We all want to be blessed. Sure we do – problem is, sometimes we have a bad sense of direction. We expect all the blessings to flow in one direction – inwards, to us. Hmm. That's not how it works. Asset or Liability The other day on twitter, I picked up this quote from Dr Tayo Adeyemi in the UK (not sure if I've pronounced his surname correctly there) anyhow this quote really caught my eye. This is what he said: You are either a blessing or a burden; an asset or a liability; a problem solver or a problem. Your choice! I started going through all the people I know, people I've worked with, friends, colleagues and you know something, it was really easy to categorise them either on one side of that ledger or the other. Let's stick with the accounting metaphor. They're either an Asset or Liability? Hmm … I'm imagining that if you went through the same exercise, you'd find exactly the same thing. Of course, nobody is a complete liability, nor is anyone perfect. I mean, none of us are. We all contribute to some extent, and we all drain to some extent as well. That's because firstly, none of us is perfect and secondly, we're all good at different things. But even taking all those things into consideration, on balance, weighing all their pros and cons – some people overall are an asset, others are liability. Some are a blessing, others are a burden. Some are problem solvers, and some are, plain and simple, part of the problem! So then … then I began to imagine a world in which more of us become assets than liabilities. In which more of us become more of a blessing than a burden. Just imagine how different this world would be if that started to happen. You and I aren't necessarily in a position to change the world. We can't change every one of the 7-point-something billion people on the planet. Hey, we can't even change our wives or our husbands or our children. But there is one person we can change. Ourselves. You can change you. I can change me. I wonder if you consider yourself for a moment, on balance – are you a blessing or a burden? An asset or a liability? A problem solver … or a problem? We have to be kind of careful in answering that question. Because if the truth be known, we're a lot more generous in judging ourselves, than we are in judging other people. We're pretty good at rationalising our weaknesses, our failures and our blind spots. We trivialise them. We sweep the under the carpet. So if I asked those close to you – your family members, your work colleagues – whether you are on this side of the ledger or that, how would they answer? The Apostle Paul was sitting on death row in a Roman dungeon when he wrote a letter to his friends in a place called Philippi. This is one of the things he said to them. Philippians Chapter 2 verses 3 and 4: Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility regard others as better than yourselves. Let each of you look not to your own interests, but to the interests of others. This is an encouragement, to be a blessing instead of a burden. If we're expecting everybody to do things for us, to look out for our interests, to meet our needs, and yet we don't do the same for them – because all we care about is our interests and not them … well, you know what you call that, that's being a hypocrite. This thing – call it what you will, selfishness, self–centeredness, whatever – there's some of that in each one of us. See how Paul starts out, he says to his friends, and to you and me – do nothing, nothing from selfish ambition or conceit. Imagine a sea, a land locked sea like the Dead Sea for instance, where all the rivers flow in, but none of them flow out. That's exactly what happens with the Dead Sea. The only way the water gets out is through evaporation by the heat of the sun. And the reason it's called the Dead Sea is because there's so much salt in it because all the water flows in and never out, that nothing, not a single organism pretty much – can live in its water. It's a Dead Sea. Our selfishness is like the Dead Sea. We want everything to flow inward towards us, we want others to be a blessing to us, we want circumstances to favour us, we want, we want, we want … It's all about the direction of the flow of the blessing. Many a man's life, many a woman's life, writes a man S.D Gordon a few hundred years ago, is like the circumference of that Dead Sea. When everything flows inwards … it becomes dead. And by experience you and I know that that's true. Hey, I'm someone who spent the first half of his life trying to live that way and I wondered why nothing could ever satisfy me and why I was never truly happy and contented. The Apostle Paul addresses both sides of this equation in that short passage we just read. Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but instead … look not to your own interests, but to the interests of others. In other words, stop living your life trying to be blessed all the time, and start blessing others. Turn the direction of the flow from inwards, to outwards. Just think about the mentality we have about blessing. Everything flows into me and then I spend the blessing, a bit like the water evaporating out of the Dead Sea. And then what's left is this muck and this salt in which nothing can live. It's the same when we want blessing to flow inwards to us and we spend that blessing, we do whatever we think we should do with it and what's left is this empty dead feeling because that thing that we spent money on, that holiday, whatever it was, just didn't satisfy us. That's why S.D. Gordon said, "Many a man's life and many a women's life is like the circumference of that Dead Sea." Now, as evidence of the fact that what Paul is saying here of looking not to your own interest but to the interest of others actually works, he goes on with the prime example, the most obvious example of all. He goes on in the very next breath to site what Jesus did. I'm reading from the message translation here (Philippians 2:5–11): Think of yourselves the way Jesus thought of himself. He had equal status with God but didn't think so much of himself that he had to cling to the advantages of that status no matter what. Not at all. When the time came, he set aside the privileges of deity and took on the status of a slave, became human! Having become human, he stayed human. It was an incredibly humbling process. He didn't claim special privileges. Instead, he lived a selfless, obedient life and then died a selfless, obedient death—and the worst kind of death at that—a crucifixion. Because of that obedience, God lifted him high and honoured him far beyond anyone or anything, ever, so that all created beings in heaven and on earth—even those long ago dead and buried—will bow in worship before this Jesus Christ, and call out in praise that he is the Master of all, to the glorious honour of God the Father. In other words, the answer is in being a blessing instead of a burden, an asset instead of being a liability, a problem solver, instead of being a problem. It's about a complete, fundamental, 180-degree change in direction from having blessing flowing inward, to, like Jesus, letting the blessing flow outward through us no matter what it may cost us. There's a lot in that, so we're going to spend some more time after the break chatting about that very thing. In the meantime, I'll leave you with that quote again, for you to ponder: You are either a blessing or a burden; an asset or a liability; a problem solver or a problem. Your choice! A Change of Direction It turns out that the direction that we're travelling in really matters. The first time I used a satellite navigation system in a car was one dark, wet and stormy night when I had to drive from London up into the midlands in the UK. It's about a 3-hour drive, give or take. I had absolutely no idea how to get there. But the friendly woman at the hire car place at Heathrow Airport punched my destination address into the Satnav unit in the car. She told me how to use it and off I went. Now the British are pretty clever in this regard. They have rather long postcodes, which define not only the town, but also the street and street number. So all she had to do was to punch the number into the satnav and hey, presto, I was on my way. Great stuff! But about an hour and a half into the trip I started to get really worried. What if she'd punched in just one wrong number? It's the first time I'd driven in England – it was dark, it was wet – I had really no sense of direction, I really didn't know where I was headed. I was relying completely on this satellite navigation. This clever, efficient little unit could well be taking me to a completely different part of the country if the women had punched in the wrong number. I remember when that thought hit me – I had a bit of a panic attack thinking, "what if I end up in completely the opposite side of the country?" So I pulled over, stopped, checked and yep, fortunately that woman at the car hire place had indeed punched the right numbers into the Satnav. When you think about it, we make the choices we make in life, we head in the direction that we head in life, based rather a lot on the way in which we're programmed to function. Our parents, our teachers, our experiences, our own selfishness, capitalism, desires … all those things somehow, little by little, imperceptibly end up putting us on a certain road heading in a certain direction. And when we come to an intersection in life, a roundabout, a fork in the road – we choose, based on … what? Turns out we're a bit like that clever little satnav unit in my car, we choose based on how we've been programmed over the course of our lives thus far. So … what if we've been programmed incorrectly and what if we're heading in the wrong direction? Have you ever thought about that? Well – there's a very obvious consequence if you are headi