Starve the Ego Feed the Soul

Nico Barraza

A podcast covering everything about the most important subject you'll ever study, yourself. Real people, real conversations, discussing the real things that matter. Tune in for your weekly dose of introspection. Please send all inquiries to coaching@nicobarraza.com

  1. 2d ago

    Why Brain Injuries Change You And How To Heal with Dr. Eliza Sampey PT, DPT

    We sit down with our friend Dr. Eliza Sampey, a physical therapist and former pro bikepacking racer, to tell the unglamorous truth about concussion and TBI recovery when you lose sport, stability, and parts of your identity overnight. We connect the physiology of brain injury to the lived reality of sensory overload, emotional swings, broken support systems, and the slow work of building a functional life again.  Link to Liz's work and you can connect with her on social through here too https://elizasampey.com/ • Liz’s path from lifelong adventure athlete to PT and concussion specialist for endurance athletes  • What bikepack racing demands and why self-sufficiency matters after injury  • How a single crash can create amnesia plus long-term symptoms without loss of consciousness  • The neurometabolic cascade and why the brain hits an energy crisis  • Five key systems that get disrupted: autonomic, metabolic, neck, oculomotor, vestibular  • Why people “look fine” while daily tasks like stores, screens, and driving become brutal  • What caregivers can do early: reduce load, take over basics, encourage brain breaks  • How isolation and lack of validation can worsen mental health during recovery  • Why early intervention from a concussion-literate provider predicts better outcomes  • What persistent symptoms can mean and how rehab can still work years later  • How we think about CTE risk, repeated head injuries, and proactive brain health  • Where Liz works, who she helps, and what virtual rehab and mentorship looks like  If this episode resonates with you in any way, please share it. Please consider sharing on your social media, send it in a group text, send it to your coworkers, send it to your family, your friends, your kids. And also please leave the show a five-star written review.  Support the show Warmly, Nico Barraza @FeedTheSoulNB www.nicobarraza.com

  2. Oct 9

    Building Real Accountability with Vanessa Bennett LMFT, RYT

    We reconnect with Vanessa Bennett to talk about rebuilding life after wildfire loss, moving to Costa Rica with a young child, and what it takes to create real community when your nervous system is fried. We also get brutally honest about accountability, shame, and why desire alone does not equal relationship capacity.  • moving abroad as a family and choosing a bilingual education  • compassion fatigue after trauma and pulling back to heal  • rent gouging, ethics, and the stories people tell to avoid accountability  • parenting through the shame stage and separating behavior from identity  • conflict patterns, defensiveness, and setting boundaries without cruelty  • nervous system alignment as a predictor of compatibility  • desire versus capacity and what change actually requires  • reciprocal care, gift economy thinking, and letting misaligned relationships fade  • Vanessa’s work, The Motherhood Myth, and the Intercompass Academy depth psychology training  stick around, leave the show a five-star written review on Apple and Spotify.  please share the episode if it aligns with you and resonates with you in any way.  Check out Vanessa's Inner Compass Academy here: https://www.vanessabennett.com/inner-compass-academy Buy her book here: https://www.amazon.com/Motherhood-Myth-Reimagining-Expectations-Partnership/dp/1649633416 Support the show Warmly, Nico Barraza @FeedTheSoulNB www.nicobarraza.com

  3. Sep 10

    Lessons On Grief with Cassidie Carmen Bates, MPP

    We talk with grief researcher and bereavement policy specialist Cassidie Carmen Bates about why most workplaces are not built for loss, even though grief affects the brain, body, and performance. We unpack what “grief-informed” support looks like in real companies, and how better bereavement leave can improve retention while also protecting employees in their hardest season.  Links to Cassidie's work: https://www.cassidiecarmenbates.com/ https://www.thesoulexecutor.com/ Topics covered during the show: • why Cassidie moves from public policy into grief research after losing her dad at 25  • what “grief-informed” bereavement leave means beyond paid time off  • the US bereavement leave landscape and why many workers get about three unpaid days  • how manager training and workplace culture shape a bereaved employee’s experience  • employee loyalty and retention when companies support the acute phase of grief  • what goes wrong when leaders are dismissive and how that harm sticks  • the executor burden and how estate responsibilities can delay grieving  • grief in the body, delayed responses, and why compartmentalizing is not sustainable  • how Cassidie balances lived experience with research objectivity  • a gentle framework for what can actually help someone who is grieving  As always, if you guys dig the episode, if you dig any of the episodes, please leave Starve the Ego, Feed the Soul, a five-star written review on Apple and Spotify Podcasts. If you could do both, that'd be lovely.  Support the show Warmly, Nico Barraza @FeedTheSoulNB www.nicobarraza.com

  4. Aug 10

    What Actually Changes A Person with Gloria Brun Del Rey

    You can feel it when someone is performing for the internet and you can feel it when someone is telling the truth. That’s why I wanted to sit down with Gloria Brun Del Rey, a 23-year-old creator from Switzerland who went from a brutal personal low point to posting one honest video every day and quickly building a huge community around meaning, purpose, and self-awareness. She’s also a Swiss military veteran and a former psychology student, which adds a grounded edge to the way she talks about “energy” and the law of attraction. We get into what actually changes a person: solitude, loss, and the decision to stop hedging. Gloria shares how hitting rock bottom pushed her to trust her instincts, follow small impulses, and create without chasing an outcome. I also share my own perspective on “laws of the universe,” grief, and why love can feel like a real force you can’t fully measure, especially after losing someone you shared your life with. We talk about the mental habit of labeling events as good or bad, how that label lives inside us, and how accountability can give your life back to you. You’ll also hear practical guidance that’s simple and hard: spend more time alone, sit in silence, stop feeding your mind constant input, and see what rises to the surface when you’re not distracted. If you’ve been craving clarity, authenticity, mindfulness, or a healthier relationship with social media, this one will meet you where you are. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review with the biggest idea you’re taking into your week. Check her out on Instagram @GloriaDelRe and on YouTube youtube.com/@gloriadelre? Support the show Warmly, Nico Barraza @FeedTheSoulNB www.nicobarraza.com

  5. Mar 10

    Facing The Afterlife Question

    What if admitting “I don’t know” about the afterlife could make you more alive today? We dive into the stories humans tell about death—why they comfort us, how they guide behavior, and where they can quietly limit our courage. With warmth and honesty, I explore the tug-of-war between the need for certainty and the deeper call to live, love, and serve without cosmic guarantees. We start with the big questions: do we believe in heaven because it’s true or because our brains fear annihilation? I share current stats on U.S. and global belief, then unpack terror management theory to show how minds chase symbolic immortality—children, legacies, doctrines—when mortality shows up. We examine the desire for justice beyond the grave, the ache to see loved ones again, and how cultural upbringing can harden into a script we stop questioning. Along the way, I talk candidly about my own path: raised Catholic, still drawn to community and song, but choosing humility over certainty about miracles and metaphysics. From Christianity and Islam’s heaven and hell to Buddhism and Hinduism’s reincarnation to modern ideas of energy returning to the universe, we map the range of afterlife models and what they reveal about human needs. I share why I ground my spirituality in love experienced here—soul-level connection, service, tenderness—rather than promises of reward later. The point isn’t to strip meaning; it’s to deepen it. If death might be an end, every moment becomes more urgent, every breath more sacred, every act of kindness more real. You’ll leave with practical questions to test your beliefs, a gentler relationship with uncertainty, and a renewed focus on what you can choose now: presence, honesty, and love. If this conversation sparks something—hope, discomfort, curiosity—lean in. Subscribe, share with a friend who loves big questions, and leave a review with one belief you’re rethinking today. Support the show Warmly, Nico Barraza @FeedTheSoulNB www.nicobarraza.com

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A podcast covering everything about the most important subject you'll ever study, yourself. Real people, real conversations, discussing the real things that matter. Tune in for your weekly dose of introspection. Please send all inquiries to coaching@nicobarraza.com

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