The VowsToKeep Marriage Podcast

David & Tracy Sellars
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Need help in your marriage?! We've got you covered! The VowsToKeep Marriage Podcast will help you grow closer to your spouse and closer to God's design for your marriage. No marriage is too far gone to save or too healthy to not need a check up. Let's get started by building a Biblically healthy marriage! 

  1. 1d ago

    Stop Being A Benchwarmer

    What if the thing your marriage is missing isn’t another tip or technique, but the courage to use what God already put in you? We wrap up our five-part series on spiritual gifts by getting personal about how we went from being “benchwarmers” at church to stepping into real couples ministry and biblical marriage service with a clear sense of calling. We talk about the moment it clicked that ministry isn’t reserved for a senior pastor, and how studying Scripture passages like 1 Corinthians 12, Romans 12, Ephesians 4, and 1 Peter 4 helped us understand God’s design for spiritual gifts. Along the way, we name the hidden traps: faking gifting for approval, staying passive because you feel unqualified, or assuming your vocation disqualifies you from meaningful service. We also share why teaching often looks like everyday conversations where you offer the biography of grace, not a lecture. Then we get practical about marriage dynamics. What happens when one spouse has the gift of evangelism and the other feels embarrassed or afraid of rejection? How can apostleship (catalytic leadership that starts ministries and mobilizes people) create stress, change, and instability at home if you’re not aligned? We also address the “sign gifts” question from 1 Corinthians 12 through 14 and why the real danger for many couples is division, not the topic itself. Our goal is unity, honest study, and a shared commitment to serve God’s kingdom, not our own. If you want a Christian marriage podcast that connects theology to real life, listen now, share it with a couple who feels stuck, and subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next. After you listen, will you tell us what spiritual gift you see in your spouse? Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

  2. Sep 28

    What If Your Spouse Is Gifted Where You Feel Weak

    Your spouse’s strengths can feel like a gift from God or like a daily irritation, depending on whether you understand what’s really going on underneath. We dig into the difference between natural talent and spiritual gifts, then make a crucial correction many Christian couples miss: spiritual maturity is measured by the fruits of the Spirit, not by how impressive a gift looks. When love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control grow in your home, you’re seeing real gospel change. From there, we break down five spiritual gifts that show up in marriage all the time: leadership, administration, knowledge and wisdom, faith, and discernment. We talk about servant leadership that protects and cares, not “my way or the highway” control, and what happens when two strong personalities compete for the driver’s seat. We also explain why leaders and administrators need each other, how planning can create tension around schedules and details, and how quick forgiveness and better perspective can keep organization from becoming domination. We also get honest about gifts that can feel intimidating. Knowledge and wisdom can bless a family with Scripture-shaped decisions, but without humility they can leave a spouse feeling like they can never measure up. The gift of faith can inspire bold obedience, yet it can frustrate the doubter. Discernment can protect a marriage and the church from deception, while still needing guardrails so it doesn’t slide into panic or gossip. If you want a more biblically healthy marriage built on God’s design, subscribe, share this with a friend, and leave a review so more couples can find it. Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

  3. Sep 21

    How Service And Mercy Strengthen A Christian Marriage

    If you’ve ever thought, “My spouse will serve the whole world but not me,” you’re not alone and you might be looking at a spiritual gift that’s real, powerful, and mis-aimed. David and Tracy Sellers unpack how the Holy Spirit gives spiritual gifts for a purpose, not for status, and why the best place to see those gifts clearly is often the day-to-day life of a Christian marriage. We start with the big framework: salvation, the Great Commission, and the church as a team where the Spirit equips every believer. Then we get practical by focusing on supporting gifts that show up at home. We talk about the gift of service and how the same chore can either build closeness or breed resentment depending on attitude. We also ask two questions that cut through confusion: how can a gift show up negatively in marriage, and how can a spouse actively support growth in that gift? From there we move through mercy, encouragement (exhortation), teaching, and giving. Mercy can make a home feel safe, but it can also drain a spouse emotionally without good boundaries. Encouragers can strengthen faith, yet their correction can feel harsh without self-awareness and accountability. Teachers protect biblical truth, but they carry responsibility that requires real time in God’s Word. And givers can bless others deeply, especially when stewardship and budgeting become a shared mission instead of a fight. Subscribe for the rest of the spiritual gifts series, share this with a couple who needs it, and leave a review with your answer: which spiritual gift most shapes your marriage right now? Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

  4. Sep 14

    Your Marriage Grows When You Use What The Spirit Gave You

    If you have ever wondered, “I’m a Christian, so now what,” the answer is bigger than learning more facts, it’s learning how God has uniquely equipped you to serve. We dig into spiritual gifts and why they matter in Christian marriage, not as a church buzzword, but as a practical, daily reality that should show up as visible fruit at home. We also ask a challenging question: could your spouse tell your salvation story and describe how God has shaped you since you were born again? We compare natural talents with spiritual gifts and explain why the difference matters. Talents can be inherited, trained, and used by anyone, for good or for selfish ends. Spiritual gifts come directly from the Holy Spirit, are given for a God-glorifying purpose, and mature as we walk closely with Christ. Along the way, we talk about the caution signs of putting gifts on a shelf or putting them on display for our own glory. We also untangle confusion around church titles and status. Using Scripture from places like Acts 6 and 1 Timothy 3, we frame roles like deacon and elder as Spirit-empowered service recognized in a faithful life, not a badge you chase. Finally, we connect “healthy struggles,” pruning, wise counsel, and leaving and cleaving to the real formation of character and leadership inside marriage. Subscribe for part three, share this with a couple who needs clarity, and leave a review so more marriages can find these biblical tools. Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

  5. Sep 7

    Spiritual Gifts And Marriage

    Spiritual gifts can bring out the best in a marriage or the worst, depending on whether we treat them like a tool for serving or a trophy for proving ourselves. We start with a simple tension we see in real couples all the time: when we push into an area where our spouse is strong, we stop completing each other and start competing. That competition breeds conflict, resentment, and spiritual drift, even when both people genuinely want a biblically healthy marriage.  We also name the baggage many of us carry from church culture. Some of us grew up with spiritual gifts barely mentioned, while others have watched them get abused for attention, control, or money. We unpack why that history makes couples want to avoid the topic altogether, and why ignoring spiritual gifts quietly drains spiritual life from the home. God gives gifts for a stated purpose: to build up the church and extend the kingdom, starting with the “two or more gathered” reality of husband and wife.  Then we get painfully practical about prerequisites. If salvation is real, your marriage should be able to talk about it clearly. Could your spouse tell your testimony with details, not just say you “grew up Christian”? We walk through Romans 10, connect it to the Great Commission in Matthew 28, and point to key Bible passages on spiritual gifts like 1 Corinthians 12 and 14, Romans 12, Ephesians 4, and 1 Peter 4. We close with next steps for couples and families to become better stewards of what God has given.  Subscribe for the rest of this series, share it with a couple who needs hope, and leave a review so more marriages can find it. What spiritual gift do you think God has given you, and do you use it at home? Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

  6. Aug 31

    A Three-Step Spiritual Reset For Couples

    Your marriage doesn’t need another temporary fix. It needs a reboot at the heart level, the kind that happens when we stop making excuses, step into God’s light, and let His Word tell the truth about us. We talk candidly about how sin we don’t deal with, pride we don’t name, and lies we quietly believe can overload the “hard drive” of our souls until we’re tired, reactive, and stuck straddling the fence. We walk through a simple three-step process you can use anytime: reassess, remember, and remain. Psalm 119 shows us how to come to God with real requests, real need, and real expectancy, while Romans 7 puts language to the ongoing battle between the flesh and the Spirit. Remembering the cross changes what we want, not just what we know. It reshapes how we speak to our spouse, how we respond under stress, and how we move from self-rule to humility. Then we get practical about remaining. John 15 is clear: we cannot be “half connected” and expect lasting fruit. We share an everyday picture of what happens to a branch that’s barely hanging on, and we apply it to Christian marriage, spiritual renewal, and daily rhythms in God’s Word. We end by praying with David for what so many of us need: “Give me an undivided heart.” If this encouraged you, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review so more couples can find biblical marriage help. Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

  7. Aug 24

    Swipe Away The Heart Clutter That Hurts Marriage

    Your phone isn’t the only thing that needs a restart. When marriage feels slow, stuck, or weighed down by the same arguments, we’ve learned it’s often because “background apps” are running in the heart: undealt-with sin, anxiety, control, anger, unbelief, and old baggage we keep postponing. We (David and Tracy Sellers) use a simple smartphone habit, double tapping and swiping away what’s draining the system, to help you take an honest look at what’s draining your relationship with God and with your spouse. From Psalm 51 to Romans 7, we talk plainly about the ongoing fight with sin and why self-deception is so easy. We also go after the sneaky burdens that don’t always look like rebellion at first, like believing untrue things about God or about yourself, or carrying unresolved hurt without a biblical perspective. We address the trap of becoming the judge of your spouse and how unforgiveness can become a weight you end up carrying. Then we start the marriage reboot process with step one: reassess. Psalm 119 shows us how to bring real “asks” to God, not vague intentions, and 2 Peter 1:3 reminds us that God has already given us everything we need for life and godliness through Jesus Christ. We close with Jeremiah 17 and a direct invitation to let God search your heart and expose the motives beneath your reactions. Subscribe for part two, share this with a couple who needs hope, and leave a review telling us what you want God to reboot in your marriage. Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

  8. Aug 17

    What If Happiness Is The Wrong Measure

    Your marriage has a scoreboard, whether you meant to build one or not. We call it the “happiometer” and it’s the hidden gauge that decides if we feel satisfied, irritated, rejected, or “owed” something. When that meter runs our home, we chase quick relief and call it success, even when it pulls us away from God and away from each other.  We zoom in on a thread running through the parables of Jesus: a master offers something worth having, and the listener measures it against their own desires. In Luke 14, the great banquet exposes how easily we trade a life-giving invitation for flimsy distractions. That leads to a simple but uncomfortable marriage question: do you actually know where your spouse is spiritually today, and can you tell their salvation story without guessing? We talk about asking caring questions, having God’s heart for your spouse, and living like the servant who keeps making room at the table.  Then we move to stewardship in Matthew 25 and the talents. Fear buries what God entrusts, but faithfulness multiplies it, including the way we give love without strings attached. Finally, Matthew 20 confronts our obsession with fairness through the workers in the vineyard, reminding us that forgiveness and grace in a Christian marriage flow from God’s generosity, not our deserving.  If you’re searching for biblical marriage help, Christian marriage encouragement, and practical ways to measure success differently, listen through and share it with a couple who needs hope. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell us what your happiometer has been chasing lately. Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

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Need help in your marriage?! We've got you covered! The VowsToKeep Marriage Podcast will help you grow closer to your spouse and closer to God's design for your marriage. No marriage is too far gone to save or too healthy to not need a check up. Let's get started by building a Biblically healthy marriage! 

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  • Creator
    David & Tracy Sellars
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    344
  • Rating
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    © 2026 The VowsToKeep Marriage Podcast
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