Coaching Your Family Relationships

Tina Gosney
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When family relationships are full of conflict, it’s easy to lose yourself trying to fix them. On Coaching Your Family Relationships, family conflict coach Tina Gosney helps you navigate painful disconnection with clarity and strength—so you can stay true to yourself while building healthier relationships. Whether you're struggling with a strained relationship with your adult child, your spouse, or extended family, you'll find tools, mindset shifts, and encouragement to handle conflict without losing your peace.  Start with the free guide: 5 Things To Say (and Not Say) to Your Adult Child After Conflict Visit: bit.ly/sayafterconflict

  1. 1D AGO

    How to Reconnect with an Estranged Adult Child by Calming Your Righting Reflex

    Let us know what you think about the podcast! Episode 205:  How to Reconnect with an Estranged Adult Child by Calming Your Righting Reflex    What if the harder you try to help your adult child, the more they pull away?  In this episode, we talk about why your adult child won’t talk to you, how our child-centered parenting culture has increased anxiety for both parents and kids, and how that anxiety is now playing out in your relationship with your grown child.  Tina Gosney is a family conflict coach and family life educator. This episode is grounded in a research-based article from Family Process called “Balanced Parenting,” which uses Bowen Family Systems Theory to explain why so many loving parents feel responsible for their adult child’s emotions—and why that often backfires.  This episode is for you if:  You’re wondering, “Why won’t my adult child talk to me?”You feel like “my adult child is pulling away” and you’re walking on eggshellsYou’ve searched for “how to reconnect with an estranged adult child” or “how to fix a broken relationship with adult child”You sometimes think, “I feel rejected by my adult child” and don’t know how to make it betterYou’re scared this might end in adult children cutting off parents, and you don’t want that to be your story You’ll see how our anxious, child-focused culture trained you to over-function for your child’s emotions, and how that same pattern can make adult children feel watched, judged, or controlled.   What we cover:   What the research on Balanced Parenting says about parents taking on too much emotional responsibilityHow the righting reflex (the urge to fix, correct, and rescue) shows up in parenting adult children relationshipsHow anxiety gets passed around the family system when no one has learned to manage their ownWhy your adult child may shut down or distance themselves when you’re “only trying to help”A new, balanced, differentiation-based approach that helps you calm yourself instead of trying to manage your adult child You’ll leave with a clearer understanding of the big picture—and some first steps to start changing  If you’re tired of reacting to what’s happening in your family and want more internal calm and confidence, I’d love to support you. Reset to Connection runs live February 2–6 at 9 a.m. Mountain Time, with short daily sessions and replays available.  We'll focus on getting off the emotional roller coaster and creating confidence. The registration link is below.  CLICK HERE TO REGISTER Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

    30 min

  2. JAN 20

    "Why Won't My Adult Child Talk to Me?" An Unhelpful Question

    Let us know what you think about the podcast! Episode 204: Why Won’t My Adult Child Talk to Me? An Unhelpful Question If you’re lying awake asking yourself, “Why won’t my adult child talk to me?” you are not alone. This question sits at the heart of so much pain for parents navigating emotional distance from adult children. Many parents feel rejected, confused, and exhausted—especially when they’ve tried so hard to be loving, supportive, and present. In this episode of the Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast, Tina Gosney—family conflict coach and family life educator—offers a powerful reframe that helps parents move out of helplessness and into influence. Instead of asking what’s wrong with my adult child, this episode explores what’s happening in the relationship pattern—and where parents actually have the ability to create change. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why a causality mindset (“What did I do wrong?” or “Why are they doing this to me?”) keeps parents stuck and powerlessHow relationship patterns develop quietly over time—and why conflict often reveals issues that were already thereWhy it’s so hard to listen to your adult child without taking everything personallyHow defensiveness, sadness, anger, resentment, and grief can shut down communication without you meaning toWhy many adult children feel they’ve never had space to express their emotions—and why distance can feel like their only optionHow parents often seek reassurance from people who agree with them, and why validation alone doesn’t lead to relationship repairWhat it means to take being a good parent off the table and focus instead on understanding blind spotsWhy learning to separate your feelings from your adult child’s experience is essential for healing family relationshipsThis episode is especially helpful if you’re struggling with: Emotional distance from adult childrenFeeling like you’re walking on eggshells around your adult childWondering “Why won’t my adult child talk to me?”Trying to understand adult children cutting off parentsWanting to reco If you’re tired of reacting to what’s happening in your family and want more internal calm and confidence, I’d love to support you. Reset to Connection runs live February 2–6 at 9 a.m. Mountain Time, with short daily sessions and replays available.  We'll focus on getting off the emotional roller coaster and creating confidence. The registration link is below.  CLICK HERE TO REGISTER Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

    20 min

  3. JAN 13

    "Why Won’t My Adult Child Talk to Me?" The False Comfort of AI Answers

    Let us know what you think about the podcast! Episode 203: "Why Won't My Adult Child Talk to Me?" The False Comfort of AI Answers If you’ve ever typed “why won’t my adult child talk to me” into Google at 2 a.m., hoping for clarity or comfort, you’re not alone. Many parents experiencing estrangement from adult children are turning to AI tools for support—hoping to find relief from the pain, confusion, and rejection they feel. But while AI might offer quick comfort, it can’t truly help you reconnect with an estranged adult child or heal the emotional wounds underneath the silence. In this episode of the Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast, I’m sharing why AI can’t replace human connection—especially when it comes to healing parent-child relationships. You'll learn why emotional healing for parents requires more than advice or reassurance. It requires courage, self-awareness, and the kind of human support that helps you regulate your nervous system, see your own contribution to the dynamic, and find compassion for yourself and your adult child. We’ll walk through the story of Julia, a mother navigating the heartbreak of emotional distance from her daughter. Through her story, you’ll discover how to stop walking on eggshells and start understanding the bigger picture in your family. If you've ever said, “I feel rejected by my adult child,” this episode will speak directly to your heart—and give you tools to begin the healing process. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why turning to AI can create a false sense of connectionHow estrangement from adult children is rarely about one eventThe importance of seeing your own role in family dynamics and communication breakdownsWhy your nervous system needs co-regulation from a real personHow to rebuild trust with an adult child without control or shameWhether you're dealing with emotional distance, complete cutoff, or just want to improve communication with your adult children, this conversation is for you. Healing after estrangement starts with you—and this episode will help you take the first step. Subscribe to the show and get weekly insights on how to reconnect with your adult child with grace, strength, and emotional matu  If you’re tired of reacting to what’s happening in your family and want more internal calm and confidence, I’d love to support you. Reset to Connection runs live February 2–6 at 9 a.m. Mountain Time, with short daily sessions and replays available.  We'll focus on getting off the emotional roller coaster and creating confidence. The registration link is below.  CLICK HERE TO REGISTER Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

    18 min

  4. 12/23/2025

    Don't Wait Until They're Gone: Seeing the Sacred in the People Right in Front of You

    Let us know what you think about the podcast! Episode 202: Don’t Wait Until They’re Gone: Seeing the Sacred in the People Right in Front of You We save our kindest words for funerals. We use the good dishes for guests. We wait until life feels “special enough” to start really living. But what if every moment and every person were already sacred? In this final episode of 2025, I share a deeply personal reflection on losing a close family member and what that experience taught me about honoring the people in our lives while they are still here. From the quiet halls of a hospital to the untouched purse on my shelf, I explore the everyday ways we delay love, gratitude, and appreciation. This episode will challenge you to stop waiting. Stop waiting for people to change. Stop waiting for relationships to improve. Stop waiting for a better time. And start seeing the beauty in the ordinary. Because this is the moment. This is your life. And it’s worth living and loving right now. You’ll hear about: The sacredness of ordinary moments in family relationshipsHow grief wakes us up to what we’ve overlookedWhy we hold back appreciation and how that blocks connectionA story about a beautiful purse and how it became a metaphor for lifeThought reversals that will shift how you see your adult childrenThe power of reflecting on 2025 with grace, gratitude, and growthTwo powerful quotes from Albert Einstein and Thomas Merton that tie it all togetherThis episode is especially for you if: You feel like you're walking on eggshells around your adult childYou’ve been holding back love, waiting for your child to changeYou want to reconnect with an estranged or emotionally distant adult childYou’re ready to stop waiting and start appreciating your family even if it’s messy If you’re tired of reacting to what’s happening in your family and want more internal calm and confidence, I’d love to support you. Reset to Connection runs live February 2–6 at 9 a.m. Mountain Time, with short daily sessions and replays available.  We'll focus on getting off the emotional roller coaster and creating confidence. The registration link is below.  CLICK HERE TO REGISTER Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

    15 min

  5. 12/19/2025

    Powerful Lessons to Carry Into the New Year - Listener Favorites from 2025

    Let us know what you think about the podcast! Episode 201: Powerful Lessons to Carry Into the New Year – Listener Favorites from 2025  Are you ready to start the new year with strength, clarity, and hope? In this special compilation episode, I’m bringing you highlights from four of the most impactful and talked-about episodes of 2025. These conversations struck a deep chord with so many listeners—and if you’re like most of the parents I work with, they’ll speak directly to your heart too. I'm Tina Gosney, family conflict coach and family life educator. If you're looking to repair your relationship with your adult child, find your emotional footing, and lead with grace instead of fear, you're in the right place. Here’s what you’ll hear in today’s episode: 1. What Your Young Adult Child Wants You To Know (Ep. 178) Want to know what your adult child isn’t saying out loud? In this clip, I share eye-opening insights into how young adults experience their relationship with their parents—and how you can build connection without control. 2. The Truth About Mom Guilt: Why You Feel It and How to Let it Go (Ep. 176) Mom guilt doesn’t make you a better parent—it keeps you stuck. In this segment, I break down where guilt really comes from and how to start shifting into emotional freedom. 3. Raising Confident Kids Without Hovering – with Kepler Knott (Ep. 197) Author Kepler Knott joined me to talk about raising resilient kids in a world that’s full of anxiety. Whether your kids are young or grown, this conversation will give you practical tools to stop over-functioning and start trusting your child’s inner wisdom. 4. When Family Hurts: Why Pulling Back Isn't Selfish—It's Part of Healing (Ep. 182) When relationships are painful, taking space can feel wrong. But sometimes, stepping back is an act of love—for them and for yourself. This clip unpacks the why and how of healthy emotional distance in family life. If you're new here, this is the perfect place to begin. And if you're a long-time listener, let this be your reminder that growth takes time, and you’re already on the path.    If you’re tired of reacting to what’s happening in your family and want more internal calm and confidence, I’d love to support you. Reset to Connection runs live February 2–6 at 9 a.m. Mountain Time, with short daily sessions and replays available.  We'll focus on getting off the emotional roller coaster and creating confidence. The registration link is below.  CLICK HERE TO REGISTER Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

    2h 58m

  6. 11/25/2025

    Why Gratitude Changes Everything: Abundance, Joy, and Healing in Family Life

    Let us know what you think about the podcast! Episode 200 - Why Gratitude Changes Everything: Abundance, Joy, and Healing in Family Life  In today’s episode of the Finding Joy Series, Tina dives deep into one of the most powerful emotional tools available to us—gratitude. This isn’t the shallow “write three things” gratitude list you’ve heard a thousand times. Instead, Tina teaches you how gratitude helps regulate your nervous system, rewires your brain’s negativity bias, and creates real emotional safety in your body. Drawing from the Eight Pillars of Joy (Dalai Lama & Desmond Tutu), Tina explains why gratitude is a pillar of the heart, how your body stores emotional memory, and why without body-based learning, real change doesn’t stick. You’ll learn: Why your brain automatically focuses on the negativeHow body learning worksHow scarcity and “never enough” thinking becomes an energy centerWhy you struggle to receive compliments or gratitudeHow gratitude helps you shift your focus from lack to abundanceHow to heal scarcity and regulate your nervous system using gratitude Episode TakeawaysGratitude helps you override the brain’s built-in negativity bias.Receiving gratitude is an essential relational skill—not a bonus.True change requires integrating mind + body, not relying on thought alone.Consistent practice shifts your identity, confidence, and capacity for connection.This Week’s ChallengeEvery day, write down three things you’re grateful for—and don’t repeat any items all week. Then sit quietly for five minutes and feel gratitude in your body. Notice how it changes your emotional tone.  If you’re tired of reacting to what’s happening in your family and want more internal calm and confidence, I’d love to support you. Reset to Connection runs live February 2–6 at 9 a.m. Mountain Time, with short daily sessions and replays available.  We'll focus on getting off the emotional roller coaster and creating confidence. The registration link is below.  CLICK HERE TO REGISTER Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

    24 min

  7. 11/18/2025

    Two Communication Habits that Hurt Your Family Relationships

    Let us know what you think about the podcast! Episode 199: Two Communication Habits That Hurt Your Family Relationships  Are your efforts to connect actually driving disconnection?  In this episode of the Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast, Tina Gosney, family conflict coach and family life educator, unpacks two common communication habits that silently sabotage family trust and closeness—Unbridled Self-Expression and Punishment and Retaliation.  These habits often come from a place of deep hurt or high expectations, but they rarely get you the connection you want. Instead, they keep you stuck in frustration, resentment, and miscommunication.  You’ll learn:  Why “speaking your truth” might be crossing a boundaryThe emotional cost of spilling your feelings without filterHow our childhood home dynamics still shape how we show up in adult relationshipsWhat passive-aggressive behavior really communicates—and why it never worksHow to stop letting your feelings control your words and actionsA better way to respond when you feel hurt or disappointed by a family member This episode is especially helpful if you've ever thought:   “I don’t know how to talk to them anymore”“Everything I say gets taken the wrong way”“Why do I always end up being the bad guy?” You don’t need to yell, shut down, or “teach them a lesson” to be heard. There is another way—and it starts with understanding what’s not working.  If you’re tired of reacting to what’s happening in your family and want more internal calm and confidence, I’d love to support you. Reset to Connection runs live February 2–6 at 9 a.m. Mountain Time, with short daily sessions and replays available.  We'll focus on getting off the emotional roller coaster and creating confidence. The registration link is below.  CLICK HERE TO REGISTER Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

    26 min

  8. 11/11/2025

    Why Needing to Be Right and Staying in Control Are Hurting Your Relationship with Your Adult Child

    Let us know what you think about the podcast! Episode 198 - Why Needing to Be Right and Staying in Control Are Hurting Your Relationship with Your Adult Child "Why won’t my adult child talk to me?" If you’ve found yourself asking that question, you're not alone—and this episode is for you. I’m Tina Gosney, family conflict coach and family life educator. In this special rebroadcast, I’m bringing back two powerful episodes because the messages inside them are so important. They highlight two common, but losing strategies in family relationships: the need to be right and the need to stay in control. These patterns show up in nearly every strained parent-adult child relationship, especially in families experiencing emotional distance, conflict, or even estrangement. If you're searching for how to reconnect with an estranged adult child or wondering how to fix a broken relationship with your adult child, this is where you start. Most parents don’t realize they’re relying on these strategies—but they often show up as walking on eggshells, trying to get your child to understand your point of view, or needing them to see you in a certain way. These are protective strategies, but they push your child further away. In this episode, you’ll learn: How the need to be right can damage trust and lead to long-term disconnectionWhy trying to control how your adult child behaves, thinks, or sees you often backfiresWhat’s happening in your brain that keeps you repeating these ineffective patternsHow to stop the cycle and start building a healthier, more respectful relationshipIf you've been asking “why does my child hate me?” or feel like “my adult child is pulling away,” this episode will help you understand what’s really going on underneath those feelings—and what you can do about it. This is about more than just improving communication. It’s about emotional maturity in parent-adult child dynamics, and learning to respond with grace and strength—so you can create connection without control. Let’s Connect: If you’re tired of feeling rejected by your adult child or unsure how to move forward, let’s talk. Book a free consultation with me:  If you’re tired of reacting to what’s happening in your family and want more internal calm and confidence, I’d love to support you. Reset to Connection runs live February 2–6 at 9 a.m. Mountain Time, with short daily sessions and replays available.  We'll focus on getting off the emotional roller coaster and creating confidence. The registration link is below.  CLICK HERE TO REGISTER Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

    33 min
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When family relationships are full of conflict, it’s easy to lose yourself trying to fix them. On Coaching Your Family Relationships, family conflict coach Tina Gosney helps you navigate painful disconnection with clarity and strength—so you can stay true to yourself while building healthier relationships. Whether you're struggling with a strained relationship with your adult child, your spouse, or extended family, you'll find tools, mindset shifts, and encouragement to handle conflict without losing your peace.  Start with the free guide: 5 Things To Say (and Not Say) to Your Adult Child After Conflict Visit: bit.ly/sayafterconflict

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