Dementia Discussions

Barbara Hament
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A monthly podcast about dementia. Join your host, Barbara Hament every 2nd Tuesday of the month, as she interviews medical professionals, caregivers, and various experts on how to better understand and cope with this challenging and complex disease.

  1. DEC 17

    The Soul Doesn’t Get Dementia: Connecting Beyond Words in Caregiving

    In this episode, I sit down with dementia counselor, educator, and author Tami Anastasia for a deeply meaningful conversation about what really drives behavior in dementia care. We go beyond surface-level symptoms and talk about the powerful role personal history, emotional patterns, and past trauma play once the brain can no longer filter or suppress them. This is one of those conversations that can completely change how you see dementia caregiving. Tami joins me to discuss her newest book, Dementia Caregiving & Personal History: How to Help Cope, Connect, and Heal, and why this journey—painful as it is—can also be an opportunity for healing for both caregivers and those living with dementia. We explore how connection replaces correction, why the soul does not get dementia, and how caregivers can respond with empathy, reassurance, and boundaries instead of guilt Episode Highlights:  [0:00] – When words fail, how caregivers can still connect by speaking to the soul  [1:26] – Introducing Tami Anastasia and her work in dementia counseling and education  [3:27] – Why dementia behaviors often connect to unresolved personal history  [6:45] – How past trauma resurfaces when coping mechanisms disappear  [9:01] – Caring for someone who didn’t take care of you—and setting boundaries  [12:11] – Using personalized language to reduce agitation and fear  [16:16] – Honoring identity and work history in dementia care  [19:02] – Caregiver guilt, grief, and the emotional weight of placement decisions  [24:23] – Fear-based family histories and nighttime paranoia  [29:16] – Personality traits intensifying as dementia progresses  [31:56] – Listening to emotional themes, not just words  [34:56] – The power of non-verbal connection when language breaks down  [38:01] – Giving caregivers permission to acknowledge their limits  [40:05] – How to find Tami’s books and upcoming audiobook release  Links & Resources:  Tami Anastasia's Book Dementia, Caregiving, and Personal History: How to Help, Cope, Connect, and Heal: https://a.co/d/4qoXZ2d  Do you have a caregiving story to share? Barbara would love to hear from you! Please leave her a message at 310-362-8232 or send her an email through DementiaDiscussions.net. If you found value in today's episode, please don't forget to rate, follow, share, and leave a review. Your feedback helps us reach more listeners and continue producing this content.

    43 min

  2. NOV 5

    When Words Fade: Christine's Story of Love, Loss, and Adaptation

    In this heartfelt episode of Dementia Discussions, I sit down with Christine, a member of my Alzheimer's Los Angeles caregiver support group and a wife navigating the difficult journey of her husband Steve's early-onset dementia. Christine and I talk about their 46-year marriage, how his brilliant legal career slowly unraveled, and the emotional toll that comes with losing the person you love in pieces. Christine shares her personal reflections with honesty, humor, and wisdom. From the early warning signs she didn't recognize, to the agonizing process of telling their adult children and his law firm, to letting go of the life they once knew—Christine brings us into the deeply personal and complex world of caregiving. If you're a spouse, partner, or family caregiver, this episode is full of truths you’ll likely recognize and encouragement you didn’t know you needed. Episode Highlights:  [0:40] - Meet Christine and hear how she and Steve met at debate camp as teenagers  [2:20] - A young love story and a 46-year marriage built on intellect and conversation  [5:13] - Early signs of cognitive decline during COVID and the initial diagnosis  [10:15] - The emotional toll of hiding the diagnosis from family and Steve's law firm  [13:55] - Steve's resignation and the loss of identity that came with it  [16:55] - Language loss, isolation, and grief within the marriage  [22:31] - Comparing dementia caregiving to a marathon and facing unpredictable hurdles  [25:14] - The driving dilemma and setting boundaries for safety  [29:47] - How caregiving affects patience, control, and old communication habits  [34:01] - Traveling with someone with dementia and adapting routines  [39:26] - Christine's coping tools: painting, music, exercise, and alone time  [42:02] - Recommended reads: Travelers to Unimaginable Lands and Loving Someone Who Has Dementia  [44:34] - Ambiguous loss and grieving someone who is still here  [45:52] - Financial challenges and the burden of full responsibility  [48:49] - Drawing lines for when to seek help or facility care  [52:15] - Silver linings: finding support in adult children and reclaiming time for herself  [56:18] - Learning to ask for help and connect with others in vulnerable moments Do you have a caregiving story to share? Barbara would love to hear from you! Please leave her a message at 310-362-8232 or send her an email through DementiaDiscussions.net. If you found value in today's episode, please don't forget to rate, follow, share, and leave a review. Your feedback helps us reach more listeners and continue producing this content.

    59 min
  3. Dementia, Caregiving & Exit Strategies: A Conversation with Madeline Jaye

    SEP 17

    Dementia, Caregiving & Exit Strategies: A Conversation with Madeline Jaye

    This week on Dementia Discussions, I sit down with someone very close to my heart—my childhood best friend, Madeline Jaye. We reconnected after many years, and I was deeply moved to learn that she’s been navigating her own journey as a caregiver to her mother, Bonnie, who now lives with Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia. Madeline doesn’t just share her caregiving story—she’s also transformed her experience into a one-woman play that’s as hilarious as it is heartbreaking. In this episode, Madeline and I reflect on what it means to care for someone who didn’t always care for you, how humor can be a powerful coping mechanism, and the complexity of aging, memory loss, and family dynamics. You’ll hear about the signs she missed, the chaos she uncovered, and the incredibly creative outlet that helped her process it all. Whether you're a caregiver, a theater lover, or simply someone interested in the raw truths of dementia, this conversation will stay with you. Episode Highlights:  [1:43] Reconnecting with Madeline and discovering her caregiving story  [3:15] When the signs started—how Bonnie's independence masked memory loss  [5:27] Understanding “cognitive reserve” and its role in delaying diagnosis  [7:50] The pivotal moment when Madeline confronted her mom  [10:36] Navigating testing, early resistance, and inconclusive results  [12:53] Bonnie’s home life and hygiene—early warning signs surface  [17:41] The uphill battle of introducing help and home care  [20:04] Strategies and resistance to caregiving support  [23:40] Learning to separate the disease from the person  [26:17] How Madeline’s play came to life—and the powerful message behind it  [34:56] Playing every character in a solo performance  [35:26] Humor in the heartbreak—yes, there’s bacon in the dish cabinet  [39:27] Managing Bonnie’s bills, hoarding, and household neglect  [44:36] The overwhelming task of stepping into her mom’s financial chaos  [47:05] What made it into the play—and what may come next  [48:17] Why writing became Madeline’s most powerful coping tool  [50:01] Where and when to catch Dementia and Other Exit Strategies live [51:22] Reflecting on Bonnie—the dynamic woman we both knew  Links & Resources: Madeline Jaye's Play Info: Dementia and Other Exit Strategies September 26 & 27 at IRT Theater, 154 Christopher Street, NYCInstagram: @madjmovesDo you have a caregiving story to share? Barbara would love to hear from you! Please leave her a message at 310-362-8232 or send her an email through DementiaDiscussions.net. If you found value in today's episode, please don't forget to rate, follow, share, and leave a review. Your feedback helps us reach more listeners and continue producing this content.

    53 min

  4. SEP 11

    A Son’s Devotion — Steve Lavapies on Navigating Caregiving, Decline, and Connection

    I’m honored to welcome Steve Lavapies, a devoted son and a thoughtful member of one of our UCLA caregiver support groups. Steve shares the deeply personal journey of caring for his mother, a brilliant and resilient woman who immigrated to the U.S., became a physician, and faced a long and complex decline due to physical illness and dementia. In this episode, Steve opens up about the realities of caregiving as an only child, the emotional and logistical weight of moving his mom through assisted living, memory care, and ultimately hospice. We talk about guilt, grief, resilience, and the hard but beautiful truth that connection, even in decline, is possible. Episode Highlights: [1:20] - Introducing Steve, a fellow UCLA support group member and caregiver for his mom  [2:31] - A portrait of Steve’s mom before dementia—her bold immigration story and medical career  [4:33] - Moving to LA to be closer to family and transitioning into assisted living  [6:27] - Early physical decline and recognizing the signs of needing more care  [8:39] - The beginning signs of cognitive decline during the pandemic  [12:10] - A shocking moment during cognitive testing and a mindset shift in caregiving  [14:15] - Navigating caregiving solo as an only child  [18:59] - Dealing with facility limitations, caregiver compatibility, and daily oversight  [20:46] - When her sharp personality began to fade, and what Steve missed about it  [25:06] - The transition to memory care—logistics, emotion, and adaptation  [29:46] - Watching physical abilities diminish, and the bittersweetness of presence  [33:28] - The parallels between dementia care and parenting, and giving yourself permission to rest  [35:49] - The fall that changed everything and led to hospice care  [41:46] - Experiencing grief, guilt, and—eventually—relief  [44:15] - The value of support groups and shared stories in the caregiving journey  [47:18] - The moment of recognition in community—“We had the same mother!”  [48:13] - Reflecting on Steve’s strength, his mother’s legacy, and the healing power of story Links & Resources: Visit the podcast website: https://dementiadiscussions.netCall Barbara directly at 310-362-8232If this episode touched you or helped you feel a little less alone, please consider rating, following, sharing, and reviewing the podcast. Your support makes a world of difference, and helps this community of caregivers continue to grow. Thank you so much for listening, and I’ll see you next time on Dementia Discussions. 💙

    50 min

  5. AUG 14

    Caring Through Chaos: Lorena Llamas' Journey as a Daughter and Caregiver

    Welcome back to Dementia Discussions. In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with my dental hygienist, Lorena Llamas, who opens up about a deeply personal journey—caring for her beloved father, recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. What started as small, everyday memory lapses soon led Lorena down a path of advocacy, navigating doctors, family dynamics, and the emotional rollercoaster of watching a parent change before your eyes. Lorena shares tender stories about her dad's lively spirit, his close bond with family, and how a recent family cruise turned into a powerful wake-up call about the realities of dementia. We talk about everything from medical advocacy and caregiver burnout to finding humor in the hard moments and the importance of social connection. This conversation is full of heart, wisdom, and the kind of real talk that caregivers everywhere will relate to. Episode Highlights:  [2:06] - Lorena introduces her father, a hardworking man with a big heart and a history of resilience.  [3:34] - The first signs of memory loss and how repeated questions raised red flags.  [6:33] - Struggles with getting a diagnosis and advocating through medical skepticism.  [10:50] - Family dynamics and the neurologist’s push for more frequent interaction.  [14:15] - Sweet memories and painful moments of forgetfulness begin to unfold.  [16:54] - A cruise trip becomes a wake-up call: wandering, confusion, and safety concerns.  [20:47] - The challenges of tracking and protecting a loved one with dementia.  [28:00] - Public outbursts, constant apologies, and navigating loss of social filters.  [36:11] - Lorena’s concerns about her mom’s emotional and physical toll as the primary caregiver.  [39:10] - Exploring adult day programs and activity options for increased socialization.  [43:44] - Watching long-term memory fade: the heartbreaking loss of a signature.  [49:26] - Coping through humor, family support, and holding on to moments of joy.  Do you have a caregiving story to share? Barbara would love to hear from you! Please leave her a message at 310-362-8232 or send her an email through DementiaDiscussions.net. If you found value in today's episode, please don't forget to rate, follow, share, and leave a review. Your feedback helps us reach more listeners and continue producing this content.

    57 min

  6. JUL 17

    Navigating Dementia with Compassion and Clarity: A Candid Talk with Dr. Miriam Winthrop

    Welcome back to Dementia Discussions! I’m so grateful to be back with you after a bit of a hiatus, and today’s episode is a truly meaningful one. I sit down with Dr. Miriam Winthrop, an adult and geriatric psychiatrist whose compassionate approach and wealth of knowledge make her a true gem in the dementia care world. We open up about the recent California fires that disrupted both our lives and how trauma and caregiving intersect, especially in these unpredictable times. This conversation dives deep into the emotional, medical, and behavioral complexities of dementia. Dr. Winthrop shares how she supports individuals from the early signs of cognitive decline to the later stages of dementia, helping both patients and their families manage symptoms, medication, and caregiving strategies. Whether you’re navigating a new diagnosis or have been caregiving for years, this episode offers insight, validation, and practical tools for every step of the journey. Timeline Summary [1:33] – Introducing Dr. Miriam Winthrop and reconnecting after the LA fires [6:37] – How patients find their way to a geriatric psychiatrist and the signs of prodromal dementia [10:24] – The complexity of diagnosing mild cognitive impairment (MCI) [15:43] – Understanding MCI, psychiatric symptoms, and the role of early treatment [18:58] – Leqembi and considerations around early intervention and clinical trials [21:28] – Aricept, Namenda, and their behavioral uses in dementia care [28:15] – Behavioral challenges in moderate dementia and non-medication strategies [31:39] – Communicating creatively with loved ones using the DARE method [36:20] – What causes delirium and how to spot it in dementia patients [40:19] – The emotional toll and shifting family dynamics in the middle to later stages [45:41] – Acceptance, letting go of expectations, and redefining “normal” [47:57] – Medication tapering and palliative care considerations in late-stage dementia [51:57] – When hospice is involved and the importance of rational medication management   Do you have a caregiving story to share? Barbara would love to hear from you! Please leave her a message at 310-362-8232 or send her an email through DementiaDiscussions.net. If you found value in today's episode, please don't forget to rate, follow, share, and leave a review. Your feedback helps us reach more listeners and continue producing this content.

    54 min

  7. JAN 9

    Alzheimer’s Caregiving: A Journey of Love, Patience, and Resilience

    Welcome to the first episode of season three of Dementia Discussions! In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with Charlene, a dedicated caregiver navigating the emotional and practical challenges of supporting her sister-in-law with Alzheimer’s. Charlene brings a unique perspective as a sister-in-law and sibling, sharing deeply personal stories about her family's journey through this devastating disease. We explore the complexities of caregiving, from handling denial and family dynamics to managing difficult conversations and making tough decisions. Charlene’s resilience, compassion, and humor shine through as she offers practical tips, emotional insights, and a dose of inspiration for anyone on a caregiving journey. This conversation is a powerful reminder that even in the hardest moments, there is love, laughter, and hope. Episode Highlights: [0:00] - Charlene shares her caregiving mantra: D.A.R.E. (Don’t Argue, Reason, or Explain). [0:41] - Barbara welcomes Charlene and introduces her caregiving journey. [5:59] - The early signs of Alzheimer’s: identifying memory issues and the challenge of family denial. [10:46] - The driving dilemma: taking away keys and navigating emotional fallout. [15:09] - Strengthening family bonds and maintaining a united front in caregiving. [19:50] - Addressing the role of denial in Alzheimer’s diagnoses and caregiving. [27:05] - Stories of wandering: handling safety concerns and learning to adapt. [34:42] - The need for outside help: hiring caregivers and planning for future care. [35:39] - Charlene’s self-care strategy: the power of a “three-hour vacation.” [39:26] - Building a support network and the importance of acceptance in caregiving. [45:24] - Creative caregiving solutions: using scrapbook projects and games to connect. [48:24] - Patience and compassion: navigating daily challenges with grace.  Do you have a caregiving story to share? Barbara would love to hear from you! Please leave her a message at 310-362-8232 or send her an email through DementiaDiscussions.net. If you found value in today's episode, please don't forget to rate, follow, share, and leave a review. Your feedback helps us reach more listeners and continue producing this content.

    51 min

  8. 12/12/2024

    Navigating Love and Loss: A Caregiver's Tale of Resilience with Andrew Bloomenthal

    In this poignant episode, I sit down with Andrew Bloomenthal, a writer and caregiver, to delve into his heartfelt story about navigating his father’s journey with Parkinson’s-related dementia. Andrew’s article in Boston Magazine struck a chord with readers, and today he joins us to share the deeply personal moments that shaped his caregiving experience. From navigating family dynamics to finding moments of levity and grace in the midst of confusion, Andrew’s story is one of resilience, vulnerability, and love. This episode is a testament to the strength of caregivers and the unbreakable bonds of family.    Episode Highlights: [2:18] - Andrew introduces his father, a compassionate personal injury lawyer with a zest for life and a talent for music, photography, and exercise.  [6:03] - The early signs of cognitive decline and the emotional hurdles of recognizing and addressing them.  [11:54] - Andrew reflects on the difficulties of maintaining patience and how caregivers commonly experience this challenge.  [16:22] - Struggles with medication compliance and how moving to an assisted living facility eased those challenges.  [24:18] - The unforgettable courthouse day: a surreal, improvisational moment of caregiving that highlights the power of human connection.  [35:07] - A stranger’s act of kindness in the courthouse and how it became a transformative moment for Andrew and his father.  [43:39] - The importance of sharing caregiving stories and why Andrew believes his father would have been proud of how he was honored.   Resources: Andrew Bloomenthal’s Boston Magazine article My Dad’s Last Day in Court https://www.bostonmagazine.com/news/2024/08/13/dementia/  Do you have a caregiving story to share? Barbara would love to hear from you! Please leave her a message at 310-362-8232 or send her an email through DementiaDiscussions.net. If you found value in today's episode, please don't forget to rate, follow, share, and leave a review. Your feedback helps us reach more listeners and continue producing this content.

    45 min
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A monthly podcast about dementia. Join your host, Barbara Hament every 2nd Tuesday of the month, as she interviews medical professionals, caregivers, and various experts on how to better understand and cope with this challenging and complex disease.

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  • Creator
    Barbara Hament
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2025
  • Episodes
    95
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    © 2025 Dementia Discussions
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    Dementia Discussions

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