The Inner Compass Podcast with Vanessa Bennett

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NEW PODCAST SERIES HOSTED BY VANESSA BENNETT Vanessa Bennett, LMFT, is a licensed depth psychotherapist, author, and facilitator known for her no-nonsense yet compassionate approach to healing. She’s the author of The Motherhood Myth and coauthor of It’s Not Me, It’s You, and the founder of Inner Compass Academy. She hosts the Inner Compass Podcast, where she explores the intersection of depth psychology, relationships, and cultural conditioning to support personal and collective liberation.

  1. 5d ago

    Too Much, Not Enough: Two Sides of the Same Wound

    If you’ve ever felt like being fully yourself would make you harder to love, this episode is for you. Vanessa Bennett explores how the too much wound and the not enough wound are often the same core fear: that authentic selfhood threatens belonging. We talk about the way self-editing becomes a survival strategy—somatically, relationally, culturally—and how “being good” can masquerade as maturity while actually costing you your aliveness. The work isn’t “just be yourself”—it’s staying connected to yourself even when your full humanity makes other people uncomfortable. For educational purposes only. This isn’t therapy. If you want to go deeper, check out the written companion on Substack and explore community + training at https://www.vanessaBennett.com. Additional Resources Explore: VanessaBennett.com Book: The Motherhood Myth Community: Inner Compass Collective Training: Inner Compass Academy Connect with Inner Compass Follow on Instagram Connect with Vanessa Bennett: Follow on Instagram Follow on TikTok Learn more on Substack Connect with Vanessa Bennett on LinkedIn See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    26 min

  2. May 25

    When Love Isn’t Enough: Desire vs Capacity in Relationships

    It's not always "if they wanted to they would," because sometimes the issue isn’t desire—it’s capacity, and that distinction changes everything. In this episode, Vanessa Bennett explores why someone can love you, mean well, even want closeness, and still not be able to sustain repair, intimacy, or emotional steadiness in a consistent way. We talk about the collapse of potential into pattern, why protest can keep fantasy alive, and how “victimhood” can quietly protect us from the terror of choice and grief. The core question becomes brutally adult: what am I willing to participate in?  For educational purposes only. This isn’t therapy. If you want to go deeper, check out the written companion on Substack and explore community + training at https://www.vanessaBennett.com. Additional Resources Explore: VanessaBennett.com Book: The Motherhood Myth Community: Inner Compass Collective Training: Inner Compass Academy Connect with Inner Compass Follow on Instagram Connect with Vanessa Bennett: Follow on Instagram Follow on TikTok Learn more on Substack Connect with Vanessa Bennett on LinkedIn See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    26 min

  3. May 18

    When You Lose Your Capacity for Drama External Inbox

    If you’ve noticed you have far less tolerance lately for chaos, mixed signals, unnecessary drama, or relationships that require constant management, this episode is for you. Vanessa Bennett explores how prolonged upheaval changes the nervous system - why adaptation can keep you functioning, but isn’t the same thing as healing - and how “resilience” can quietly become chronic self-abandonment. We talk about allostatic load, post-crisis clarity, and why losing capacity for avoidable chaos isn’t always hardening - it can be the psyche finally refusing what it once over-accommodated. The invitation is to treat your life force as precious and rebuild around stability, honesty, and mutuality. For educational purposes only. This isn’t therapy. If you want to go deeper, check out the written companion on Substack and explore community + training at https://www.vanessaBennett.com. Additional Resources Explore: VanessaBennett.com Book: The Motherhood Myth Community: Inner Compass Collective Training: Inner Compass Academy Connect with Inner Compass Follow on Instagram Connect with Vanessa Bennett: Follow on Instagram Follow on TikTok Learn more on Substack Connect with Vanessa Bennett on LinkedIn See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    32 min

  4. May 11

    The Myth of Closure in a Culture That Doesn’t Know How to Grieve

    What if closure isn’t actually what grief needs? In this episode, Vanessa explores the difference between grief that has been witnessed, ritualized, and given symbolic form, and grief that stays suspended when there has been no real threshold, no communal acknowledgment, and no place for psyche to put what happened. From death to losing a home, a relationship, or an entire world, this is a conversation about ritual, rupture, and why some grief moves while other grief circles. The invitation isn’t to “get over it,” but to create form: witness, ritual, and integration when life didn’t provide it. For educational purposes only. This isn’t therapy. If you want to go deeper, check out the written companion on Substack and explore community + training at https://www.vanessaBennett.com. Additional Resources Explore: VanessaBennett.com Book: The Motherhood Myth Community: Inner Compass Collective Training: Inner Compass Academy Connect with Inner Compass Follow on Instagram Connect with Vanessa Bennett: Follow on Instagram Follow on TikTok Learn more on Substack Connect with Vanessa Bennett on LinkedIn See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    31 min

  5. May 4

    Beyond Anxious vs Avoidant: Earned Security and Attachment Healing

    Attachment language is everywhere, but it often gets used as a shortcut: anxious, avoidant, disorganized as labels instead of doorways into real work. In this episode, Vanessa Bennett, LMFT reframes attachment as an adaptation—a deeply intelligent strategy your nervous system and psyche developed to survive love when closeness felt inconsistent, unsafe, or overwhelming. We explore anxious hypervigilance, avoidant self-protection, disorganized contradiction, and why the anxious-avoidant dance becomes a “nervous system duet” when threat gets activated. The destination isn’t a perfect “secure” identity—it’s earned security and differentiation: the capacity to need, love, and stay a Self.  For educational purposes only. This isn’t therapy. If you want to go deeper, check out the written companion on Substack and explore community + training at https://www.vanessaBennett.com. Additional Resources Explore: VanessaBennett.com Book: The Motherhood Myth Community: Inner Compass Collective Training: Inner Compass Academy Connect with Inner Compass Follow on Instagram Connect with Vanessa Bennett: Follow on Instagram Follow on TikTok Learn more on Substack Connect with Vanessa Bennett on LinkedIn See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    33 min

  6. Apr 27

    Is it Love or Projection? Differentiation, Fantasy, and the Real Work of Love

    Early love is often thick with projection and fantasy—not because love is fake, but because the unconscious is trying to reveal itself through intimacy. In this episode, Vanessa Bennett, LMFT explores emotional fusion, the “Magical Other” fantasy, and why differentiation is not detachment but the somatic capacity to stay rooted in yourself under relational pressure. We talk about how disappointment refines love when fantasy meets reality, why role-enforcement is a sign projection is running the show, and what it looks like to take your projections back without psychologizing yourself out of reality. The question to sit with is simple and brutal: where are you relating to a person, and where are you still relating to an image?  For educational purposes only. This isn’t therapy. If you want to go deeper, check out the written companion on Substack and explore community + training at https://www.vanessaBennett.com. Additional Resources Explore: VanessaBennett.com Book: The Motherhood Myth Community: Inner Compass Collective Training: Inner Compass Academy Connect with Inner Compass Follow on Instagram Connect with Vanessa Bennett: Follow on Instagram Follow on TikTok Learn more on Substack Connect with Vanessa Bennett on LinkedIn See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    38 min

  7. Apr 20

    Why Apologizing Feels So Loaded: Shame, Repair, and Accountability

    A lot of us were taught that apologizing means taking full responsibility for the whole dynamic—becoming the problem so the relationship can stabilize—or avoiding repair because it feels too vulnerable. In this episode, Vanessa Bennett, LMFT breaks down the difference between accountability and self-abandonment, and how codependency often functions as relational anxiety management (collapse on one side, defensiveness and distancing on the other). We explore shame as the through-line—why guilt says “I did something,” but shame says “I am the problem”—and what a grounded apology actually sounds like: specific, bounded, and rooted in truth. The invitation is simple and hard: name what’s yours without collapsing or defending, and let reality show you what the relationship can hold. For educational purposes only. This isn’t therapy. If you want to go deeper, check out the written companion on Substack and explore community + training at https://www.vanessaBennett.com. Additional Resources Explore: VanessaBennett.com Book: The Motherhood Myth Community: Inner Compass Collective Training: Inner Compass Academy Connect with Inner Compass Follow on Instagram Connect with Vanessa Bennett: Follow on Instagram Follow on TikTok Learn more on Substack Connect with Vanessa Bennett on LinkedIn See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    27 min

  8. Apr 13

    How to Stay With Yourself in Hard Conversations (When You Want to Disappear)

    In yoga, there’s a teaching: the pose begins the moment you want to leave it—and the same is true in healing, intimacy, and hard conversations. In this episode, Vanessa Bennett, LMFT explores how growth isn’t built in your best insights, but in the moment your body tightens, your nervous system wants out, and you choose to stay with yourself instead of disappearing. We talk about the difference between pausing to regulate vs. over-processing as self-protection, and why there’s no perfect script that can guarantee another person’s response. The invitation: practice the “micro-moments” of noticing, allowing, and naming what’s true—so discernment doesn’t become self-abandonment.  For educational purposes only. This isn’t therapy. If you want to go deeper, check out the written companion on Substack and explore community + training at https://www.vanessaBennett.com. Additional Resources Explore: VanessaBennett.com Book: The Motherhood Myth Community: Inner Compass Collective Training: Inner Compass Academy Connect with Inner Compass Follow on Instagram Connect with Vanessa Bennett: Follow on Instagram Follow on TikTok Learn more on Substack Connect with Vanessa Bennett on LinkedIn See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    28 min
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NEW PODCAST SERIES HOSTED BY VANESSA BENNETT Vanessa Bennett, LMFT, is a licensed depth psychotherapist, author, and facilitator known for her no-nonsense yet compassionate approach to healing. She’s the author of The Motherhood Myth and coauthor of It’s Not Me, It’s You, and the founder of Inner Compass Academy. She hosts the Inner Compass Podcast, where she explores the intersection of depth psychology, relationships, and cultural conditioning to support personal and collective liberation.

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