How To Be Awesome At Everything

Lindsay Dickhout

The How To Be Awesome At Everything is a podcast about our journey to be the best that we can in everything we do. To be intentional about how we spend our time and how we treat our bodies and how the thoughts that we think and words that we say create the world that we live in. What started as a folder of life lessons to share with her kids one day has become a podcast with over one million downloads. Always with a growth mindset, Lindsay presents topics that she thinks are worth hitting pause on life to focus on. She shares her successes (and failures!) in business and in life and her journey to be awesome at everything.

  1. FEB 27

    348. How To Be Awesome At Family Traditions

    The idea of traditions can feel heavy and like once you do it you're stuck doing them forever… I wanted to do a fullll podcast episode that would give you lots of ideas that feel light and fun and can be so special to your family.  Things that make you all feel more connected… and that feel so unique and important to your family. It's easy for parenting to feel like a constant sprint sometimes… school, sports, meals, naps… it's a refreshing change to lean into special things that your family does. I realized how precious this is when one of my kids wrote a little paper about one of our traditions in 1st grade.  You realize… this is the stuff they remember and the resinates deep. This whole thing is about pausing these busy life days we are all living and thinking about emotional anchors we can create throughout the year. Traditions don't have to be rigid. They don't have to be expensive. And they definitely don't have to be perfect. Today we're talking about a fresh way to think about family traditions: Some traditions you repeat every year  Some you rotate  Some you try once and just remember  Some you write down so your family builds its own memory playbook Because what kids remember most isn't perfection… it's connection. HOLIDAY TRADITIONS The goal here isn't more pressure. It's creating emotional anchors in the year. VALENTINE'S DAY TRADITIONS Love notes on door After dinner game Decorate Valentine boxes & make notes for each other Secret Santa but Valentine style Blow up heart with balls and prizes to find inside Kids serve you dinner on Valentine's Kids go out to dinner with you on Valentine's HALLOWEEN TRADITIONS Say Trick Or Treat at the front door on Halloween in Costume Do family costumes and everyone plans them together Decorate the inside and/or outside of the house in a certain theme or go all out together Give out something specific like full size candy bars Set-up a game for trick or treaters to play to win an extra candy Pumpkin carving or pumpkin painting - invite everyone over THANKSGIVING TRADITIONS Gratitude time capsules, write notes and open them the next year Family volunteer Saturday Everyone puts what they are most thankful for in a hat and everyone guesses who said what Wear "thankful" shirts Family interview night, record what everyone is most thankful for - especially grandparents Coloring page to color all day on kids table CHRISTMAS TRADITIONS Put lights around your neighborhood on Christmas Eve Ornament tradition, collecting special ones when you travel or making them Cutting down or picking out tree together right after thanksgiving Advent calendars Reindeer food Drive to see Christmas lights Decorate Christmas cookies Matching PJs FOURTH OF JULY TRADITIONS Do something nice for a veteran or someone that helps our country or community Stop by fire station with breakfast or something nice USA pride anything - decorate car windows, we do our golf cart Find neighborhood event at a park or create one NEW YEAR'S EVE TRADITIONS Family Vision Board Night  Bang pots and pans Highlights of the year jar in kitchen- add to it throughout the year and read at end of year NY planning and goal setting Write a letter to yourself of what would make you consider next year a big success, if what happened, if you felt like what Watch the ball drop together with blowers Plan vacations for the year BIRTHDAY TRADITIONS (FOR KIDS AND PARENTS) Birthday breakfast interview... ask the same five questions every year  Go around the table and do full toasts about why you love the bday person Everyone decorates their room before they wake up Presents first thing in the morning Smash cake in the face One present from each person in the family One nice thoughtful card from each person in the family MONTHLY TRADITIONS One long Sunday dinner with games New experience day - try one new thing you have never done before One service project day, or just a few hours Hike, outdoor long walk together FAMILY DINNER TRADITIONS Rose, Thorn, Bud — best part, challenge, what you're excited about  Theme Dinner Nights with music and food from different countries  THE TRADITION NOTEBOOK IDEA Instead of forcing traditions to be permanent, create a small family notebook where you write down ideas you tried… funny moments… things you want to repeat someday. This removes pressure and keeps the magic. Keep it somewhere easy like kitchen or nightstand. Traditions evolve as your family grows. Traditions are not about doing more. They're about choosing moments that slow life down… even just a little. You don't need to create ten new traditions this year.  You don't need Pinterest-perfect ideas. Start with one small thing that feels natural to your family. Maybe it lasts one year… maybe it becomes something your kids talk about forever. The real goal isn't perfection. It's creating a feeling… a rhythm… a sense that no matter how busy life gets, your family has small anchors that bring you back to each other. And over time, those moments become the story of your family.

    49 min
  2. FEB 24

    347. How To Be Awesome At Planning Every Meal In Advance

    Today we are talking about approaching one thing you do in a new way… that will positively benefit your life in lots of ways. It's the way you plan your meals.  It's the shift of thinking about food or meals when you start to feel hungry or when it's about time to eat… to thinking about meals ahead of time.. sometimes a few hours and other times a few days before.  It's actually EASIER than doing it last minute because you can plan for a few meals at once rather than each meal like a fire drill when its time to eat… it can be cheaper because you aren't having everything delivered and it's way healthier because we know home cooked meals if done right, are usually the best for you. We all know we're going to eat today.  We know roughly when we're going to eat today. So it doesn't make sense to deal with it at the last minute…. when you're starving, and stressed to get something going and often end up eating much later than you want to. This episode isn't about telling you what to eat.  Because of course, do what you want. It's a really helpful chat I think about how to think differently about eating so you stay aligned with your goals, your health, your energy… and honestly your peace of mind. ***The Problem Isn't Cravings… It's Lack of Planning*** Most people think they "fell off" because of willpower. But most of the time? It's not cravings.  It's not discipline. It's poor planning. You didn't think about lunch…  You didn't prep dinner…  You showed up somewhere starving… and suddenly you're stuck with whatever options exist. And then you feel frustrated… not because you wanted that food… but because you didn't plan ahead. When you change the way you think about meals… everything shifts. *** The Mindset Shift… Always Be Thinking One Meal Ahead*** Always be thinking about your next meal before you need it. Not obsessively… just intentionally. Ask yourself: • What am I eating next?  • Where will I be?  • Will there be options I actually want?  • Do I need to prep something or bring something? This one shift removes: last-minute stress  decision fatigue  random eating you regret  overspending on delivery You stop reacting… and start operating on purpose. ***My Personal Food Philosophy (Without Telling You How To Eat)*** For me personally, I eat very specifically because that's when I feel my best. Mostly single-ingredient foods…  Organic fruits and vegetables…  Grass-fed meats…  Organic eggs… raw cheese… rice… pasta… chicken… High protein, lower carbs… zero refined sugar… minimal processed ingredients. Kind of carnivore-ish with fruits, honey, berries, dates — foods that actually fuel me. But listen… this podcast is not about copying how I eat. You should eat in a way that makes you feel energized and aligned. The real takeaway is this: Whatever your style is… planning ahead protects it. ***Tactical Strategies That Make This Easy*** 1. Cook Once, Eat Twice  Dinner isn't just dinner… it's tomorrow's lunch.  Make extra on purpose.  Future you will be grateful when lunch is already solved. 2. Pre-Decide Your "Default Meals"  Have a short list of meals you rotate.  Less thinking… more consistency.  Decision fatigue disappears when meals become automatic. 3. Think About Your Schedule Like a Food Map  Look at your day and ask: Am I driving somewhere long?  Am I going somewhere with limited options?  Do I need snacks?  Should I eat before I go? Planning food is really just planning logistics. 4. Bring Food Without Making It Complicated  A cooler bag… simple containers… prepped proteins… fruit… dates…  Not fancy.  Just intentional. 5. Make Eating Out an Event — Not a Reaction  For me, eating out is something I enjoy intentionally.  Not something I fall into because I didn't think ahead. That small mindset shift changes your relationship with food entirely. ***The Hidden Benefits Nobody Talks About*** Planning meals ahead doesn't just change what you eat… It changes your whole day. You save time.  You save money.  You avoid DoorDash panic orders.  You reduce mental clutter.  You feel calmer because decisions are already made. And honestly… You feel proud of yourself because your actions match your goals. ***The Bigger Picture*** This isn't really about food. It's about living intentionally. When you plan your meals… you're saying: "I'm not leaving my health up to chance." You're not reacting to hunger… you're designing your life. And that energy spills into everything else: Your workouts.  Your focus.  Your confidence. Look at your day the night before!  Think about what meals you (and your family if you have one) will eat the next day.  It changes how it all goes!! This one shift might sound small… But it completely changes how you show up in your body and your life. And that's awesome!!

    26 min
  3. FEB 20

    346. Your Pep Talk For An Awesome Mindset

    Your Pep Talk For An Awesome Mindset    We all need a good peptalk sometimes when life is really hard or when life is confusing and we're not sure what the next right  move is…    And sometimes it's hard to peptalk yourself and the people you love might not peptalk you in the way you need…   So that's what this episode is today. It's your peptalk to listen to now and then again whenever you need it, the reminder that you're freaking incredible and you can do absolutely anything you want to do if you're willing to work hard enough for it. Because that's the truth.   Other people's opinions are quite literally irrelevant because you are playing a game of you currently versus the best possible version of you    When you approach things from a perspective of this deep gratitude, like I am so grateful to be alive breathing fresh air on this planet today. Zero b******t is going to ruin your mood.    you have a huge dreams for yourself and so you're not going to let distractions or negativity or drama affect the big plans that you have.    Sometimes things in life feel easy and smooth and relatively effortless and other times it feels like you are crawling your way out of liquid tar wherever you are at this is the peptalk you need to feel positive and strong and empowered and ready to take on what's next because there's nothing you can't handle.    Listen to this OVER AND OVER again when you need only positive & you can do anything thoughts in your ears!!!   XO Lindsay

    20 min
  4. FEB 2

    345. Bloodwork Every 90 Days For Awesome Preventative Health

    I get my blood work done every 90 days and I swear it's the ultimate tip for health in the short term and in the long term and just feeling your best on he daily. So, today I'm going to try to convince you to do the same. Because there is a huge difference between being "not sick" and being truly healthy and if you aren't getting your bloodwork done at least once a year, you really don't know what's going on. Most people only get blood work done when something is wrong. When they feel bad. When they are exhausted. When a symptom won't go away. When a doctor orders it because something already happened. Instead of doing it reactively, we are talking about doing it proactively. How can you know what your body needs? What supplements or adjustments to your lifestyle… it's almost impossible without bloodwork. It tells you how your hormones are functioning. How inflamed your body is. How well you are absorbing nutrients. How your cholesterol is trending. How stressed your nervous system is. How your metabolism is working. How your immune system is functioning. Today's episode is about why doing blood work every 90 days can completely change your relationship with your health, how the top longevity experts think about tracking biomarkers, how it helps you personalize supplements and lifestyle instead of guessing, and how it allows you to catch problems early before they become a real problem.  Let's go! Your blood work is your internal dashboard. It's crazy that most people are driving their body blind!! I do full blood work every 90 days and I swear by it.  I'm going to break it all down today. Every 90 days I sit down with my functional medicine doctor, Dr. Singler, and we go through everything. We look at what's trending up. What's trending down. What needs support. What needs to be addressed. We adjust supplements. We talk about lifestyle changes. We sometimes talk about peptides. We look at stress markers like cortisol. We look at hormones. We look at inflammation. We look at cholesterol. We look at nutrient deficiencies. It's not just "do you have a disease." It's "what is your body asking for." And that quarterly check-in has become one of the most powerful forms of self-care I do. Today's episode is about why doing blood work every 90 days can completely change your relationship with your health, how the top longevity experts think about tracking biomarkers, how it helps you personalize supplements and lifestyle instead of guessing, and how it allows you to catch problems early before they become diagnoses. Because knowledge is power. And when it comes to your health, awareness is leverage. ***Why the Best Health and Longevity Experts Obsess Over Biomarkers When you listen to people like Peter Attia, Andrew Huberman, and leaders in longevity medicine, one theme is constant. You can't manage what you don't measure. They talk constantly about biomarkers. Blood markers. Hormones. Cholesterol. Glucose. Inflammation. Nutrients. Stress markers. Not because numbers are the goal. Because trends tell the truth. You don't need to wait until something is "out of range" to take action. You can see patterns forming. You can see directions your health is moving. You can intervene early. Longevity is not built by reacting to disease. Longevity is built by managing risk decades before disease shows up. Blood work lets you see inside the body instead of guessing from the outside. Energy, mood, sleep, weight, anxiety, motivation, focus, hormones, immune function… all of it leaves fingerprints in your labs. *** Why Every 90 Days Is a Sweet Spot Doing blood work every 90 days creates a rhythm. It's long enough for meaningful changes to occur. It's short enough to catch problems early. It's frequent enough to personalize your approach. This cadence allows you to: • See how supplements are actually working • Know if lifestyle changes are helping • Track hormones as they shift • Monitor cholesterol trends • Watch inflammation markers • Identify deficiencies before symptoms • See how stress is impacting your body It turns health into an ongoing relationship instead of a once-a-year appointment. Rather than living on autopilot, it becomes a quarterly check-in. "How is my body actually doing?" "What does it need right now?" "What needs to change?" ***The Power of Baselines One of the most underrated benefits of regular blood work is baselines. When you know what your normal looks like, everything changes. If something shifts, you see it faster. If you get sick, you have something to compare to. If symptoms show up, you're not starting from zero. Your baseline becomes your personal health fingerprint. This is especially powerful with hormones, thyroid, cholesterol, inflammatory markers, glucose, and nutrient levels. Medicine is often built around population averages. But health is personal. Your optimal range is not always the same as "normal." Blood work every 90 days teaches you your body. ***Personalization Instead of Guessing Most people take supplements blindly. They try what's trending. What a friend is taking. What TikTok says. What an ad promises. Blood work removes guessing. You stop throwing things at your body and hoping. You start making informed decisions. When I review labs with my doctor, we are not just looking for problems. We are optimizing. We adjust supplements based on what my body is actually showing. We talk about hormones. We talk about stress. We talk about sleep. We talk about hydration. We talk about inflammation. We talk about recovery. If cortisol is elevated, the conversation shifts to lifestyle, nervous system, sleep, slowing down, hydration, sauna, recovery. If something is low, we talk about absorption, nutrition, and targeted support. It becomes a dialogue with your body instead of a guessing game. ***Emotional Health Lives in the Labs Too This is not just physical. Your labs often reflect your emotional and mental load. Stress hormones. Inflammation. Blood sugar instability. Nutrient depletion. Your body keeps the receipts. Blood work gives you objective data to support lifestyle changes. Sometimes the answer is not another supplement. Sometimes it's rest. Sleep. Boundaries. Sunlight. Movement. Slowing down. It's incredibly empowering to see that connection clearly. It turns self-care into strategy, not indulgence. ***How I Do It and How You Could Do It The way I do it is higher touch and more expensive. I use a mobile blood draw that comes to my house. Then I schedule a long call with my functional medicine doctor to go through everything. We take our time. We look at the full picture. We build a plan. But you do not have to do it that way. You can ask your doctor to order labs. You can go to a clinic and make an appointment so you're not waiting forever. You can get a basic panel and build from there. You can even upload your results into ChatGPT and use it as an educational tool to help you understand what the markers mean and what questions to ask your doctor. This doesn't have to be complicated. It just has to be consistent. ***Why This Is One of the Best Investments You Can Make We spend money on convenience. On clothes. On food. On homes. On trips. On businesses. But nothing affects the quality of your life more than the quality of your health. Energy. Mood. Confidence. Focus. Longevity. Relationships. Joy. Blood work every 90 days is not an expense. It is intelligence. It is prevention. It is personalization. It is early detection. It is self-leadership. It is saying, "I care about how long I live and how well I live." ***Most people wait for symptoms to tell them something is wrong. But by the time symptoms show up, your body has usually been whispering for a long time. Blood work lets you hear the whispers. It lets you see trends before problems. Adjust before crashes. Support before burnout. Correct before disease. For me, doing blood work every 90 days has become a quarterly health check-in with myself. How am I really doing? What does my body need? What needs to change? What needs support? It keeps me connected to my health instead of disconnected from it. And I truly believe this is one of the most powerful forms of preventative self-care anyone can adopt. So if you take anything from this episode, let it be this. Don't wait for something to go wrong.  Start tracking your health while things are going right. There's nothing more important or worth spending your time and money on!

    27 min
  5. JAN 31

    344. How To Be Awesome At Your Last 4 Hours Of Each Day

    This podcast is all about the last 4 hours of your day, everyday.   There is so much focus on morning routines. What time you wake up, what you drink, what you journal, what workout you do, what affirmation you say.   But the truth is, your day doesn't start in the morning.  Your day starts the night before.   Most of us begin the day with good energy, good intentions, and some level of clarity. But by the end of the day, we are tired. We are mentally full. We have made hundreds of decisions. We don't have the same motivation, discipline, or emotional capacity.   And that is exactly why the last four hours matter so much.   If there is no system for the end of your day, you default to your phone, wandering around, tinkering in the kitchen, the noise, the chaos, the scrolling, and this low level stress that never really shuts off.   What if instead, you had a plan for the last four hours of your day.   The way you end your day determines how you sleep. How you sleep determines how you wake up. How you wake up determines how you show up. And how you show up determines the quality of your life.   This episode is about designing the last four hours of your day so your life feels calmer, your mornings feel clearer, your relationships feel more connected, and your body and mind actually get the recovery they need.   We are going to walk through how to build a simple last four hours plan, what it should include, and how to follow it even when you're exhausted.   Because stress is not just emotional. It's biological. And protecting your peace is not optional. It's foundational.   So let's talk about how to intentionally design the last four hours of your day and why it might be the most powerful life upgrade you haven't made yet.   Not a productivity plan. Not a hustle harder plan.   A life design plan.   A plan that supports high quality sleep. A plan that prepares tomorrow before it gets here. A plan that builds connection instead of distance. A plan that helps your nervous system come down. A plan that lets you clock out from output and clock into recovery.   Jesse Itzler says that your morning self is counting on your evening self. And I love that because it's true. Your tired self should not be running your life. Your intentional self should be protecting your future self.     ***Why the Last Four Hours Matter   • Energy and willpower are lowest at the end of the day • Without a plan, we drift • Drifting usually leads to scrolling, snacking, low level anxiety, and unfinished mental loops • The last four hours directly affect ◦ Sleep quality ◦ Emotional regulation ◦ Relationship connection ◦ How you wake up • When evenings are chaotic, mornings are reactive • When evenings are intentional, mornings are peaceful     ***The Reframe: This Is Not About Doing More   • This is not about squeezing productivity out of every minute • This is about clocking out from output and shifting into recovery • The last four hours are for ◦ Decompression ◦ Nervous system regulation ◦ Reflection ◦ Connection ◦ Preparation • Jesse Itzler teaches that planning the next day at night removes decision fatigue from the morning • Your tired self should not be making big life decisions • Your clear evening self should be protecting your future self     ***The Core Pillars of a Powerful Last Four Hours   -Preparation for Tomorrow   • Write down tomorrow's plan • Appointments, priorities, and non negotiables • Identify your top three outcomes for the next day • Decide what "a win" looks like before you go to sleep • Lay out clothes, bags, or materials when possible • Jesse Itzler's core idea: when you wake up, you should already know exactly what you're stepping into     -Body and Mind Recovery   • High quality sleep starts long before your head hits the pillow • Evenings should signal safety and shutdown to the nervous system • Examples ◦ Hot bath or shower ◦ Stretching or gentle movement ◦ Skincare or body care rituals ◦ Reading instead of scrolling ◦ Breathwork or prayer • This is where longevity, hormones, mood, and mental clarity are built • Stress is not just emotional. It is biological     -Connection and Presence   • The last four hours are prime time for relationships • Conversation without devices • Time with your kids, partner, or yourself • Unpacking the day • Celebrating wins • Laughing • Being seen and seeing others • This is where emotional safety and closeness are built     -Light Closure and Organization   • Small resets prevent big overwhelm • Ten minutes a night beats weekend purges • Examples ◦ Resetting the kitchen ◦ Tidying a room ◦ Prepping coffee ◦ Organizing a bag • Order in your environment creates order in your mind • You are either setting tomorrow up or stealing from it       ***How to Stay Consistent When You're Tired   • You will not always feel motivated • That is why you need a written plan • The plan becomes your autopilot • On hard nights ◦ Lower the bar, do not quit ◦ Shorten the routine ◦ Protect sleep first ◦ Still plan tomorrow • Consistency beats intensity • Repetition turns effort into identity   It's time to make your list!!   Remember…  ◦ The last four hours are not throwaway time ◦ They are design time ◦ They are recovery time ◦ They are relationship time ◦ They are future building time   It's such a powerful way to enjoy more fulfillment & joy in your life.   CHEERS to your best 4 hours of the day, everyday!

    23 min
  6. JAN 18

    343. How To Be Awesome At Operating With A Hospital Bed Perspective

    The silver lining in spending so much time in hospitals with my husband for his heart condition is that I've adapted what I now call… a hospital bed perspective.   It's basically like this… If I was stuck in a hospital bed today… What would I be dying to do? What would I make time for? Who would I make time for? What would I prioritize?    It's easy to be in our routine and put things off or not realize that we aren't prioritizing the things and people that we really enjoy the most...   But all of a sudden, when you can't do those things, it becomes really clear what you would do if you had the chance.   At this stage of my life, I've gotten so clear on my priorities… What's important to me and what's not important to me so it makes it easier and faster to live life fully with this hospital bed perspective… What an incredible gift it is to be able to do so many things… we're just not going to waste it.       What the Hospital Bed Perspective Is The hospital bed perspective isn't about fear or negativity. It's about clarity. When your normal options are taken away, life becomes very simple. The noise drops. The distractions fade. What remains are the people, experiences, and moments that genuinely matter. This perspective removes urgency addiction, comparison, and busywork. It exposes what's meaningful and what has quietly been wasting your time. Ditch the little things- drama, things we should be letting go of anyway - they become obsolete.   Why We Lose Touch With Our Priorities Modern life makes it easy to drift. Routines become automatic. Busyness becomes a badge of honor. Important things get delayed because they aren't urgent. Weeks turn into months. Months turn into years. Without realizing it, many people protect work and obligations more fiercely than joy, relationships, health, or experiences. The hospital bed perspective interrupts that drift.   What Becomes Clear When You Use This Lens…  People Who you would want in the room. Who you wish you spent more time with. Where you may have been distracted, rushed, or unavailable. Time What would no longer deserve your energy. What would suddenly feel priceless. What you would deeply regret postponing. Energy What drains you that wouldn't matter from a hospital bed. What lights you up that you keep sidelining. Experiences Trips not taken. Conversations not had. Projects not started. Memories waiting to be made.   How to Bring the Hospital Bed Perspective Into Daily Life Using the question: "If I were stuck in a hospital bed next month, what would I wish I had done this week?" Running decisions through the filter: "Would this matter to me from a hospital bed?" Auditing your calendar to see if it reflects what you say matters Taking inventory of relationships you want to invest in more deeply Creating space for joy, presence, and experiences now... not "someday" This approach aligns your time with your values and turns clarity into momentum.   The Freedom This Perspective Creates Living with the hospital bed perspective naturally builds gratitude, urgency around what matters, and peace around what doesn't. It simplifies decisions, deepens relationships, and makes everyday life richer. It replaces postponing with presence and guilt with alignment.   Wrapping it up…  Most people gain this level of clarity only when life forces it on them. The gift is choosing it before you have to. You don't need a hospital bed to start living like someone who understands how valuable, fragile, and full life really is. You can choose that perspective now. And when you do, you stop wasting time. You stop delaying what matters. You start living in a way that actually matches what you care about. What an incredible gift it is to be able to go, build, love, move, dream, try, and experience. Let's not waste it!!

    25 min
  7. JAN 16

    342. How To Be Awesome At Building an Unshakeable Self-Story

    This podcast episode is about being delusional in the healthiest way possible I really think the worst advice I've ever been given is be realistic Because it's such a dream killer and creates this cycle of limiting beliefs in your mind I just think that too often we put ourselves in a box without realizing it and the moment we break out of that box and realize just how capable we are- we can really accomplish anything we want. if we just keep going, just keep getting back up just never stop I believe so much in thoughts become things and the story you tell yourself becomes the life you live And whatever the next level is that you're trying to reach in your life… you can design it in your head and get so clear on it that you believe it before it's actually happened and then you tell yourself this is happening time just hasn't caught up yet. It's like next level manifesting and the law of attraction and realizing the power that we get back when we remove limiting beliefs, and that urge to be realistic. So let's do a podcast on being delusional in the healthiest way possible because that's the only way to achieve things that are extraordinary and keep growing and evolving and progressing and becoming better and stronger every year.  This is the key to all of this… "This is happening. Time just hasn't caught up yet." • What a self-story really is Your self-story is the collection of beliefs you hold about who you are, what you deserve, and what's possible for you. Most people are living out a story they never consciously chose, built from past experiences, other people's opinions, and old limitations. When you change your self-story, you change what you notice, what you attempt, and what you allow in your life. • Why "being realistic" often keeps people stuck So much advice is rooted in other people's fear, history, and unfulfilled dreams. "Be realistic" can quietly become a dream killer. Extraordinary lives are built by people willing to believe before there is proof, act before there is permission, and stay consistent before results show up. • Healthy delusion, manifesting, and identity-based growth There is a direct connection between belief, identity, and behavior. Thoughts become things when they are paired with clarity, emotion, and consistent action. Many of today's top mindset and habit leaders point back to the same truth: your identity drives your behavior, and your behavior reinforces your identity. • Why so many people quit right before the breakthrough The space between vision and results is where most self-stories collapse. The quiet middle is where doubt grows, momentum feels slow, and people often walk away, sometimes just days or weeks before a major shift. Learning to stay when nothing is happening yet is one of the most powerful skills you can build. • How to build an unshakeable self-story Building a new internal identity starts with deciding who you are becoming on purpose. It grows through tiny daily actions that create real proof. It is protected by being intentional about what you listen to, who you allow influence you, and how you speak to yourself. It is strengthened every time you release a limiting belief before it rewrites your future. • Morning and evening routines that reinforce who you're becoming Morning practices help you step into the person you're becoming before the world sets the tone for your day. Evening practices help you gather proof, reframe challenges, and deepen self-trust. Together, they install and reinforce your self-story daily. • Journaling as identity work Journaling is not just reflection, it is direction. Writing clarifies belief, trains focus, and turns vague desire into a lived identity. The way you write about your life becomes the way you experience your life. • The power of not stopping An unshakeable self-story is not built through intensity. It is built through continuation. Momentum comes from returning, recommitting, and refusing to abandon the version of you you are becoming. If you don't quit, you arrive. • Final thought Your life will always move in the direction of the story you tell yourself. You don't need proof to start. You don't need permission to change it. And you don't need approval to live it. Build a self-story so strong that it pulls your actions forward, then protect it, practice it, and become it.   2.0 Habit System https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/2-0weeklyhabitsandplanningsystem   Cheers!!

    22 min
  8. 12/12/2025

    341. How To Be Awesome At Chasing Deep Dopamine Over Cheap Dopamine

    My goal in this episode is for you to walk away knowing your ideal deep dopamine habits.  Those little things you do that make you feel fulfilled and happy and like you are making progress in the ways that you want to.    You know that feeling after you've been on your phone for 45 minutes scrolling or flipping through tabs and you look up and feel kind of empty? Like your brain is tired but you didn't actually do anything? That's cheap dopamine. It's the quick hit. The fast fix. The thing that feels good in the moment but leaves you drained and unfocused. Now imagine the opposite.    You go for a walk, lift weights, write something meaningful, finish a book, or work on something that's important to you. It's not flashy. It doesn't give you the instant rush. But it gives you something way better… calm, clarity, and long-term satisfaction. That's deep dopamine. And today we're talking all about how to stop chasing the quick hits and start training your brain to love the good stuff.     I could not do this without planning my weeks every Sunday… I physically couldn't! Here's the system I created & use & love!  To plan your days and your life with intention…  https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/2-0weeklyhabitsandplanningsystem   What Dopamine Really Is Dopamine is a neurotransmitter. It's often labeled as the pleasure chemical, but it's more about motivation and drive. It plays a key role in what gets your attention and what keeps you engaged. Every time your brain anticipates a reward, dopamine is involved. It's what makes you chase something, whether that's a cookie, a workout, a new follower, or a big goal. It's not the dopamine itself that's the problem. It's where you're getting it from and how often. If you constantly flood your brain with quick and easy sources of dopamine, you make it harder to get motivated for the slower, more meaningful things. Andrew Huberman explains it this way: dopamine is not about the pursuit of happiness, it is about the happiness of pursuit. He also teaches that dopamine is a currency. We are always spending it, and when we use it on things that require no effort, we get very little return. But when we invest it in things like a hard workout or a creative project, the return is stronger and lasts longer. He emphasizes that dopamine is what drives us to act, to seek, to pursue… it is not simply about feeling good. It's about staying in forward motion.   What Is Cheap Dopamine Cheap dopamine comes from fast, easy sources that take very little effort and offer very little reward long term. Some examples of cheap dopamine: Scrolling social media Watching endless TikToks or YouTube videos Snacking out of boredom Clicking for likes or notifications Gossiping or complaining Online shopping for things you don't need Checking your phone over and over without purpose These things feel good in the moment, but often leave you feeling worse later. It's like junk food for your brain… sweet, salty, addictive, and ultimately unfulfilling. Studies show that excessive exposure to short-form content or fast dopamine triggers can lead to decreased attention span, mental fatigue, emotional numbness, and a decreased ability to feel reward from slower, more meaningful tasks. Huberman also talks about dopamine stacking... when you stack multiple sources of cheap dopamine together, like scrolling while snacking while listening to background noise. This overstimulates the reward system and makes it harder for your brain to enjoy simple or quiet activities. You become desensitized, and what used to bring joy now feels flat. That's the cost of too much cheap dopamine.   What Is Deep Dopamine Deep dopamine is the kind of reward your brain gets from actions that require effort, presence, or skill. It builds over time and leads to a longer-lasting sense of fulfillment. Examples of deep dopamine: Strength training or physical exercise Reading a book Writing or creating something Deep, uninterrupted work Learning a new skill Spending intentional time with people you love Completing a long project Volunteering or contributing in a meaningful way These habits take more focus and often feel slower, but they leave you with a sense of momentum and pride. You don't crash after them. You build from them. When you choose deep dopamine, you're making a longer-term investment in your mental clarity, emotional resilience, and sense of purpose. You start feeling calm instead of anxious, proud instead of overstimulated, and you strengthen your ability to focus and follow through. Huberman explains that deep dopamine is often tied to effort. It's the system that rewards you after doing something hard, not something convenient. And that's what makes it powerful. The satisfaction comes from knowing you earned it.   Why This Matters The more often you go for quick, cheap dopamine, the more your brain becomes desensitized to it. Over time, you stop getting the same hit from a scroll or a like, and your baseline dopamine levels drop. It's harder to feel motivated. Harder to feel joy. Harder to stay focused. You might feel like you need constant stimulation to avoid feeling bored or anxious. But when you flip that script and start choosing deep dopamine more often, your brain rebalances. You regain your ability to enjoy slow progress. You stop needing quick distractions and start enjoying the quiet confidence that comes from doing things that matter to you. Research shows that daily engagement in physical activity, creative work, or focused learning helps restore natural dopamine cycles, improve mental clarity, reduce stress, and increase emotional stability. Huberman explains that one of the fastest ways to rebalance your dopamine system is to temporarily reduce cheap dopamine triggers and replace them with effort-based rewards... even small ones. The shift doesn't require massive lifestyle changes. It starts with awareness, then small swaps, and finally momentum.   How to Train Yourself to Choose Deep Dopamine Recognize the patterns. When you feel the urge to scroll, pause and ask yourself what you're looking for. Are you bored? Anxious? Trying to avoid something else? Replace, don't just remove. If you're going to stop scrolling, have something better ready. A walk. A good podcast. A book. A 10-minute workout. Make a plan ahead of time. Don't wait until you're tired and distracted to decide what matters. That's when the cheap dopamine wins. Give yourself permission to enjoy effort. Deep dopamine often comes with friction. It's not always fun in the beginning, but the payoff is real and lasting. Set up your environment to support better choices. Turn off notifications. Put your phone in another room. Put your workout clothes or journal somewhere visible. Celebrate your wins. When you choose deep dopamine over cheap dopamine, take a second to notice how it feels. Reinforce that feeling. Huberman reminds us that the brain changes based on what it's exposed to regularly. Choosing deep dopamine isn't about perfection. It's about consistently reminding your brain what fulfillment actually feels like. The world is full of cheap dopamine. It's built into our apps, our habits, and even our conversations. But you don't have to live in reaction mode. You can train your brain to want the things that give you long-term growth and peace instead of short-term distraction. Start by noticing. Then start swapping. Choose things that challenge you, ground you, stretch you, and make you proud. It won't always be easier in the moment, but it will always be more fulfilling. That's how you create a life that actually feels good to live... one deep dopamine choice at a time.

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The How To Be Awesome At Everything is a podcast about our journey to be the best that we can in everything we do. To be intentional about how we spend our time and how we treat our bodies and how the thoughts that we think and words that we say create the world that we live in. What started as a folder of life lessons to share with her kids one day has become a podcast with over one million downloads. Always with a growth mindset, Lindsay presents topics that she thinks are worth hitting pause on life to focus on. She shares her successes (and failures!) in business and in life and her journey to be awesome at everything.

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