Lift + Love

Allison Dayton and the Lift and Love Team

The Lift+Love podcast is rooted in faith, family, and the conviction that all are alike unto God and that loving LGBTQ+ people is a calling to be embraced—not feared. Produced by the Lift+Love team, this podcast features topics relevant to Latter-day Saint LGBTQ+ individuals and their parents, relatives, friends, and others who are navigating this space with faith.  Across episodes, hosts from the Lift+Love team and their guests will address a variety of current topics, offer practical support, and share experiences related to LGBTQ+ issues in faith communities. Each conversation is grounded in compassion, honesty, and a commitment to keeping families connected to each other and Jesus Christ. Learn more and access free support and resources at www.liftandlove.org

  1. 2D AGO

    Disordered Eating in the LGBTQ Population - Episode 57

    Episode 57 - Disordered Eating in the LGBTQ Population  **content warning - eating disorders and eating disorder symptoms/practices, self-harm (including cutting), suicide, suicide-ideation, negative body image** Episode hosts Allison and Darice are joined by Carey Baldwin (RDN, CIEC), who shares her personal eating disorder recovery story and how it led her to specialize in outpatient eating disorder care in Denver, serving many LGBTQ clients. The conversation explains that eating disorders are serious, potentially life-threatening mental illnesses with a high mortality rate, outlines common diagnoses (anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, ARFID, and mixed presentations), and discusses why rates are especially high in LGBTQ populations. Carey cites research indicating up to 54% of LGBTQ youth report a diagnosis or suspected symptoms, nearly 9 in 10 report body dissatisfaction, and gay men—about 5% of the total population—make up roughly 45% of all men diagnosed with eating disorders; she also notes particularly high risk among non-binary and trans male youth due to dysphoria and body dissatisfaction. The hosts and Carey describe contributing factors such as stigma, discrimination, bullying, internalized shame, lack of family acceptance, and using food control as a coping mechanism, as well as the impact of diet culture and social media. They review signs parents can look for (preoccupation with weight/calories, tracking apps, eliminating food groups like carbs or sugar, overexercising, mood changes, and food avoidance) and emphasize that eating disorders do not always present in underweight bodies, noting only 6% diagnosed are medically underweight. The episode also addresses elevated risks of suicidal ideation and non-suicidal self-injury (including cutting), stating that LGBTQ youth with eating disorder history have attempted suicide rates four to six times higher than those with eating disorders alone, and explaining how malnourishment affects brain function, anxiety, depression, and isolation. Protective factors highlighted include affirming and supportive adults and family, connection at school and with peers, modeling self-compassion, proactive selection of affirming and trained providers, and seeking specialized eating-disorder treatment (therapist, dietitian, medical checkups and lab work). Carey shares an example of a parent advocating for birth control to suppress periods to reduce distress in a trans male youth, and the hosts discuss avoiding shame, approaching concerns with curiosity, and giving parents grace when symptoms are hidden. 00:00 Reuniting & Introducing Carey Baldwin (Why This Topic Matters) 01:22 Carey’s Story: From Personal ED Recovery to Dietitian Work 03:50 What Eating Disorders Are (and How Serious They Can Be) 04:57 Why EDs Hit LGBTQ Youth Hard: Stats, Body Dissatisfaction & Stress 08:50 Red Flags Parents Can Spot: Diet Culture, Restriction & Over-Exercise 11:44 Diet Culture Everywhere: Trends, Movies, Social Media & Generational Shifts 14:34 COVID Surge, Shame, and the High-Risk Link to Self-Harm/Suicidality 17:17 Starvation Brain: Anxiety, Depression, and Feeling Overwhelmed 17:52 When Restriction Drags On: The Body Under Chronic Stress 18:28 Self-Harm & Eating Disorders: Why Cutting Can Become a Coping Tool 19:27 Stop Calling It ‘Attention Seeking’: What Parents Should Watch For 21:18 Protective Factors: Support, Connection, Self-Compassion, Affirming Care 22:52 How to Intervene: Get Curious, Seek Trained ED Help, Medical Checks 25:34 Affirm Now, Learn as You Go: The Risk of Delaying Support 26:45 Proactive Healthcare Advocacy + A Puberty Distress Case Example 30:29 Parent Guilt & Hidden Struggles: Eating Disorders Don’t Always Look ‘Underweight’ 33:29 Final Takeaways: Awareness in LGBTQ Families & Why This Conversation Matters   Carey Baldwin is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist providing nutrition therapy at an outpatient eating disorder clinic in Denver, Colorado. Carey sees a diverse clientele with many who are part of the LGBTQ+ community. Carey volunteers with Lift+Love as the Support Group Coordinator and also co-lCarey Baldwin is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist providing nutrition therapy at an outpatient eating disorder clinic in Denver, Colorado. Carey sees a diverse clientele with many who are part of the LGBTQ+ community. Carey volunteers with Lift+Love as the Support Group Coordinator and also co-leads an organization in Colorado called Rainbow COnnection. Carey and her husband, Scott, are the parents of 5 adult children.  In her free time Carey enjoys time in the mountains, reading, playing tennis and quilting.eads an organization in Colorado called Rainbow COnnection. Carey and her husband, Scott, are the parents of 5 adult children.  In her free time Carey enjoys time in the mountains, reading, playing tennis and quilting.   You can contact Carey Baldwin at careyannb@gmail.com Find more resources and support for LGBTQ+ Latter-day Saints and their family, friends, allies, and leaders at www.liftandlove.org

    35 min
  2. FEB 10

    Sanctuary - A Filmmaker's Journey and Conversation - Episode 56

    Episode 56- "Sanctuary: A Filmmaker’s Journey and Conversation" with guest Autumn McAlpin Join hosts Allison Dayton, filmmaker Autumn McAlpin, and archival producer Darice Auston for an in-depth conversation about the documentary film "Sanctuary." This powerful film explores what happens when traditional religious spaces fail to provide safety for LGBTQ individuals, and how communities are reimagining sacred spaces to be truly inclusive. Autumn shares the origin story of the film—from meeting an architect who builds physical sanctuaries at Pride festivals out of recycled materials, to weaving together stories of affirming pastors, liturgists, and queer individuals seeking belonging. The documentary features scholars, faith leaders, and personal narratives that demonstrate what's possible when we intentionally create safe spaces for all people. The conversation covers: The making of the film and its powerful message about authenticity and belonging Audience reactions from screenings across the country The importance of confronting uncomfortable truths about religious harm How sanctuary can be found in people, not just places The film's dedication to lives lost, including Preston Dayton and Levi Martin Whether you're navigating faith and LGBTQ identity, supporting loved ones, or seeking to create more inclusive communities, this episode offers hope, practical insights, and a vision for what sanctuary truly means. Learn more and request screenings at sanctuarydoc.com Watch the official trailer for the Sanctuary film and find information and updates here: https://sanctuarydoc.com/ Find Spencer LaJoye's song "Plowshare Prayer" on Spotify here or watch a live performance here Read Vienna Boyes' Lift+Love Story here Learn more about the resources and support available to LGBTQ+ youth and adults, parents, relatives, friends, allies, and church leaders on the Lift+Love website here: www.liftandlove.org Video version of this podcast episode is available on Youtube here

    24 min
  3. FEB 3

    But Jesus - Episode 55

    Episode 55- "But Jesus" Episode Hosts:  Allison Dayton (Founder of the Lift+Love organization, original Lift+Love podcast co-host, parent of LGBTQ+ child) and Darice Auston (Lift+Love Director of Getting Stuff Done, Gather Director, Lift+Love Store Manager, parent of a trans child) This episode features a deeply moving conversation that episode hosts Allison Dayton and Darice Auston share with special guest storyteller Autumn McAlpin about her book, "But Jesus, A Conversation" a collection of poetic vignettes born from her experience as a mother when her teenage son came out as gay. Autumn shares how the book emerged through late-night prayers, conversations, memories, and moments of grief, love, and faith, and how it became a way to tell her family’s story. The discussion explores the spiritual and emotional impact on parents of LGBTQ+ children and the profound compassion, sensitivity, and gifts these children bring to the world. Woven throughout is a testimony of choosing both faith and family, following an inner spiritual compass, and discovering a deeper, more personal relationship with God grounded in unconditional love, inclusion, and the example of Jesus. "At 3a.m. one night during the quiet shade of the pandemic, a 17-year-old boy entered his parents’ bedroom to reveal a truth he’d been navigating alone for years. In his confession, he not only came out as gay, but also conveyed the depths of the mental health struggles he’d been battling as a result of conflicting messaging he’d endured in the religious institution in which he'd been raised. Autumn McAlpin’s haunting literary memoir, But Jesus: A Conversation replays the various conversations that emerge during one family’s coming out story—interchanges with loved ones who lean in and those who pull away, the back-and-forth with various LDS church authorities, and the quiet (and not so quiet) pleas of a mother as she petitions the higher power she believes in—one who offers unconditional love and hope for all. But Jesus: A Conversation takes us on a journey of a family deconstructing with the use of a compass and their conscience, and reconstructing with the salve that will help bind them most of all: love. With stunning cover art by J. Kirk Richards, this book is intended to offer an open shoulder for all families who find themselves at the intersection of the LDS and LGBTQ+ conflict, and for the loved ones trying to understand the complex choices they face."   You can find Autumn's book "But, Jesus - A Conversation" for sale in the Lift+Love online store here: www.liftandlove.org/books/p/but-jesus-a-conversation Learn more about artist J. Kirk Richards here: https://www.jkirkrichards.com/ Learn more about the resources and support available to LGBTQ+ youth and adults, parents, relatives, friends, allies, and church leaders on the Lift+Love website here: www.liftandlove.org

    31 min
  4. JAN 23

    Eve - Episode 53

    Episode #53: Eve Episode Hosts:  Allison Dayton (Founder of the Lift+Love organization, original Lift+Love podcast co-host, parent of LGBTQ+ child), Jenie Hunter (original Lift+Love podcast co-host, LCS certified life coach, parent of LGBTQ+ child) and Darice Auston (Lift+Love Director of Getting Stuff Done, Gather Director, Lift+Love Store Manager, parent of a trans child) In this episode of the Lift+Love podcast, Allison Dayton, Jenie, and Darice delve into the story of Eve, highlighting her courage and wisdom. They discuss how Eve's choices parallel the experiences of being an LGBTQ+ Latter-day Saint or raising LGBTQ+ children within the church. The conversation touches on faith, agency, and the challenges of navigating church teachings that often leave LGBTQ+ individuals feeling ostracized. Focusing on the complexity and uncertainty of their journey, the hosts emphasize the importance of seeking personal revelation and supporting their children in a faith-based home while addressing institutional gaps and the need for inclusive spiritual guidance.   Video version available on our Youtube channel: https://youtu.be/JBWZ9dxQPnY   Resources Mentioned: Faith Matters Podcast - (An Episode of Sanctuary, Discovering the Temple) A Deeper Look at the Creation Story with Jared Lambert https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9s8ihuPlif0 Lift and Love Podcast - Episode 3 - Healthy Sexuality and Identity in LDS Youth with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-hgjf7-f584d2 "The Two Trees" by Valerie Hudson https://www.fairlatterdaysaints.org/conference_home/august-2010/the-two-trees Elder Dallin H. Oaks, “The Great Plan of Happiness,” October 1993 General Conference https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/1993/10/the-great-plan-of-happiness?lang=eng Topic: Distinction between sin and transgression regarding Eve, explains that the transgression was a formality. Elder Patrick Kearon, “God’s Intent is To Bring You Home,” August 2024 General Confernece https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2024/04/45kearon?lang=eng Topic: "God being in relentless pursuit of you" Described as welcoming, including, not othering or excluding   Scripture References: Moses (Book of Moses) Genesis 3 The Family Proclamation (referenced in context of FSY curriculum) Connect With Us: Call the Lift+Love voicemail line (801) 382-8420 to share ideas for topics you’d like us to discuss in future episodes. Tags: #LGBTQ #LDS #Mormon #ParentingLGBTQ #Faith #Family #TransYouth #ChurchOfJesusChrist #QueerFaith #LiftAndLoveorg

    29 min
  5. JAN 20

    We're back! The Lift and Love Podcast is back

    In this episode, Allison Dayton, Jenie Hunter, and Darice Auston discuss where they in this journey and the new goals of Lift+Love.   The goal of Lift and Love is to create a space for BIG heartfelt conversations about faith, family, and the unique journeys of  LGBTQ individuals and their families in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Each week, we gather to share insights, resources, and experiences that reflect the beauty and complexity of navigating this journey offering hope and encouragement to others along the way Episode #52: We're Back! Overview: After a hiatus, the Lift+Love Podcast returns with heartfelt conversations about faith, family, and the unique journeys of LGBTQ+ individuals and their families in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Episode Hosts:  Allison Dayton (Founder of the Lift+Love organization, original Lift+Love podcast co-host, parent of LGBTQ+ child), Jenie Hunter (original Lift+Love podcast co-host, LCS certified life coach, parent of LGBTQ+ child) and Darice Auston (Lift+Love Director of Getting Stuff Done, Gather Director, Lift+Love Store Manager, parent of a trans child) Episode Topic Highlights: Our journey so far as parents of LGBTQ+ kids  Generational shifts in coming out (kids coming out younger/earlier) Parents are shifting from "problem to solve" to "person to love” The ongoing tension of balancing faith, covenants, and loving LGBTQ+ children. No clear "plan of salvation" for queer individuals in LDS doctrine Current church policies especially challenging for trans youth The constant companion of uncertainty Resources Mentioned: PFLAG https://pflag.org/find-resources/ Lift and Love monthly online support groups: https://www.liftandlove.org/support Coaching services available through Jenie @jeniehuntercoaching www.jeniehuntercoaching.com Lift+Love website www.liftandlove.org "Blessed be God...who comforted us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God." 2 Corinthians 1:3-4   Connect With Us: Call the Lift+Love voicemail line (801) 382-8420 to share ideas for topics you’d like us to discuss in future episodes. Tags: #LGBTQ #LDS #Mormon #ParentingLGBTQ #Faith #Family #TransYouth #ChurchOfJesusChrist #QueerFaith #LiftAndLove

    36 min
  6. 01/24/2024

    Staying in Uncomfortable Moments.

    Allison and Jenie sit down with Anita Ervin (host of the Lift and Love non-binary parenting support groups) and how to council with your children in the uncomfortable moments.  When we don't get a vote but we still want to be a voice in our children's decisions.  For instance, if your transgender child wants to seek medical affirming care but you might not agree with the decision.  How do you best help your child? Create emotional distance when possible (i.e. make sure I'm not speaking from a place of fear) Focus on the underlying questions rather than the specific situation. For example: Resolving relationship conflict Addressing relationship expectations Finding trustworthy medical and psychological care Making wise medical decisions 3. Use available (and reliable) resources: Reliable medical sources Trusted professionals Knowledgeable friends (when appropriate) Books (use with caution) Informative podcasts, especially those with guests who are open about their personal experiences Support groups 4. Seek divine inspiration. Heavenly Father understands the position we are in. He will not abandon us when we have the best interests of our loved ones at heart. 5. Don't be afraid to decline the opportunity to give counsel if it's too much for you. Let them know you don't feel like you are in a place that you can share insight with them about it, but that you love them and you're working to overcome your discomfort with the situation because they matter to you.   Join us for any of our free monthly Lift+Love Support Groups - link sign up at Lift+Love Support .   If you are looking to learn the tools and to get the coaching that will help your LGBTQ family thrive while gaining access to other families on this journey you can work 1:1 with Jenie at www.jeniehuntercoaching.com For additional support and help please reach out to us on our IG accounts at Lift+Love and Jenie Hunter Coaching

    44 min
4.9
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The Lift+Love podcast is rooted in faith, family, and the conviction that all are alike unto God and that loving LGBTQ+ people is a calling to be embraced—not feared. Produced by the Lift+Love team, this podcast features topics relevant to Latter-day Saint LGBTQ+ individuals and their parents, relatives, friends, and others who are navigating this space with faith.  Across episodes, hosts from the Lift+Love team and their guests will address a variety of current topics, offer practical support, and share experiences related to LGBTQ+ issues in faith communities. Each conversation is grounded in compassion, honesty, and a commitment to keeping families connected to each other and Jesus Christ. Learn more and access free support and resources at www.liftandlove.org

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