Wisdom.  

#1 - Relationships Are Spatial  

#2 - The Version Of Me In Your Head Is Not My Responsibility  

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It’s not change that stops us it’s the transition from what or who we know to something or someone we don’t know.

Change is easier if we have good transition skills and that is what I want to give you through this teaching.   

In this podcast episode I share about the 3 stages from caterpillar, cocoon to butterfly.  Cocoons of transition aren’t cosy and if you’re in one please remember that we fall apart to become new.  In the cocoon a caterpillar liquifies, it literally has a meltdown.  

We have to go through the dark to fly in the sun. 

 As well as share a metaphor about transition when it comes to the baby, the mother and the midwife.  There's a crucial moment in childbirth called the point of transition.  

It's when the baby is in the birth canal between where it's been and where it's going.  

The key player is the transition coach and she's called the midwife.  I hope this teaching helps you or someone you know who id going through a session of transition.

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Has life been painting layers on you?

I want you to get back to the bare oak version of who you are.

Here is a preview from my online course - The Prosperity Of The Soul.

In this short episode I want to share with you about


How to get back to the best version of you, free from labels
The origins of The Ego.
How to manage your ego.

If you’re interested in learning more about your SOUL get a hold of my online course for 60% off - limited time only at paulscanlon.com

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Narcissism is all about a false self it’s a mask that people wear which slips over time and when it does you should be paying attention.

It’s the fear of appearing ordinary which drives them to exaggeration and showing off to appear extraordinary.

Don’t ever try to confront or change a narcissist it’s like trying to nail jelly to the wall. Wish them well and move away from their toxicity.

Here are my 10 signs to look out for when it comes to narcissism to avoid in others and look out for if you have them in yourself.

1. They are self obsessed, self promoting and self absorbed whilst pretending to be interested in you.

2. They brainwash you to believe that you need them in your life because their life is far superior.

3. They manipulate you into their version of you.

4. They make you question your thoughts and decisions in favour of theirs.

5. They will never respect your boundaries because they only see their own importance.

6. They don’t mind ignoring shaming minimising or isolating you to serve themselves.

7. They will Gaslight and marginalise you then encourage and praise you simultaneously in the hope you don’t spot the manipulation.

8. They use people because their agenda and priorities are always more important.

9. They need people and relationships just like the rest of us but they’re unable to see others as equals.

10. They will only want you in their world if you offer them financial security, status, support their projects or just generally stroke their ego in some way.

I love hearing from you so let me know what you thought of this episode either on social media @PaulScanlonUK or email pa@paulscanlon.com