New Testament Sermons / Speaker:Berry Kercheville Strong Christians Have Close Relationships Introduction: In our men’s weekend with Jacob Hudgins, he asked a very important question about Samson. The question was this: “Who were Samson’s close friends?” It was a question that most, if not all of us had never considered. Samson not only did not have close friends, there is no evidence that he had anyone that could be considered a friend. Samson doesn’t believe he needs anyone. He is a one man wrecking crew. From the very first, “Get her for me, she pleases me well,” to “…strengthen me only this once, O God, that I may be avenged on the Philistines for my two eyes,” Samson lived life his way. Does that sound familiar? Do we really need anyone else to be very close to us? Oh sure, we can use some help from time to time, but we just take care of our responsibilities. Let’s be honest, most of us have a very independent nature and can easily live independent lives. But that is far from what God has asked of us. When we read the book of Acts, we should suddenly be struck with three major messages, the growth of the kingdom of God, the persecution of Christians in the midst of a dark and idolatrous world, and the fact that everywhere the gospel is preached a church came into being—a group of Christians dedicated to working together and helping each other attain an eternal goal. And they weren’t just a “group” holding “services” together, they were deeply interconnected. In fact, when we consider the 27 writings of the NT, every single letter stresses the love and concern that is to be evident among brethren in each church. The letter that says it more than any other is 1 John. John’s letter will be our primary text. Overall Context At the end of the first century, Christians were dealing with individuals in the churches that had turned aside from the teachings of the apostles and instead believed they received inspired messages from spiritual beings. Their claim of super knowledge led them to exalt themselves above other Christians, cause divisions by establishing new churches, and cause doubt among Christians who had not received these same “revelations.” John defeated these teachings with the emphasis on three primary truths: Those who truly know God keep his commandments by following the teaching of the apostles. Practicing sin is not living righteously, and one who practices sin is not of God. Those who exalted themselves above the brethren and “went out from us” based on their own teachings, do not love the brethren, nor do they love God. Our concern will be the emphasis John puts on this last point. We might look at these three messages of John and give our attention more to “keeping the commandments of God” and refusing to “practice sin” than we do to “loving the brethren.” But you may be surprised that is not how John presents his message. Before we read these verses, a reminder: You may be thinking, “We all know that we are to love each other, and we do love each other. Why this sermon?” Two reasons: We all have difficulty thinking of love much beyond how we feel about each other and our ability to be friendly with each other. What we are missing is that the slightest offense instantly destroys those kind, friendly feelings. That is obviously not the kind of love the Lord is talking about. Because we struggle to obtain and maintain the love defined by John in his letter, we easily retain a suspicion about each other: “Can I really trust you to be gentle, kind, and patient, and that my welfare is a top priority for you?” If you are honest, you know you cannot say that about just anyone, even those you say you love! Highlighting John’s Message of Love (1 John) 2:6-11 An old commandment that has now become new. 3:9-23 9-10: Loving one another is on the same plane as “practicing righteousness.” 14: “We have passed out of death into life, because we love the brothers.” 16: “By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers.” Jesus defined love by lying down his life, which defines for us whether or not we are loving one another. 18-19: “Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth. By this we shall know that we are of the truth and reassure our heart before him…” Our assurance of salvation has to do with whether or love goes beyond “word and talk.” 21-23: “Whatever we ask we receive from him, because we keep his commandments and do what is pleasing to him. And this is the commandment that…we love one another…” 4:7-8 Whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. 4:10-12 God’s love is perfected in us when we love one another. It is the way the God who has not been seen, can now be seen. 4:17 “By this is love perfected with us, so that we may have confidence for he day of judgment…” 4:20-21 “…he who does not love is brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen. And this commandment we have from him: whoever loves God must also love his brother.” 5:1-2 “Everyone who believes that Jesus is the Christ has been born of God, and everyone who loves the Father loves whoever has been born of him. By this we know that we love the children of God, when we love God and obey his commandments.” Throughout these texts we have seen time and again the absolute necessity of loving one another in the same way Jesus has love us if we expect to be saved. Serious historical problem among churches: stressing doctrinal correctness to the point that how we behave and whether we love each other as John has defined does not even enter the picture of our own salvation. That is a perfect description of the Pharisees! Beyond “Feeling” Love: Deepening Our Connections We mentioned at the beginning of the lesson that a good test of love between one another is when suspicion is removed and trust is the foundation of the relationship. Consider Proverbs 17:17, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” Therefore, instead of asking, “Do you love the brethren,” ask, “Who do you know that will love at all times regardless of the challenges and difficulties? Who do you trust that will always “be there?” Here’s another challenge: “Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working” (James 5:16). Who could you confess your sins to? It is a matter of love and trust, isn’t it? Hebrews 3:12-13 “Take care, brothers, lest there be in any of you an evil, unbelieving heart, leading you to fall away from the living God. But exhort one another every day, as long as it is called “today,” that none of you may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin.” Exhorting one another every day is the key to avoiding the deceitfulness of sin and an evil heart. Hebrews 10:24-26 “And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near. For if we go on sinning deliberately…” Our assembling together is a matter of loving and protecting each other from slipping and falling in our faith. If we do not have love that trusts and lacks suspicion, we cannot obey this command. The critical use of time to build trusting love: (Story of the El Cajon men who met once on Wednesday night after class) The love God expects of us that sacrifices self, protects and encourages, stirs up to more love and good works, is not attained simply by potlucks. There must be intentionality and purpose in the togetherness. Examples: One couple together with another couple discussing marital and spiritual challenges in marriage and raising a family. A group of men discussing how we can enhance our love for our wives and our children. Mixed groups of singles and married discussing the spiritual needs of each and how we can help one another and make deeper connections. How can this happen? What are possible objections? “No one invites me.” — Do you respond to the invitations give to the whole church? Take advantage to what is already in place so that you are more visible and accepting. Create your own connection. Invite others. Start small with a “safe” small group, or even just one person. Add to that and build on it. Step up to the plate as a shepherd/leader. All of us can find people we can mentor, show concern for, and be vulnerable with. Conclusion: The goal is deepening our love for someone else and their love for us. We need to be more than a family, we need to be God’s family. You will be surprised that within a short time you can establish and trusting love with your brother and sister in Christ. Don’t be a “Samson!” That’s victory over the devil! Berry Kercheville The post 1 John: Strong Christians Have Close Relationships appeared first on Woodland Hills Church of Christ.
