Trauma Healing for Christian Women - Regulate Emotions, Intrusive Thoughts, Nervous System, Anxiousness, Overthinking, EMDR

Michelle Croyle, Licensed Professional Counselor, EMDR Therapist, Christian

Do you love God deeply but still feel anxious, overwhelmed, or unable to experience the peace you know He promises? Have people you trusted—relationships you valued, or even places that should have been safe—left you feeling deeply wounded, guarded, and unsure who you can trust anymore, including yourself or even God? Have you tried to pray the pain away, do all the right things, push through it, avoid it, or outthink it, yet still feel something unsettled deep inside? Do you wish you could calm your mind and emotions, reset your nervous system, and finally experience peace with yourself and with God again? I'm so glad you're here. In this podcast, I'll help you make sense of what you've been feeling and why it's been so hard to get unstuck. We'll explore how painful experiences can affect your mind, body, and nervous system—and why the reactions you've been having actually make sense. You don't have to figure this out alone. In each episode, I'll come alongside you, sharing insights from evidence-based, trauma-informed psychology thoughtfully integrated with the truth of the Christian faith. Together, we'll bring clarity to what you're experiencing, normalize the struggles you may have been quietly carrying, and explore practical ways to move toward the peace, emotional safety, and deeper connection with God that your heart longs for. Hi, I'm Michelle. I'm a wife, a mom, a dog mom, and a lifelong Christian, having been saved at the age of five, but that's also around the time when anxiety took root inside me. As I grew older, intrusive and ruminating thoughts, OCD behaviors, nervousness, and even panic attacks interrupted my peace and kept my mind and body on high alert. I tried thinking better thoughts, focusing on Bible verses, casting down the lies of the enemy, praying harder, and even tried traditional talk therapy, but I couldn't get past the feeling that I was spiritually failing or had somehow made God mad. However, after years of internal struggle, I eventually realized the problem wasn't that something was wrong with me or with my faith. The deeper issue was unaddressed trauma in my nervous system. You see, many of us can carry a tremendous amount of emotional, mental, relational, and even physical pain for a long time—until our bodies simply can't hold it anymore. The ways we learn to survive hard experiences often help us get through them, but they aren't always the same things that lead us into healing. And most of the time, we can't simply think our way out of it or pray our way through it alone. True healing often requires gently processing what our nervous systems have been carrying. The beautiful part is that God designed our bodies with the capacity to heal. He created our minds and nervous systems with remarkable resilience, and over time, both science and Scripture have revealed wisdom that helps us participate in that healing process. After becoming a licensed professional counselor and a trauma-informed, certified EMDR therapist—and after experiencing profound healing myself through excellent trauma therapy—I want you to know something very clearly: there is real hope for healing. And that hope is available to you, too. Now, I have the privilege of helping Christian women just like you to find compassion and grace for themselves and as we work toward meaningful healing by helping you understand how your past experiences have shaped your present struggles, while also equipping you with practical tools and actionable steps to move forward with greater peace, clarity, and emotional safety in an environment where you are finally safe to be seen and heard just as you are, no shame, no guilt, just healing. If you are ready to finally understand what's happening inside you and to break free from the deep wounds that have been holding you back, I'm ready to help. So, grab your favorite beverage, a box of tissues, and kick your self-criticism to the curb. It's time to pay atten

  1. 3d ago

    Why Do I Feel Like I'm Not Good Enough? How Childhood Experiences, Trauma, and Your Nervous System Keep You Stuck

    Why Do I Feel Like I'm Not Good Enough? How Childhood Experiences, Trauma, and Your Nervous System Keep You Stuck Why do you feel insecure or not good enough, even when you logically know you have value? Why do you compare yourself to other people, worry about what they think, or feel like everyone else has life figured out while you're somehow falling short? These feelings may not mean there is something wrong with you. They may make much more sense when you understand how childhood experiences, trauma, learned beliefs, and your nervous system can influence the way you see yourself today. In this episode of Trauma Healing for Christian Women, Michelle Croyle, LPC, EMDR-Certified therapist, explains how experiences from childhood can become beliefs and survival strategies that continue into adulthood—even when you no longer need them. You may intellectually know, "I am good enough," "I am safe," or "God gave me value," while another part of you still feels rejected, inadequate, unsafe, or afraid of what other people think. That disconnect can be an important clue. Why Do I Feel Like I'm Not Good Enough? Human beings naturally want connection, belonging, safety, and acceptance. When we are young, experiences involving criticism, rejection, comparison, achievement, belonging, or not having our emotional needs adequately met can influence the conclusions we make about ourselves. A child may conclude: "I'm not good enough." "I have to prove myself." "I need people to approve of me." "If someone is unhappy with me, I must have done something wrong." "I have to be the best to have value." "It isn't safe to disagree." "I need to fit in so I won't be rejected." Those conclusions can make sense to a child trying to understand the world. The problem comes when we're adults but our nervous systems are still responding according to rules we learned much earlier in life. In This Episode, You'll Learn Why you may constantly feel like you're not good enough Why comparing yourself to other people can be connected to safety and belonging How childhood experiences can create beliefs that follow you into adulthood Why criticism or rejection can feel disproportionately threatening How people-pleasing and needing approval can become survival strategies Why knowing something logically doesn't necessarily make you feel it emotionally How your nervous system can continue responding to an old threat after the danger has passed Why certain situations can suddenly make you feel like a child again How trauma therapy identifies the beliefs and experiences underneath current struggles How EMDR therapy can help you process experiences that continue to feel unresolved Why healing involves updating old information rather than simply trying harder to change your thoughts How Christian faith, emotional healing, and trauma therapy can work together Why Do Childhood Beliefs Still Affect Me as an Adult? Children interpret experiences with the information and developmental abilities they have at the time. If you weren't chosen for something, you might have concluded, "Nobody wants me." If you struggled academically, you might have concluded, "I'm dumb." If someone criticized something you were proud of, you might have concluded, "I shouldn't let people see what I'm good at." If belonging felt uncertain, you may have learned to watch other people's reactions closely so you could avoid rejection. Those beliefs and strategies may have helped you navigate life then. But what helped you survive at one point can sometimes keep you stuck later. Why Can I Know Something Is True but Still Not Feel It? This is one of the frustrating experiences people can have with unresolved trauma. You can intellectually know that you have value while still feeling inadequate. You can know that someone else's opinion doesn't determine your worth while still feeling intense anxiety when someone disapproves of you. You can know you're an adult while suddenly feeling very young, powerless, rejected, or frightened in a particular situation. The goal isn't simply to tell yourself to "think differently." Trauma therapy can help explore the discrepancy between what you know today and what your nervous system may still be responding to from an earlier experience. Your Survival Strategies Aren't Necessarily Your Current Reality Sometimes we continue living according to rules that once helped us feel safer: Keep everyone happy. Don't make mistakes. Don't stand out. Don't disagree. Prove yourself. Don't need anyone. Always perform. Always be prepared for rejection. Your nervous system may be trying to protect you using information that hasn't been updated for your present circumstances. Healing can involve understanding where those strategies came from, recognizing what your system has been trying to protect you from, and helping your mind and body take in new information. You survived. Now you can begin working on the things that may be keeping you in survival mode. THERAPY WITH MICHELLE Have you been looking for a Trauma-Informed Therapist who is also a Christian?  Do you want to honor your faith even in your therapy?  Would you love to incorporate deep healing in a way that aligns with God's Word and evidence-based treatments for trauma healing?   I offer THERAPY INTENSIVES which help you to go deeper and with faster results than weekly therapy can provide.  Learn more at: www.emdrpittsburgh.com. For a Free Consultation Call:   If you would like to see about working with me in an EMDR Intensive, you can schedule a free 15 minute consultation call so that we can get to know each other and see if I am a good match for your therapy needs.  Go to www.calendly.com/michellecroyle to connect with me.   FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: Join our free Facebook Community For Encouragement and Support: CLICK HERE   FREE RESOURCE: If this episode resonated, you might be interested in my free resource.   I created a free, faith-honoring guide that gently explains how healing happens in the body and why you're not failing.  Free Trauma Healing Resource Guide *All content is for informational and educational purposes only and is not to be considered professional counseling.  If you need professional therapy, please seek it out, and if you are in immediate danger, please contact emergency services near you.

    Why Do I Feel Like I'm Not Good Enough? How Childhood Experiences, Trauma, and Your Nervous System Keep You Stuck
  2. Sep 15

    Are You Spiritually Bypassing Your Feelings? When Christian Faith Is Used to Avoid Feelings, Trauma, and Real Healing

    Spiritual Bypassing: When Christian Faith Is Used to Avoid Feelings, Trauma, and Real Healing What is spiritual bypassing, and how can it affect Christian women struggling with anxiety, trauma, grief, difficult emotions, or painful experiences? Sometimes well-meaning Christians respond to emotional pain with phrases like "count your blessings," "just have faith," "think positive," or "give it to God." Biblical truth matters—but using spiritual language to minimize, avoid, or shut down genuine emotional pain can keep us from addressing what is actually happening. In this episode of Trauma Healing for Christian Women, Michelle Croyle, LPC, EMDR-Certified therapist, explores spiritual bypassing in Christianity and why acknowledging painful emotions does not mean that you are failing spiritually or lacking faith. You can love God deeply and still experience anxiety, grief, anger, fear, hurt, exhaustion, or the effects of trauma. In This Episode, You'll Learn What spiritual bypassing is and what it can look like in Christian life How spiritual language can sometimes be used to minimize emotional pain Why experiencing anxiety or difficult emotions doesn't automatically mean you lack faith The difference between acknowledging your emotions and allowing your emotions to control you How trauma and a lack of felt safety can affect the nervous system Why "count your blessings" isn't always what a hurting person needs How spiritual bypassing can happen within relationships and church culture Why healthy boundaries and acknowledging when something hurt can be important How Christian faith and emotional honesty can exist together Why healing doesn't require pretending everything is fine Jesus did not ignore human suffering. He wept. He cared for people's physical and emotional needs. Throughout Scripture, we see people bringing grief, fear, pain, questions, and distress honestly before God. Faith doesn't require pretending. You can acknowledge, "This hurt me," "I'm grieving," "I'm angry," "I'm afraid," or "I need help," while still trusting God. Sometimes healing begins when we stop trying to put a spiritual bandage over a wound and allow ourselves to acknowledge what is actually there. Christian Trauma Therapy & EMDR Therapy in Pennsylvania THERAPY WITH MICHELLE Have you been looking for a Trauma-Informed Therapist who is also a Christian?  Do you want to honor your faith even in your therapy?  Would you love to incorporate deep healing in a way that aligns with God's Word and evidence-based treatments for trauma healing?   I offer THERAPY INTENSIVES which help you to go deeper and with faster results than weekly therapy can provide.  Learn more at: www.emdrpittsburgh.com. For a Free Consultation Call:   If you would like to see about working with me in an EMDR Intensive, you can schedule a free 15 minute consultation call so that we can get to know each other and see if I am a good match for your therapy needs.  Go to www.calendly.com/michellecroyle to connect with me.   FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: Join our free Facebook Community For Encouragement and Support: CLICK HERE   FREE RESOURCE: If this episode resonated, you might be interested in my free resource.   I created a free, faith-honoring guide that gently explains how healing happens in the body and why you're not failing.  Free Trauma Healing Resource Guide *All content is for informational and educational purposes only and is not to be considered professional counseling.  If you need professional therapy, please seek it out, and if you are in immediate danger, please contact emergency services near you.

    Are You Spiritually Bypassing Your Feelings? When Christian Faith Is Used to Avoid Feelings, Trauma, and Real Healing
  3. Sep 8

    How EMDR Works Better Than Talk Therapy To Heal Trauma

    Have you tried talk therapy but it didn't go deep enough to heal the wounds of trauma deep inside you?  Have you heard the phrase EMDR and wondered if Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing might be able to help you heal from trauma and anxiety?  In this episode, Michelle shares how she incorporates EMDR with Christian Thearpy and Somatic Experience and IFS parts work therapy c oncepts to help clients get great results in healing from trauma with her and God in EMDR Therapy Intensives. THERAPY WITH MICHELLE Have you been looking for a Trauma-Informed Therapist who is also a Christian?  Do you want to honor your faith even in your therapy?  Would you love to incorporate deep healing in a way that aligns with God's Word and evidence-based treatments for trauma healing?   I offer THERAPY INTENSIVES which help you to go deeper and with faster results than weekly therapy can provide.  Learn more at: www.emdrpittsburgh.com. For a Free Consultation Call:   If you would like to see about working with me in an EMDR Intensive, you can schedule a free 15 minute consultation call so that we can get to know each other and see if I am a good match for your therapy needs.  Go to www.calendly.com/michellecroyle to connect with me.   FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: Join our free Facebook Community For Encouragement and Support: CLICK HERE   FREE RESOURCE: If this episode resonated, you might be interested in my free resource.   I created a free, faith-honoring guide that gently explains how healing happens in the body and why you're not failing.  Free Trauma Healing Resource Guide *All content is for informational and educational purposes only and is not to be considered professional counseling.  If you need professional therapy, please seek it out, and if you are in immediate danger, please contact emergency services near you.

    How EMDR Works Better Than Talk Therapy To Heal Trauma
  4. Sep 1

    1 BIG Helpful Tip for When You are Stuck in FEAR and Want FREEDOM

    Would you like to stop feeling so afraid in life?  Fear can be helpful when it works to keep us safe, but after trauma, it can lie to us.  In this episode, Michelle shares about the concept of time and truth that can help you to step out of the cycle of fear and into a more regulated nervous system. THERAPY WITH MICHELLE Have you been looking for a Trauma-Informed Therapist who is also a Christian?  Do you want to honor your faith even in your therapy?  Would you love to incorporate deep healing in a way that aligns with God's Word and evidence-based treatments for trauma healing?   I offer THERAPY INTENSIVES which help you to go deeper and with faster results than weekly therapy can provide.  Learn more at: www.emdrpittsburgh.com. For a Free Consultation Call:   If you would like to see about working with me in an EMDR Intensive, you can schedule a free 15 minute consultation call so that we can get to know each other and see if I am a good match for your therapy needs.  Go to www.calendly.com/michellecroyle to connect with me.   FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: Join our free Facebook Community For Encouragement and Support: CLICK HERE   FREE RESOURCE: If this episode resonated, you might be interested in my free resource.   I created a free, faith-honoring guide that gently explains how healing happens in the body and why you're not failing.  Free Trauma Healing Resource Guide *All content is for informational and educational purposes only and is not to be considered professional counseling.  If you need professional therapy, please seek it out, and if you are in immediate danger, please contact emergency services near you.

    1 BIG Helpful Tip for When You are Stuck in FEAR and Want FREEDOM
  5. Aug 25

    1 Important Concept You Need To Get Freedom From Trauma's Lies - You and God Are Good

    Do you feel like God's mad at you or that you aren't good enough or you would have been healed by now?  God is a loving parent and not a vindictive one.  In this episode, Michelle shares the one thing that you can reframe to gain freedom from the things that steal your peace and time when it comes to your trauma. THERAPY WITH MICHELLE Have you been looking for a Trauma-Informed Therapist who is also a Christian?  Do you want to honor your faith even in your therapy?  Would you love to incorporate deep healing in a way that aligns with God's Word and evidence-based treatments for trauma healing?   I offer THERAPY INTENSIVES which help you to go deeper and with faster results than weekly therapy can provide.  Learn more at: www.emdrpittsburgh.com. For a Free Consultation Call:   If you would like to see about working with me in an EMDR Intensive, you can schedule a free 15 minute consultation call so that we can get to know each other and see if I am a good match for your therapy needs.  Go to www.calendly.com/michellecroyle to connect with me.   FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: Join our free Facebook Community For Encouragement and Support: CLICK HERE   FREE RESOURCE: If this episode resonated, you might be interested in my free resource.   I created a free, faith-honoring guide that gently explains how healing happens in the body and why you're not failing.  Free Trauma Healing Resource Guide *All content is for informational and educational purposes only and is not to be considered professional counseling.  If you need professional therapy, please seek it out, and if you are in immediate danger, please contact emergency services near you.

    1 Important Concept You Need To Get Freedom From Trauma's Lies - You and God Are Good
  6. Aug 18

    What Thought is Between Your Desire and Outcome?

    Sometimes, what we think isn't actually true, even though it seems or feels true.  In this episode, Michelle guides you through the gap between desire and outcome to reflect on whether the thought in between is true or not and what you might be able to do about it. THERAPY WITH MICHELLE Have you been looking for a Trauma-Informed Therapist who is also a Christian?  Do you want to honor your faith even in your therapy?  Would you love to incorporate deep healing in a way that aligns with God's Word and evidence-based treatments for trauma healing?   I offer THERAPY INTENSIVES which help you to go deeper and with faster results than weekly therapy can provide.  Learn more at: www.emdrpittsburgh.com. For a Free Consultation Call:   If you would like to see about working with me in an EMDR Intensive, you can schedule a free 15 minute consultation call so that we can get to know each other and see if I am a good match for your therapy needs.  Go to www.calendly.com/michellecroyle to connect with me.   FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: Join our free Facebook Community For Encouragement and Support: CLICK HERE   FREE RESOURCE: If this episode resonated, you might be interested in my free resource.   I created a free, faith-honoring guide that gently explains how healing happens in the body and why you're not failing.  Free Trauma Healing Resource Guide *All content is for informational and educational purposes only and is not to be considered professional counseling.  If you need professional therapy, please seek it out, and if you are in immediate danger, please contact emergency services near you.

    What Thought is Between Your Desire and Outcome?
  7. Aug 12

    4 Signs It's Trauma You Are Experiencing

    Are you wondering if what you are experiencing qualifies as trauma?  Do you wonder if it is really bad enough to qualify?  Do you feel others have it worse?  Do you not want to complain?  Today, Michelle talks about some tell-tale ways you can know you are struggling with trauma. THERAPY WITH MICHELLE Have you been looking for a Trauma-Informed Therapist who is also a Christian?  Do you want to honor your faith even in your therapy?  Would you love to incorporate deep healing in a way that aligns with God's Word and evidence-based treatments for trauma healing?   I offer THERAPY INTENSIVES which help you to go deeper and with faster results than weekly therapy can provide.  Learn more at: www.emdrpittsburgh.com. For a Free Consultation Call:   If you would like to see about working with me in an EMDR Intensive, you can schedule a free 15 minute consultation call so that we can get to know each other and see if I am a good match for your therapy needs.  Go to www.calendly.com/michellecroyle to connect with me.   FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: Join our free Facebook Community For Encouragement and Support: CLICK HERE   FREE RESOURCE: If this episode resonated, you might be interested in my free resource.   I created a free, faith-honoring guide that gently explains how healing happens in the body and why you're not failing.  Free Trauma Healing Resource Guide *All content is for informational and educational purposes only and is not to be considered professional counseling.  If you need professional therapy, please seek it out, and if you are in immediate danger, please contact emergency services near you.

    4 Signs It's Trauma You Are Experiencing
  8. Aug 4

    How to Feel Close To God After Trauma

    Have you ever felt like your trauma is keeping you far from God or like you can't feel His presence like you want to?  Today's episode will give you a couple of tips for encouragement. THERAPY WITH MICHELLE Have you been looking for a Trauma-Informed Therapist who is also a Christian?  Do you want to honor your faith even in your therapy?  Would you love to incorporate deep healing in a way that aligns with God's Word and evidence-based treatments for trauma healing?   I offer THERAPY INTENSIVES which help you to go deeper and with faster results than weekly therapy can provide.  Learn more at: www.emdrpittsburgh.com. For a Free Consultation Call:   If you would like to see about working with me in an EMDR Intensive, you can schedule a free 15 minute consultation call so that we can get to know each other and see if I am a good match for your therapy needs.  Go to www.calendly.com/michellecroyle to connect with me.   FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: Join our free Facebook Community For Encouragement and Support: CLICK HERE   FREE RESOURCE: If this episode resonated, you might be interested in my free resource.   I created a free, faith-honoring guide that gently explains how healing happens in the body and why you're not failing.  Free Trauma Healing Resource Guide *All content is for informational and educational purposes only and is not to be considered professional counseling.  If you need professional therapy, please seek it out, and if you are in immediate danger, please contact emergency services near you.

    How to Feel Close To God After Trauma
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Do you love God deeply but still feel anxious, overwhelmed, or unable to experience the peace you know He promises? Have people you trusted—relationships you valued, or even places that should have been safe—left you feeling deeply wounded, guarded, and unsure who you can trust anymore, including yourself or even God? Have you tried to pray the pain away, do all the right things, push through it, avoid it, or outthink it, yet still feel something unsettled deep inside? Do you wish you could calm your mind and emotions, reset your nervous system, and finally experience peace with yourself and with God again? I'm so glad you're here. In this podcast, I'll help you make sense of what you've been feeling and why it's been so hard to get unstuck. We'll explore how painful experiences can affect your mind, body, and nervous system—and why the reactions you've been having actually make sense. You don't have to figure this out alone. In each episode, I'll come alongside you, sharing insights from evidence-based, trauma-informed psychology thoughtfully integrated with the truth of the Christian faith. Together, we'll bring clarity to what you're experiencing, normalize the struggles you may have been quietly carrying, and explore practical ways to move toward the peace, emotional safety, and deeper connection with God that your heart longs for. Hi, I'm Michelle. I'm a wife, a mom, a dog mom, and a lifelong Christian, having been saved at the age of five, but that's also around the time when anxiety took root inside me. As I grew older, intrusive and ruminating thoughts, OCD behaviors, nervousness, and even panic attacks interrupted my peace and kept my mind and body on high alert. I tried thinking better thoughts, focusing on Bible verses, casting down the lies of the enemy, praying harder, and even tried traditional talk therapy, but I couldn't get past the feeling that I was spiritually failing or had somehow made God mad. However, after years of internal struggle, I eventually realized the problem wasn't that something was wrong with me or with my faith. The deeper issue was unaddressed trauma in my nervous system. You see, many of us can carry a tremendous amount of emotional, mental, relational, and even physical pain for a long time—until our bodies simply can't hold it anymore. The ways we learn to survive hard experiences often help us get through them, but they aren't always the same things that lead us into healing. And most of the time, we can't simply think our way out of it or pray our way through it alone. True healing often requires gently processing what our nervous systems have been carrying. The beautiful part is that God designed our bodies with the capacity to heal. He created our minds and nervous systems with remarkable resilience, and over time, both science and Scripture have revealed wisdom that helps us participate in that healing process. After becoming a licensed professional counselor and a trauma-informed, certified EMDR therapist—and after experiencing profound healing myself through excellent trauma therapy—I want you to know something very clearly: there is real hope for healing. And that hope is available to you, too. Now, I have the privilege of helping Christian women just like you to find compassion and grace for themselves and as we work toward meaningful healing by helping you understand how your past experiences have shaped your present struggles, while also equipping you with practical tools and actionable steps to move forward with greater peace, clarity, and emotional safety in an environment where you are finally safe to be seen and heard just as you are, no shame, no guilt, just healing. If you are ready to finally understand what's happening inside you and to break free from the deep wounds that have been holding you back, I'm ready to help. So, grab your favorite beverage, a box of tissues, and kick your self-criticism to the curb. It's time to pay atten

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