Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

Dan Purcell | Sex & Intimacy Coach | Christian Husband
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It's a challenge to build a long term relationship full of love, desire, and sexy fun. It can be especially challenging for Christians in a world filled with mixed messages about sex, intimacy, and marriage that go contrary to traditional values. Your host is Dan Purcell, a Life Coach and Couples Sex Expert that specializes in helping married couples take their sex life to the next level. You'll gain new ideas, perspectives, and practical tools to help you "get your marriage on"! This podcast discusses fun and spicy topics you've always wondered about, but from a Christian-friendly perspective. For more information, visit https://getyourmarriageon.com.

  1. 4d ago

    What To Do When Your Spouse Isn't Interested in Improving Your Sex Life

    Differences in sexual desire can feel deeply personal. One spouse feels rejected. The other feels pressured. And both end up wondering if something is wrong with their marriage. In this episode, Dan shares three principles that can completely change the way you think about desire differences in marriage. He talks honestly about the hidden power dynamics couples fall into, why conflict around sex is actually an opportunity for growth, and how sometimes "low desire" is actually a wise response to unhealthy meanings attached to sex. You'll learn: Why every marriage has a higher and lower desire spouse The three unhealthy ways couples typically handle sexual conflict (and how to do it better) Why vulnerability is often more powerful than pressure How to stop using sex for validation and start creating truly good sex together This episode is honest, hopeful, and deeply practical for couples who feel stuck in painful intimacy patterns. If you've ever felt lonely, rejected, pressured, unseen, or exhausted by the pursuit-withdraw cycle in your marriage, this episode is for you. And if you'd like personal help implementing these principles, our program can help you take those first steps, even if your spouse isn't on board. After all,  "personal responsibility and growth is the solution to most s*xual difficulties" and our program is designed to address just that.  And if you'd like to bring more eroticism and play into your marriage, you can join us on our cruise this October! Get all the details on our website.

    36 min

  2. May 22

    Better Sex by Sharing the Mental Load, with Zach Watson

    Better sex isn't just about what happens in the bedroom. In this episode, Dan sits down with Zach Watson to unpack the hidden emotional and mental work happening inside many marriages — and why it has such a powerful impact on intimacy. They talk about invisible labor, mental load, emotional safety, and the loneliness that can build when one partner feels like they're carrying everything alone. Zach shares practical ways couples can better share responsibility, communicate more clearly, and create more trust and partnership at home. You'll also hear: Why "helping" can sometimes create more frustration The difference between doing a task and owning it How emotional labor affects desire and connection Why empathy matters so much in sexual intimacy Simple ways couples can work more like teammates This episode is honest, practical, and full of moments that will help you better understand your partner — and yourself. Episode Resources  Thriving Together: How to Share the Mental Load in Marriage  (GYMO Guide) Get ready for International Lovemaking Day with Intimately Us! Come cruise with us! Zach's Free Mental Load Basics Skool Community Find Zach on Socials: @zachmentalloadcoach (Instagram) and @zachthinkshare (Facebook)   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

    42 min

  3. May 15

    When You Finally Start Letting Go (Peggy & Steve Coaching Series, Part 5)

    In this final session with Peggy and Steve, things feel different.  The wall Peggy used to feel during intimacy—the fear, tension, and resistance that would suddenly shut everything down—is starting to soften. And for the first time in a long time, both of them are beginning to relax. In this episode, you'll hear Peggy and Steve reflect on the progress they've made over the last few months, what still feels difficult, and what they're continuing to work through together. You'll also hear conversations about: learning to let go a little more why sex can start to feel overly serious the role playfulness has in intimacy stress, emotional overload, and connection and what it means to feel truly free with your spouse This episode is a hopeful ending to a deeply honest coaching journey—and a reminder that growth usually happens gradually, one small shift at a time. If you'd like some guidance to shift your marriage, check out our coaching options at getyourmarriageon.com/program or getyourmarriageon.com/work-with-me/

    35 min

  4. May 12

    When You're Fighting Your Own Pleasure (Peggy & Steve Coaching Series, Part 4)

    ATTN: Women's only coaching cohorts starts today, May 12! Don't waste another day wishing things were different in your marriage. Sign up here:  Women's coaching: https://getyourmarriageon.com/womens-small-group-coaching/ In this fourth session with Peggy and Steve, something important finally clicks. Peggy begins recognizing the exact moment her brain hits the "kill switch" during intimacy. Not consciously. Not intentionally. Just years of conditioning kicking in automatically. As the conversation unfolds, Peggy starts connecting the dots between anxiety, "good girl" conditioning, fear, pleasure, and the unconscious belief that enjoying too much might somehow be wrong. In this episode, you'll hear: Why some people unconsciously shut pleasure down What happens when your brain treats pleasure like danger How anxiety can quietly disconnect you from your body Why rewiring sexual patterns takes more than just "thinking differently" You'll also hear one of the biggest mindset shifts of the series so far. This episode is about learning how to stop fighting yourself in intimate moments, and starting to trust that pleasure, connection, and desire were never the enemy.

    42 min

  5. May 8

    When You Don't Know How to Like Yourself (Peggy & Steve Coaching Series #3)

    ATTN: Men's and Women's only coaching cohorts start this week, May 12! Don't waste another day wishing things were different in your marriage. Sign up here:  Women's coaching: https://getyourmarriageon.com/womens-small-group-coaching/ Men's coaching: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ *** In this third session with Peggy and Steve, the conversation shifts in a deeper direction. What starts as a discussion about intimacy and confidence quickly turns into something much bigger: 👉 learning how to actually like yourself. As Peggy opens up about body image, control, "good girl" conditioning, and the stories she's believed about herself for years, it becomes clear that these patterns don't just affect how she feels about her body. They affect how she shows up in her marriage, in intimacy, and in her relationship with herself. In this episode, you'll hear: Why self-acceptance matters so much in intimacy How negative self-talk quietly affects connection The hidden cost of "clamping down" your sexuality The difference between confidence and self-acceptance Why good sex requires trust, courage, honesty, and faith You'll also hear a personal story from Dan about a moment that completely changed the way he saw himself—and why learning to like yourself is some of the most important work a person can do. This episode isn't just about sex. It's about what happens when you stop fighting yourself and finally begin stepping more fully into who you already are.

    50 min

  6. May 6

    When You're Both Trying, But Your Sex Life is Just Stuck (Peggy & Steve Coaching Series, Part 2)

    Why do so many couples feel stuck, even when they're both trying their best? In Part 2 of this real coaching series, Peggy and Steve come back after working on making intimacy more fun and less performative. And for a while, it works. But underneath the progress, a deeper pattern starts to surface—one that keeps pulling them right back into the same frustrating gridlock. Inside this episode, you'll hear: How "needy" energy shows up in subtle, unintentional ways Why looking to your spouse to fix how you feel creates disconnection The difference between wanting connection and depending on it How both partners can feel powerless—even in a loving marriage This episode gets to the core of a pattern many couples don't realize they're in: 👉 When you rely on your partner to regulate your emotions, intimacy starts to feel like pressure—not connection. And when that happens, both people lose. The goal isn't to stop wanting each other. It's to stop needing your partner to feel okay. Because that's where real connection—and real desire—can actually grow. This is Part 2 of a 5-part coaching series where you'll hear what it takes to break out of that cycle and create something better. Make sure you've listened to Part 1 first! Resources from the episode:  Our Men's and Women's Cohorts are starting May 12! Seats are limited, so grab your spot today!

    57 min

  7. May 1

    When Sex Feels Like Work (Peggy & Steve Coaching Series, Part 1)

    What if the problem in your sex life isn't a lack of effort…but too much effort? In this episode, we're trying something completely new. You'll get a behind-the-scenes look at a real coaching session with a couple (names and details changed for privacy) who are doing everything "right"—but still feel stuck. They love each other. They're committed. They're trying hard. But sex has started to feel… mechanical. A little pressured. More like something to get through than something to enjoy. Inside this session, something important comes to light: 👉 The more sex feels like work, the harder it is to actually feel desire. In this episode, you'll hear: Why "trying harder" can actually make intimacy worse The hidden pressure to perform (even in good marriages) What it really means to let go—and why that's so difficult A simple but powerful shift that can change everything This is Part 1 of a 5-part coaching series where you'll hear real progress unfold over time. As you listen, see if you can spot parts of your own relationship in their story. Because no matter where you are right now—there's a path forward. Resources from the episode:  Our Men's and Women's Cohorts are starting May 12! Seats are limited, so grab your spot today!

    1h 3m

  8. Apr 24

    She Didn't Think Sex Could Be for Her - A Sextimony

    She didn't think sex could be for her. In this honest conversation, Faith shares her journey from seeing sex as transactional, to walking away from it after finding Jesus, to struggling with disconnected, obligation-based intimacy in marriage. But something shifted. She began to understand that intimacy could be connective, meaningful—and even for her, too. If you've ever felt like sex is something you do rather than something you enjoy, this episode will resonate. You'll learn how she: moved out of "duty sex" and into real connection started identifying what she actually enjoys began experiencing intimacy in a whole new way A powerful story of healing, growth, and what's possible in marriage. Resources from the episode:  Our Men's and Women's Cohorts are starting May 12! Seats are limited, so grab your spot today!

    40 min
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It's a challenge to build a long term relationship full of love, desire, and sexy fun. It can be especially challenging for Christians in a world filled with mixed messages about sex, intimacy, and marriage that go contrary to traditional values. Your host is Dan Purcell, a Life Coach and Couples Sex Expert that specializes in helping married couples take their sex life to the next level. You'll gain new ideas, perspectives, and practical tools to help you "get your marriage on"! This podcast discusses fun and spicy topics you've always wondered about, but from a Christian-friendly perspective. For more information, visit https://getyourmarriageon.com.

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  • Creator
    Dan Purcell | Sex & Intimacy Coach | Christian Husband
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    308
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2024 Get Your Marriage On!
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