Coaching Your Family Relationships

Tina Gosney
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When family relationships are full of conflict, it’s easy to lose yourself trying to fix them. On Coaching Your Family Relationships, family conflict coach Tina Gosney helps you navigate painful disconnection with clarity and strength—so you can stay true to yourself while building healthier relationships. Whether you're struggling with a strained relationship with your adult child, your spouse, or extended family, you'll find tools, mindset shifts, and encouragement to handle conflict without losing your peace.  Start with the free guide: 5 Things To Say (and Not Say) to Your Adult Child After Conflict Visit: bit.ly/sayafterconflict

  1. 1D AGO

    Don't Wait Until They're Gone: Seeing the Sacred in the People Right in Front of You

    Send us a text Episode 202: Don’t Wait Until They’re Gone: Seeing the Sacred in the People Right in Front of You We save our kindest words for funerals. We use the good dishes for guests. We wait until life feels “special enough” to start really living. But what if every moment and every person were already sacred? In this final episode of 2025, I share a deeply personal reflection on losing a close family member and what that experience taught me about honoring the people in our lives while they are still here. From the quiet halls of a hospital to the untouched purse on my shelf, I explore the everyday ways we delay love, gratitude, and appreciation. This episode will challenge you to stop waiting. Stop waiting for people to change. Stop waiting for relationships to improve. Stop waiting for a better time. And start seeing the beauty in the ordinary. Because this is the moment. This is your life. And it’s worth living and loving right now. You’ll hear about: The sacredness of ordinary moments in family relationshipsHow grief wakes us up to what we’ve overlookedWhy we hold back appreciation and how that blocks connectionA story about a beautiful purse and how it became a metaphor for lifeThought reversals that will shift how you see your adult childrenThe power of reflecting on 2025 with grace, gratitude, and growthTwo powerful quotes from Albert Einstein and Thomas Merton that tie it all togetherThis episode is especially for you if: You feel like you're walking on eggshells around your adult childYou’ve been holding back love, waiting for your child to changeYou want to reconnect with an estranged or emotionally distant adult childYou’re ready to stop waiting and start appreciating your family even if it’s messyDownload the Free Guide: “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama” Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace. Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide: Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

    15 min

  2. 5D AGO

    Powerful Lessons to Carry Into the New Year - Listener Favorites from 2025

    Send us a text Episode 201: Powerful Lessons to Carry Into the New Year – Listener Favorites from 2025  Are you ready to start the new year with strength, clarity, and hope? In this special compilation episode, I’m bringing you highlights from four of the most impactful and talked-about episodes of 2025. These conversations struck a deep chord with so many listeners—and if you’re like most of the parents I work with, they’ll speak directly to your heart too. I'm Tina Gosney, family conflict coach and family life educator. If you're looking to repair your relationship with your adult child, find your emotional footing, and lead with grace instead of fear, you're in the right place. Here’s what you’ll hear in today’s episode: 1. What Your Young Adult Child Wants You To Know (Ep. 178) Want to know what your adult child isn’t saying out loud? In this clip, I share eye-opening insights into how young adults experience their relationship with their parents—and how you can build connection without control. 2. The Truth About Mom Guilt: Why You Feel It and How to Let it Go (Ep. 176) Mom guilt doesn’t make you a better parent—it keeps you stuck. In this segment, I break down where guilt really comes from and how to start shifting into emotional freedom. 3. Raising Confident Kids Without Hovering – with Kepler Knott (Ep. 197) Author Kepler Knott joined me to talk about raising resilient kids in a world that’s full of anxiety. Whether your kids are young or grown, this conversation will give you practical tools to stop over-functioning and start trusting your child’s inner wisdom. 4. When Family Hurts: Why Pulling Back Isn't Selfish—It's Part of Healing (Ep. 182) When relationships are painful, taking space can feel wrong. But sometimes, stepping back is an act of love—for them and for yourself. This clip unpacks the why and how of healthy emotional distance in family life. If you're new here, this is the perfect place to begin. And if you're a long-time listener, let this be your reminder that growth ta Download the Free Guide: “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama” Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace. Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide: Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

    2h 56m

  3. NOV 25

    Why Gratitude Changes Everything: Abundance, Joy, and Healing in Family Life

    Send us a text Episode 200 - Why Gratitude Changes Everything: Abundance, Joy, and Healing in Family Life  In today’s episode of the Finding Joy Series, Tina dives deep into one of the most powerful emotional tools available to us—gratitude. This isn’t the shallow “write three things” gratitude list you’ve heard a thousand times. Instead, Tina teaches you how gratitude helps regulate your nervous system, rewires your brain’s negativity bias, and creates real emotional safety in your body. Drawing from the Eight Pillars of Joy (Dalai Lama & Desmond Tutu), Tina explains why gratitude is a pillar of the heart, how your body stores emotional memory, and why without body-based learning, real change doesn’t stick. You’ll learn: Why your brain automatically focuses on the negativeHow body learning worksHow scarcity and “never enough” thinking becomes an energy centerWhy you struggle to receive compliments or gratitudeHow gratitude helps you shift your focus from lack to abundanceHow to heal scarcity and regulate your nervous system using gratitude Episode TakeawaysGratitude helps you override the brain’s built-in negativity bias.Receiving gratitude is an essential relational skill—not a bonus.True change requires integrating mind + body, not relying on thought alone.Consistent practice shifts your identity, confidence, and capacity for connection.This Week’s ChallengeEvery day, write down three things you’re grateful for—and don’t repeat any items all week. Then sit quietly for five minutes and feel gratitude in your body. Notice how it changes your emotional tone. Download the Free Guide: “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama” Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace. Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide: Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

    24 min

  4. NOV 18

    Two Communication Habits that Hurt Your Family Relationships

    Send us a text Episode 199: Two Communication Habits That Hurt Your Family Relationships  Are your efforts to connect actually driving disconnection?  In this episode of the Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast, Tina Gosney, family conflict coach and family life educator, unpacks two common communication habits that silently sabotage family trust and closeness—Unbridled Self-Expression and Punishment and Retaliation.  These habits often come from a place of deep hurt or high expectations, but they rarely get you the connection you want. Instead, they keep you stuck in frustration, resentment, and miscommunication.  You’ll learn:  Why “speaking your truth” might be crossing a boundaryThe emotional cost of spilling your feelings without filterHow our childhood home dynamics still shape how we show up in adult relationshipsWhat passive-aggressive behavior really communicates—and why it never worksHow to stop letting your feelings control your words and actionsA better way to respond when you feel hurt or disappointed by a family member This episode is especially helpful if you've ever thought:   “I don’t know how to talk to them anymore”“Everything I say gets taken the wrong way”“Why do I always end up being the bad guy?” You don’t need to yell, shut down, or “teach them a lesson” to be heard. There is another way—and it starts with understanding what’s not working. Download the Free Guide: “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama” Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace. Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide: Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

    24 min

  5. NOV 11

    Why Needing to Be Right and Staying in Control Are Hurting Your Relationship with Your Adult Child

    Send us a text Episode 198 - Why Needing to Be Right and Staying in Control Are Hurting Your Relationship with Your Adult Child "Why won’t my adult child talk to me?" If you’ve found yourself asking that question, you're not alone—and this episode is for you. I’m Tina Gosney, family conflict coach and family life educator. In this special rebroadcast, I’m bringing back two powerful episodes because the messages inside them are so important. They highlight two common, but losing strategies in family relationships: the need to be right and the need to stay in control. These patterns show up in nearly every strained parent-adult child relationship, especially in families experiencing emotional distance, conflict, or even estrangement. If you're searching for how to reconnect with an estranged adult child or wondering how to fix a broken relationship with your adult child, this is where you start. Most parents don’t realize they’re relying on these strategies—but they often show up as walking on eggshells, trying to get your child to understand your point of view, or needing them to see you in a certain way. These are protective strategies, but they push your child further away. In this episode, you’ll learn: How the need to be right can damage trust and lead to long-term disconnectionWhy trying to control how your adult child behaves, thinks, or sees you often backfiresWhat’s happening in your brain that keeps you repeating these ineffective patternsHow to stop the cycle and start building a healthier, more respectful relationshipIf you've been asking “why does my child hate me?” or feel like “my adult child is pulling away,” this episode will help you understand what’s really going on underneath those feelings—and what you can do about it. This is about more than just improving communication. It’s about emotional maturity in parent-adult child dynamics, and learning to respond with grace and strength—so you can create connection without control. Let’s Connect: If you’re tired Download the Free Guide: “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama” Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace. Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide: Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

    31 min

  6. OCT 28

    Raising Confident Kids Without Hovering, with Kepler Knott

    Send us a text Episode 197 -  Raising Confident Kids Without Hovering, with Kepler Knott  “How do I help my child grow into a confident adult without controlling their every step?” If you’ve ever asked yourself that question, you’re not alone. Parenting today’s generation is a whole different ball game. With the rise of social media, constant comparison, digital overload, and the fear of letting our kids fail, it’s no wonder so many parents feel stuck between wanting to protect their children and wanting them to grow strong and resilient. In this episode of the Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast, I talk with Kepler Knott, author of Raising Tomorrow—a powerful new book that began as heartfelt letters to his daughters and grew into a guide for modern parenting. Together, we explore how to raise emotionally healthy kids in a world full of noise, pressure, and expectations. You’ll hear us unpack: How to advise your kids without trying to control the outcomeThe emotional cost of constant comparison for both kids and parentsWhy technology can quietly erode confidence—and how to counter itThe surprising way that service and giving build resilient, grounded kidsWhy modeling a growth mindset matters more than everThis episode isn’t about perfect parenting. It’s about parenting with intention, humility, and heart. Whether your child is pulling away emotionally, you feel like you’re walking on eggshells, or you simply want to build a more connected relationship, this conversation will give you fresh insight and practical tools to start showing up differently. Learn more at https://www.raisingtomorrow.org/  Download the Free Guide: “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama” Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace. Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide: Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

    1h 23m

  7. OCT 21

    The Emotionally Immature Things We Say (And Why They Don’t Work)

    Send us a text Episode 196 - The Emotionally Immature Things We Say (And Why They Don’t Work) Have you ever walked away from a conversation with your adult child and thought, “Why did I say that?” or “That did not go how I wanted”? In this episode, Tina dives deep into the emotionally immature things we say—often without realizing it—and why those words don’t create the connection we long for. You’ll learn how your nervous system hijacks your responses, how to notice your patterns, and how to shift toward emotional maturity and real repair. Whether you’ve said, “I’m not perfect, you know,” or “Just get over it and move on,” this episode will help you understand what’s underneath those words—and what to say instead. What You'll Learn: Why emotional immaturity isn’t about being a “bad parent”—it’s about being in protection mode7 common phrases that damage connection (and what they really mean)How your nervous system impacts your ability to stay calm and presentSimple shifts to move from reactivity to responsibility in conversationsWhy awareness—not perfection—is the first step to healing family relationships  Download the Free Guide: “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama” Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace. Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide: Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

    13 min

  8. OCT 14

    3 Shifts to Begin Solving Family Conflict – Even if You’re the Only One Trying

    Send us a text Episode 195 – 3 Shifts to Begin Solving Family Conflict – Even if You’re the Only One Trying   Is your relationship with your adult child strained, tense, or completely shut down? You’re not alone—and you’re not powerless. In this episode, I’m giving you the three foundational shifts that begin to heal family conflict, even when the other person isn’t willing to engage. If you’ve been trying to fix the relationship by focusing on them, this episode is your invitation to turn inward and start creating change that lasts. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why looking at your own role in the conflict is a powerful first stepHow to manage your emotional reactions in the heat of the momentThe impact of unspoken expectations on family dynamicsWhy discomfort is a sign you’re on the right path—and how to handle it with strengthThe ONE shift that opens the door to real healing in your relationshipDownload the Free Guide:  “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”  Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace. Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE   Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide: Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE   Download the Free Guide: “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama” Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace. Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide: Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

    21 min
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When family relationships are full of conflict, it’s easy to lose yourself trying to fix them. On Coaching Your Family Relationships, family conflict coach Tina Gosney helps you navigate painful disconnection with clarity and strength—so you can stay true to yourself while building healthier relationships. Whether you're struggling with a strained relationship with your adult child, your spouse, or extended family, you'll find tools, mindset shifts, and encouragement to handle conflict without losing your peace.  Start with the free guide: 5 Things To Say (and Not Say) to Your Adult Child After Conflict Visit: bit.ly/sayafterconflict

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