Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

Cheryl Fraser
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Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t?   Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job.   As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life. But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 2D AGO

    Communicate With Kindness: Is Long-Term Love Dead? Part 3

    Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join. (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Dr. Cheryl, why do our arguments get so nasty?” “We talk, but we never make progress. What’s the key to communication?” “How can we argue without fighting?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the third in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. “I can't stand you.” “I'm out of here.” “What are we even doing together?”  If any of these sound familiar to you, you might just be wondering if long-term love is dead after all.  Today, I'm going to dive into the fact that long-term kind speech, civility, and respect aren’t dead, but they may be on life support. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: The three sides of the passion triangle are intimacy, thrill, and sensuality (01:50) Many of our arguments turn ugly because of emotional flooding (10:30) How to rate your conflict resolution skills (17:30) We need to connect before we attempt to communicate (26:34) Today’s LoveByte (27:42) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

    30 min

  2. FEB 24

    Commitment is a Choice: Is Long-Term Love Dead? Part 2

    Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when door to the the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Dr. Cheryl, help! Why don’t I feel as committed to my spouse as I used to?” “Why am I so scared to commit?” “How do I revive my commitment to my partner?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the second in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. We believe that if we get married or move in together or make another human that we are committed: “Now we're a family and we're more committed than ever!” But the statistics and our own life experience don’t necessarily prove that to be true… How committed are you to your long term relationship? At some point, you did choose to commit to your partner—whether you’ve said “I do” or not Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank! In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Divorce can spawn so much ugliness—even convincing couples they were never in love at all (04:18) If you choose to seek couples therapy, make sure to do your research on the therapist (07:07) The Passion Triangle is a wonderful guide for long term commitment (11:13) Long-term love isn’t dead—it's in a coma (20:32) Commitment is a choice (24:37) Today’s LoveByte (33:18) Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Stop Ugly Fighting! 3 Tips to Argue Effectively Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.   Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

    36 min

  3. FEB 10

    Is Long-Term Love Dead?

    Be the first to know when Cheryl’s next FREE couples workshop is offered! Click here to join the waitlist.   “Dr. Cheryl, how do I know when it’s time for a divorce?” “Do people ever regret the decision to end their marriage?” “Is divorce the right decision for me and my spouse?” Is long-term love dead? Take a look at the number of divorces, the rate of affairs, younger generations talking about the lack of commitment… I’m not sure if it’s dead, but it’s definitely not looking good, is it?  This episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants kicks off a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. I’m not necessarily against divorce, but I do believe there are cases where it’s not the only answer. In one study, people who'd been divorced for two years were asked: “Do you feel you made the right decision to end your marriage?” As it turns out, a whopping 50% of those surveyed said they had post-divorce regret.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: This fall may be the last time I hold my three month Become Passion Program—join the waitlist here (03:23) To save your relationship, kill the soulmate (05:00) Think back to what you miss about a brand new relationship—was it about the person or was it about the honeymoon phase? (14:50) You need to be the change you want to be in your relationship (18:48) Today’s LoveByte (24:57) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

    27 min

  4. FEB 3

    Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Are You Lazy in Bed? Try My Top 3 Tips to be a Better Lover

    Want to Rate your Relationship and Learn the Three Keys to Long Term Love?  Take the Passion Quiz Now!  “Dr. Cheryl, how can I spice things up in the bedroom with my sweetheart?” “Why has the heat left our sex life?” “How can I get my lover to be adventurous in bed like we used to be?” Think back to the beginning of your relationship… How spicy or adventurous or open or willing or playful or hot or uninhibited were you? And why aren’t you and your lover that way anymore? Often when we make deeper steps towards commitment, the stakes are higher. We're more vulnerable than in those first few months and we become more fearful of rejection. On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to bring the heat to your bedroom and the spice back to your long term relationship in 2025. Are you willing to settle for “nice” as the benchmark for success for your sexual life? I know that’s not true for most of you, but maybe you’ve become a lazy lover. Do you wish you could be more inventive? That you could suggest things? That you could please your lover's body? In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Most of us are more adventurous and playful in bed at the beginning (01:49) Get more acquainted with your own turn-ons (08:09) Share your sexual fantasy with your lover (13:11) Don’t be lazy—do some research! (16:50) Today’s LoveByte (17:36) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

    21 min

  5. JAN 27

    Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Are you a Romance Dud? 3 Tips for More Romance

    Want to Rate your Relationship and Learn the Three Keys to Long Term Love?  Take the Passion Quiz Now!  “But Dr. Cheryl, don’t you know that romance is dead?”  “How can I be as sexy as those guys my wife reads about in her steamy books?” “Will I ever stop waiting for my rom com meet-cute whirlwind romance?!” It's pretty easy to be cynical about modern love. We’re so misled by the media and romantic comedies and romance novels about what love should look like that it can be really dangerous to our relationships. We have this illusion that love and romance need to be a certain way, but the truth is that real life relationships are a whole lot different than what we see on the screen or read on the page.  On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to create and sustain romance between you and your partner through 2025 and beyond.  When’s the last time you and your sweetheart really thought out of the box for a date night? What about exploring a whole new-to-you cuisine, stepping out of your typical movie genre box, or even learning to ice skate together (and sharing a laughing fit when you both end up on your bottoms!) It can be hard to get out of your comfortable rut, but branching out can bring some much needed spice and bonding time to a long term relationship.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: The most important predictor of happiness, health, and well being in our lives is the health and happiness of our romantic relationship (00:40) Idealized portrayals of love can be damaging to our real life relationship (03:38) Date nights are a no-brainer and a non-negotiable (04:38) A great relationship is about taking action (11:16) Expressing gratitude lowers your heart rate and your stress response (12:09) Get off your butt and celebrate with your sweetheart (16:18) Today’s LoveByte (18:56) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

    22 min

  6. JAN 20

    Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Stop Ugly Fighting! 3 Tips to Argue Effectively

    Want to Rate your Relationship and Learn the Three Keys to Long Term Love?  Take the Passion Quiz Now!  “But Dr. Cheryl, shouldn’t the goal be not to have any arguments with my sweetheart?” If you’re a human being who loves another human being, do you truly think it's healthy to never argue with your sweetheart? To never disagree, never have a tense conversation or one that leads to you feeling anxious or worried or hurt or angry?  On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you why a long term relationship with no fighting or arguing is one giant red flag. When you’re arguing with your partner, you literally cannot know their side of things. You can’t see their side of the clock, you can’t visualize what they're seeing—they have a different background, a different family upbringing, different hopes and dreams. It’s this simple, powerful idea that often becomes one of the most important teachings for couples in my Become Passion program.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Couples who don’t have conflict are avoiding the tough topics (02:00) One of the best ways to improve your communication is to take a step back from what's happening in the moment (09:38) To argue effectively, you and your honey need to agree on a “time out” signal (12:40) When we're triggered and irrational, we are being hijacked by our emotions (14:28) We make mistakes and our partners make mistakes—learn to apologize like a pro (19:30) Today’s LoveByte (21:09) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

    25 min

  7. JAN 13

    Three Tips for Better Sex in 2024

    “Dr. Cheryl, we never have sex anymore!”  “Dr. Cheryl, with the kids, the dog, and the mortgage, there’s no time left for the bedroom!”  “Dr. Cheryl, our sex life has totally lost its spark—how did things become so boring?” These are the types of questions I hear repeatedly from the couples in my Become Passion program, and they’re the sort of issues that nearly every long term relationship goes through. Whether you’ve found yourself running your marriage like a business or your sex life has become as exciting as a 12 hour Netflix binge, there is hope and you and your honey CAN bring the sexy back. On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about how to improve your sex life in the new year. I'm very passionate about helping long term couples just like you improve your relationship and I’ve had plenty of practice doing it. Today, you’ll hear three tried and true tips to start out 2024 with your most sensual foot forward.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: My first tip for better sex is to practice more non-erotic touch (01:43) The three breath hug is a great way to start regularly using non-erotic touch (03:15) Tip number 2: Schedule sensual time (05:55) Waiting for spontaneous sexual desire is like waiting for a teenager to spontaneously clean their room (08:51) Whether you're making love these days or not, try bathing together naked (14:37) Tip three: Please, be a little more creative! (20:11) Today’s LoveByte (21:55) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

    25 min

  8. 12/30/2024

    Dr. Cheryl & Her Hubby Talk Sex, Love & Life: SLE Holiday Rewind Vol 2

    “Dr. Cheryl, how do I bring back the spark?” “How do I spice up my sex life with my spouse?” “Am I in a sexless marriage?” I'm a sex expert— That means my sex life is like a romantic comedy mixed with an erotic novel, right? Well, a lot of that used to be true, but things don’t always stay all sunshine, butterflies, and constant bunny rabbit sex… Today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is a look back at my number one episode of 2024. You’ll hear my hubby and I sit down for a chat about all things sensuality, sex, and what to do when those things stop being easy. In This Episode, You Will Learn: The lust you have for a stranger is a fleeting thing (05:57) Menopause can cause a radical downshift in a couple’s sex life (15:38) Sexuality is neglected in long term couples—but there’s nothing wrong with you if you’re not having constant spontaneous desire (21:09) There are biological reasons for our lust to fade in a long term relationship (29:36)  Top Tip? Schedule Sex! Today’s LoveByte (39:19) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram

    43 min
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Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t?   Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job.   As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life. But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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