In this episode, Dan and Stephanie sit down with Dr. Jake Porter for a thoughtful and honest conversation about one of the most debated — and often weaponized — passages in Christian marriage discussions: 1 Corinthians 7. What did Paul actually mean when he wrote about marital intimacy? How has this passage been misused to justify pressure, coercion, and “duty sex” within Christian relationships? And what happens when mutuality, context, and the heart of the Gospel are stripped away from the conversation? Together, they unpack the historical and relational context of Paul’s words, explore the difference between covenant and control, and discuss how Scripture can be applied in ways that either foster safety and connection or deepen shame and harm. This episode is not about dismissing Scripture. It is about reading it carefully, relationally, and in the spirit it was intended. Topics include: Weaponized Scripture in marriage“Duty sex” and coercive interpretationsMutuality and consent in 1 Corinthians 7What Dr. Stephanie has heard in her NeuroDiverse Couples' WorkIs there such a thing as the sin of withholding?What Paul was addressing in the Corinthian churchHow pastors and couples can approach these conversations with wisdom and careA nuanced conversation about theology, relationships, and the difference between biblical intimacy and spiritual pressure. About Dr. Jake Porter: https://www.daringventures.com/ Scripturally, Pastorally & Clinically Trained: EducationB.A., Elmira College, triple majors in Psychology, Music, Philosophy & Religion M.Div., Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary Th.M. in Spirituality & Ethics, The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary M.Ed. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling, Lamar University Ed.D., The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. Dissertation: Affective Social Neurobiology & Student Formation: A Transdisciplinary Multimethod Study Professional Memberships & AffiliationsLead Professor for the Doctor of Professional Counseling Program & Assistant Professor of Counseling, Kairos University Faculty, International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals Member, Division 47 of the APA: Society for Sport, Exercise and Performance Psychology Member, Division 43 of the APA: Society for Couple and Family Psychology Member, Division 8 of the APA: Society for Personality and Social Psychology Member, Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health Professional ServiceFounder & President, The International Association of Couple–Centered Recovery® Board of Directors, The Association of Partners of Sex Addiction Trauma Specialists (APSATS) Board of Directors, Christian Sex Addiction Specialists International (C-SASI) Professor of Counseling, Kairos University's Houston Graduate School of Theology Licensure & CertificationsLicensed Professional Counselor, State of Texas (#78173) Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, State of Montana (#76171) Board Certified Counselor, National Board for Certified Counselors Certified Sex Addiction Therapist – Supervisor, International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals Certified Multiple Addiction Therapist, International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals Certified Clinical Partner Specialist, The Association for Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists Certified Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy Provider, The Integrative Psychiatry Institute Licensed Psilocybin Facilitator (FL-12de7070), State of Oregon Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, International Association of Trauma Professionals Advanced TrainingsCoachRICE Executive Leadership Coach Training, Rice University PACT Level III (Psychological Approach to Couple Therapy) Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) Level I Gottman Couple Therapy Level I EMDR Level I (EMDRIA–Approved Training) Emotionally Focused Therapy (Externship, Core Skills 1-4) Post–Induction Therapy (The Meadows Model), Pia Mellody
