Hungry for Love: Reclaim Your Life After Toxic Relationships

Jillian Scott
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End emotional eating, lose excess weight, and attract your dream partner—in a FUN, simple, and effective way? If you’ve ever found yourself stress-eating in secret or stuck in toxic relationships that leave you feeling “not enough,” you’re not alone. While these struggles may seem unrelated, they’re actually two sides of the same coin—both rooted in codependency and the deep-seated belief that you’re not good enough. The good news? When you break free from one cycle, you learn how to do it all other areas of life! As a former binge eater turned trauma-certified life coach, Jillian Scott knows firsthand what it takes to heal your relationship with food, body, and the people in your life. On The Hungry for Love Podcast, she’ll show you how to lose weight without guilt, manage stress without turning to food or alcohol, and build healthy, fulfilling relationships—starting with the MOST IMPORTANT one - YOURSELF! Ready to break the cycle for good? Book your free Break the Cycle Call and uncover the cycles sabotaging your weight, relationships, and self-worth, so that you can create the Life & Body You Crave. Get all the details at www.bodyyoucrave.com/BTC.

  1. Oct 27

    229. Feeling PROUD of my Divorce as a Christian Woman

    For a long time, the messages Christian women receive about marriage can make it feel like leaving is a failure. That we should pray harder, forgive more, submit longer, and keep fighting for our marriage, even when the relationship is costing us our sense of self. But what happens when fighting for your marriage becomes a way of abandoning yourself? In this episode, I’m getting personal about why I’m proud of my divorce as a Christian woman. I’m sharing the beliefs I had to question, the shame I had to untangle, and what it means to stop measuring your worth by whether or not your marriage survives. Because choosing to leave a relationship that was hurting you doesn't mean you failed at marriage. And protecting your well-being doesn't make you a bad Christian. I'm not here to tell you whether you should stay or leave your marriage. I'm here to challenge the idea that being a good Christian woman means sacrificing yourself to keep a relationship intact. If you're questioning your marriage, struggling with guilt, or wondering what your life could look like on the other side of a relationship where you've lost yourself, this episode is for you. Ready to stop spinning and figure out your next step? Schedule your free consultation here: bodyyoucrave.com/schedule  Let's talk about where you are, what's keeping you stuck, and what moving forward could look like for you. Chapters (00:00:02) - Introduction: Proud of Divorce as a Christian(00:00:58) - Why Leaving Isn't About Unhappiness(00:02:03) - Shame, Spiritual Abuse, and the Church(00:03:10) - Leaving for Her Son and Breaking the Cycle(00:05:45) - Societal Shame Around Divorce vs. Other Life Changes(00:08:19) - Flipping the Narrative: Divorce as Catalyst(00:08:46) - Seeking Help from Pastors and Counselors(00:10:15) - Breaking Generational Cycles of Trauma(00:11:20) - Expecting Change vs. Accepting Reality(00:12:10) - Struggling to Record: Fear of His Reaction(00:14:42) - Lingering Trauma Responses Post-Divorce(00:15:40) - The Decision to Move and a Pastor's Advice(00:18:55) - Little Incidents That Woke Her Up(00:21:00) - Therapy, Labels, and Recognizing Abuse Patterns(00:21:46) - Willing to Be the Villain(00:23:11) - The Pastor's Question and Hearing God's Answer(00:24:29) - A Quick Divorce and Owning Her Own Patterns(00:25:27) - Coaching Others Through This Journey(00:26:34) - Proud Without Guilt or Shame(00:28:13) - Closing: Invitation to Work Together(00:29:24) - Outro and Call to Action

  2. Oct 13

    228. The Things You Learned Before You Learned to Diet

    Long before you ever tried to lose weight, you were learning things about yourself, love, belonging, and what it takes to be accepted. You were learning which emotions were okay to express, what you needed to do to earn love, and whether it was safe to ask for what you wanted.  Without even realizing it, most of those lessons are still shaping your relationship with food, with others, and the way you show up in your own life today. In this episode, I'm sharing more of my personal story and exploring a powerful question: What did you want most as a child, but didn't get? It's a deceptively simple question, but your answer may reveal more than you expect about the beliefs you've carried into adulthood, the patterns you keep repeating, and the ways you've learned to cope with unmet needs.  We explore: How childhood experiences shape the way we see ourselves and navigate adulthood. The connection between unmet childhood needs and the patterns we carry into our adult relationships. Why asking what you wanted most as a child can reveal important insights about your current struggles. How understanding your story can help you create a different one moving forward. You don't have to figure it all out by yourself. Schedule a consultation here, and let's explore what's keeping you stuck and what’s truly possible when you have the right support. Chapters (00:00:02) - Introduction: Origins of You(00:00:37) - Childhood Trauma and Adult Relationships Connection(00:02:14) - Recognizing Patterns Without Blame(00:02:47) - Love Bombing vs Rage: Same Pattern, Different Mask(00:04:52) - Holding Both Contentment and Desire for More(00:06:32) - Jillian's Childhood: Family Background(00:08:11) - Shame, Anger, and Feeling Unwanted by Bio Dad(00:09:58) - The Choking Incident and Learning to Minimize(00:12:11) - Keeping Secrets and Carrying Shame(00:13:13) - Minimizing Abuse in Her Own Marriage(00:14:12) - Protecting Herself and Her Son Now(00:15:12) - Core Wounds: Not Feeling Good Enough(00:16:14) - Seeking Worth Through Being Chosen(00:19:01) - Healing the Core Wounds to Stop the Cycle(00:20:58) - The Fishhook Metaphor: Unhooking from Toxic Patterns(00:22:18) - Doing the Work: Coaching and Moving Forward(00:24:06) - Closing: Your Next Steps to Break the Cycle

  3. Oct 6

    227. What Did You Learn About Food Growing Up?

    Long before you ever went on a diet, counted calories, or decided you were “good” or “bad” based on what you ate, you were learning rules about food. Maybe you learned... That you had to clean your plate. Dessert was a reward. Certain foods were “bad.” You should eat less if you were gaining weight. Or that food was how you celebrated, connected, coped, or showed love. Those messages don’t just disappear when you grow up. In this episode, we’re unpacking some of the beliefs about food we often absorb as children—and how those beliefs can quietly shape our relationship with food as adults. Because sometimes what looks like a lack of willpower around food is actually a belief you learned a very long time ago. And if you don’t question the belief, you’ll keep trying to fix the behavior. When you're ready to feel at peace and ease around food, especially during the holidays, I'd love to help.  Schedule your free consultation here: www.bodyyoucrave.com/schedule.  Chapters (00:00:02) - Intro: Relationships and childhood roots(00:01:37) - Why habits alone don't solve emotional eating(00:01:52) - The diet industry's dysfunctional parallels(00:03:09) - Mental and emotional weight from childhood and marriage(00:04:11) - Setting the stage for exploring childhood beliefs(00:04:47) - What we learn about food as children(00:06:41) - Taking ownership vs playing the victim(00:08:02) - Gender differences in body image conditioning(00:09:19) - Restriction, shame, and the binge cycle(00:10:40) - Common food beliefs learned in childhood(00:11:38) - Scarcity mindset and eating on autopilot(00:13:32) - Breaking the shame cycle with food(00:14:44) - Shame around body size and fitting in(00:17:01) - Personal story: fat thoughts from a young age(00:17:27) - Moving to Georgia and using candy for comfort(00:19:30) - The candy bar hoarding incident with her dad(00:21:09) - Family rules around food and shame(00:22:11) - Healing your relationship with food(00:23:27) - Body safety and the limits of habits alone(00:24:18) - Closing thoughts and next steps(00:26:09) - Outro: Break the cycle call to action

  4. Oct 1

    226. What to do When the Urge Hits

    If you're tired of feeling like food is in charge, this is where we start. Join me for 6 weeks of private coaching inside When the Urge Hits: https://bit.ly/WhenTheUrgeHits You know the moment...  You weren't hungry. You weren't even thinking about food. And then suddenly… you NEEDED something sweet. Or salty. Or crunchy. Or whatever your particular “screw it, I need this RIGHT NOW” food happens to be. And that urge to eat feels almost impossible to ignore. But here's what I want you to know: There's a process for learning how to navigate the urge itself, and it's one of the first steps I teach clients who want to end emotional eating. In this episode, I'm breaking down what is actually happening when an emotional-eating urge hits, why trying to simply resist it often doesn't work, and what becomes possible when you learn how to handle the urge differently. The goal isn't to become someone who never wants cookies again. The goal is to become someone who can feel an urge without automatically handing it the steering wheel. Join me for 6 weeks of private coaching inside When the Urge Hits:  https://bit.ly/WhenTheUrgeHits Chapters (00:00:02) - Intro: The Late-Day Craving Trap(00:01:28) - Permission-Giving Thoughts & Why Willpower Fails(00:02:49) - The Five-Step Emotional Eating Process(00:04:37) - Willpower, Cravings and the Restrict-Binge Cycle(00:06:39) - Introducing 'When the Urge Hits' Program(00:08:33) - Pricing, Spots, and How to Sign Up(00:10:05) - Closing Thoughts and Call to Action(00:11:17) - Outro: Break the Cycle Call

  5. Sep 22

    225. Why Food Becomes Soothing During a Toxic Relationship

    When you’re constantly managing someone else’s moods, walking on eggshells, suppressing your needs, or trying to keep the peace, Your nervous system is dealing with A LOT. And eventually, you may find yourself reaching for food, not because you’re physically hungry, but because it gives you something you desperately need: Relief. In this episode, we’re talking about why food can become such a powerful source of comfort during a toxic relationship, and why emotions themselves can start to feel unsafe when you’ve learned that expressing them comes with consequences. Because when anger leads to conflict, sadness gets dismissed, and having needs gets labeled as selfish… you may start learning to make uncomfortable feelings disappear instead of actually feeling them. And food is really, really good at helping you do that. But understanding why you eat is only the beginning. If you’re ready to stop feeling like you’re constantly fighting yourself around food, join me for my free LIVE masterclass: How to Stop Giving Into Your 8pm Sugar Cravings  We’ll dig into what’s actually happening when those nighttime cravings hit, and what you can start doing differently so food doesn’t have to be your fastest route to feeling better. ️ Listen to the episode, then join me live for the masterclass. Register here: https://calendly.com/jillian-2/masterclass Chapters (00:00:02) - Introduction: Food and Toxic Relationships(00:01:19) - Why Food Becomes Soothing and Predictable(00:04:31) - Managing Others' Emotions and Dysregulation(00:06:17) - Learning Emotions Are Unsafe(00:08:10) - Tears, Shame, and Emotional Suppression(00:10:25) - Shame Around Desire, Stress, and Disappointment(00:12:50) - Generational Trauma and Coercive Control(00:15:24) - Staying for the Kids vs Leaving for the Kids(00:17:45) - Food as a Coping Tool and What It's Really Doing(00:20:18) - Finding Joy Beyond Food: The Line Dancing Story(00:21:47) - Closing Thoughts and Masterclass Invitation(00:22:51) - Break the Cycle Call Promo

  6. Sep 18

    224. Why Food Feels So Damn Good at the End of the Day

    You know that moment. You’ve made it through a long, exhausting day. You finally have a minute to yourself…  and suddenly that sleeve of Oreos in the pantry sounds like the best idea you’ve had all day! Even if you’re not actually hungry. Even if you told yourself you weren’t going to eat them. Even if you KNOW you’ll probably feel annoyed with yourself afterward. So why does food feel so good at the end of the day? There’s actually a reason, and it has a lot less to do with willpower than you think. In this episode, we’re talking about why nighttime eating can become such a reliable source of relief, especially when you’ve spent your day managing stress, emotions, other people, and simply holding it all together. If you’ve recently left a toxic relationship, there may be an even bigger piece of this pattern you haven’t considered yet. Because the question isn’t “Why can’t I stop eating?” It’s “What is eating doing for me that I haven’t learned to do another way?” Listen in, and then join me for an upcoming free LIVE masterclass:  How to Stop Giving Into Your 8pm Cravings (Even When You Were “So Good All Day”)  I’ll show you how to start breaking this cycle for good. Register here: https://calendly.com/jillian-2/masterclass Chapters (00:00:02) - Intro: The nighttime snacking spiral(00:01:14) - Food isn't the problem - what's underneath it(00:02:06) - Toxic relationships and the pattern of turning to food(00:04:57) - The shame spiral after emotional eating(00:06:02) - Restricting, avoiding events, and holiday binge triggers(00:08:47) - Trusting yourself and breaking the self-sabotage cycle(00:11:17) - Invitation to the live masterclass(00:12:41) - Personal binge-free journey and workshop details(00:13:57) - Closing and call to action

  7. Sep 15

    223. The Emotional Eating Experiment: I'm Looking for One Person

    I’ve coached men and women around food and weight for years, and there’s one thing I know for sure: “Just try harder” is NOT a coaching strategy. So I’m doing something a little different. I’m looking for one person to coach through their emotional eating for FREE for 10 weeks – and I’m bringing you along for the ride. This is The Emotional Eating Experiment. We’re going to start with the food. The nighttime eating. The cravings. The “I don’t even know why I’m doing this” moments. And then we’re going to get curious. What’s happening right before you eat? What is the food doing for you? What do you believe you should be doing instead? What are you avoiding, suppressing, or not allowing yourself to want? To feel? And what happens when you stop trying to control the behavior and actually understand it? I don't know exactly what we're going to uncover, and honestly, that's what makes this so damn interesting! Because I want you to hear what coaching actually looks like when the answer isn't another diet, more discipline, or a lecture about willpower. You'll get to listen as we work through the real stuff in real time.  If you're tired of fighting with food and curious about what's really going on underneath it, you can apply to be my coaching participant here: https://form.typeform.com/to/Y6m8d1sg Applications are open September 15–27, 2026. Or come back and listen along as we find out.  xoxo Chapters (00:00:02) - Intro to the Emotional Eating Experiment(00:00:24) - The Detective Mindset for Emotional Eating(00:01:34) - Looking for a Coaching Participant(00:03:19) - Why This Idea Matters and Backstory(00:05:04) - Application Timeline and Process(00:06:30) - Who I'm Looking For: Traits and Patterns(00:08:00) - Vulnerability, Coaching, and Being Coached(00:09:28) - Privacy, Anonymity, and Sharing Options(00:10:05) - Application Details and Selection Process(00:11:01) - Why the Holidays Are the Ideal Time(00:12:27) - Closing Invitation and Call to Action(00:13:26) - Outro and Break the Cycle Offer

  8. Sep 8

    222. MVP: The Dark Side of People Pleasing

    Today's episode is an MVP you don't want to miss!  What if I told you your people-pleasing habit was really just a desire to control others? Typically, this desire for ‘control’ stems from a place of survival.  You learned you needed to show up a certain way in order to keep other people happy and avoid conflict, so that they would keep meeting your emotional needs.  But this coping mechanism is only holding you hostage.  Keep listening as I break down the nuanced dark side of this trait, and learn the first steps to breaking free. Ready to heal from toxic relationships and stop falling into the same cycles with food, alcohol, dating, money, and parenting that only keep you stuck?  Schedule a free consultation and I'll show you how: www.bodyyoucrave.com/schedule  Chapters (00:00:02) - Hungry for Love(00:00:24) - People Pleasing(00:01:28) - People Pleasuring and Control(00:03:07) - People Pleasing and Over-Completing(00:11:40) - I Got Sucked In With Love Bombing(00:17:11) - How to Stop Stuck in Karmic Cycles(00:17:35) - The Problem of Controlling Others' Emotions(00:22:04) - How to Stop Complaining About My Partner's Emotions(00:26:47) - What Emotions Do I Refuse to Feel?(00:28:19) - The Word of Recrevestation(00:35:12) - How to Stop People Pleasing (For Real)(00:39:31) - Binge Eating and Relationship Cycle Break the Cycle

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End emotional eating, lose excess weight, and attract your dream partner—in a FUN, simple, and effective way? If you’ve ever found yourself stress-eating in secret or stuck in toxic relationships that leave you feeling “not enough,” you’re not alone. While these struggles may seem unrelated, they’re actually two sides of the same coin—both rooted in codependency and the deep-seated belief that you’re not good enough. The good news? When you break free from one cycle, you learn how to do it all other areas of life! As a former binge eater turned trauma-certified life coach, Jillian Scott knows firsthand what it takes to heal your relationship with food, body, and the people in your life. On The Hungry for Love Podcast, she’ll show you how to lose weight without guilt, manage stress without turning to food or alcohol, and build healthy, fulfilling relationships—starting with the MOST IMPORTANT one - YOURSELF! Ready to break the cycle for good? Book your free Break the Cycle Call and uncover the cycles sabotaging your weight, relationships, and self-worth, so that you can create the Life & Body You Crave. Get all the details at www.bodyyoucrave.com/BTC.

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