Desperately Seeking Senior Living

Valerie Lynn Borgman
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Desperately Seeking Senior Living is a podcast and caregiver resource created to help families navigate the overwhelming world of senior living, caregiving and aging. Hosted by Certified Senior Advisor Valerie Lynn, the show combines real conversations, practical guidance and emotional support for the moments families often feel unprepared for - from assisted living and memory care to caregiver burnout, guilt, grief and family dynamics. Through expert interviews, family stories and doable tips, our goal is simple: helping families go from desperate to doable 💜 You’ll also find caregiver resources, full show notes, support links and ways to connect through our Doable Downloads and online community @DesperateToDoable Subscribe so you never miss an episode.

  1. 6d ago

    A Grandson's 20-Year Dementia Caregiving Journey: Lessons Every Family Caregiver Needs - EP 170

    For more than 20 years, Ed Taylor helped care for his grandmother through dementia - long before he ever considered himself a caregiver. In this episode of Desperately Seeking Senior Living, Ed shares the realities of family caregiving, including navigating cognitive decline, managing crises, making difficult care decisions and balancing caregiving responsibilities with work and everyday life. Together, we discuss caregiver burnout, power of attorney, hospice, family dynamics and the challenges many families face when trying to do it all on their own. Ed reflects on his "superhero cape" mindset that kept him carrying the weight of caregiving for years and explains why accepting help ultimately allowed him to return to his most important role: being a grandson. Whether you're currently caring for a loved one with dementia or preparing for the future, this conversation offers practical insights, honest reflections, and encouragement for every family caregiver. In this episode, we discuss: • Recognizing when caregiving has moved into crisis mode • Why power of attorney should be established before it's needed • Managing difficult family and sibling dynamics • The emotional impact of dementia on caregivers • Hospice myths and realities • How to know when it's time to ask for help • Why caregivers must prioritize their own well-being CLICK HERE for our DOABLE DOWNLOAD with FULL SHOW NOTES Follow us on INSTAGRAM for more doable tips! Need help finding senior living or care? BECOME A CLIENT TODAY! We can help with your search for senior living & care wherever you live! To connect with us & get your FREE GUIDE  goto - https://linktr.ee/Desperatelyseekingseniorliving Hit subscribe ✅ and spread the word! 📣 Listen wherever you listen to podcasts!  THANK YOU for listening in 🎧commenting, liking 👍, telling others 📣about the show!!  @desperatetodoable #desperatetodoable

    47 min

  2. May 14

    Assisted Living Asked You to Move Out - Aging in Place Explained - EP 169

    You moved your loved one into assisted living, signed the paperwork and finally exhaled… then came the phone call no family wants to receive: “We can no longer meet their care needs.” In this episode, Valerie breaks down why assisted living communities sometimes ask residents to move, what families need to know about aging in place, licensing and discharge notices and how to advocate if this happens to someone you love. This is an emotional topic that leaves many families feeling shocked, guilty or blindsided - but understanding the why behind these decisions can help families feel more prepared a little less overwhelmed and help make things a little more doable. CLICK HERE for our DOABLE DOWNLOAD with FULL SHOW NOTES Follow us on INSTAGRAM for more doable tips! Need help finding senior living or care? BECOME A CLIENT TODAY! We can help with your search for senior living & care wherever you live! www.clearpathsls.com Would you like to share your story and be a guest on our show?  Guest Application Email us at connect@desperatelyseekingseniorliving.com with your senior living questions. www.desperatelyseekingseniorliving.com Hit subscribe ✅ and spread the word! 📣 Listen wherever you listen to podcasts! Don’t forget to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode!  THANK YOU for listening in 🎧commenting, liking 👍, telling others 📣about the show!!  @desperatetodoable #desperatetodoable

    15 min

  3. Apr 6

    When Assisted Living Doesn’t Feel Right - Expectations vs Reality - EP 168

    You can do everything “right” and still walk away feeling unsure - and that doesn’t mean you failed. This episode gently walks you through the difference between something being wrong and something simply not being right for you. Because senior living isn’t just about care on paper - it’s about how that care feels, how it’s communicated, and how your family experiences it day to day. If you’ve ever had that gut feeling that something’s off, this will help you understand why -and remind you that trusting yourself is part of making this journey doable. CLICK HERE for our DOABLE DOWNLOAD with FULL SHOW NOTES Follow us on INSTAGRAM for more doable tips! Need help finding senior living or care? BECOME A CLIENT TODAY! We can help with your search for senior living & care wherever you live! www.clearpathsls.com Would you like to share your story and be a guest on our show?  Guest Application Email us at connect@desperatelyseekingseniorliving.com with your senior living questions. www.desperatelyseekingseniorliving.com Hit subscribe ✅ and spread the word! 📣 Listen wherever you listen to podcasts! Don’t forget to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode!  THANK YOU for listening in 🎧commenting, liking 👍, telling others 📣about the show!!  @desperatetodoable #desperatetodoable

    20 min

  4. Mar 2

    Is the Hospital Discharging Too Soon? What Families Can Do - EP 167

    Getting a call that your dad is being discharged from the hospital can send you straight into panic mode - especially when you know there’s no safe plan waiting at home. In this episode, we talk about why hospitals move so quickly, what “medically stable” really means, and the one powerful phrase that can help you slow things down safely. If you’ve ever felt rushed, pressured, or unsure during a discharge conversation, this episode will help you feel more prepared and more confident. You’re not being difficult - you’re advocating. ...and hopefully this episode makes it a little more doable! CLICK HERE for our DOABLE DOWNLOAD with FULL SHOW NOTES Follow us on INSTAGRAM for more doable tips! Need help finding senior living or care? BECOME A CLIENT TODAY! We can help with your search for senior living & care wherever you live! www.clearpathsls.com Would you like to share your story and be a guest on our show?  Guest Application Email us at connect@desperatelyseekingseniorliving.com with your senior living questions. www.desperatelyseekingseniorliving.com Hit subscribe ✅ and spread the word! 📣 Listen wherever you listen to podcasts! Don’t forget to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode!  THANK YOU for listening in 🎧commenting, liking 👍, telling others 📣about the show!!  @desperatetodoable #desperatetodoable

    13 min

  5. Feb 2

    When In-Home Care Stops Working - Ep 166

    You tried everything. You rearranged your life, asked for help and honored your loved one’s wish to stay at home by bringing in in-home care. But what happens when it still isn’t working? In this episode of Desperately Seeking Senior Living, host Valerie Lynn walks through the moment many families quietly reach: when in-home care no longer provides the safety, consistency or peace of mind it was supposed to bring. We talk about the hidden limits of in-home care, the warning signs families often ignore and why caregiver exhaustion is not a badge of honor...it’s a sign. If you’re feeling stuck in the cycle of “something still isn’t right,” this episode is for you!   CLICK HERE for our DOABLE DOWNLOAD with FULL SHOW NOTES Follow us on INSTAGRAM for more doable tips! Need help finding senior living or care? BECOME A CLIENT TODAY! We can help with your search for senior living & care wherever you live! www.clearpathsls.com Would you like to share your story and be a guest on our show?  Guest Application Email us at connect@desperatelyseekingseniorliving.com with your senior living questions. www.desperatelyseekingseniorliving.com Hit subscribe ✅ and spread the word! 📣 Listen wherever you listen to podcasts! Don’t forget to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode!  THANK YOU for listening in 🎧commenting, liking 👍, telling others 📣about the show!!  @desperatetodoable #desperatetodoable

    13 min

  6. Jan 5

    It May Not Be Forever: Rethinking Senior Living Decisions - Ep 165

    Making decisions about senior living can feel overwhelming - especially when you’ve promised a loved one they could stay at home. When care needs change, families often feel rushed, guilty, and afraid that one move means forever. In this episode, I reframe senior living decisions through a gentler, more realistic lens: buying time. I walk through the path most families take - from in-home care to respite or short-term stays - and explain why needing more support doesn’t mean you failed or broke a promise. This conversation is about slowing the moment down, easing the pressure, and remembering that clarity often comes after you give yourself permission to pause. CLICK HERE for our DOABLE DOWNLOAD with FULL SHOW NOTES Follow us on INSTAGRAM for more doable tips! Need help finding senior living or care? BECOME A CLIENT TODAY! We can help with your search for senior living & care wherever you live! www.clearpathsls.com Would you like to share your story and be a guest on our show?  Guest Application Email us at connect@desperatelyseekingseniorliving.com with your senior living questions. www.desperatelyseekingseniorliving.com Hit subscribe ✅ and spread the word! 📣 Listen wherever you listen to podcasts! Don’t forget to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode!  THANK YOU for listening in 🎧commenting, liking 👍, telling others 📣about the show!!  @desperatetodoable #desperatetodoable

    10 min

  7. 12/01/2025

    One More Christmas at Home - Ep 164

    Holidays bring up big emotions, long-held traditions, and a whole lot of pressure... and when you suddenly notice changes in someone you love, it can feel like the world shifts under your feet. In this episode, we break down whether it’s safe to wait until after the holidays to move to assisted living, or whether the signs are telling you it’s time to act now. With clear, doable checklists and gentle guidance, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what to look for, what matters most, and how to protect both your loved one and your peace of mind. Because you’re not alone....and together, we can make this season just a little more doable. CLICK HERE for our DOABLE DOWNLOAD with FULL SHOW NOTES Follow us on INSTAGRAM for more doable tips! Need help finding senior living or care? BECOME A CLIENT TODAY! We can help with your search for senior living & care wherever you live! www.clearpathsls.com Would you like to share your story and be a guest on our show?  Guest Application Email us at connect@desperatelyseekingseniorliving.com with your senior living questions. www.desperatelyseekingseniorliving.com Hit subscribe ✅ and spread the word! 📣 Listen wherever you listen to podcasts! Don’t forget to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode!  THANK YOU for listening in 🎧commenting, liking 👍, telling others 📣about the show!!  @desperatetodoable #desperatetodoable

    14 min

  8. 11/03/2025

    New Jersey Senior Living and Care Options with Kat Verdi - Ep 163

    In this episode, caregiver coach and dementia-care trainer Kat Verdi joins Valerie to break down what families need to know about independent living, assisted living, memory care, and buy-in communities across the Garden State. From understanding the real differences between care types to asking the right “what if” questions before signing a contract, Kat shares compassionate, practical advice based on more than a decade of hands-on experience. You’ll walk away knowing how to spot red flags, what to expect financially, and why transparency is key on both sides. Whether you’re just beginning to explore options or already deep in the process, this conversation will help you move from confusion to clarity - and, as always, help make it doable. CLICK HERE for our DOABLE DOWNLOAD with FULL SHOW NOTES Follow us on INSTAGRAM for more doable tips! Need help finding senior living or care? BECOME A CLIENT TODAY! We can help with your search for senior living & care wherever you live! www.clearpathsls.com Would you like to share your story and be a guest on our show?  Guest Application Email us at connect@desperatelyseekingseniorliving.com with your senior living questions. www.desperatelyseekingseniorliving.com Hit subscribe ✅ and spread the word! 📣 Listen wherever you listen to podcasts! Don’t forget to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode!  THANK YOU for listening in 🎧commenting, liking 👍, telling others 📣about the show!!  @desperatetodoable #desperatetodoable

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Desperately Seeking Senior Living is a podcast and caregiver resource created to help families navigate the overwhelming world of senior living, caregiving and aging. Hosted by Certified Senior Advisor Valerie Lynn, the show combines real conversations, practical guidance and emotional support for the moments families often feel unprepared for - from assisted living and memory care to caregiver burnout, guilt, grief and family dynamics. Through expert interviews, family stories and doable tips, our goal is simple: helping families go from desperate to doable 💜 You’ll also find caregiver resources, full show notes, support links and ways to connect through our Doable Downloads and online community @DesperateToDoable Subscribe so you never miss an episode.

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  • Creator
    Valerie Lynn Borgman
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    172
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2021 All rights reserved.
  • Show Website
    Desperately Seeking Senior Living

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