159 episodes
Pillow Talks Vanessa & Xander Marin
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4.9 • 1.9K Ratings
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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
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“Why Do Guys Do This?” - Xander Explains Male Behavior Part 2
Xander’s back in the hot seat answering all your burning questions about male behavior!
Why do guys mansplain? Why do they struggle to find things that are right in front of their faces? Why are men always initiating when we’re right in the middle of something like doing the dishes? Why can’t they ever be vulnerable? And what’s with the obsession over the volume of their cum??
Get ready for lots of laughter and some eye-opening insights.
Links & Resources:
Episode 120: “Why Do Guys Do This?” Xander Explains Male Behavior
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Maybe It’s Not Low Libido…
When the spark dies off in a relationship, it’s really easy to blame it on libido.
But is libido actually the problem?
In this episode, we reveal the truth about sex drive and ask a big question, “does libido even matter?”
Links & Resources:
Ultimate Foreplay Guides
Next Level Intercourse
Art of Initiation
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Come on a Double Date with Us! (“Know Ya Boo” Part 2)
Welcome to our 2nd round of “Know Ya Boo” (bonus points if you get the Parks and Rec reference). Grab your partner, pull up a chair, pour your favorite cocktail or mocktail, and come on a double date with us!
You guys gave us 50 questions, and our job was to guess each other’s answers. The results had us in stitches from start to finish. Make sure you listen all the way through to get the scoop on which one of us comes out on top.
Afterwards, you can play your own version of Know Ya Boo with your partner. DM us with how it went, and if you beat our scores!
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What To Do When It’s Been A While… (The Dry Spell Episode)
What do you do when it’s been a while…
When you don’t remember the last time you had sex. When the idea of initiating feels even more awkward than usual. When you’re not sure if your partner is missing it the same way you are.
In this episode, we’re breaking down why dry spells happen in the first place and telling you exactly how to get back on the horse. We’ll even answer the big question… do we NEED to have sex?
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Am I The A*****e? In-Laws Edition
We’re back again with another edition of Am I The A*****e. This time around we’re talking about your trickiest in-law related situations.
We’re covering stories about dietary preferences, back-handed compliments, dinner table mishaps, and so much more.
If you’ve ever wondered if you’re the a*****e when it comes to your in-laws, our unfiltered takes are here to help you decide.
Links & Resources:
Visit our Homepage
If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!
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How To Stop Feeling Resentment In Your Relationship
A few weeks ago we asked our community if they felt resentment in their relationship and only 29% said no!
Resentment doesn’t feel good for either partner, and it can lead to things like more stress, less sex, and lots of other serious consequences in your relationship.
We decided it was time to create an episode breaking down what resentment is, where it comes from, and how to overcome it in your relationship.
Links & Resources:
Guide: Mental Load Workbook (https://vmtherapy.thrivecart.com/mental-load-workbook/)
Visit our Homepage (http://vmtherapy.com/)
If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!
Customer Reviews
Great couples podcast.
They keep it real.
Makes Thursday the Best Day!
I found Pillow Talks back in early 2023 and immediately binged a bunch of earlier episodes. My husband and I had been married for less than two years, and each episode sparked such a great conversation as we navigated merging families, getting more comfortable talking about intimacy, ran into mismatched sex drives (so helpful to have a name for this!), and deconstructing our internalized shame around sex. I’m always so happy when Thursday rolls around with a new episode—Vanessa and Xander simultaneously feel like a warm hug from an old friend and your cool therapist who tells you how it is. Thank you both for all that you do! 💕
New Listener but Long Relationship
Started listening to Pillow Talks just a week ago because my husband and I are having our first rough patch. I have loved listening to all the advice and breakdown of questions from the community. I’m finding a lot of comfort in knowing we are not alone in these troubles and there is a light at the end of the tunnel!
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