In this episode, I speak with Fred Rabinowitz, Ph.D., Professor Emeritus of Psychology at the University of Redlands, about his nearly 40-year career at the intersection of psychology, masculinity, and men's mental health. Fred shares his personal journey, from growing up as the oldest of three boys with a father who was both a traditional male and an artist who encouraged emotional openness and close friendships, to a pivotal experience in first grade when hugging a friend led to being ridiculed. He discusses how that early moment shaped his understanding of how boys are socialized to suppress their emotional lives, shifting from open and affectionate to competitive and emotionally guarded. We discuss how Fred and his colleague Sam Cochran established one of the first university-based therapeutic men's groups at the University of Missouri in 1982, and the critical role that positive older male figures can play as mentors, helping young men feel less alone and creating a constructive cycle of emotional openness. Fred explains that therapy with men requires a different approach given the gender norms they have internalized, emphasizing the importance of entering with empathy and curiosity rather than judgment, building trust, and helping clients reflect on the underlying reasons for their behavior rather than simply naming symptoms. We discuss loss as a primary wound that often brings men into therapy, and how avoidance behaviors such as substance abuse serve as coping mechanisms. Fred describes how intimacy is frequently conflated with sex, and how emotional closeness between men is often perceived as threatening despite being a fundamental human need for connection. He also addresses the post-pandemic cultural landscape, critiquing the manosphere's emphasis on physical appearance and wealth as paths to fulfillment, and the need for greater empathy toward men within feminist movements. Fred shares stories from his latest book, Deepening Group Psychotherapy with Men, which chronicles the group dynamics of ten men in therapy and represents his favorite blend of storytelling and clinical practice. We also discuss Men and Depression, which examines black-and-white thinking, suicide risk, and the emotional disconnection that can leave men uncertain of their own emotional states. The conversation then turns to a forthcoming book on the psychology of poker, co-authored with Darren Elias. Fred recounts how their collaboration began when, as Dean, he mentored a young Darren through academic difficulties stemming from his lucrative online poker play, supporting his transition to a creative writing major. Fred discusses poker as a metaphor for how men conceal their emotions in everyday life, navigating vulnerability and alliance without revealing their hand. We also discuss his upcoming project Strength with Heart, a self-help book and workshop series designed to help men develop self-awareness and reflect on their experiences, and the broader challenge of reconciling strength with emotional openness and compassion. Fredric E. Rabinowitz, Ph.D. is a Professor Emeritus of Psychology at the University of Redlands, where he taught for nearly 40 years, including courses on the Psychology of Interpersonal Relationships. He earned his Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from the University of Missouri-Columbia in 1984, where he and his graduate school colleague Sam Cochran co-led one of the first university-based therapeutic men's groups in 1982, a program that continues to this day with a thriving alumni network. Fred has maintained a private practice in Redlands, California, specializing in psychotherapy with men since 1986, including a weekly therapeutic men's group. He is a past president of the Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinities (APA Division 51), having served as president in 2006, and was the lead author of the APA's first-ever Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Boys and Men, a landmark 13-year project. He is the author and co-author of numerous books on male psychology, including Man Alive: A Primer of Men's Issues (1994, with Sam Cochran), Men and Depression: Clinical and Empirical Perspectives (2000, with Sam Cochran), Deepening Psychotherapy with Men (2002, with Sam Cochran), Breaking Barriers in Counseling Men: Insights and Innovations (2014, with Aaron Rochlen), and Deepening Group Psychotherapy with Men: Stories and Insights for the Journey (2019). He is currently working on Strength with Heart, a practical guide to increasing male self-awareness and psychological flexibility, co-authored with Daniel Ellenberg. He is also writing a forthcoming book on the psychological dynamics of poker players, co-authored with Darren Elias. The collaboration grew out of a years-long mentorship relationship that began when Fred, then serving as Dean, guided a young Darren through academic difficulties stemming from his lucrative online poker play. An avid poker player who has competed in the World Series of Poker, Fred draws on that experience to explore how men navigate vulnerability, emotional concealment, and connection in everyday life.