Hope For Wives Pam Blizzard, Lyschel Burket, Bonny Burns

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com
Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org
Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com
Today, we are discussing a very tender and complicated topic. What is appropriate to disclose to your children about your husband's problematic sexual behavior?
We want to remind you that we are not therapists, we are coaches. We will be giving you what we understand as best practices. You can reach out to us for further discussion, or you can contact a licensed therapist who is APSATS certified to explore this topic. The link to the database of APSATS certified clinicians will be in the show notes.
We will be discussing
Our personal experience with navigating telling the children What is appropriate to tell the children? What hope can we leave you with? Resources
Banyan Therapy – How to Talk to Your Kids about Sex Addiction
Disclosing Sex Addiction to Children with Carley Pool and Dr. Jake Porter
APSATS Clinician Database Search 
Sex Addiction Disclosure to Children: The Parent’s Perspective
As a podcast team, we will be taking a hiatus through the holidays and well into 2023.
Thank you for your listenership this far. We value each and every one of you and pray that you are doing the hard work of recovery.
Please reach out to any of us if you have further questions or need care.

Welcome to Hope for Wives
With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com
Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org
Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com
Today, we are discussing how to handle anger in a responsible way.
Anger is a part of our make-up as human beings and God put it there. God, himself, displays anger throughout the Bible.
Anger is a part of the threat response when we face a traumatic experience. We either fight, flee or freeze. That fight part is anger.
Anger is also a part of the grief process. We are angry at the injustice of our losses.
The Christian community has a complicated relationship with anger because, let’s face it, anger is hard to navigate in a godly way.
We discuss:
What comes up for you ladies, when thinking about your own story and how anger played a part? What purpose does anger serve a betrayed wife? When is the line crossed and anger becomes a sin? What hope can we leave our listeners about anger?

Welcome to Hope for Wives
With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com
Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org
Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com
Today, we are discussing values. Values are a person's beliefs that motivate the way they behave and live out their life. They are also a guide for your behavior.
What are your definition of values? What are our personal two top values and why? How can a betrayed wife start to figure out what her values are? How are knowing your top values important for establishing boundaries? Bible References:
Matthew 6:24, "No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money."
Resources:
Redeemed Hope Intensive Healing Retreat Information
 
 

Welcome to Hope for Wives
With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com
Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org
Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com
Today, we are answering two questions that have been submitted to us in the recent months.
The questions are:
Can you give me some examples of boundaries and consequences? I really do not feel co-dependent. So, can you please answer why I want to stay and make this marriage work? Books mentioned:
Boundaries: When to Say Yes and How to Say No and Take Control of Your Life by Cloud & Townsend
Emotionally Destructive Relationship: Seeing It, Stopping It, Surviving It by Leslie Vernick

Welcome to Hope For Wives.
With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com
Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org
Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com
Today we are discussing how grief plays a part in our healing from the impact of sexual betrayal.
As I've mentioned in previous podcasts, when the main person in your life betrays you, he murders the trust you had in him. Neurologically, your brain does not know the difference between the death of a person and the death of trust. So, the same process that brings about healing from the death of a loved one is the same process that brings about healing after the death of trust. It's painful, and messy, and often times doesn't make sense.


We each give a short definition of grief. What were your personal experience with betrayal and grief? What are some ways you've seen your clients experience grief or things you've learned about grief? What practical tools and hope can we leave our friends with, especially for the ones who are fearful of the pain of grief?

Welcome to Hope for Wives
With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com
Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org
Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com 
Today, we finish our discussion revolving around trust. How do I restore trust with God?
This may sound a little different as we are having more of a conversation than just answering questions.
We will be discussing:

Our personal experiences with loss of trust with God Is it okay not to trust God? How do we hear women talk about their lack of trust with God? Scripture References:
Matthew 5
Judges 5 - 7