The Way You Show Up

Kimberly Beam Holmes, PhD
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Most people are living a version of themselves that they never choose.You've been showing up for your spouse, your kids, and your career—but you've been doing it on autopilot. You're living within a ceiling built by your past and sustained by your habits.I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.

  1. 9h ago

    The One Thing All Successful People Know

    Everybody wants the hack. The pill. The shortcut. The version of success that happens while you sleep. I get it. I've wanted it too. But after years of researching motivation, self-esteem, and what it actually takes to reach a goal, here's the truth most people don't want to hear. There is no hack. The one thing every successful person has in common isn't talent or luck or some secret system. It's that they run toward the hard thing instead of away from it. In this video I tell you about the headache that wouldn't quit for two and a half weeks, the 18 needles it took to finally fix it, and why that pain taught me everything about how people actually change. Avoiding the hard conversation won't save your relationship.  Working around the problem won't get you the promotion.  The thing you're most scared to face is the exact thing standing between you and what you want. The obstacle is the way. I'll also walk you through the PIES framework. Physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual. Four areas to look at honestly so you can find the one that's quietly holding you back right now. Stop trying to go around it. Go through it. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

    16 min

  2. Jun 9

    I Feel Like The Sacrifice God Hasn't Used Yet

    I felt cut open and exposed. Not metaphorically. Like I had poured out every single thing I had and was just lying there, waiting on God to move. The last two years have been some of the hardest of my life. My dad's cancer. Financial stress. A lot of change all at once. I got to the end of my rope and thought, God, I've given everything I know how to give. Now what? Then I opened up Genesis 15. If you've studied this chapter, you know it's where God makes a covenant with Abraham. The cut-open animals. The blazing torch. The smoking firepot. Most people read right past it. But once you understand what's actually happening, it changes everything. In this video, I walk through that story. The covenant Abraham was too afraid to walk through. The deep, dreadful darkness that fell over him. And the moment God did something no one saw coming. I also share why I've felt less like Abraham lately and more like those animals on the altar. And what Romans 12:1 has to do with all of it. Because here's the shift. So much of our faith gets stuck on what God can do for us. The promise. The purpose. The good he'll work out for our lives. All true. But it was never supposed to be about us. We're called to be a living sacrifice. Cut open. Poured out. So that God can work through us for his glory, not just our comfort. That's a hard thing to sit in. Especially in a season like this one. But it's also where the hope is. Not in what we can see. In what we can't. Count it all joy. Even now. Especially now. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

    27 min

  3. Jun 2

    How To Be The Bigger Person When Someone Lies About You

    Someone lied about me. Not a small lie. The kind that twists your words, takes them out of context, and drags your name through the mud in front of an audience. And I'll be honest with you. It made me angry. I wanted to write the email. I wanted the last word. I wanted everyone to hear my side of the story. If you've ever been gossiped about, lied about, or watched someone tell a version of you that simply wasn't true, you know exactly what that feels like. So what do you actually do? In this video, I walk through how to handle it without becoming the very thing that hurt you. How to name the lie and say the truth. Why "everyone has to like me" might be the deeper lie you're telling yourself. How to find a pressure release before you react. What it really means to give up your right for revenge. And the question a mentor once asked me that completely changed how I respond. Being the bigger person doesn't mean being a doormat. It doesn't mean staying silent every single time. It means deciding who you want to become before you decide what you want to say. Watch the full video, then tell me in the comments: how have you handled someone lying about you? And after watching this, what would you do differently now? Until next time, stay strong. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

    18 min

  4. May 26

    Dr. John Gottman Reveals All The Top Secrets For Great Relationships

    Most marriage advice is recycled fluff. This is not that. I sat down with Dr. John Gottman, the man who has spent 40+ years studying what actually makes marriages work and what destroys them. Not opinions. Not theories. Exposed-to-thousands-of-couples-in-a-research-lab findings. And what he told me? Some of it will surprise you. The couples who last, the "masters," aren't the ones who avoid conflict. They're the ones who lean into it without getting defensive. They stay curious instead of critical. They treat their spouse's complaints like information, not attacks. One man in his study actually helped his wife figure out exactly what about him made her the most angry. Non-defensive. Just listening. That's the standard. We also got into the stuff nobody talks about openly. Why most couples are embarrassed to discuss sex. Why compatibility is actually a myth. What commitment really looks like on a Tuesday morning when you're frustrated. And how the way you respond to "no" in the bedroom determines everything. Dr. Gottman told me that after 35 years of marriage, he still looks forward to talking to his wife at breakfast every single morning. If your marriage feels disconnected, boring, or like you're roommates, this conversation will show you why. And more importantly, what the research says you can do about it. This is one of my favorite interviews I've ever done. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

    59 min

  5. May 19

    How I Built A $4.5m Company And Felt Completely Unhappy

    Take the free Show Up Assessment: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com/pies-assessment ----------------------------------------------- He who works the most wins. At least, that's what I believed. I grew a company from negative $500K to $4.5 million in revenue. On paper? Success. In reality? I was completely falling apart. I lost my passion. I lost my mind. Literally forgot how to open my own trunk. I lost my will. And I didn't even see it coming. In this video, I'm sharing what burnout actually looked like for me. Not the Instagram version, the real one. The walks with my husband where all I could say was "I'm just so unhappy." The moment in a coaching session where it hit me like a ton of bricks. And then I'll tell you what I did about it. I took a 4-month sabbatical. No email. No Slack. No meetings. Just rest. And it terrified me. Because when your identity is your work, stopping feels like dying. But here's what I know now: Rest is not weakness. You are limited. And that's actually a good thing. If you're running hard right now and something feels off, this video is for you. Stop grinding. Start resting. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

    18 min

  6. May 12

    Why I Was Failing Every Morning... (And I Didn't Even Know It)

    I have a PhD in performance psychology. I know, with absolute certainty, that the morning sets the tone for the entire day. And I have been fundamentally screwing mine up. Checking Slack before my feet hit the floor. Scrolling Instagram before I'd said a word to God. Trying to ramp from stillness straight into a 4-mile run with zero transition. By 9am I'd feel that weight settle on my chest. Anxious. Irritable. Behind. Two hours into a day I'd started peaceful and hopeful. So I documented 7 days of my mornings. Not the highlight reel. The real thing. The day I woke up an hour late. The day I cried during my quiet time. The day I sat with my journal from 2 years ago and realized I still hadn't done the thing God told me to do. What I learned isn't "wake up at 5am" or "follow these 12 steps." It's this: I have to learn to BE before I DO. Because when my doing comes from a frantic place, everything I touch carries that frenzy with it. Your version might be the opposite. You might need movement first, stillness later. That's the point. There's no universal morning routine. There's only the one that helps YOU show up as your best self. In this video, I'll walk you through all 7 days, what worked, what fell apart, and the key takeaway that applies whether you're a stay-at-home parent, a CEO, or somewhere in between. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

    33 min

  7. May 5

    What To Do When People Won't Freaking Listen

    Take the free assessment → https://kimberlybeamholmes.com/pies-assessment --------------------------------------------------- You've said it once. You've said it twice. You've said it fifteen times over four months. And somehow, nothing changes. You're not crazy. You're just not being heard. I lived this recently. I told a coworker in January that we needed to cut a software that wasn't working. He agreed. Or so I thought. Fast forward to April and we're still having the same conversation. January. That's when we decided. January. In this video, I'm breaking down the three reasons people don't listen when you speak and three things you can actually do about it. Distraction. Different wiring. Lack of clarity. These three things are behind almost every "why won't they just listen to me" moment you've ever had. I'm also walking you through the DISC personality framework (my favorite tool for understanding how people process information differently) and why speaking louder has never once helped someone understand you better. The hard question isn't "why won't they listen?" The hard question is "am I being a person worth listening to?" That's the one that changes everything. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

    26 min

  8. Apr 30

    The Way God Shows Up — Katie Simkins

    Katie Simkins didn't grow up knowing Jesus. She didn't grow up in church. She didn't grow up with hope. At 16, doctors found 11 precancerous growths in her body. A group of strangers prayed over her. The scans came back completely clear, not even scarring. Weeks later, her brother unexpectedly passed away. And what followed was a year she calls "the year of darkness." Walking in physical darkness. Carrying grief, guilt, and the weight of a question she couldn't answer... why would God heal me and then take him? This conversation wrecked me. Katie shares the moment she almost gave up. The woman who stopped her in the hallway. The prayer she thought was a goodbye that became a beginning. And how a thrift store army men set and a stranger's receipt marked "paid in full" is still teaching her kids who God is today. We talk about: What it looks like to follow Jesus when your friends hate Him. What it means to stop performing your faith and start living it. And why the greatest answer to prayer might not be a changed circumstance... but His presence in the middle of it. Let's dive in. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

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Most people are living a version of themselves that they never choose.You've been showing up for your spouse, your kids, and your career—but you've been doing it on autopilot. You're living within a ceiling built by your past and sustained by your habits.I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.

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  • Creator
    Kimberly Beam Holmes, PhD
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    275
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 PIES University, LLC.
  • Show Website
    The Way You Show Up

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