Real World Peaceful Parenting

Lisa Smith
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Are you tired of yelling at your kids? Do you sometimes feel like they don’t listen or respect you? Do you feel like the worst parent EVER? You’re not alone, there is hope!Join Lisa Smith -- Mom, Master Certified Parent Coach, Author and Speaker -- as she helps turn frustrated parents -- who regularly default to yelling, threatening and punishing -- into peaceful leaders within their households. As a former dominant parent, she has found the path to Peaceful Parenting and is dedicated to helping other parents find their way too! But be warned, this is not a “foo-foo” podcast that’s going to tell you to let your kids do whatever they want without any rules or limitations. Each week Lisa will share the exact methods and step-by-step strategies she used to transform from an angry, controlling mom who was constantly upset with her son and husband, into a calm, confident, and connected leader in her home.To connect with Lisa visit https://thepeacefulparent.com/

  1. 4d ago

    299: When Your Kid Has Big Feelings—But You Still Have to Go

    What do you do when your kid is nervous, disappointed, angry, or melting down…and you genuinely have to leave right now? In this episode, I’m clearing up one of the biggest misconceptions about peaceful parenting: honoring your kid’s feelings does not mean life has to stop until those feelings disappear. Through a real coaching story involving a nervous 6-year-old, a math tutoring appointment, three kids in the car, and one surprisingly powerful paper airplane, I’ll show you how to separate feelings from actions, determine whether the urgency is real, and regulate yourself just enough to see your next best move. Because emotional regulation isn’t teaching your kid, “I can do hard things once I feel better.” It’s teaching them, “I can feel uncomfortable and still do hard things.” That’s Real World Peaceful Parenting: strong spine, soft heart. What You'll Learn: Why honoring your kid’s feelings doesn’t mean letting those feelings make every decision—and how to hold empathy and boundaries at the same time.How to separate the feeling from the action, so your kid can be nervous and walk into school, disappointed and leave the park, or angry and turn off the screen.The “earache or code blue?” question that helps you determine whether you truly need to move quickly or your own nervous system is creating unnecessary urgency.Why fast isn’t always efficient—and how 30 seconds spent regulating yourself can sometimes prevent 20 minutes of arguing, threatening, or melting down.How to regulate yourself “enough” in real-world moments, without needing a 20-minute meditation when you’ve got a baby in the car and soccer starts in 12 minutes.How peaceful leadership builds real emotional regulation, teaching your kid that uncomfortable feelings don’t need to disappear before they can cope, choose, move forward, and do hard things.Tired of feeling like your kids are running the house (and you're just the exhausted referee)? You've yelled. You've bribed. You've tried "being calm." You've even Googled "Am I a bad parent?" at 2 a.m. Listen—you're not broken. And neither is your child. You just need a better way. 🩵 The Hive is live coaching, practical tools, and a judgment-fre

    299: When Your Kid Has Big Feelings—But You Still Have to Go

  2. Sep 23

    298: You Know What to Do—So Why Can't You Do It?

    You’ve read the books. You’ve listened to the podcasts. You know you’re supposed to regulate, connect before you correct, and respond instead of react. Then it’s 7:42 on Tuesday morning, your kid STILL doesn’t have their shoes on, and every peaceful parenting tool you’ve ever learned has apparently packed a suitcase and left town. In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, I’m breaking down what parent coaching actually does—and why knowing the tools isn’t always enough to change the patterns you keep getting stuck in. Through real coaching examples, I’ll show you why lasting change often starts before the strategy, with understanding what’s actually happening with your kid, between you, and inside you. What You'll Learn: Why knowing what to do and being able to access that knowledge when you’re triggered are two very different skills.How you can spend enormous energy solving the wrong parenting problem—and why getting curious before reaching for another tool can change everything.The three places Lisa investigates in coaching: what’s happening with your kid, what’s happening between you, and what’s happening inside you.How seemingly factual beliefs like “My kids ignore me” or “My kid doesn’t respect limits” can shape your nervous system, reactions, and the entire interaction.Why real parenting growth isn’t linear—and how noticing triggers sooner, recovering faster, repairing more quickly, and responding differently are evidence that your work is compounding.How coaching provides more than encouragement by helping you recognize patterns, challenge assumptions, practice new skills, and sometimes borrow belief and perspective until you can access them for yourself.Tired of feeling like your kids are running the house (and you're just the exhausted referee)? You've yelled. You've bribed. You've tried "being calm." You've even Googled "Am I a bad parent?" at 2 a.m. Listen—you're not broken. And neither is your child. You just need a better way. 🩵 The Hive is live coaching, practical tools, and a judgment-fre

    298: You Know What to Do—So Why Can't You Do It?

  3. Sep 16

    297: Why Your Kid Falls Apart After School

    Your kid holds it together all day at school…and then completely loses it the second they get in the car. In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, I’m breaking down what’s really happening during those after-school meltdowns. You’ll learn about the “invisible emotional backpack” your kid carries all day, why their thinking brain may be running on fumes by pickup, and why falling apart with you can actually be a sign that you are their safe place. I’ll also give you four practical steps to make the after-school transition calmer, including what to do before your kid gets in the car, why fewer questions can actually lead to more connection, and how to hold limits without adding fuel to the storm. What You'll Learn: Why your kid may seem totally fine at school and then melt down the minute they’re with you.What goes into your kid’s invisible emotional backpack throughout the day—and why carrying it takes so much energy.Why after-school meltdowns can be a sign that you are the safe place where your kid finally feels able to let go.How to stop taking the behavior personally so you don’t become dysregulated right alongside your kid.Why being the detective, not the interrogator can help you figure out whether your kid needs food, quiet, movement, space, or connection.How to use a strong spine and soft heart: understand the reason behind the behavior, hold the limit in the moment, and save the teaching for later when everyone’s brain is back online.

    297: Why Your Kid Falls Apart After School

  4. Sep 9

    296: Why “Just Put Your Phone Down” Doesn’t Work—and What Will

    Your kid can’t put their phone down…and if we’re being honest, sometimes neither can we. In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa takes a fresh look at kids, smartphones, and screen-time limits. Instead of blaming kids for lacking willpower—or declaring technology the enemy—Lisa explains why developing brains need parents to create thoughtful “governors” around technology. You’ll learn how phones can crowd out boredom, sleep, face-to-face connection, and opportunities to practice emotional regulation, plus three areas of family life Lisa believes are worth protecting. Most importantly, you’ll learn how to set limits with a strong spine and soft heart—even when your kid absolutely, positively, passionately does NOT agree. What You'll Learn: Why expecting kids to regulate their own phone use through willpower alone may be asking their developing brains to do an incredibly difficult job.How to think about technology limits as a “governor” that protects your kid rather than a punishment for doing something wrong.Why boredom, waiting, awkwardness, and discomfort are valuable opportunities for kids to develop emotional regulation and real-world social skills.The difference between using a phone as one regulation tool and allowing it to become the entire emotional-regulation toolbox.Three places to consider protecting from phones—sleep, the family table, and intentional empty space—and why each matters.How to hold a healthy phone boundary with a strong spine and soft heart, while also examining the technology habits you’re modeling for your kid.Tired of feeling like your kids are running the house (and you're just the exhausted referee)? You've yelled. You've bribed. You've tried "being calm." You've even Googled "Am I a bad parent?" at 2 a.m. Listen—you're not broken. And neither is your child. You just need a better way. 🩵 The Hive is live coaching, practical tools, and a judgment-fre

    296: Why “Just Put Your Phone Down” Doesn’t Work—and What Will

  5. Sep 2

    295: Stop Labeling, Start Investigating: How to Really See Your Kid

    “He’s lazy.” “She’s dramatic.” “He’s irresponsible.” “She’s just difficult.” Sometimes there is a real pattern underneath those thoughts—but there’s a huge difference between noticing something your kid struggles with and deciding that struggle is who they are. In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, I’m digging into the labels we consciously and unconsciously put on our kids, how confirmation bias keeps us collecting evidence that proves those labels “right,” and how our beliefs change the way we show up as parents. I’ll share how I labeled Malcolm as lazy for years, what I was completely missing because of that belief, and how curiosity helped me reopen the case. You’ll walk away with three practical questions to help you stop parenting the label and start seeing the developing kid standing right in front of you. What You'll Learn: The critical difference between describing a struggle your kid is having and turning that struggle into an identity.How confirmation bias causes your brain to collect evidence supporting labels like “lazy,” “dramatic,” or “irresponsible”—while conveniently ignoring evidence that doesn’t fit.Why the beliefs you hold about your kid affect who you become when you parent them, from yelling and lecturing to hovering, rescuing, and micromanaging.How Lisa’s belief that Malcolm was “lazy” kept her from seeing important clues about his motivation, interests, task initiation, and the support he actually needed.Why even positive labels like “the smart one,” “the responsible one,” or “the athlete” can unintentionally box a kid into an identity they feel pressured to maintain.Three detective questions that will help you reopen the case, collect all the data, challenge what you think you already know, and leave room for your kid to grow and show you who they’re becoming.

    295: Stop Labeling, Start Investigating: How to Really See Your Kid

  6. Aug 26

    294: What Are You Making It Mean? How Your Thoughts Shape Your Parenting

    Your kid rolls their eyes, forgets their backpack, ignores your reminder, or responds with a teenage “fine”—and suddenly your brain has written an entire screenplay about what it means. They’re lazy. They don’t respect me. They’ll never be responsible. I’m losing connection. But what actually happened…and what are you making it mean? In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, I’m showing you how quickly our brains turn a kid’s behavior into a story—and how those stories can trigger fear, urgency, judgment, and reactions we later regret. You’ll learn how to separate the facts from the thoughts your brain serves up, question the labels you’ve unconsciously attached to your kid, and create just enough space to respond to the kid who’s actually standing in front of you. Because you don’t have to believe everything you think. What You'll Learn: How to recognize the difference between what your kid actually did and the story your brain created about what it means.Why labels like “lazy,” “disrespectful,” and “irresponsible” can shut down curiosity and change the way you show up with your kid.How your brain can turn uncertainty into a perceived threat—and send you spiraling from one forgotten worksheet to worrying about your kid at 25.The powerful question “What am I making this mean?” and how it can interrupt your automatic reactions.How to tell the difference between useful preparation and fear-based future thinking: preparation gives you something to do; fear gives you dread.How adding four simple words—“I’m having the thought that…”—can create that critical half-inch of space between your story and your reaction, so you can get curious and respond to what your kid actually needs.Tired of feeling like your kids are running the house (and you're just the exhausted referee)? You've yelled. You've bribed. You've tried "being calm." You've even Googled "Am I a bad parent?" at 2 a.m. Listen—you're not broken. And neither is your child. You just need a better way. 🩵 The Hive is live coaching, practical tools, and a judgment-fre

    294: What Are You Making It Mean? How Your Thoughts Shape Your Parenting

  7. Aug 19

    293: Running on Empty? The Parenting Cost of Not Resting

    Back-to-school season brings new schedules, new activities, new forms, and approximately 4,732 new things for parents to remember. But before you ask whether your kid is ready, Lisa wants you to ask a different question: Is your tank full enough for what’s coming? In this episode, Lisa challenges the belief that rest has to be earned after everything else is done. She explains why rest isn’t a reward—it’s fuel—and how your capacity directly affects your ability to stay calm, curious, and connected with your kid. You’ll learn how to identify the beliefs that make resting feel uncomfortable, redefine what “real rest” looks like, and start building small “water stations” into your day before your tank hits empty. What You'll Learn: Why rest is fuel, not a reward, and what your car’s gas tank can teach you about caring for your own nervous system.How running on empty shrinks the space between your kid’s behavior and your reaction—and makes peaceful parenting tools harder to access.Why slowing down and resting can actually make you more focused and efficient, rather than putting you further behind.How guilt, anxiety, nervous energy, and the belief that “I should be doing something” can make rest feel anything but restful.The difference between rest and distraction, plus how to discover what genuinely refuels your nervous system.How to create simple five-minute “water stations” throughout your day—and model for your kid that taking care of yourself is a normal part of being human.

    293: Running on Empty? The Parenting Cost of Not Resting

  8. Aug 12

    292: Open the Box: How Play Creates Connection with Hootenanny Games' Whitney Kimerling

    What if one of the most powerful parenting tools wasn't another script, consequence, or strategy... but a simple board game? In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa sits down with Whitney Kimerling, founder of Hootenanny Games, to explore how something as simple as putting a game on the table can strengthen family relationships, build emotional resilience, and create the kind of connection every parent wants with their kid. Together, they discuss why games naturally help kids open up, how they teach emotional regulation, confidence, communication, and resilience, and why connection often happens when we stop trying so hard to make it happen. Whether you have 15 minutes after dinner or you're looking for a new family tradition, this episode will inspire you to unplug, laugh together, and discover that sometimes the simplest moments become the most meaningful memories. Find Hootenanny Games on Instagram! What You'll Learn: Why family games create deeper connection than many traditional "heart-to-heart" conversations.How games help kids build emotional regulation, resilience, confidence, and problem-solving skills in a fun, low-pressure way.The surprising benefits of cooperative games for reducing sibling conflict and encouraging teamwork.Simple ways to start a family game night—even if you're busy, overwhelmed, or don't consider yourself a "game family."How games help kids naturally practice winning, losing, frustration, patience, and communication in a safe environment.Why sometimes all you have to do is open the box to create laughter, connection, and lifelong family memories.Tired of feeling like your kids are running the house (and you're just the exhausted referee)? You've yelled. You've bribed. You've tried "being calm." You've even Googled "Am I a bad parent?" at 2 a.m. Listen—you're not broken. And neither is your child. You just need a better way. 🩵 The Hive is live coaching, practical tools, and a judgment-fre

    292: Open the Box: How Play Creates Connection with Hootenanny Games' Whitney Kimerling
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Are you tired of yelling at your kids? Do you sometimes feel like they don’t listen or respect you? Do you feel like the worst parent EVER? You’re not alone, there is hope!Join Lisa Smith -- Mom, Master Certified Parent Coach, Author and Speaker -- as she helps turn frustrated parents -- who regularly default to yelling, threatening and punishing -- into peaceful leaders within their households. As a former dominant parent, she has found the path to Peaceful Parenting and is dedicated to helping other parents find their way too! But be warned, this is not a “foo-foo” podcast that’s going to tell you to let your kids do whatever they want without any rules or limitations. Each week Lisa will share the exact methods and step-by-step strategies she used to transform from an angry, controlling mom who was constantly upset with her son and husband, into a calm, confident, and connected leader in her home.To connect with Lisa visit https://thepeacefulparent.com/

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  • Creator
    Lisa Smith
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    301
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Real World Peaceful Parenting
  • Show Website
    Real World Peaceful Parenting

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