The Trouble with Sex

The Trouble With Sex
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Relationship & Sex Therapist Dr. Tammy Nelson gets up close and personal with leading, sex-positive experts and influencers to examine hot topics and answer your questions about pleasure, sexuality, relationships and the most forbidden aspects of the human experience. 

  1. 6d ago

    Disarming the Narcissist

    Dr. Tammy talks with narcissism expert Wendy Behary about the complicated dance between the narcissist and the people who love them—how to recognize the traits and distinguish between other potential issues, change old patterns and find the courage to trust your instincts. OUR GUEST  Wendy T Behary is a therapist, author, and internationally recognized expert in narcissism and Schema Therapy, with more than 30 years of experience helping people navigate difficult relationships. She’s also the author of the international bestseller Disarming the Narcissist, now in its third edition and translated into 16 languages. Wendy is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC-DC. In edition to treating clients, she has been training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years.  She is a founding fellow and consulting supervisor for The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Aaron T. Beck’s Institute). Wendy served as the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2010-2014 and served as the Training and Certification Coordinator for the ISST Executive Board from 2008-2010. She currently serves as President of the Executive Board for the Jeff Young Schema Therapy Association. Her work industry business speaking engagements focus on interpersonal conflict resolution. Wendy's private practice is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, their partners and the people dealing with them.  Her work isn’t just about understanding narcissists—it’s about understanding the people who love them, live with them, work with them, and sometimes find themselves wondering, “Wait…is it me?” DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST? Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY! To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together. Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy. Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

  2. Sep 11

    Pair-A-Docs Talks the L Word

    The Trouble with Sex is thrilled to introduce Dr. Tammy's podcast Pair-A-Docs, which she co-hosts with acclaimed OB/GYN, Dr. Sherry Ross. In this episode, the two Docs talk with actors and LGBTQ+ Icons, Kate Moennig & Leisha Hailey about their friendship, their podcast PANTS, their new cocktail BIGYAY, and their life changing experience working on the hit show The L Word. MORE ABOUT PAIR-A-DOCS Dr. Sherry Ross and Dr. Tammy Nelson pull back the curtain on sex, relationships, mental health, trauma, men's health, cancer, and everything in between — with the guests you didn't expect and the conversations you actually need. DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST? Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY! To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together. Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy. Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

  3. Aug 31

    RE-RELEASE: What Is Your Blueprint for Pleasure?

    Dr. Tammy talks with Jaiya, the award-winning somatic sexologist and author of Your Blueprint for Pleasure, about how discovering what turns you on can help you take control of your pleasure, have amazing sex, rekindle the spark in the bedroom, heal past trauma, and empower your relationship and your spirit.  Re-listen or enjoy for the first time - then take the Quiz to find out your Sexual Blueprint! DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. OUR GUEST Jaiya is an award -winning somatic sex sexologist, author of books including  Your Blueprint for Pleasure and co-author of Red Hot Touch.  She also starred in Netflix's Sex, Love & goop about what drives sexual attraction, passion and erotic fulfillment.  Jaiya is also the Founder of the The Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough™ . For over three decades, Jaiya has been immersed in the study of turn-ons, ancient erotic rituals, tantric sex, mastery of sensual touch, pure erotic play, kinky dynamics, and the biology and psychology of attraction and sexual fulfillment. She works with all kinds of bodies and sexual orientations, and through observation and clinical research, she discovered the Erotic Blueprint™, a map of arousal that reveals one’s specific erotic language and patterning and helps create a path forward to greater sexual fulfillment.  INTERESTED IN BECOMING a CERTIFIED  SEX THERAPIST? Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.   THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO CHECK OUT DR. T'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY! · To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together. · Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

  4. Aug 6

    RE-RELEASE: How Anxiety Affects You & Your Relationships

    Dr. Tammy explores the rise of anxiety in our culture, and its impact on our closest relationships. Learn tools to reconnect with yourself and your partner, communicate better, and find calm amid the chaos.   DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST? Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.   THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY! To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together. Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy. Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

  5. Jul 27

    Breaking Through Emotional Patterns To Improve Our Relationships

    Dr. Tammy sits down with psychoanalyst and certified sex therapist Juliane Maxwald to explore the hidden emotional patterns shaping our relationships, why talking about sex can feel so difficult, and how breaking through those barriers can create deeper intimacy, connection, and understanding. OUR GUEST  Juliane Maxwald is a licensed psychoanalyst, couples therapist, and an AASECT certified Sex Therapist with more than two decades of experience helping individuals and couples navigate challenges such as low desire, infidelity, anxiety, burnout, and compulsive behaviors. Her work focuses not only on symptom relief, but on uncovering the deeper emotional patterns that shape how we love, work, and connect. Juliane serves on the faculty of the New York Graduate School of Psychoanalysis and the Institute for Contemporary Psychoanalysis, where she teaches, supervises, and mentors clinicians across the country. She is also the author of two recently published books:Psychoanalytic Sex Therapy: Exploring the Unconscious Life of Sexuality - a clinician's guide to working with erotic symptoms, fantasy, trauma, and relational repair; AND Talking About Sex: A Guide to Confidence, Connection and Communication - a practical and compassionate guide designed to help individuals and couples build greater confidence, connection, and communication around sexuality. DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST? Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY! To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together. Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy. Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

  6. Jul 9

    A Mother's Past & A Daughter's Journey

    What happens when a daughter discovers the truth about her mother's secret past? Dr. Tammy sits down with journalist and author Tracy Clark-Flory to discuss her powerful memoir,  My Mother’s Daughter: Finding Myself in My Family’s Fractured Past. From meeting her sister to peeling back layers of shame, grief, and silence, Tracy shares how reclaiming the past helped to unite her family and heal the wounds they inherited. OUR GUEST  Tracy Clark-Flory is a journalist, essayist and author. Her first memoir, Want Me: A Sex Writer’s Journey into the Heart of Desire, was an NPR Best Book of the Year. She has written for Cosmopolitan, The Cut, ELLE, Esquire, Marie Claire, Glamour, The Guardian, The Washington Post, WIRED, Women’s Health, and many others. Previously, she was a senior staff writer at Jezebel and a staff writer at Salon. She writes a weekly newsletter and cohosts Dire Straights, a feminist podcast critiquing hetero love, sex, politics, and culture.   *ORDER MY MOTHER'S DAUGHTER NOW! *Explore More of Tracy's Work:  Newsletter I Podcast I Website I Instagram I WANT ME DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST? Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY! To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together. Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy. Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

  7. Jun 25

    The New Rules of Women's Health

    Women’s health is finally a mainstream conversation—but along with it has come access to an overwhelming amount of advice, trends, and misinformation. Dr. Tammy talks with health journalist Meghan Rabbitt about her book, The New Rules of Women's Health, and how women can cut through the social media noise, understand the latest science, ask the right questions, and make informed decisions about their bodies, sex lives and life choices.  OUR GUEST Meghan Rabbitt is an award-winning journalist and author of The New Rules of Women’s Health: Your Guide to Thriving at Every Age. She specializes in writing about women’s health and wellness, and her work has appeared in many national publications, including Women’s Health, Oprah Daily, Prevention, Maria Shriver’s Sunday Paper. She’s known for translating complex medical and scientific topics into clear, actionable information—and for telling stories that help readers better understand their bodies, their health, and themselves.  DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST? Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY! To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together. Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy. Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

  8. Jun 12

    The Sure Thing - Creating a Pleasure Practice

    Dr. Tammy talks with sensuality mentor and author of The Sure Thing: A Pleasure Practice to Revive the Spark about empowering your sex life, strengthening your relationship, liberating yourself - and all about the 13 Moon Mystery School. GUEST Elana Auerbach is a mentor, activist, author, and the founder of Sensuelle: A Woman’s Journey into Sensuality — a transformational program designed to help women reconnect with their bodies, authentic voice, and passion. After building what looked like the “perfect” life — graduating Phi Beta Kappa from UCLA, working on Wall Street, and marrying someone with whom she felt no chemistry, Elana realized she had been living disconnected from herself. In 2001, she made the life-changing decision to leave her marriage and begin a deeply personal journey into sensuality, embodiment, and authentic connection. Since then, she has spent more than two decades guiding women and couples into deeper intimacy, pleasure, and self-awareness. An ordained priestess through the Sanctuary of the 13 Moon Mystery School, Elana taught feminine mystery work for over a decade and has become a trusted voice in conversations around sexuality, relationships, and personal liberation. Her latest book, The Sure Thing, was inspired by her own long-term relationship and the real-life challenges of keeping intimacy alive over time — offering a practical and transformative approach to creating lasting sexual connection. DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST? Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY! To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together. Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy. Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

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Relationship & Sex Therapist Dr. Tammy Nelson gets up close and personal with leading, sex-positive experts and influencers to examine hot topics and answer your questions about pleasure, sexuality, relationships and the most forbidden aspects of the human experience. 

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  • Creator
    The Trouble With Sex
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    120
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 The Trouble with Sex
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