Finding Her Sparkle with Ami Rankin

Ami Rankin
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A Wellbeing & Emotional Intelligence Coach from Australia helping you to realise and live your full potential. It's time to get your sparkle back.

  1. 19H AGO

    Ep 137: You’re not lazy - your nervous system is overloaded and you’re overstimulated

    If you’ve been calling yourself lazy, unmotivated, or undisciplined lately, this episode is your reminder that you’re probably not lazy at all - your nervous system is overloaded, you’re overstimulated and are running on survival mode. We will break down the difference between laziness and burnout, explain what happens in the brain when you’re under chronic stress and explore how overstimulation can lead to functional freeze, procrastination, brain fog, emotional reactivity and feeling stuck even when you care deeply about what needs to get done. You’ll learn: the difference between laziness and nervous system overload why chronic stress affects motivation, focus and emotional regulation how fight, flight and freeze show up in busy mums and overwhelmed women why overstimulation leads to shutdown and procrastination 2 quick nervous system regulation tools you can use in under a minute how to stop the negative self-talk and support your body with more compassion This episode is for busy mums, overstimulated women, default parents and anyone feeling burnt out, mentally overloaded, emotionally drained or stuck in survival mode. If you’ve been struggling with burnout, overwhelm, procrastination or feeling like your nervous system is always “on,” this episode will help you feel seen, understood, and supported.

    17 min

  2. FEB 11

    Ep 136: Default Parent Burnout: Understanding Functional Freeze 🤯 Why you feel numb as the Default Parent and how to get unstuck

    If you’re the default parent and feel stuck, exhausted, numb or overwhelmed - this episode is for you. In this episode we explore what functional freeze really is, how it shows up in motherhood and why so many mums fall into this state when they carry the mental and emotional load of being the default parent. You’ll learn: What the default parent role is and how you got here What functional freeze looks like in real life How chronic stress impacts your nervous system Signs you may be stuck in functional freeze Gentle, achievable ways to begin moving out of freeze without adding more to your plate This episode is a compassionate, practical guide for overwhelmed mums who feel like they’re doing everything but still feel stuck. You’re not broken - your nervous system is overwhelmed. Recommendations: Getting a hobby! (I'm loving embroidery kits from Kmart)Do You F***ing Mind Podcast episode 429 on Functional FreezeInsight Timer app (free version is fine) for EFT tapping and breathwork to regulate your Nervous System To access our free tools at BU Happiness College, click the link below. Please remember to subscribe and share the show to help more women get their sparkle back! ✨ msha.ke/amirankin

    42 min

  3. 12/16/2025

    Ep 135: 🤯 Busy Season Survival Guide 🫠 How to actually regulate your Nervous System

    If you're feeling busy, overwhelmed, burnt out or constantly on edge this episode is for you. I break down what actually happens in your nervous system during busy seasons of life and why feeling stressed, scattered or exhausted doesn’t mean you’re failing. You’ll learn about the three states we move through as humans: suffering, surviving and thriving - how to recognise which one you’re in and why it’s unrealistic (and unhelpful) to expect yourself to be thriving all the time. We dive into: - Why modern life keeps us stuck in survival mode - The stress cycle and why it needs to be completed - Simple nervous system regulation tools and somatic practices you can actually fit into a busy day - How to move away from burnout without adding more to your to‑do list - How to meet yourself at 50%, 75% or 100% — without all‑or‑nothing thinking This episode is packed with practical mindset shifts, nervous system education and gentle tools to help you calm your mind, regulate your body and feel more grounded - even when life feels chaotic. If you’re feeling overstimulated, emotionally drained, mentally overloaded or like you’re running on empty, this episode will help you slow down, check in with yourself and start recharging your battery - one small step at a time. Book recommendation: The Vegas Nerve Reset by Anna Ferguson

    34 min

  4. 11/03/2025

    Ep 134: Q&A - Help! How do I not fall apart myself when my kids are having a tantrum?

    In this episode I discusses the challenges of parenting, particularly when trying to manage childrens' big emotions! We talk about the importance of emotional intelligence both for parents and children and I share practical tools and resources to help navigate the difficult moments. The main topic points are: Emotional intelligence is important for parents AND childrenTantrums are often a reflection of underlying feelings, not just bad behaviour.Understanding child developmental stages can help to meet your child where they are atRecognising your own feelings is the first step to managing them.It's normal to feel overwhelmed as a parent - seeking help is okay! To access our free tools click the link below. Please remember to subscribe and share the show to help more women get their sparkle back! msha.ke/amirankin

    48 min

  5. 08/04/2025

    Ep 133: You’re not JUST your anxiety, ADHD or star sign - how to be more than your diagnosis or labels

    Do you ever catch yourself saying ‘I’m just anxious all the time’ or ‘I’m like this because I have ADHD’?  In this episode of Finding Her Sparkle we're busting the myth that your labels; whether it’s anxiety, depression, ADHD or even your star sign define you. As a certified wellbeing and emotional intelligence coach (and someone living with ADHD), I’m diving deep into how these labels can sometimes give clarity, but can also keep you stuck.  You’ll learn how to shift from ‘I have anxiety’ to ‘I’m feeling anxious today’ and why that change matters. You can honour your diagnosis without using it as a reason to stay stuck. This is your loving reminder: You are not broken. You are learning about yourself.

    38 min

  6. 07/08/2025

    Ep 132: Feeling flat? Fallen out of routine? You’re not lazy - why Winter changes how you feel ❄️

    Are you feeling flat, unmotivated, or disconnected from your routine lately? You’re not alone — this episode explores how seasonal changes, especially during winter, can impact our energy, emotions, and habits as mothers. I’ll guide you through what’s really happening in your brain and body during winter (hello, Seasonal Affective Disorder), why it’s totally normal to feel “off,” and how to stop forcing yourself to hustle like it’s summer when your body is asking you to slow down. We’ll also unpack how to find the balance between showing up for yourself and honouring your seasonal energy shifts — with 5 practical tools to reset your routine, support your mindset, and regulate your nervous system during the colder months. Whether you’ve been skipping workouts, doom-scrolling to cope, or just feeling flat and frustrated with yourself… this episode will remind you: you’re not broken, you’re just out of alignment — and there’s a gentler way to come back home to yourself. Recommendations: Sunrise Alarm Clock Ambient Jazz videos on YouTube

    35 min

  7. 06/18/2025

    Ep 131: What nobody tells you about Intrusive Thoughts and Anxiety in Motherhood (you are not alone)

    If you’ve ever had a scary thought and instantly questioned, “What is wrong with me?”, this episode is for you. In today’s deep dive, we’re talking about intrusive thoughts, mum anxiety, and the overwhelm that comes with the mental load — especially when you're juggling toddlers, stress, and not enough sleep. We explore why these thoughts happen (especially postpartum), how our brains shift into fight-or-flight mode as mums, and what these patterns have to do with survival instincts, overstimulation, and the stories we tell ourselves. You’ll learn simple mindset tools from CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) and ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) to help you detangle from anxious thoughts, name the inner critic, and create more self-compassion in motherhood. This is your permission slip to stop judging yourself for the way you feel — because you're not broken, you're just overwhelmed. Whether you’re feeling snappy, overstimulated, or scared by your own thoughts, you are not alone. Let this be your reminder that healing starts with awareness — and that it’s safe to take up space for your feelings.

    45 min

  8. 02/17/2025

    Ep 130: 🧠 Monday Mindset: how to stick to your habits even when life is hard

    If you have been comparing you and your habits or goals when you’re in a hard chapter of life to you and your habits and goals when you are totally thriving and motivated then this episode is for you. This is your Monday pep talk to help you stop the comparison and beating yourself up. Learn how you can still be achieving your goals and healthy habits, even if they don’t look or feel like they normally do

    11 min
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