Finding Fertility

Monica Cox
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Welcome to your no B.S. approach to creating the family of your DREAMS when you’re dealing with Fertility Issues, aka ”Infertility”! Whether you can get pregnant naturally or need medical assistance, Finding Fertility can help you maximise your chances of getting and staying pregnant by using science-backed Holistic Functional Fertility Health Coaching!

  1. 3D AGO

    Fertility Burnout and the Guilt of Rest No One Talks About During IVF & Infertility :: Week 10

    “You do not need to earn this moment.” Topics Discussed • Fertility burnout that hides behind productivity and good intentions • The subconscious blocks that make rest feel unsafe • IVF trauma and the nervous system pattern of overdoing • How guilt shows up when movement slows down • Emotional healing through radical awareness not performance • Time pressure stories and the internal fear of being behind • Mindset shifts that support subconscious healing and frequency change • Why rest without guilt softens survival mode “Rest without guilt recalibrates your whole system.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… Last week you noticed how quickly doing replaces feeling. How productivity becomes a shield. This week we stay with what happens when that shield lowers. And usually what shows up first is guilt. Not laziness. Not failure. Guilt. Fertility burnout is rarely about doing too little. It is about never feeling allowed to stop. When rest appears your nervous system may panic. It might whisper that you are behind. That time is running out. That IVF trauma or past disappointments mean you must push harder. And here is the uncomfortable truth. That push is often the very thing keeping your body in survival mode. Emotional healing begins when you pause without earning it. No reward. No justification. Just presence. We are also opening the door to time pressure. Not the clock. The internal story that it is too late. That your fertility journey is on a countdown. You already know age is not the whole story. But your subconscious may still be running a fear based script. And that script shapes your frequency more than any supplement ever could. This is where subconscious healing gets real. Not dramatic. Not loud. Just steady. A sticky note that says you do not need to earn this moment. A breath. A softening. And the quiet realization that safety is not something you achieve through overdoing. Next week we go deeper into those time stories and the subtle ways they shape your choices. For now just notice what happens when you stop performing. It might be uncomfortable. It might also be the relief you have been craving. Timestamps 02:29 When overdoing softens and guilt shows up 03:58 Rest without earning it and what your body feels  05:18 Building awareness as subconscious healing  06:15 Time pressure stories and feeling behind 07:40 Trusting your body and staying committed Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/FertilityBurnoutGuiltRestNoOneTalksAboutDuringIVFInfertility  Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

    8 min

  2. FEB 27

    IVF Trauma, Stillness, and the Body’s Need to Pause During Infertility :: Week 9

    “Stillness removes the buffer. When you stop moving, sensation rises and that can feel uncomfortable AF.” Topics Discussed Why overdoing is often about avoiding stillness, not productivity How autopilot patterns keep the nervous system in motion The link between safety, control, and fertility burnout Why boredom and pauses support creativity and regulation Observing impulses without fixing, forcing, or judging Learning to choose stillness rather than demand it “The body doesn’t avoid stillness without a reason. That reaction is information.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This episode is for the woman who knows she is tired, but cannot quite slow down. The one who has done all the things. The journals. The planning. The perfect routines. And yet something still feels loud inside. We talk about why stillness can feel unsafe. Not because anything is wrong with you, but because stillness removes distraction. It asks you to be with yourself without a role, without momentum, without identity. And for many women on the fertility journey, that is where the anxiety lives. This week is not about forcing rest or becoming some calm unicorn overnight. It is about noticing. The reaching. The tightening. The impulse to fill space. And realizing that those mundane moments are where the deepest awareness begins. Next week, we soften even more as rest gets re-framed without guilt or shame. Timestamps 01:31 Getting out of autopilot in everyday moments 02:30 Why stillness can feel unsafe 03:54 What boredom teaches the nervous system 05:18 The impulse to escape as information 06:47 Re-framing rest without guilt Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/IVF%20Trauma,%20Stillness,%20and%20the%20Body%E2%80%99s%20Need%20to%20Pause%20During%20Infertility Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

    8 min

  3. FEB 20

    Overdoing, Urgency & the Illusion of Running Out of Time During Infertility & IVF:: Week 8

    “Urgency is a sensation before it is a decision.” Topics Discussed How overdoing is driven by time pressure, not motivation The nervous system pattern underneath fertility burnout Why urgency feels responsible even when it is dysregulating The illusion of being behind and how it speeds up the body Stillness as a threat when worthiness is tied to action Noticing sensations instead of fighting stories Why slowing down is not indulgent on a fertility journey “Movement feels like progress even when nothing is actually changing.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This episode is for the woman who cannot seem to stop doing. Reading. Researching. Optimizing. Fixing. The one who tells herself she will rest once this works. The one whose body feels like it is constantly racing an invisible clock. And somehow, slowing down feels irresponsible. We are not talking about ambition here. We are talking about urgency. The kind that comes from the story that you are behind. That you should have started earlier. That age is the most important factor. That time is running out. And when that story takes over, the nervous system speeds up, the breath shortens, and overdoing feels like the only option. This episode is not about stopping or fixing anything. It is about noticing what happens in your body when the rush appears. Because when urgency stops running the show, something very different becomes possible. And next week, we go even deeper into why overdoing is often an avoidance of stillness itself. Timestamps 01:25 Why overdoing did not start with fertility 02:23 Time pressure and the illusion of being behind 03:48 Movement that feels like progress but is not 04:17 Urgency as a body sensation, not a truth 05:46 What your future child will actually thank you for Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Overdoing,%20Urgency%20&%20the%20Illusion%20of%20Running%20Out%20of%20Time%20During%20Infertility%20&%20IVF Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

    7 min

  4. FEB 13

    Fertility Burnout and the Identity of Overdoing Everything During Infertility & IVF :: Week 7

    “If my worth depends on effort, then rest will always feel unsafe.” Topics Discussed Overdoing as identity, not behavior Why slowing down can feel threatening instead of nourishing The nervous system cost of being the capable one How worth becomes tangled with productivity Fertility burnout and emotional depletion Noticing patterns without fixing or correcting them Soft awareness as a form of subconscious healing “Overdoing isn’t just a habit for many women. It’s an identity.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This episode goes somewhere tender. Not into doing less. Not into fixing anything. But into the moment where slowing down feels uncomfortable because of who you might be without the doing. For so many women, overdoing is not a strategy. It is an identity. Being reliable. Being capable. Being the one who holds it all together. And when that identity carries worth, rest does not feel like relief. It feels threatening. Not because things will fall apart, but because a quiet question surfaces underneath it all. Who am I if I stop? This is not a week for correcting yourself. It is a week for noticing. The guilt. The unease. The urge to justify your time. And what might soften if your worth no longer depended on effort. Listen in and let this one land gently. Something shifts when you see it clearly. Timestamps 01:06 Why slowing down can feel threatening, not restful 02:03 Overdoing as identity and where worth gets tangled 02:33 The quiet fear underneath constant productivity 03:32 How effort-based worth leads to depletion 04:31 When doing becomes a choice instead of a compulsion Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Fertility%20Burnout%20and%20the%20Identity%20of%20Overdoing%20Everything%20During%20Infertility%20&%20IVF  Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

    6 min

  5. FEB 6

    Why Slowing Down Can Feel Unsafe During Your Fertility Journey :: Week 6

    There is nothing noble about running yourself into the ground to prove you are enough. Topics Discussed How overdoing disguises itself as being responsible, capable, and admired Why slowing down can trigger anxiety, guilt, or loss of identity Movement as a coping mechanism for nervous system regulation The invisible link between fertility burnout, worthiness, and control How awareness softens patterns without forcing change What happens when you stop over-functioning for everyone else Overdoing is not strength. It is often just a nervous system trying to feel safe. Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This episode is a pause. Not the kind you schedule. The kind that sneaks up on you when you realize how much effort you are pouring into things that are not actually required. The kind that makes you notice how uncomfortable stillness feels when your identity has been built on being the one who does it all. We talk about overdoing. Not the dramatic kind. The praised kind. The kind that earns compliments while quietly exhausting your nervous system. The kind that looks like leadership, motherhood, fertility dedication, or being the responsible one. And how often that constant motion is not ambition at all, but survival. If you have ever wondered why slowing down feels harder than pushing through, or why letting something be imperfect makes your chest tighten, this episode is for you. No fixing. No forcing. Just awareness. And what starts to shift when you finally let yourself see the pattern. Timestamps 01:42 How overdoing hides behind being capable 03:35 Movement as nervous system regulation 04:27 Noticing patterns without judgment 06:18 Letting go of perfection and control 07:07 The link between overdoing and worthiness Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Why%20Slowing%20Down%20Can%20Feel%20Unsafe%20During%20Your%20Fertility%20Journey Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

    8 min

  6. JAN 30

    Why Surrender Feels So Threatening When You Want a Baby During Infertility & IVF :: Week 5

    “There is nothing wrong with you for holding on so tightly. For many women, control once meant survival.” Topics Discussed How control quietly disguises itself as safety The nervous system cost of gripping, fixing, and managing Why surrender often feels like loss, not relief Fear patterns hiding underneath overdoing and overanalyzing The difference between effort and force How honesty creates more space than pushing ever could “Surrender is not the absence of action. It is the absence of force.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This episode is an honest pause. A breath. A moment to look at how tightly you might be holding your life together and why. Not from judgment. Not from fixing. Just from awareness. Because control can feel responsible, productive, and necessary. Until it quietly turns into exhaustion. I share a very real chapter of my own fertility journey where surrender was not chosen. It was forced. No job. No distractions. No fixing. Just waiting. And while it did not magically guarantee an outcome, it changed how my body experienced life. It showed me how much effort I had been carrying without realizing it. This week is not about letting go of everything. It is about noticing where surrender feels dangerous. Where ease feels irresponsible. Where your body is bracing instead of breathing. And what might happen if you stopped fighting long enough to feel what is actually there. Timestamps 00:00 Welcome and setting the tone for noticing control 01:11 How control disguises itself as safety 02:42 Why fear-based effort works against the body 03:35 A personal story of being forced into surrender 07:14 Where gripping shows up in everyday life 08:42 Surrender as honesty, not collapse Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Why%20Surrender%20Feels%20So%20Threatening%20When%20You%20Want%20a%20Baby%20During%20Infertility%20IVF Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

    11 min

  7. JAN 23

    The Illusion of Control in Infertility & IVF and Why Less Is Not Giving Up :: Week 4

    "There is a difference between being responsible and being regulated." Topics Discussed Control disguised as care, responsibility, and being proactive Why overdoing can feel safe but keep the nervous system stuck The quiet exhaustion of managing everything and everyone How fertility burnout shows up in the mundane moments The illusion of success created by control Becoming the ultimate observer without judgment Why doing nothing for a moment can be deeply regulating Sometimes fixing is not love. It is fear in a more socially acceptable outfit. Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This episode is a brutally honest look at control. Not the obvious kind. The sneaky kind. The kind that looks like fixing, managing, improving, optimizing, and being the responsible one. The kind that gets praised. And the kind that quietly keeps your nervous system on edge while your body whispers, or screams, for relief. I share a very real moment where my own control patterns showed up while recording this very series. The urge to do more. Add more. Fix something that was already enough. And how noticing that impulse changed everything. Because the work that actually shifts fertility, burnout, and emotional exhaustion is not flashy. It is boring. It is mundane. And it asks you to sit with discomfort instead of outrunning it. If you have ever felt like you are doing everything right and still not seeing the shift you want, this conversation will land. Especially if slowing down feels like giving up. Next week, we are gently reframing surrender so it stops feeling terrifying and starts feeling safe. Timestamps 01:30 Catching control patterns in real time 03:40 When fixing feels like care but creates burnout 05:10 The illusion of success created by overcontrol 07:45 Why doing less can be deeply regulating 10:50 Becoming the ultimate observer without judgment Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/The%20Illusion%20of%20Control%20in%20Infertility%20IVF%20Why%20Less%20Is%20Not%20Giving%20Up  Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

    12 min

  8. JAN 16

    The Subconscious Patterns Running Your Fertility Journey on Autopilot :: Week 3

    “You don’t need a new mindset. You need to notice the place you live inside.” Topics Discussed Fertility burnout as a nervous system pattern, not a personal failure How control hides inside efficiency, productivity, and being on top of things Why subconscious healing happens in micro moments, not massive breakthroughs The difference between fixing yourself and becoming aware of how you live Fertility symptoms as information, not punishment What motherhood reveals when old patterns go unchecked “It’s not the big dramatic moments that shape your nervous system. It’s the ordinary ones.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This episode is an invitation to slow down without forcing yourself to slow down. To notice without fixing. To see how much of your fertility journey is being run on autopilot while you are just trying to survive another day of doing all the right things. If you have ever felt like you need more information, more discipline, more control, this conversation might gently irritate you in the best way. Because the truth is, transformation does not come from tackling the big dramatic moments. It comes from noticing how you move through your day while making breakfast, checking your phone, planning what comes next. This episode is about awareness, not effort. About where your nervous system actually lives. And why fertility healing often asks us to clean up the small invisible patterns before life asks us to mother through them. There is something quietly powerful waiting for you in the ordinary moments you usually rush past. “Presence does not require effort. It requires permission.” Timestamps 01:07 Why slowing down feels unbearable when control patterns are active 02:35 How control hides in ordinary moments, not big decisions 03:35 Why awareness changes reality more than overdoing ever could 05:55 You don’t need a new mindset, you need to notice where you live 08:22 What happens when you stop fixing, pushing, and managing Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/The%20Subconscious%20Patterns%20Running%20Your%20Fertility%20Journey%20on%20Autopilot Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

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Welcome to your no B.S. approach to creating the family of your DREAMS when you’re dealing with Fertility Issues, aka ”Infertility”! Whether you can get pregnant naturally or need medical assistance, Finding Fertility can help you maximise your chances of getting and staying pregnant by using science-backed Holistic Functional Fertility Health Coaching!

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  • Creator
    Monica Cox
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    404
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    Explicit
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    © Copyright 2019 All rights reserved.
  • Show Website
    Finding Fertility

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