AskYourselfWhyNot

Ask Yourself, Why Not ?

Ask Yourself Why Not is a feel-good personal growth podcast where two friends share what they're learning from self-help books, podcasts, and their community and talk through how it actually shows up in real life. Hosted by Shaye and Jayla, AYWN is rooted in a Why Not mindset choosing curiosity over pressure, honesty over perfection, and small, supportive shifts over trying to fix yourself. This is a space for real conversations, everyday wisdom, and reminders that you're allowed to grow gently and in your own time. Come as you are. Stay as long as you need.

  1. 3d ago

    So… Here's What's Happening With Us.

    content  type Solo  primary  goal Discussion  summary In this episode, Jayla and Shay share personal updates, discuss fitness journeys, real estate ambitions, and reflect on inspiring stories about staying true to oneself and making bold decisions.  keywords self-improvement, fitness, real estate, motivation, decision-making, personal growth, Dolly Parton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, podcasting, community  key  topics The importance of conviction and having no backup plan Balancing family, work, and personal growth during summer Fitness journey and shifting to low-impact workouts Real estate licensing and opening a new studio The significance of community, culture, and environment Inspirational stories of Dolly Parton and Arnold Schwarzenegger The impact of making bold decisions and staying true to oneself Handling safety concerns around school zones and community activism The value of taking breaks and consuming content mindfully Future plans for the podcast studio and community events  sound bites "Stay true to you and make the hard decision" "All I ever wanted was to be a star and famous" "Freaking no to Elvis Presley" Chapters 00:00 Introduction and podcast return 01:57 Summer challenges and managing family and work 04:01 Fitness journey and shifting to low-impact workouts 09:07 Real estate licensing and opening a new studio 15:00 Studio branding, location, and community plans 19:50 Inspiring stories of Dolly Parton and Arnold Schwarzenegger 25:03 Community safety concerns and activism 29:56 Reflections on content consumption and personal growth 34:52 Lessons from Dolly and Arnold about conviction and decision-making 37:02 Closing remarks and future podcast plans

    So… Here's What's Happening With Us.
  2. Apr 23

    Your Routine Might Be Running You—Let's Fix That

    In this episode, Shaye and Jayla dive into the importance of regularly checking in with your routines to ensure they serve your well-being and happiness. They share practical tips on how to identify habits that may no longer benefit you and ways to make intentional changes for a more fulfilled life. Key Topics: The significance of adapting routines as life evolves Recognizing unhelpful habits and habits that no longer serve you Practical ways to reset during everyday transitions (like in line or while commuting) The role of dopamine and how to get it from healthy, meaningful sources Spring cleaning your mental space and physical environment for mental clarity The importance of connection and intentionality in daily life Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to the episode and upcoming Empower Fest event 00:58 - Details about Empower Fest Wheeling on June 27th 02:07 - How to get involved as a vendor, sponsor, or experience station 03:04 - Tips for event sponsorships and ideas like signature drinks or swag 04:30 - The theme of the episode: checking in with routines to see if they still serve us 05:28 - How routines evolve and the importance of adapting them 06:23 - Mindful coffee drinking and managing caffeine intake 07:14 - Using lunch and breaks more intentionally 08:35 - Being present during car rides and waiting in lines, disconnecting from phones 09:54 - Transition moments and how they affect stress levels and productivity 10:20 - Moving through the day without energy or mental space 11:46 - The thriving need for dopamine and avoiding instant gratification 13:00 - The brain's craving for dopamine and healthy ways to meet that need 13:58 - Connection, real food, and physical movement as sources of dopamine 14:27 - Spring cleaning for your mind and environment 15:27 - Over-scheduling and reconnecting with loved ones and yourself 15:54 - Closing encouragement to tune into what benefits your well-being Resources & Links: Mark Hyman - Brain and Dopamine (search: "Mark Hyman" on Amazon for related books) Kroger 80 Acre Salad (search your local Kroger for availability) Connect with Shaye & Jayla: Instagram Facebook

  3. Apr 16

    Hurt or Fueled? Choosing Growth When Criticism Hits

    Are you tired of feeling hurt or defensive when faced with criticism or insults? In this episode, Shaye and Jayla explore how to recognize, reframe, and leverage negative comments—whether direct or backhanded—to propel your personal and professional growth. Key topics: The significance of insults and negative feedback as signals rather than setbacks Personal stories of pivotal moments involving misunderstood or backhanded insults How to use criticism to ignite motivation and prove doubters wrong Recognizing when comments reflect others' limitations versus your potential Strategies for maintaining confidence and setting boundaries amid negativity The importance of reframing "insults" into opportunities for self-awareness Practical ways to handle unwelcome opinions: asking ChatGPT for perspective, talking with friends, or going for a walk The power of self-reflection: understanding why certain remarks sting and how to turn that into growth Overcoming imposter syndrome and societal expectations through resilience and self-trust Cultivating gratitude and redirecting energy into positive action and self-affirmation Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to turning insults into growth opportunities 00:28 - Announcing EmpowerFest Wheeling details and engagement opportunities 02:17 - Handling backhanded and unkind comments in personal life and career 03:15 - Overcoming initial feelings of insult during real estate career beginnings 04:40 - How a comment about young motherhood fueled Jayla's motivation 06:00 - Seeing criticism as a reflection of others' limitations, not personal failure 07:17 - Facing COVID-related challenges and asserting confidence in business 08:46 - Using feedback to highlight your competence, not diminish it 10:10 - Acknowledging the power of pushing through perceived limitations 11:33 - Reframing societal labels like "too much" or "all over the place" into assets 12:33 - Recognizing the value in personal routines and boundaries 13:31 - The role of others' perceptions in growth and setting boundaries 15:24 - Self-awareness, apology, and growing from accidental missteps 16:44 - The importance of understanding your communication style and energy 17:40 - Overcoming the narrative of being "too much" and embracing your full self 18:36 - Practical tools: asking ChatGPT for perspective, talking with friends, and physical movement 19:06 - Final thoughts and encouragement to embrace criticism as a growth tool   Remember, every insult or criticism can be spun into motivation. Your response defines your growth!

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Ask Yourself Why Not is a feel-good personal growth podcast where two friends share what they're learning from self-help books, podcasts, and their community and talk through how it actually shows up in real life. Hosted by Shaye and Jayla, AYWN is rooted in a Why Not mindset choosing curiosity over pressure, honesty over perfection, and small, supportive shifts over trying to fix yourself. This is a space for real conversations, everyday wisdom, and reminders that you're allowed to grow gently and in your own time. Come as you are. Stay as long as you need.