Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing

Choose Recovery Services - Alana Gordon and Amie Woolsey
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Choose to Be is about healing, growth, and choosing recovery after betrayal trauma, sexual addiction, and infidelity. Hosts share insights on emotional healing, authentic relationships, and the journey of rebuilding trust. Learn tools for self-compassion, integrity, and trust-building as you heal from pain and reclaim hope, peace, and connection. Alana Gordon-LMFT, CCPS, CSAT candidate, Betrayal Coach Amie Woolsey-Certified Brainspotting Practioner, Martin Warner AT Somatic Interweaves for DBR, PCP, APSATS-CPC, ELI-MP, COR.E, C-DGS ChooseRecoveryServices.com | info@chooserecoveryservices.com

  1. 7H AGO

    How Do I Keep Living When I'm in So Much Pain? - with Kim Brown

    Betrayal trauma doesn’t just hurt — it destabilizes your nervous system, your identity, and your ability to function. In this powerful episode, Alana and guest Kim Brown (Choose Recovery Services coach) talk openly about: Not wanting to exist Trauma and PTSD symptoms after betrayal Grounding tools that reduce long-term harm Choosing yourself moment by moment Borrowing hope when you can’t feel it Healing isn’t glamorous and doesn’t always feel brave, but you can heal. And you don’t have to do it alone. Chapters 02:34 Betrayal as Trauma 06:23 When Functioning Collapses 08:53 Shame and Self-Compassion 13:37 Not Wanting to Exist 16:29 Healing Is Messy 25:12 Grounding the Nervous System 29:18 Practical Tools 32:58 Borrowing Hope and Support Register Now! ✨Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women March 17th-20th, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.  🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey.   ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT.  🧘Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is May 5th-8th, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

    43 min

  2. MAR 3

    The Waiting Room: When Your Healing Becomes Conditional

    Are you waiting for your partner to “get it” before you can finally move forward? In this powerful episode, Amie and Alana unpack the metaphor of “the waiting room” — where betrayed partners often pause their own healing while hoping their partner will eventually change. You’ll learn: Why conditional healing keeps you stuck How resentment builds when effort doesn’t equal safety The role of attachment injuries Why nervous system healing must be internal How to anchor in reality and reclaim agency Chapters 01:37 The Waiting Room Concept 03:14 Getting Hit By a Truck Analogy 07:13 The Cost of Waiting 09:30 Building Resentment 11:34 Nervous System and Attachment Patterns 14:51 Creating Internal Safety 17:46 Fear of Healing Alone 20:16 Leaving the Waiting Room 23:22 Anchoring in Reality Register Now! ✨Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women March 17th-20th, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.  🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey.   ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT.  🧘Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is May 5th-8th, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

    27 min

  3. FEB 24

    Will He Ever Really Understand the Impact of His Betrayal?

    In this episode, Amie and Alana explore one of the most painful and persistent questions betrayed partners ask: Will he ever get it? They unpack: Why your nervous system wants him to shake and tremble like you didHow trying to “make him get it” can backfireThe hidden cost of waiting for him to gain insightWhy trauma is not transferable—even with remorseYou are not wrong for wanting him to understand - but your healing cannot depend on whether he does. Chapters 04:04 What Your Brain Is Really Seeking 10:00 The Brutal Truth 10:46 Pushing for Empathy 17:04 Forcing Empathy Can Backfire 20:50 How to Spot If You’re Stuck 23:53 Self-Validation  Register Now! ✨Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women March 17th-20th, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.  🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey.   ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT.  🧘Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is May 5th-8th, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to podcast@chooserecoveryservices.com.  Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

    32 min

  4. FEB 17

    Resentment Part 4: Healing Resentment Without Minimizing the Betrayal

    Resentment isn’t bitterness or weakness, and it doesn’t mean you’re failing at healing. In this conversation, we unpack how resentment develops after betrayal trauma, how it protects you from further harm, and why suppressing it can lead to emotional shutdown, hypervigilance, and loss of joy. Chapters 01:35 Understanding Anger vs. Resentment 02:37 The Roots of Resentment 04:54 Manifestations of Resentment 07:49 Instinctive Defenses and Resentment 09:32 The Traps of Resentment 13:58 Healing from Resentment Register Now! ✨Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women March 17th-20th, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope. 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce.  ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT.  🧘Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is May 5th-8th, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma.  Intensives - Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.  Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy. Learn how to embrace authenticity and vulnerability even in the face of potential rejection.

    24 min

  5. FEB 10

    Resentment Part 3: What Drives Resentment in the Partner Who Betrayed?

    Resentment doesn’t always look like anger. In addiction recovery and betrayal healing, it often shows up quietly—through defensiveness, withdrawal, or feeling controlled. In Part 3 of our Resentment series, we explore: Why sharing resentment too early can emotionally burden your partner How resentment forms underneath shame, fear, and loss of control The role of emotional containment in creating real safety Why empathy without boundaries is harmful How deeper emotional work reduces defensiveness and prevents relapse Chapters 00:24 Understanding Resentment in Recovery 02:05 Timing and Responsibility in Sharing Resentment 04:13 Containment and Emotional Regulation 06:14 Common Triggers of Resentment 06:54 Parts Work and Internal Conflicts 11:25 Empathy, Boundaries, and Emotional Maturity 22:15 Grieving and Letting Go of the Past 27:13 Benefits of Deep Emotional Work Register Now! 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey.  ✨Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women March 17th-20th, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.   ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma.  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.  Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy.

    31 min

  6. FEB 3

    Resentment Part 2: How Powerlessness and Entitlement Sabotage Healing

    Resentment doesn’t always look like anger. Sometimes it hides behind effort, silence, or “doing everything right.” In Part 2 of our Resentment series, Alana sits down with Luke Gordon to explore how powerlessness and entitlement quietly fuel resentment, especially in recovery after betrayal or compulsive sexual behavior. They unpack: Why resentment often goes unnoticed until it causes damage How silent scorekeeping creates emotional distance The link between resentment, entitlement, and relapse risk Why awareness alone isn’t enough–and what actually leads to healing Chapters 02:23 Personal Experiences with Resentment 05:32 Silent Scorekeeping 07:57 Entitlement and Passive Aggressiveness 10:47 Processing Resentment and Finding Power 15:33 Practical Steps to Address Resentment 22:09 The Journey of Healing Register Now! 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey.  ✨Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women March 17th-20th, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.   ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal.  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.  Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy. Learn how to embrace authenticity and vulnerability even in the face of potential rejection.

    29 min

  7. JAN 27

    Resentment Part 1: Hidden Resentment in Betrayal Recovery

    Healing after betrayal can feel confusing — especially when your partner is “doing everything right,” yet something still feels off. In this episode, Amie and Alana explore unspoken resentment in betrayal recovery: how resentment can exist without awareness, why it often gets denied, and how betrayed partners sense it before it’s ever named. We discuss: Why resentment doesn’t have to be felt to be acted out How shame and “good guy” identity keep resentment hidden Why partners should trust their body instead of dismissing it The difference between awareness and weaponizing emotions This is part 1 of a four-part series focused on understanding resentment without excusing harm — and without asking betrayed partners to carry what isn’t theirs. Chapters 01:55 Categories of Resentment 05:46 Importance of Awareness 08:02 Deeper Layers of Resentment 10:58 Resentment as a Protector 13:02 Managing Resentment in Relationships Register Now! 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey.  ✨Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women March 17th-20th, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.   ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to podcast@chooserecoveryservices.com.  Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma.  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Intimacy Within ⁠- Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy.

    24 min

  8. JAN 20

    Creating Internal Safety After Betrayal - with Laura Fisher

    After betrayal, safety feels impossible—especially when your partner is the one who broke it. In this episode, Alana Gordon is joined by betrayal trauma coach, Laura Fisher, to explore a powerful reframe: what if safety doesn’t start with your partner at all? Together, they unpack: Why betrayal trauma lives in the body, not just the mind How your nervous system tried to protect you long before discovery Why knowing “everything” doesn’t actually create safety How internal safety restores boundaries, trust, and decision-making Practical ways to begin feeling safer inside yourself—today Past episode with Laura: Finding Freedom in Boundaries  Attend our Courage to Thrive intensive and meet Laura! - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women March 17th-20th, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.  Chapters 04:08 Understanding Trauma Responses 08:45 The Role of the Body in Healing 14:26 Defining Safety  21:01 Voice and Choice in Healing 27:00 Boundaries, Trust, Decisions 36:39 Rewiring the Nervous System After Betrayal 44:40 Practical Steps to Create Internal Safety 52:03 The Power of Self-Talk Register Now! 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey.   ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to podcast@chooserecoveryservices.com.  Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma.  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy. Learn how to embrace authenticity and vulnerability even in the face of potential rejection.

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Choose to Be is about healing, growth, and choosing recovery after betrayal trauma, sexual addiction, and infidelity. Hosts share insights on emotional healing, authentic relationships, and the journey of rebuilding trust. Learn tools for self-compassion, integrity, and trust-building as you heal from pain and reclaim hope, peace, and connection. Alana Gordon-LMFT, CCPS, CSAT candidate, Betrayal Coach Amie Woolsey-Certified Brainspotting Practioner, Martin Warner AT Somatic Interweaves for DBR, PCP, APSATS-CPC, ELI-MP, COR.E, C-DGS ChooseRecoveryServices.com | info@chooserecoveryservices.com

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