Geek Psychology: Play Life Better

Matt Sherman
  • 5.0 (6)
  • Self-Improvement
  • Updated Weekly

I help geeks and gamers to play life better. As an INFP, I've spent a lot of time trying to understand myself, forcing myself outside of my comfort zone, finding my purpose in life, gaining self-confidence, and learning how to have better relationships. Personality type is one of the main models I use to help clients regain control over their lives, but I also tend to use Neuro-Linguistic Programming and hypnosis as well. Stay awhile and listen!

  1. 9h ago

    INFPs How to Stop Being an Emotional Sponge

    ️ Grab the FREE INFP Personality Type Tutorial → https://geekpsychology.com/infp ▶️ Join a community of INFPs. Check out Evolve → http://evolve.geekpsychology.com Stop absorbing others' emotions and learn energetic protection techniques to prevent emotional overwhelm. Master your own internal state. Many INFPs and highly sensitive individuals struggle with feeling drained by the people around them. If you often feel like a sponge for other people's moods, this video offers a different perspective on how energetic protection actually functions. You will learn how to shift your mindset from passive absorption to active generation of your own emotional state. Drawing on a concept from Antonia Dodge, I explain why you are not actually taking on the feelings of others. Instead, you are often generating those responses within yourself. By changing how you view this process, you can reclaim your boundaries and stop feeling responsible for the emotional climate of every room you enter. This approach is essential for anyone looking to improve their emotional intelligence and maintain stability. Subscribe for weekly INFP and personality type breakdowns, and comment below if you have ever felt like an emotional sponge in social situations. ️ TOOLS I USE: Video editing → Descript (50% off 2 months) https://descript.cello.so/xEAztGmHclI Build apps without code → Lovable (10 free credits) https://lovable.dev/invite/CIPXD88 AI voice dictation → Wispr Flow (free month of Pro) https://wisprflow.ai/r?MATT3746 Mic I use → Shure MV7+ https://amzn.to/3QDQCpg Get vidIQ to grow your channel faster! → https://vidiq.com/geekpsychology

  2. 1d ago

    Breaking The Loop A Practical Guide For INFPs

    ️ Grab the FREE INFP Personality Type Tutorial → https://geekpsychology.com/infp ▶️ Join a community of INFPs. Check out Evolve → http://evolve.geekpsychology.com How INFPs Can Stop Replaying Past Mistakes Stop replaying past mistakes by understanding your INFP personality mental space. Learn to process intrusive thoughts and move forward. Many in the INFP personality community struggle with rumination, often getting stuck replaying past mistakes on a loop. This video explains why your mind categorizes these memories and how to adjust your mental space to stop overthinking. If you feel trapped by yesterday's errors, this breakdown offers a clear perspective on how to shift your focus. I gathered questions from 206 people within the community to address this common pattern of INFP rumination. By learning how your mind constructs these internal representations, you can gain better control over your thoughts. We look at the mechanics of personality psychology to help you break the cycle of negative reflection. Subscribe for weekly INFP personality breakdowns, and comment below if you want me to cover a specific struggle you are facing. Get vidIQ to grow your channel faster! https://vidiq.com/geekpsychology

  3. 2d ago

    Is Your Inner Critic Destroying Your Potential (INFP Edition)

    How do you turn off that relentless, brutal INFP inner critic? If you constantly struggle with self-blame, perfectionism, or replay past mistakes on a loop, this video will change how you view your mind. As an INFP, I know how easy it is to treat ourselves with harshness we would never show to another human being. But here is the secret: that critical voice isn't broken—it's actually trying to protect you. In this video, I dive into the psychological concept of Ego States (Parts Work) and show you step-by-step how to negotiate with your inner critic using light trance, visualization, and self-compassion. Here is what we cover in this episode: The INFP Double Standard: Why we offer compassion to everyone else except ourselves. The Neuroscience of Self-Blame: How ego states in the brain activate to protect you from risk. Why Your Critic Exists: How positive intentions hide behind negative thoughts (survivability & connection). A 4-Step Guided Process: How to meet your inner critic face-to-face and change its role. Real Story Example: How I transformed my own performance anxiety and camera shyness using Parts Work. By the end of this video, you will have a practical framework to stop beating yourself up and turn your inner critic into a powerful ally. Level Up Your INFP Journey FREE 5-Day INFP Personality Type Tutorial course: http://inowfeelpositive.com Evolve Community (access to all 6 courses and monthly workshops): http://evolve.geekpsychology.com ⏱️ CHAPTERS 00:00 – The INFP Double Standard 00:45 – The Brain Mechanics Behind Ego States 01:45 – Why Your Inner Critic Is Trying to Protect You 02:55 – Step-by-Step Guided Parts Work Exercise 04:55 – My Personal Story: Overcoming Performance Anxiety 06:05 – Two Ways to Turn Off the Critic Today

  4. 5d ago

    The Truth About INFPs Are We Really Selfish

    ️ Grab the FREE INFP Personality Type Tutorial → https://geekpsychology.com/infp ▶️ Join a community of INFPs. Check out Evolve → http://evolve.geekpsychology.com Are INFPs actually selfish, or is Introverted Feeling (Fi) just deeply misunderstood? If you have ever been accused of being self-centered—or secretly worried that your Introverted Feeling (Fi) makes you a bad person—this video is for you. As an INFP, I have been called selfish more times than I can count. But when you look under the hood of cognitive psychology, the truth about how we make decisions looks completely different. In this video, I break down the true inner mechanics of Introverted Feeling (the "Soul") and how it pairs with Extraverted Intuition (the "Explorer") to create a powerful engine for genuine human empathy. Here is what we cover in this episode: The Fi Paradox: Why internal harmony looks like selfishness to outsiders (and why it isn't).The Empathy Simulator: How INFPs use Extraverted Intuition (Ne) to step into other people's shoes.The Golden Rule Engine: Why taking time to process internally is actually an act of service.Unconscious Fi Traps: What happens when we skip self-reflection and make choices we regret.Beyond Pure Logic: Why the "Intellect" isn't the only valid decision-making tool in life. By the end of this video, you will finally see that your self-reflection isn't selfishness, it’s how you build deep, authentic empathy. If this breakdown helped give you clarity on your mind, make sure to Like the video, Subscribe to the channel, and hit the notification bell so you don't miss future cognitive function guides! Level Up Your INFP Journey FREE 5-Day INFP Personality Type Tutorial course: https://geekpsychology.com/infpEvolve Community (access to all 6 courses and monthly workshops): http://evolve.geekpsychology.com Know another INFP who struggles with guilt or feeling misunderstood? Share this video with them or post it on your favorite social platforms to spread the word! 00:00 – The Accusation 00:30 – Meet The Resonating Soul 01:25 – The Explorer's Empathy Engine 02:25 – Subjective, Not Selfish 03:10 – The Trap of Unconscious Fi 03:45 – The Intellect vs. The Soul 04:40 – The Power of Personal Resonance

  5. Aug 15

    How I Fixed My Biggest Struggle (As An INFP)

    Is your extraverted thinking holding you back, especially as an INFP? In this video, I reveal how you can strengthen your Te and accomplish your goals without burning out or betraying your values. If you struggle to stay focused and productive, and using your Te feels like it’s "trampling your values," this is for you. I show you how to stop fighting this part of yourself and instead treat it like a "strategizing commander" character that just needs more experience to grow. In this video, you will learn: • The 8 different LIFE approaches for better cognitive function use. • How to approach situations using logic, ideas, feelings, and experiences. • The powerful "Getting XP" mindset for low-drama function development. • A complete 4-step process for "resource mapping" to externalize and solve your problems. Stop trying to force your strengths in situations where they don't help. Learn to be resourceful and authentic by developing all parts of yourself. For more in-depth training and community support, visit evolve.geekpsychology.com. What's your biggest challenge with using your Te? Let me know in the comments, and don't forget to subscribe for more insights! Chapters: 0:00 - Intro: The Struggle with Te as an INFP 0:35 - How My Core Values and Te Used to Conflict 0:50 - Shifting to a "Character Growth" Mindset 1:10 - The 8 LIFE Domains: A New Perspective Shift 2:00 - Using the Eight Life Approaches for a Real Goal (e.g., Weight Loss) 3:30 - How to Get "XP" for Your Functions 5:00 - Gamifying Te with Type Tails 6:30 - Resource Mapping: A 4-Step Te-Focused Process 9:20 - Outro and Community CTA #INFP #CognitiveFunctions #ExtravertedThinking #TeDevelopment #MBTI #SelfImprovement #GeekPsychology #PersonalGrowth #Productivity

  6. Aug 14

    INFPs are Tired of Being the Free Therapist

    Are you an INFP tired of being used as a free therapist or feeling like the "backup friend"? In this video, we break down why INFPs constantly attract one-sided friendships and how to stop draining your emotional energy. Most people won't suddenly realize they're exploiting your empathy—so if you want a different relationship dynamic, you have to be the one to change the input. We’ll explore how to set clear boundaries, stop focusing on what you don't want, and use your natural empathy as a superpower on your own terms. 00:00 INFP Backup Friend Problem 00:31 Stop Trying to Fix People 00:40 Define What You Want 01:07 Shift Your Focus 01:31 Take Different Actions 02:00 Your Empathy Is a Strength 02:41 Set Boundaries 03:43 Turn It Into Opportunity 04:27 Next Steps and Farewell ️ Ready to Level Up Your Character? Join a community of intuitive, growth-minded people inside EVOLVE. Get tools, workshops, and coaching to align your inner heroes and trust yourself in action. Join EVOLVE here: https://evolve.geekpsychology.com Free INFP Training & Resources INFP Masterclass: https://infp.geekpsychology.com Path of Heroes Academy: https://poha.geekpsychology.com #INFP #GeekPsychology #INFPLife #PersonalityTypes #CognitiveFunctions #INFPHelp #PersonalGrowth #Boundaries

  7. Aug 13

    Is Being an INFP a Curse (Many of US Think So)

    If you are an INFP who feels constantly unfocused, scattered, or terrified of putting yourself out there, you are not broken. For a long time, I thought I was flawed because I couldn't stick to rigid routines or live up to society’s expectations of a standard "nine-to-five" mindset. But forcing yourself to act like a different personality type is why you feel stuck. In this video, I break down how to stop being "unfocused" as an INFP without forcing rigid routines that suffocate your soul. We explore your INFP personality traits as a unique character class in the game of life. By understanding your introverted feeling (Fi) and extraverted intuition (Ne), you can reframe your struggles, find your "main quest," and build massive real-world momentum. What you’ll learn in this video: • Why standard routines fail for INFPs (and what to do instead). • How to reframe your personality traits using a character-class mindset. • The simple secret to overcoming a scattered, "butterfly mind." • Practical ways to overcome the fear of engagement through real-world exposure. • How to build momentum and earn XP by aligning action with your core values. If this video helped you reframe your INFP strengths, hit the Like button, Subscribe to the channel, and share this with a fellow INFP who needs to hear it today! Resources for INFPs & Personality Type Growth: • FREE 5-Day INFP Personality Type Tutorial course: http://inowfeelpositive.com • Evolve Community (access to all 6 courses and monthly workshops): http://evolve.geekpsychology.com #INFP #INFPgrowth #geekpsychology #INFPTips #PersonalityTypes #PersonalGrowth

  8. Aug 12

    INFP and the Quest for a Fulfilling Career

    ️ Grab the FREE INFP Personality Type Tutorial → https://geekpsychology.com/infp ▶️ Join a community of INFPs. Check out Evolve → http://evolve.geekpsychology.com When I was about 29, I was cold-calling Japanese banks from a tiny cubicle and lying just to keep my job. I sat there with a a phone to my ear, trying to persuade strangers while everything inside was screaming at me to stop. I hated it. It wasn't my calling (pun intended), it wasn't my dream career, and it certainly wasn't inspiring. But I needed money to survive. I was reading a message from an INFP asking how to stop overthinking career choices and actually start applying for jobs. They said, "How can I make career job decisions more quickly? And moving from the internal brainstorming phase to actually doing something in real life, like applying. LOL. " We do that a lot, don't we? We add a light emoji or a quick joke to the end of a heavy admission when things feels too uncomfortable. The trouble with overthinking a big move is that we mistake research for progress. You read another job description. You weigh five different potential paths. You imagine every scenario where you might fail or regret your choice. But every single piece of information you gather without taking action just adds weight. Before you know it, you’re carrying this massive bag of heavy possibilities, completely paralyzed, unable to take a single step forward. I used to think I had to find the perfect path before I could begin. But my past wasn't a clean, linear journey. I’ve been a Subway "sandwich artist" making five dollars an hour. I worked on a restaurant boat on Lake Biwa. I taught English in Korea and Japan. I did coaching and hypnosis. None of those felt like "the answer" when I started. But each one gave me a real data point. I learned what drained me, what hooked me, and what aligned with who I was. You don't figure out your life by thinking about it in a vacuum. You figure it out by going into the world, getting real experience, and adjusting as you go. Being afraid of making the wrong choice doesn't protect you from failure, but it does keep you from making progress. If you’re stuck right now, try making one small move before you do any more research. Ask your future self if this endless hesitation is actually serving you, or if it's just fear disguised as planning.

See All (610)

Ratings & Reviews

5
out of 5
6 Ratings

About

I help geeks and gamers to play life better. As an INFP, I've spent a lot of time trying to understand myself, forcing myself outside of my comfort zone, finding my purpose in life, gaining self-confidence, and learning how to have better relationships. Personality type is one of the main models I use to help clients regain control over their lives, but I also tend to use Neuro-Linguistic Programming and hypnosis as well. Stay awhile and listen!

Information

You Might Also Like