Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

Cheryl Fraser
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Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t?   Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job.   As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life. But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. FEB 9

    Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Three Unusual Valentine’s Date Ideas to Make Love Intentional

    💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I make Valentine’s Day more special?” “Valentine’s Day only brings up bad memories, how can I change that?” “Is there really a way to make a commercialized, overblown holiday romantic?” Show of hands—who here hates Valentine’s Day? It's a heck of a lot of pressure to pull out the greatest romantic experience possible and to do a better job than Hollywood, isn’t it? Well here’s a little secret: While those romcoms and tv shows and romance novels might feel swoon worthy, none of it is real.  On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m giving you three unusual ideas for Valentine’s Day dates that don’t suck and allow you to make your love intentional.  February 14. Cupid, heart shaped boxes of terrible chocolate, a last minute cheesy card and a stuffed animal from the local pharmacy… We’ve all been there. But today, I’m teaching you a way to celebrate Valentine's Day that's a little out of the box and that honors the true meaning of the day. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (01:20) Valentine's Day is a great excuse to do something warm and wonderful for your special person  (06:52) Couples put more effort into being romantic when a relationship is just starting  (08:08) First tip - You don’t have to be Shakespeare to write your partner a love letter (13:31) Second tip - Paying it forward to another couple - giving THEM the gift of love - can be an incredibly romantic way to celebrate  (15:40) Third Tip - Plan Valentine’s in July - NOW. You don’t have to wait until February 14th to celebrate your love! (19:10) Today’s LoveByte  💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

    21 min

  2. FEB 2

    Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Are you a Romance Dud? Try Dr. Cheryl’s 3 Tips for More Romance

    💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “Is romance dead?”  “How can I be sexier to my partner?” “Why isn’t finding a man as easy as the movies?” It's easy to be cynical about modern love. We’re so misled by the media, romcoms, and romance novels about what love should look like that it can be really dangerous to our relationships. We have this illusion that love and romance need to be a certain way, but the truth is that real life relationships are a whole lot different than what we see on the screen or read on the page.  On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to create and sustain romance between you and your partner through 2026 and beyond.  When’s the last time you and your sweetheart really thought out of the box for a date night? What about exploring a whole new-to-you cuisine, stepping out of your typical movie genre box, or even learning to ice skate together (and sharing a laughing fit when you both end up on your bottoms!) It can be hard to get out of your comfortable rut, but branching out can bring some much needed spice and bonding time to a long term relationship. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (00:40) The most important predictor of happiness, health, and well being in our lives is the health and happiness of our romantic relationship  (03:38) Idealized portrayals of love can be damaging to our real life relationship  (04:38) Date nights are a no-brainer and a non-negotiable (11:16) A great relationship is about taking action  (12:09) Expressing gratitude lowers your heart rate and your stress response  (16:18) Get off your butt and celebrate with your sweetheart  (18:56) Today’s LoveByte  💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

    23 min

  3. JAN 19

    Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Stop Ugly Fighting! 3 Tips to Argue Effectively

    💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I stop fighting with my spouse?” “Why are my partner and I constantly disagreeing?” “Is it okay if my honey and I never argue?” If you’re a human being who loves another human being, do you truly think it's healthy to never argue with your sweetheart? To never disagree, never have a tense conversation or one that leads to you feeling anxious or worried or hurt or angry? On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you why a long term relationship with no fighting or arguing is one giant red flag. When you’re arguing with your partner, you literally cannot know their side of things. You can’t see their side of the clock, you can’t visualize what they're seeing—they have a different background, a different family upbringing, different hopes and dreams. It’s this simple, powerful idea that often becomes one of the most important teachings for couples in my Become Passion program.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:00) Couples who don’t have conflict are avoiding the tough topics  (09:38) One of the best ways to improve your communication is to take a step back from what's happening in the moment (12:40) To argue effectively, you and your honey need to agree on a “time out” signal  (14:28) When we're triggered and irrational, we are being hijacked by our emotions  (19:30) We make mistakes and our partners make mistakes—learn to apologize like a pro  (21:09) Today’s LoveByte  💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

    25 min

  4. JAN 5

    Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Take the New Year’s Plunge

    💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  Where has the passion gone in my marriage? Why don’t my partner and I have sex anymore? How can I get my spouse to show more interest? When you think about failure in terms of your relationship, what does it mean to you? Is it separation? Moving out? The big “D”? All those things can feel like failure… But what about when you and your partner start to move into Marriage Incorporated territory, where your relationship runs much more like a business than a romance? On this classic episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m asking some very important questions for you and your partner to answer going into the new year. Today, I’m giving you a little assignment to take some time with your honey to sit down and really discuss this past year in earnest. Afterall, without a little introspection, how can we predict our own success or failure?  One year from now… How do you want to feel about your relationship?  What would success feel like? What would it look like?  What are you doing better?  How have you improved? In what ways?  Are you happier? In what ways is your partner happier?  Are you making sure they feel as precious as they are, even when life gets in the way? How do you want to feel?  What do you want to be?  Who do you want to be in your relationship? 💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

    23 min

  5. 12/22/2025

    Insights From Ebenezer Scrooge: A Holiday Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl

    💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I learn to be a better partner?”  “Am I the Scrooge in my relationship?” “What is the secret to a happy marriage?” What would you do if a trio of spirits showed up at your bedside tonight and asked you to examine your past, your present, and your future? Today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants features a Dharma Talk I gave recently exploring the themes of the Charles Dickens' classic A Christmas Carol through a Buddhist lens.  This talk delves into the three root poisons of suffering—greed, hatred, and ignorance—and how they manifest in Ebenezer Scrooge's life. After visits from the three spirits, Scrooge confronts his past, present, and future, ultimately leading to his redemption and a deeper understanding of interconnectedness and compassion.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: (01:10) The concept of Dharma can feel foreign to what we learned as children through a Western lens (07:42) We always have a choice to begin again (12:06) Ignorance is poison (28:53) If we can see the bricks that led to the wall in front of our heart, we can demolish it (59:02) We love possibilities of redemption and change 💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

    1h 6m

  6. 12/08/2025

    Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Improve your Relationship Over the Holidays

    💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I make the holidays special with my spouse?” “Why do I feel so burnt out at Christmastime?” “How can I prioritize my husband?” No matter what you celebrate, the beginning of December always feels like the unofficial start to the busiest time of year. There are company holiday parties, the kids have their plays and concerts, and the family gatherings can feel endless… And with all that commotion, who has the time to make things feel special with their sweetheart? On this classic episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, it’s all about taking the chaotic, overscheduled energy of December and using some of it to honor and cherish the one who’s by your side through it all.  Tune in and remember that first holiday season you spent with your sweetie. When you were dating and wooing and falling in love, you probably made a heck of a lot more effort during the holidays. You probably shopped more carefully, you probably did some romantic or sexy or fun gifts, and you probably really thought about: “How can I light my sweetheart up?”  In This Episode, You Will Learn: (02:03) In the December holiday season, couples gets lost  (03:22) Valentine’s Day is a manufactured, money grabbing, cheap chocolate holiday—but if you open your mind, it can be a reminder to be romantic as heck  (12:13) Your love affair doesn't take care of itself. You need to make passion a priority  (12:52) It takes work and effort and repetition to improve and to be good at what you do—if you rest on your laurels, your laurels tend to fall apart  (13:38) Your challenge is to make this holiday season joyful, compassionate, and generous—but also make it about the two of you. Carve out at least one special holiday date  (14:40) This week’s LoveByte  💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

    17 min

  7. 12/01/2025

    Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Help! I Want Sex—They Don’t! Your Love & Sex Questions Answered

    💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  How can I get my mate to want sex as much as I do?  Help! I feel so guilty when my sweetheart wants sex and I don’t! My partner and I never have spontaneous sex anymore, is this normal?  On this classic episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I share the answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey. Today, is all about sex drive. I’m busting myths about the libido differences in men and women, the idea that men are dogs who crave constant sex, and that women have fundamentally different sex drives. Spoiler alert: It’s all b******t! In This Episode, You Will Learn: (02:39) If you and your partner have sex drive differences, you are normal  (04:31) Despite the prevailing popular belief, gender has no real bearing on one’s sex drive  (07:15) It’s totally normal for spontaneous lust to wane over the course of a long term relationship  (08:10) Cultivating responsive desire involves scheduling sex—even when we don’t feel like it (10:28) There is no quick fix to sexual desire differences, but there are a number of steps that you can utilise to help reignite a fizzling flame  (11:53) Never say “I'm not in the mood” ever again  (17:51) This week’s LoveByte  💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

    20 min

  8. 11/17/2025

    Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Passion Performance Review

    💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “Dr. Cheryl, is it time to reconsider my relationship?” “When did my hubby become so boring?” “My partner cheated on me—how do I get over it?” Have you ever done a relationship performance review? At work, your supervisor probably calls you in once a quarter or once a year. They give you feedback on where you're doing well, where you need to pick up the slack, and maybe even if you’re being considered for a promotion or in danger of being let go.  On this Sex, Love and Elephants rewind, I’m talking all about the idea of a performance review—but this time, it’s not at your job, it’s a check in for you and your sweetheart.  Does your partner know what's lighting you up these days? What makes you feel good? Do they know what you're worried about? Do they know what's on your mind? If you can’t answer all or any of these questions, it might be time for a review of your relationship. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (03:57) Every relationship is vulnerable to falling into Marriage Incorporated  (08:33) We all miss the thrill of the honeymoon phase, but it doesn’t have to be gone for good  (10:57) If you don’t find your partner interesting anymore, someone else will  (14:03) Most affairs aren’t planned  (34:09) Today’s LoveByte  💞Watch the replay of my Passion Masterclass here Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

    38 min
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Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t?   Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job.   As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life. But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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