10 episodes

For wives enduring the pain of sexual betrayal. Conversations that acknowledge the devastation of sexual betrayal through pornography addictions, unwanted sexual behaviors, and infidelity while offering practical insight and hope for healing through a Christian lens.

Equips wives to see the next steps in their recovery, and find hope in the mess of this situation. New episodes release every 2 weeks! Find additional resources at hopeforwives.com.

Hope For Wives Pam Blizzard, Lyschel Burket, Bonny Burns

    • Religion & Spirituality
    • 4.9 • 26 Ratings

For wives enduring the pain of sexual betrayal. Conversations that acknowledge the devastation of sexual betrayal through pornography addictions, unwanted sexual behaviors, and infidelity while offering practical insight and hope for healing through a Christian lens.

Equips wives to see the next steps in their recovery, and find hope in the mess of this situation. New episodes release every 2 weeks! Find additional resources at hopeforwives.com.

    Episode 10: Listener Questions about the 90-Day Sex Fast

    Episode 10: Listener Questions about the 90-Day Sex Fast

    With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com
    Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org
    Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we are answering listener questions regarding the 90-Day Sex Fast for marriages overcoming the impact of sexual betrayal and trying to build a new sexually intimate life.
    We answer:
    Under what circumstances is the fast helpful and when might it be harmful/unnecessary? How does this differ from a betrayed partner who doesn't desire physical intimacy and needs boundaries to feel safe? What if we don't make it? Do we mess everything up? Does this begin on day 1 of sobriety? Or at the start of recovery? If your spouse has been sober for a while (but not yet in recovery), is celibacy still effective/beneficial? What if you’re spouse hasn’t desired you in months, since his last slip up and therefore you’re in a forced sexual fast that wasn’t mutually planned?

    • 15 min
    Episode 9: 90-Day Sex Fast

    Episode 9: 90-Day Sex Fast

    With co-hostesses:
    Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com
    Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org
    Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com
    Today, we discuss the intimacy building experience called the 90-Day Sex Fast. It is also known as the celibacy statement or plan.

    Many couples approach this as they step into their recovery journey. We want to start the conversation about what it is, how you navigate through it, and share some of our personal experiences.

    We explore these questions:


    What is the purpose of a 90 day sex fast for her? For him? In your personal story, how did this play a part in your recovery journey? What does the couple do while in a 90 day sex fast? How can we offer hope to our listeners when it comes to 90 day sex fast? Resources mentioned:
    Recreational Inventory to Build Friendship
    A Mind Map for Sex and Porn Addiction
    Sensate Focus Youtube
    Sensate Focus pdf
    Sexual Reintegration podcast Bloom for Women
    Couple's Guide to Intimacy

    • 35 min
    Episode 8: Self Care with Practical Ideas to Care for Yourself after Discovery

    Episode 8: Self Care with Practical Ideas to Care for Yourself after Discovery

    Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives. Today we are discussing self-care. Self-care is a popular term these days for a reason. It is an important concept in our chaotic lives, especially if you are healing from the effects of unwanted sexual behavior in your marriage. Self-care refers to behaviours performed to improve your well-being, to preserve your health, or to maintain your physical and emotional stability.  For a betrayed partner, self-care if important because it helps your body build reserves in order to heal from the trauma of sexual betrayal.
    Basically, self-care helps you cope with mentally with big emotions and physically to safeguard against poor health as you heal from sexual betrayal trauma.

    Today we discuss:


    What are some myths about self-care? In your personal story, what role did self-care play? PIESS (physical, intellectual, emotional, social, and spiritual) categories of self-care with practical ideas What hope can we offer our listeners about self-care? Resources
    Emotionally Healthy Spirituality by Pete Scazzero
    Feelings Wheel - Nonviolent Communication 
    Bible Verses
    Ecclesiastes 3:1-8,"There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:
    2     a time to be born and a time to die,
        a time to plant and a time to uproot,
    3     a time to kill and a time to heal,
        a time to tear down and a time to build,
    4     a time to weep and a time to laugh,
        a time to mourn and a time to dance,
    5     a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
        a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
    6     a time to search and a time to give up,
        a time to keep and a time to throw away,
    7     a time to tear and a time to mend,
        a time to be silent and a time to speak,
    8     a time to love and a time to hate,
        a time for war and a time for peace."


    Matthew 11:28-30, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

    • 47 min
    Episode 7: Acronyms, Terms, and Definitions Surrounding Betrayal, Sexual Addiction, and Couples Recovery

    Episode 7: Acronyms, Terms, and Definitions Surrounding Betrayal, Sexual Addiction, and Couples Recovery

    With:
    Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com
    Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org
    Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we talk through the acronyms, terms, and definitions surrounding the topics of betrayal, addiction, and couples recovery.
    We will specifically focus on the middle stages of discovery and healing. You may have heard our previous episode where we discussed the early stages of recovery.
    1-3 years post disclosure/discovery.
    In a future episode, you will hear us share ac that are common in the later stages of healing.

    • 28 min
    Episode 6: Boundaries for Partners of People with Sex Addiction or Unwanted Problematic Sexual Behavior

    Episode 6: Boundaries for Partners of People with Sex Addiction or Unwanted Problematic Sexual Behavior

    Welcome to Hope for Wives. With your co-hostesses:
    Pam Blizzard from recoveredpeace.com Lyschel Burket from hoperedefined.org Bonny Burns from strongwives.com Today we are discussing how to build safety around ourselves when living with a person with problematic sexual behavior. This safety measure is oftentimes called boundaries. Boundaries are basically a way to ensure your personal values are respected. I repeat, Boundaries are basically a way to ensure your personal values are respected, in such things as sexual integrity.
    Recovered Peace Boundaries Quick Start Tip Sheet (Pam Blizzard) - Receive a Boundaries Quick Start Guide and sign up to learn about her upcoming Boundaries Course.
    Naked Truth Project - Boundaries Training
    Hope Redefined - Boundaries Support Group

    • 42 min
    Where is God in the Suffering of Sexual Betrayal Trauma?

    Where is God in the Suffering of Sexual Betrayal Trauma?

    Welcome to Hope for Wives With your co-hostesses:
    Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com
    Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org
    Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

    In coaching betrayed wives, we see that some betrayed partners lean into the Lord hard and some are tremendously angry at him.
    So, today, we are going to discuss suffering and God. Where is he in all of this?
    1. Can you pick one moment where you saw God caring for you in your suffering
    as a betrayed partner?
    2. Can you pick one moment where you were angry at God in your suffering?

    3. How is trusting God different than trusting a person?

    4. How can we offer hope to our listeners when it comes to trusting God in our
    pain?

    Romans 8:28, "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose."

    Proverbs 3:5-6, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him,
    and he will make your paths straight."

    Thank you for joining us. We hope to be a bright spot on your recovery journey. If you’d like to leave us a question or comment, please go through the contact button on our website. Also, help a friend by leaving a 5-star review on iTunes so others can find us.

    • 36 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
26 Ratings

26 Ratings

Angelique-S ,

Timely & Critical Help for Hurting Wives

I can’t thank you enough for this podcast! After what felt like the umpteenth time of discovery, my world was shattered. I was very blessed when a friend introduced me to Lyschel who introduced me to a whole community of care I had no idea existed! This podcast has been a lifesaver for me as I learn about betrayal trauma from a Faith-based perspective. My heart’s desire is to walk this road in a way that is honoring to God and because of the helpful, healing and hope-filled nature of this podcast, I feel so much better equipped to do just that.

Loretta8 ,

Such good information

I love having the 3 different women giving their perspective on each episodes’ topic . Love that these women embrace the APSATS partner betrayal trauma model and offer hope by sharing their story and educating listeners. Thanks Pam, Lyschel and Bonnie! I look forward to these podcasts

pumpkinik06 ,

Fantastic information!

Thank you for sharing your expertise, experience, and hope. This podcast is so helpful for me and has been encouraging in my journey.

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