Healing For Love

Dr Gemma Gladstone
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Healing for Love A podcast for anyone who wants to heal their schemas, shift their patterns and grow into their most grounded, authentic self in love & life. Hosted by Dr Gemma Gladstone - dating & relationship coach, former clinical psychologist (25+ years), and Advanced Schema Therapists, Trainer/Supervisor. This podcast offers thoughtful, insight-rich episodes to help you understand your patterns, heal from past emotional wounds and start rewriting your Love Template.If you’ve ever felt stuck in familiar dynamics like seeking approval, fearing abandonment, dating narcissists or losing yourself in relationships, you’re not alone. Healing for Love is a space for self-reflection, emotional insight and practical encouragement.  Here, you’ll learn how to reconnect with your worth, trust your inner voice and build relationships that support who you truly are.This is for the woman who’s ready to feel more secure, more whole and more herself - in love and in life.

  1. Aug 11

    148. 6 Childhood Roles That Can Shape Your Adult Relationships

    Send Gemma a message Who did you learn you needed to be in your family growing up? The good girl? The responsible one? The peacekeeper? The child who didn't need very much? The roles we learn in our family of origin can become deeply ingrained, and we can continue playing them long after childhood has ended, particularly in our romantic relationships. In this episode, I explore six common childhood roles I've observed in my work with women, and how these roles can become part of what I call our Love Template, the largely unconscious map that influences who we're drawn to, how we behave in relationships, what we tolerate and the patterns we repeat. I also share an excerpt from one of the lessons inside Love Wisely Foundations, where I take a deeper look at several of these roles and how they can continue playing out in our adult relationships. The important thing to remember is this: You are not the role. You learned the role. And what has been learned can be noticed, understood and gradually changed. Love Wisely My next Love Wisely group coaching experience begins on 9 September. Over three months, I guide a small group of women through the process of understanding and intentionally rewriting their Love Template, so they can break long-standing relationship patterns and move towards healthier, safer and more fulfilling relationships. Priority enrolment is now opening. See the links in the show notes for more information. Support the show 🩷 Join Love Wisely (Group) PRIORITY List - we start September! 🎓 NEW - Love Wisely Foundations Course - Get Instant Access! ✅Dating App Profile CHECK-UP 🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

  2. Aug 3

    147. He Promises a Future, But Gives You Crumbs

    Send Gemma a message WARNING: This episode contains natural bird songs, twigs breaking & leaves crushing underfoot, the occasional breathlessnes and the distant sound of kids playing in a park 😊  Love Wisely is starting again soon! If you have been waiting for your chance to join me for the next 3-month journey to rewrite you Love Template, sign up below!.  What does it really mean for someone to be available for a relationship? In this walking episode, I explore one of the most painful forms of emotional unavailability: becoming attached to someone who is still entangled with another woman. Perhaps he says the marriage is over. Perhaps they still live together “for the children.” Perhaps he promises that once the separation, divorce or living arrangements are resolved, the two of you can finally have a proper relationship. Meanwhile, you are left waiting, hoping and accepting small pieces of connection from someone who is not genuinely free to build a life with you. In this episode, I discuss: The difference between being separated and being truly availableHow promises about the future can keep you emotionally investedWhy intermittent attention and small acts of care can feel so powerfulThe role of abandonment and emotional deprivation schemasWhy an unavailable person can sometimes feel safer than a real relationshipHow implicit recognition draws us towards familiar emotional dynamicsWhy being given crumbs can slowly erode your self-worthThe importance of choosing someone who is emotionally and practically freeI also share a personal experience of becoming emotionally attached to a married and unavailable man, and what that experience helped me understand about my own schemas. If you are waiting for someone’s circumstances to change before they can fully choose you, this episode is an invitation to step back and look honestly at what is being offered to you now. You deserve more than promises, fragments of attention and a place at the edge of someone else’s life. Love Wisely If you have a recurring pattern of becoming attached to emotionally unavailable, avoidant or narcissistic partners, my Love Wisely group coaching experience begins in September. Inside the program, I guide a small group of women through the process of understanding and intentionally rewriting the unconscious Love Template that has shaped their relationship choices. Join the Love Wisely priority list through the link in the show notes. Support the show 🩷 Join Love Wisely (Group) PRIORITY List - we start September! 🎓 NEW - Love Wisely Foundations Course - Get Instant Access! ✅Dating App Profile CHECK-UP 🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

  3. Jul 30

    146. 9 Signs You're Building a Healthy Relationship (What Healthy Love Actually Feels Like)

    Send Gemma a message Many women tell me they know what an unhealthy relationship feels like but they're much less certain about what a healthy one should feel like. In this episode, I walk you through nine signs that you're building a healthy, emotionally available relationship during the early stages of dating. Rather than focusing on red flags, we explore the aspects that signal emotional safety, healthy attraction and genuine compatibility. In this episode you'll learn: What healthy attraction actually feels likeWhy uncertainty is normal in the early stages of datingThe importance of relationships developing graduallyWhy emotional consistency mattersHow to recognise emotional safetyWhen physical intimacy is most helpful for building a healthy relationshipWhy staying true to yourself is essentialThe role of autonomy, authenticity and emotional availabilityWhy healthy love often feels different from schema-driven chemistryIf you've ever wondered whether a relationship is moving in a healthy direction, this episode will help you better understand what to look for and what healthy love actually feels like. Work With MeLove Wisely Group Coaching – my flagship group coaching experience for women ready to break long-standing relationship patterns and create healthier, more secure relationships. Join the Priority List - we start again in September!! https://www.drgemmagladstone.com/LoveWisely_Waitlst Support the show 🩷 Join Love Wisely (Group) PRIORITY List - we start September! 🎓 NEW - Love Wisely Foundations Course - Get Instant Access! ✅Dating App Profile CHECK-UP 🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

  4. Jul 20

    145. 5 Signs You're Stuck in a Situationship That's Going Nowhere

    Send Gemma a message Situationships aren't new, but today they have a name. They're often marked by uncertainty, mixed messages, hope, and one person wanting much more than the other. In this episode, I explore five common signs that you're caught in a situationship that's unlikely to become the relationship you're hoping for. More importantly, we look at the psychology behind why so many intelligent women find themselves staying in these painful, ambiguous dynamics. In this episode you'll learn: What defines a situationshipFive signs your situationship is going nowhereWhy uncertainty can become so emotionally consumingHow situationships slowly undermine self-worth and confidenceThe role of abandonment, emotional deprivation and other schemas in keeping women stuckWhy understanding your relationship patterns is the first step towards changing themIf you've ever wondered whether you're holding on to hope rather than evidence, this episode is for you. Free Masterclass Why Smart Women Override Red Flags in Dating Discover the 5 hidden Love Traps that keep women stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns. Register via the link in the show notes. Work With Me Love Wisely Foundations – my self-paced online program. Love Wisely – my flagship group coaching experience, designed to help women intentionally rewrite their Love Template and break long-standing relationship patterns. For more information, visit: www.drgemmagladstone.com Support the show 🩷 Join Love Wisely (Group) PRIORITY List - we start September! 🎓 NEW - Love Wisely Foundations Course - Get Instant Access! ✅Dating App Profile CHECK-UP 🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

  5. Jul 14

    144. Do You Have an Abandonment Wound? Signs It's Affecting Your Relationships

    Send Gemma a message Have you ever wondered why relationships can feel so emotionally intense? Why you find it difficult to leave someone, even when you know they're not right for you? Or why emotionally unavailable partners seem to become a recurring pattern? In this episode, I explore one of the most important psychological patterns I see in my work with women - the abandonment schema (or abandonment wound). Drawing on nearly 30 years of experience in psychology and schema therapy, I explain how early experiences of inconsistency, loss, emotional absence or disrupted attachment can quietly shape our expectations of love, influence who feels familiar, and make it much harder to walk away from relationships that aren't meeting our needs. You'll learn: • What an abandonment schema actually is • How it develops during childhood • Why it often shows up most strongly in romantic relationships • How it influences attraction and partner selection • Why emotionally unavailable relationships can feel strangely familiar • The link between abandonment and overriding red flags • Why this schema can keep you hoping, waiting and staying far longer than is healthy • How understanding your abandonment pattern can become the first step towards creating healthier, more secure relationships If you've ever found yourself repeatedly attracted to emotionally unavailable, avoidant or narcissistic partners, or you've wondered why leaving unhealthy relationships feels so incredibly difficult, this episode will help you understand what's happening beneath the surface. Free Masterclass Why Smart Women Override Red Flags in Dating Discover the 5 hidden love traps that keep women stuck in painful relationship patterns. Love Wisely Group Coaching My flagship coaching program, offered only twice each year, where we work together over three months to intentionally rewrite your Love Template and create healthier relationship patterns. Private Coaching For women wanting personalised support to understand and change long-standing relationship patterns. Connect Website: www.drgemmagladstone.com Instagram: @drgemmagladstone If you enjoyed this episode, I'd really appreciate it if you subscribed, left a review, or shared it with someone who may need to hear it. Support the show 🩷 Join Love Wisely (Group) PRIORITY List - we start September! 🎓 NEW - Love Wisely Foundations Course - Get Instant Access! ✅Dating App Profile CHECK-UP 🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

  6. Jun 19

    143.The Dating Advice I Give Every Woman Looking for an Emotionally Available Partner

    Send Gemma a message If you're serious about finding an emotionally available partner, there are some important shifts that can dramatically improve your chances of creating a healthy relationship. In this episode, I break down the practical dating advice I most often share with my coaching clients. Women who are tired of repeating painful relationship patterns and want to approach dating with more clarity, confidence, and self-trust. One of the biggest misconceptions about dating is that women who end up in unhealthy relationships simply fail to see the warning signs. In my experience, that's rarely true. Most women notice far more than they give themselves credit for. The challenge is often not spotting the red flags—it's understanding the deeper patterns that make it difficult to trust yourself and act on what you already know. If you're ready to approach dating differently and want to understand the hidden psychological forces that influence attraction and decision-making, this episode is for you. Free Live Masterclass Why Smart Women Override Red Flags in Dating (Even When They Know Better) Discover the 5 hidden love traps that keep women stuck in painful relationship patterns and learn how to make wiser, more self-honouring decisions in dating. Support the show 🩷 Join Love Wisely (Group) PRIORITY List - we start September! 🎓 NEW - Love Wisely Foundations Course - Get Instant Access! ✅Dating App Profile CHECK-UP 🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

  7. May 31

    142. Why Dating Feels So Confusing: The Three Voices That Show Up On Every Date

    Send Gemma a message Have you ever left a date feeling completely conflicted?  Part of you feels excited. Part of you feels anxious.  Part of you wants to see them again. And part of you feels relieved it's over. In this episode, I explore why dating can feel so confusing and how different parts of ourselves can interpret the exact same situation in very different ways. Drawing on concepts from Schema Therapy, I introduce three key voices that often show up when we're dating.  You'll learn how old wounds such as abandonment, emotional deprivation, defectiveness and people-pleasing patterns can quietly influence attraction, decision-making and relationship choices. I also explore common dating coping modes including Most importantly, we'll look at how to strengthen the Wise Self - the part of you that can step back, gather information, spot red flags, honour boundaries and make healthier relationship decisions. In this episode you'll learn: Why dating can feel so confusing at timesHow vulnerable parts of us influence attractionThe role of coping modes in dating and relationshipsWhy familiarity can be mistaken for compatibilityHow schema chemistry can override good judgementThe questions your Wise Self needs to be askingHow to recognise who is currently "holding the microphone"Why healthy dating involves learning to date from wisdom rather than from your woundResources Mentioned: Love Wisely Foundations Love Wisely Group Coaching Program Dating Profile Check-Up 1:1 Coaching with Dr Gemma Gladstone Support the show 🩷 Join Love Wisely (Group) PRIORITY List - we start September! 🎓 NEW - Love Wisely Foundations Course - Get Instant Access! ✅Dating App Profile CHECK-UP 🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

  8. May 21

    141. The Early Signs of Control in Relationships - Red Flags You Should Never Ignore

    Send Gemma a message In this episode of Healing for Love, Dr. Gemma Gladstone explores the early warning signs of controlling, narcissistic and potentially coercive relationship dynamics - particularly the subtle behaviours that many women dismiss, minimise or explain away in the beginning. This episode is not about blame. It is about prevention, awareness and learning to trust yourself earlier. Gemma breaks down:  why some controlling behaviours can initially look like care or protection  how love bombing and boundary crossing often work together  the subtle ways controlling people gradually erode your autonomy  why narcissistic and coercively controlling individuals struggle to tolerate your individuality and separateness  how early manipulation often appears through “small” interactions  why boundary creeping, guilt, criticism and emotional pressure matter  the connection between control, entitlement and coercive dynamics  why many women ignore or override their early instincts  the importance of recognising what gets in the way of leaving early  how schemas such as abandonment, emotional deprivation, subjugation and self-sacrifice can keep women stuck in unhealthy dynamics Gemma also discusses:  emotional manipulation  intrusive behaviour disguised as care  isolation tactics  shame sensitivity and rage reactions  dependency-building behaviours  subtle control around appearance, friendships and daily choices  the psychological function of coercive control Most importantly, this episode highlights why early recognition matters. The sooner unhealthy dynamics are recognised, the easier it becomes to protect your sense of self, your wellbeing and your future. In this episode:  What coercive control actually is  Why control often begins subtly  The difference between care and control  Early signs of dangerous relationship dynamics  Boundary crossing and “boundary creep”  Why love bombing can feel confusing  How controlling partners gradually isolate women  Why healthy partners tolerate difference and autonomy  How schemas can interfere with self-protection  Why taking relationships slowly matters Support the show 🩷 Join Love Wisely (Group) PRIORITY List - we start September! 🎓 NEW - Love Wisely Foundations Course - Get Instant Access! ✅Dating App Profile CHECK-UP 🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

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Healing for Love A podcast for anyone who wants to heal their schemas, shift their patterns and grow into their most grounded, authentic self in love & life. Hosted by Dr Gemma Gladstone - dating & relationship coach, former clinical psychologist (25+ years), and Advanced Schema Therapists, Trainer/Supervisor. This podcast offers thoughtful, insight-rich episodes to help you understand your patterns, heal from past emotional wounds and start rewriting your Love Template.If you’ve ever felt stuck in familiar dynamics like seeking approval, fearing abandonment, dating narcissists or losing yourself in relationships, you’re not alone. Healing for Love is a space for self-reflection, emotional insight and practical encouragement.  Here, you’ll learn how to reconnect with your worth, trust your inner voice and build relationships that support who you truly are.This is for the woman who’s ready to feel more secure, more whole and more herself - in love and in life.

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  • Creator
    Dr Gemma Gladstone
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    146
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Healing For Love
  • Show Website
    Healing For Love

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