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Life after suicide loss is indeed nothing short of a wasteland of the leftover pieces of your shattered heart, of your former self. As the host, Melissa, a mother who lost her 21-year old son Alex to suicide in 2016, has real conversations with other loss survivors, healers and mental health experts. In these conversations she explores the relevant topics and asks the hard questions we all need to talk about and hear answers to. Nothing is 'off limit' as she delves into areas such as trauma, hope, healing, self-care, stigma, grief & mental health. Melissa believes that we learn to live alongside our grief, not get over it. Only through real, honest talk and mindful choices can we make a real difference. For a supporter, or educator, these conversations hold nuggets of awareness and shine a spotlight on suicide and mental health in a real, and unapologetic, way. As a suicide loss griever, one can find the comfort of a community, and hope for a little brighter tomorrow. Melissa wants to help others, like herself, go from surviving to finding a life with meaning, maybe even happiness, amid their own leftover pieces.

The Leftover Pieces; Suicide Loss Conversations Melissa Bottorff-Arey

    • Health & Fitness
    • 5.0 • 25 Ratings

Life after suicide loss is indeed nothing short of a wasteland of the leftover pieces of your shattered heart, of your former self. As the host, Melissa, a mother who lost her 21-year old son Alex to suicide in 2016, has real conversations with other loss survivors, healers and mental health experts. In these conversations she explores the relevant topics and asks the hard questions we all need to talk about and hear answers to. Nothing is 'off limit' as she delves into areas such as trauma, hope, healing, self-care, stigma, grief & mental health. Melissa believes that we learn to live alongside our grief, not get over it. Only through real, honest talk and mindful choices can we make a real difference. For a supporter, or educator, these conversations hold nuggets of awareness and shine a spotlight on suicide and mental health in a real, and unapologetic, way. As a suicide loss griever, one can find the comfort of a community, and hope for a little brighter tomorrow. Melissa wants to help others, like herself, go from surviving to finding a life with meaning, maybe even happiness, amid their own leftover pieces.

    Anne Moss Rogers: Emotionally Naked

    Anne Moss Rogers: Emotionally Naked

    Today we kick off Season 3 of the podcast with a heartfelt, poignant conversation with author and TEDx Speaker Anne Moss Rogers. In 2015 her son Charles died by suicide and her world changed.  Anne Moss shares her story and the work she is doing now in honor of Charles. In her own words:

    "Anne Moss is her first name. It’s a southern thing. She is an Emotionally Naked® motivational speaker who captures hearts and fills them with hope.
    Despite her family’s best efforts, Anne Moss’s 20-year-old son Charles died by suicide on June 5, 2015, after many years of struggle with anxiety, depression, and ultimately addiction. Anne Moss started a blog, EmotionallyNaked.com, that has reached millions and chronicled her family’s tragedy in a newspaper article that went viral.
    After receiving a message from a young lady named Lauren who wrote that one of her blog posts save her life, Anne Moss sold her digital marketing business and followed her purpose of speaking on mental health topics.
    She has been featured in the New York Times and was the first suicide loss survivor ever invited to speak at the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH).
    Originally from North Carolina, she graduated from UNC-Chapel Hill and lives in Richmond, Virginia, with her husband, Randy. They raised two sons, the late Charles Aubrey, 20, and Richard, a filmmaker living his dream in LA.
    Anne Moss is a certified suicide prevention trainer, NAMI Virginia Board member, 2 End the Stigma (addiction) board member, and YWCA 2019 Pat Asch fellow. She is the author of two books, the award-winning memoir, Diary of a Broken Mind and Emotionally Naked: A Teacher’s Guide to Preventing Suicide and Recognizing Students at Risk with co-writer Kim O’Brien Ph.D., LICSW."
    You can find her at:

    Anne Moss Rogers Speaker Site 

    OR

    The Blog at Anne Moss.com
     
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     My website "The Leftover Pieces; Rebuilding You" is LIVE and that means my different SUPPORT SPACE Options are available and much more will be coming in 2022

    My first two books in the "Facing Life After Suicide" series are available on Amazon

    The website will be at www.theleftoverpieces.com 

    If you, or someone you know, is struggling  with suicidal thoughts PLEASE reach out:
    The National Suicide Lifeline is there for you

    IN a crisis you can also TEXT--->
    TEXT the word "HOME" to 741741 in the USA
    in Canada TEXT 686868
    in the UK TEXT 85258

    And Grievers, I am always here. You can find me   at The Leftover Pieces

    • 1 hr 13 min
    What has Helped Me the Most after Suicide Loss?; Part 1 Community and Support

    What has Helped Me the Most after Suicide Loss?; Part 1 Community and Support

    Today I go "down the rabbit hole" in a 3 part series called "what has helped me the most" (after the loss of my son by suicide). The next two parts will come out in the following weeks. Part 2 will address Tools & practices. Part 3 will be around Time and Self care. Please do respond if you would like to add to these or have any input that I might include.

    Today in Part 1, I talk about 'Community and Support' and what that has meant (& still means) to me as a parent who will forever grieve the loss of her son. Most of what I discuss today centers around the idea.

    I have included a few links, one of which takes you to the signing up space to get started in our very own "Picking up the Pieces" Community. It's in the beginning phase so dive on in now and help to make it exactly what you need!

    _______________________________________________ 
     My website "The Leftover Pieces; Rebuilding You" is LIVE and that means my different SUPPORT SPACE Options are available and much more will be coming in 2022

    My first two books in the "Facing Life After Suicide" series are available on Amazon

    The website will be at www.theleftoverpieces.com

    If you, or someone you know, is struggling  with suicidal thoughts PLEASE reach out:
    The National Suicide Lifeline is there for you

    IN a crisis you can also TEXT--->
    TEXT the word "HOME" to 741741 in the USA
    in Canada TEXT 686868
    in the UK TEXT 85258

    And Grievers, I am always here. You can find me   at The Leftover Pieces

    • 18 min
    What has Helped Me the Most after Suicide Loss?; Part 2 Tools and Practices

    What has Helped Me the Most after Suicide Loss?; Part 2 Tools and Practices

    Today I go "down the rabbit hole" for Part 2 in a 3 part series called "what has helped me the most" (after the loss of my son by suicide). I know that I have talked about these topics before - and I will again - because we need to hear them often, to be reminded - to be empowered - to SURVIVE!

    The first Part 1 (Ep 2 Season 3) addressed Community and Support. Part 3 will be around Time and Self Care.  These topics are the cornerstones for survival, hope, and (eventually) healing in this life after suicide loss. Please do respond if you would like to add to these or have any input that I might include.

    Today in Part 2, I talk about 'Tools and Practices' and what that has meant (& still means) to me as a parent who will forever grieve the loss of her son. Most of what I discuss today centers around the idea that early on we find the tools that work to help us to build a 'toolkit' so that we may 'rebuild' ourselves and our life. Later, this same kit will assist when we need to do back in for 'repairs' or to the add-on, or 're-model' any part of your life. I also discuss practices (aka habits) that I have put into place.

    I have included a few links, one of which takes you to the signing up space to get started in our very own "Picking up the Pieces" Community. It's in the beginning phase so dive on in now and help to make it exactly what you need!

    _______________________________________________ 
     My website "The Leftover Pieces; Rebuilding You" is LIVE and that means my different SUPPORT SPACE Options are available and much more will be coming in 2022

    Go DIRECTLY to my SUPPORT page here where yo9u will find ALL of the ways to connect and find support

    My first two books (tools I am creating for you!)  in the "Facing Life After Suicide" series are available on Amazon

    The website again is  at www.theleftoverpieces.com

    If you, or someone you know, is struggling  with suicidal thoughts PLEASE reach out:
    The National Suicide Lifeline is there for you

    IN a crisis you can also TEXT--->
    TEXT the word "HOME" to 741741 in the USA
    in Canada TEXT 686868
    in the UK TEXT 85258

    And Grievers, I am always here. You can find me   at The Leftover Pieces

    • 34 min
    Suicide by Firearm; Two Survivors United for Change

    Suicide by Firearm; Two Survivors United for Change

    Today, I sit down with two survivors left behind after losing their loved ones to suicide. Debbie lost her father Don 12 years ago, and Adrianna's brother Luc died in May of 2017 - both died by suicide with a firearm. These ladies are both a part of the "Everytown for Gun Safety" organization - although in different roles and capacities. Their stories are meaningful and deserve an attentive listen.

    Today we discuss:
    Sibling AND Parent Suicide LossAdvocacy for Gun Safety as it relates to suicides Gun Safety initiatives, ERPO's, Education and more being done to help reduce death by firearmWhy working with other survivors like yourself, finding a COMMUNITY,  is helpful in healingYou can find "EVERYTOWN FOR GUN SAFETY" HERE
     
    to Volunteer (if you are not a survivor) Text - READY to 64433

    Want to GET INVOLVED? FIND SUPPORT?  Text SURVIVOR to 64433
    their SURVIVORS NETWORK HERE

     Debbie Weir (She/Hers, Washington DC) - Debbie is the Chief Mission Officer at Everytown for Gun Safety. She works to ensure that those in the gun violence prevention movement, whether volunteers, survivors of gun violence, or her colleagues, have a better understanding of trauma and the different (and less obvious) forms it can take. Debbie is in leadership for the organization as well as the Survivor Team and is a great representative for us. She also identifies as a survivor of gun violence - she lost her father to firearm suicide.

    Adriana Pentz (She/Hers, Sleepy Hollow, NY): Adriana is a Fellow with the Everytown Survivor Network. Adriana's brother, Luc-John, took his life with a gun on May 23rd, 2017, in Wallingford, CT.  Adriana is a volunteer on the community outreach committee of the Moms Demand Action chapter in Westchester.

    _______________________________________________________________________________

    My website "The Leftover Pieces; Rebuilding You" is LIVE and that means my different SUPPORT SPACE Options are available and much more will be coming in 2022

    My first two books in the "Facing Life After Suicide" series are available on Amazon

    The website will be at www.theleftoverpieces.com

    If you, or someone you know, is struggling  with suicidal thoughts PLEASE reach out:
    The National Suicide Lifeline is there for you

    IN a crisis you can also TEXT--->
    TEXT the word "HOME" to 741741 in the USA
    in Canada TEXT 686868
    in the UK TEXT 85258

    And Grievers, I am always here. You can find me   at The Leftover Pieces

    • 56 min
    What has Helped Me the Most after Suicide Loss?; Part 3 Time & Self Care

    What has Helped Me the Most after Suicide Loss?; Part 3 Time & Self Care

    Today I go "down the rabbit hole" for Part 3 in a 3 part series called "What has helped me the most" (after the loss of my son by suicide). I know that I have talked about these topics before - and I will again - because we need to hear them often, to be reminded - to be empowered - to SURVIVE!

    The first Part 1 (Ep 2 Season 3) addressed Community and Support. Part 2 was about Tools & Practices.  These topics are the cornerstones for survival, hope, and (eventually) healing in this life after suicide loss. Please do respond if you would like to add to these or have any input that I might include.

    Today in the final part - part 3, I talk about 'Time & Self Care' and as I say in this episode, they are both relative AND relevant in this life after loss. Time can feel like it stands still and flies by all at once. Self-care is both necessary and yet often completely evades us. I hope to offer some insight and maybe some ideas that will help you in your own journey to rebuild after your loss by suicide.

    I have included a few links, one of which takes you to the signing up space to get started in our very own "Picking up the Pieces" Community. It's in the beginning phases so I hope you will consider getting involved now and help to make it exactly what you need!

    _______________________________________________ 
     My website "The Leftover Pieces; Rebuilding You" is LIVE and that means my different SUPPORT SPACE Options are available and much more will be coming in 2022

    Go DIRECTLY to my SUPPORT page here where yo9u will find ALL of the ways to connect and find support

    My first two books (tools I am creating for you!) in the "Facing Life After Suicide" series are available on Amazon

    The website again is  at www.theleftoverpieces.com

    If you, or someone you know, is struggling  with suicidal thoughts PLEASE reach out:
    The National Suicide Lifeline is there for you

    IN a crisis you can also TEXT--->
    TEXT the word "HOME" to 741741 in the USA
    in Canada TEXT 686868
    in the UK TEXT 85258

    And Grievers, I am always here. You can find me   at The Leftover Pieces

    • 17 min
    Saving Military Lives; A Legacy to their Son

    Saving Military Lives; A Legacy to their Son

    Today I talk with the Hicks FAMILY - of #HicksStrong.​ Today I have a conversation with Jolee, Mike, and Sienna. If you have lost a child to suicide, a sibling to suicide or a family or friend in the military to suicide this episode will speak loudly to you!

    The Hicks are a warm and fun-loving family who are fiercely loyal and connected.  Just three years ago, with one child in the Navy and the other in college, things were looking up for all of them 
    ​On February 11th, 2019 they received the call that would forever change their lives.

    The person on the other end said “Mr. and Mrs. Hicks your son was found dead this morning”. Their hearts were shattered that day. They do not want other families to know this pain. They do not want our service members to feel alone…

    #HicksStrong is here to help!
    There is an overwhelming stigma, across all branches, regarding mental health in the military.Service members feel they cannot talk about their mental health difficulties without losing rank or being dishonorably discharged.They are being told to suck it up, being mistreated by their chain of command, and being mocked by peers.The mission is to SAVE MILITARY LIVES! - #HicksStrong Inc. aims to do this by linking veteran & active duty service members with confidential mental health therapists via telehealth and we cover up to 24 sessions.

    Believe in what they do and want to SUPPORT or DONATE - do so HERE

    Find a HUG MUG or other EVENT near you HERE

    Find ALL things HicksStrong HERE

    _______________________________________________ 
     My website "The Leftover Pieces; Rebuilding You" is LIVE and that means my different SUPPORT SPACE Options are available and much more will be coming in 2022

    Go DIRECTLY to my SUPPORT page here where yo9u will find ALL of the ways to connect and find support

    My first two books (tools I am creating for you!) in the "Facing Life After Suicide" series are available on Amazon

    The website again is  at www.theleftoverpieces.com

    If you, or someone you know, is struggling  with suicidal thoughts PLEASE reach out:
    The National Suicide Lifeline is there for you

    IN a crisis you can also TEXT--->
    TEXT the word "HOME" to 741741 in the USA
    in Canada TEXT 686868
    in the UK TEXT 85258

    And Grievers, I am always here. You can find me   at The Leftover Pieces

    • 1 hr 13 min

Customer Reviews

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25 Ratings

25 Ratings

ktcgman ,

Grateful

Thank you for sharing your story with us. I am listening for the first time. I have a personal connection to your guest on Season 3, Episode 12. I have known JJ and her family for over 26 years. She is truly one of the most amazing, incredible, beautiful, and kindest people that I know and have had the honor and blessing of working with. Everything she said about Eric was spot on. He was an amazing young man!
Thank you for the time and effort that you put into this amazing podcast. I lost my brother to suicide on 1/30/20. I don’t think that I have ever fully grieved his loss. Thanks to JJ, I am going to start at the beginning of your podcast and listen to them all. My heart goes out to you and your family for the loss of your son Alex.
Thank you Melissa.

MarcieDMP ,

Thankful

Finding Melissa’s podcast has been a huge help to me. We lost our daughter to suicide in April of 2022. It is tragic & unfortunate that we need sources and help like this, but we do. Melissa has great insight & is real and down to earth. I’m so thankful for the time she puts into this. MDMPP

Teenagedreamer7 ,

Leftover Pieces

This podcast has been a real help for me. It is very relatable and helps with the process of healing.

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