Geek Psychology: Play Life Better

Matt Sherman
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I help geeks and gamers to play life better. As an INFP, I've spent a lot of time trying to understand myself, forcing myself outside of my comfort zone, finding my purpose in life, gaining self-confidence, and learning how to have better relationships. Personality type is one of the main models I use to help clients regain control over their lives, but I also tend to use Neuro-Linguistic Programming and hypnosis as well. Stay awhile and listen!

  1. 11/05/2025

    Myers Briggs and the 9 Attachment Styles (Interview with Dr Dario Nardi)

    ️ Grab the 5-day INFP tutorial and join 5,000+ people getting rare weekly insights → http://geekpsychology.com/infp-5day ▶️ Ready to go deeper? Check out the Evolve Community at http://evolve.geekpsychology.com Most people think they want deep connection—until old patterns show up. You chase, pull back, shut down. Sound familiar? In this conversation with neuroscientist and author Dr. Dario Nardi, we break down the 9 attachment styles (not just the basic 4) and how your Myers-Briggs type secretly influences the way you love, trust, and sabotage relationships. Whether you're an INFP stuck in the push-pull cycle, an INTJ lone wolf, or an ENFJ anxious pursuer, this video will help you finally understand why you keep repeating the same patterns—and what you can actually do about it. We cover: • The 4 classic attachment styles (and why they're incomplete) • The expanded 9-style model with your personality type's "home base" • Why gender socialization vs. type creates inner conflict • Defense mechanisms that keep you blind to your own pattern • The shocking stat about how many people struggle with this • Real therapeutic tools that work (EMDR, somatic practices, and more) If you've ever felt confused about why relationships feel so hard, this is your roadmap. Resources mentioned: • "Learning Love" by Thais Gibson (https://amzn.to/47mlBvx) • Elena Wolf (therapeutic consultant) (https://www.ilenewolf.com/) Chapters: Let's figure this out together. Drop a comment with your type and attachment style—I read them all. 0:00 - Why Deep Connection Feels Impossible 3:55 - What Your Ex Sees That You Don't 4:51 - The One Question That Reveals Everything 6:07 - The 4 Styles Everyone Gets Wrong 6:25 - What Makes Someone 'Securely Attached'? 8:15 - The Attachment Style That Confuses Everyone 10:44 - Why You Can't See Your Own Pattern 26:09 - The Lone Wolf's Secret 28:31 - The Player's Secret Emotional Avoidance 30:05 - Why INFPs Feel Everything (And Run Away) 32:27 - When Stoic Becomes Your Survival Mode 32:59 - The Controller: The Style Nobody Mentions 34:40 - The Caretaker's Invisible Trap 39:19 - Gender vs. Personality: Which Controls You More? 41:55 - Your Type's Secret Relationship Weakness 1:04:18 - How to Actually Heal (Not Just Understand) 1:05:30 - The Childhood Wound You're Still Protecting 1:08:34 - Why Talk Therapy Isn't Enough 1:18:16 - The Stat That Changes How You Date 1:19:18 - The Relationship Hierarchy That Changes Everything Tools Used (Affiliate Links): Video and audio editing is easy with Descript: https://descript.cello.so/xEAztGmHclI

    1h 29m

  2. 11/04/2025

    Do INFPs read too much into things?

    Ever feel like you know what someone's thinking—only to find out you were completely wrong? If you're an INFP (or any intuitive type), you've probably experienced this: the spiral of overthinking, the projections, the assumptions that lead to conflict. In this video, I break down why INFPs (and similar types) tend to over-read situations, using cognitive functions (Fi, Ne, Si) to explain the psychology behind it. I also share a personal story about how miscalibration nearly ruined a close friendship—and the one shift that changed everything. What you'll learn: • Why your intuition can betray you (and when to trust it) • The "miscalibration trap" that leads to wild assumptions • How this natural language tendency messes with communication • The one question that stops overthinking in its tracks • Why assuming positive intent will change your relationships If you've ever spiraled into "what did they really mean?"—this one's for you. Drop a comment: What's your biggest overthinking moment? Let's talk about it. INFP #MBTI #Overthinking #PersonalityTypes #SelfImprovement #Communication 00:00 Why INFPs Always Think They Know What You're Thinking 01:23 The 5 a.m. Fight That Changed How I See People 02:41 The Hidden Reason Your Intuition Betrays You 04:19 What 'Love' Means to You vs. What It Means to Me 05:34 The One Question That Stops Overthinking in Its Tracks 06:28 Why Assuming the Worst Makes You Miserable 07:21 How to Read People Without Projecting Your Past

    8 min

  3. 10/02/2025

    This One Change Makes INFPs Finally Reach Their Goals

    INFP Personality Type Explained ️ Grab the 5-day INFP tutorial and join 5,000+ people getting rare weekly insights → http://geekpsychology.com/infp-5day As an INFP and experienced INFP coach, I share insights on how to transform vague dreams into achievable goals. Learn how to leverage your introverted feeling and extraverted intuition to stay motivated, create meaningful habits, and implement gentle accountability systems. 00:00 – What If This Is Why You’re Still Stuck? 00:57 – The INFP Trap No One Talks About 02:20 – The Secret Ingredient INFPs Avoid 03:21 – Why Does Inspiration Always Slip Away? 04:35 – The Real Cost of Overthinking (Ouch) 05:25 – What Changes If You Do This First? 07:07 – The Steps You’re Skipping (And Don’t Realize) 08:15 – How Do You Make Motivation Last? 09:42 – The Truth About Tiny Wins

    10 min

  4. 09/30/2025

    Why INFPs Never Feel Like They Belong

    INFP Personality Type Explained ️ Grab the 5-day INFP tutorial and join 5,000+ people getting rare weekly insights → http://geekpsychology.com/infp-5day Are you an INFP who’s ever wondered, “Why do I feel so out of place—even around people I like?” You're welcome here. In this video, I break down why INFPs experience the world so differently, and why that difference can both sting and empower. Here’s what to expect: • The hidden challenge every INFP secretly wrestles with (and why it’s more common than you think) • Why social rejection hits harder for INFPs—and how to stop blaming yourself for it • The surprising power of speaking up, even when it doesn’t come naturally • Are you betraying yourself by fitting in? Busting the biggest myth about “authenticity” • Where to actually find your people (spoiler: it’s closer than you think) • Discover the hidden gift of being different—and why it doesn’t mean you’re broken • How to juggle multiple passions without feeling like a flake If you’ve ever felt “too sensitive,” “too weird,” or just “too much,” this video is for you. And hey, it's better to be too much than too little. Timestamps:  00:00 Why INFPs Feel So Different 00:35 The Hidden Challenge Every INFP Faces 02:27 Why Social Rejection Hits Different for INFPs 04:06 The Surprising Power of Speaking Up 04:57 Are You Really Betraying Yourself? 06:42 Where to Find Your People 08:11 The Hidden Gift of Being Different 11:04 The Secret to Maintaining Multiple Passions Drop your story in the comments—let’s build a space where INFPs can be unapologetically themselves. Subscribe for more deep-dives into the INFP mind! #INFP #MBTI #PersonalityTypes #FeelingDifferent #SelfDiscovery

    12 min

  5. 09/23/2025

    Four Thoughts That RUIN INFPs

    Ever feel stuck bouncing between projects, daydreaming, comparing yourself to others, or just wondering if you’re fundamentally broken? Yeah, that’s classic INFP territory. This video digs into the four self-destructive thought patterns that trip up INFPs over and over again: • Forcing yourself to finish every project (and hating yourself when you don't) • Dismissing your inner world as “just daydreaming” • Comparing your struggles to other people’s strengths • Believing you’re broken for being different As an INFP who’s walked this path, built communities, and coached hundreds of dreamers, I break down how these habits come from fighting your nature instead of accepting it. You’ll find practical tips, stories, and the permission you didn’t know you needed to start living more in line with your real strengths. ⏰ Timestamps: 00:00 Four Thoughts That RUIN INFPs 00:04 The Hidden Pattern That Holds Us Back 01:22 Why Fighting Our Nature Never Works 04:42 The Surprising Power of What Others Call Weakness 06:10 What If Your Inner World Holds the Key? 07:22 The Unexpected Truth About Those We Envy 10:03 Breaking Free From the Biggest Lie We Tell Ourselves 13:57 The Permission That Changes Everything If one of these hits you hard, let me know in the comments. Which thought messes with your head the most? For more INFP strategies, community, and live workshops, check out: http://evolve.geekpsychology.com #INFP #selfgrowth #personalitytype #GeekPsychology

    14 min

  6. 09/21/2025

    Brain Scans Reveal INFP vs INFJ Differences (with Dr Dario Nardi)

    You’ve been told you’re either an INFP or INFJ, but the difference is way deeper than quirky memes or stereotype lists. Ever feel like no online test or personality quiz gets you? This video actually uses neuroscience—real brain scans, not TikTok speculation—to reveal what’s going on inside INFP and INFJ minds. Your entire approach to decision-making, values, and even the way you daydream can be explained (finally!) by science, not tea leaves. Why should you care? Because misunderstanding your own nature—or someone else’s—leads to frustration, missed connections, and settling for one-size-fits-all advice. Trust me, your next “aha!” about yourself or that mystical INFJ friend is coming. I sat down with Dr. Dario Nardi, a neuroscientist who literally mapped the brains of INFPs and INFJs, to break down what’s actually happening up there. You’ll see real scientific evidence, hear about the biggest brain activity differences (some will surprise you), and learn how to spot these types in the wild—based on behaviors, not buzzwords. Whether you’re an INFP who can’t explain your gut feelings, or an INFJ spinning in Ni-territory, here’s how to finally understand what sets you apart. Consider this your shortcut to self-acceptance—and way fewer “am I mistyped?” crises. Dig this kind of science-backed personality breakdown? Hit subscribe for more! If you learned something (or just want to vent about being misunderstood), drop a comment below—I reply to as many as I can. #INFP #INFJ #MBTI #Personality #GeekPsychology #DarioNardi #Neuroscience 00:00 The REAL Differences Between INFP and INFJ (Backed by Science) 02:36 Why is it easier to sort INTP vs INTJ? 04:53 What are the most striking brain activity differences between INFPs and INFJs? 12:54 How do Fi and Ni show up differently in the brain? 31:08 What are observable behaviors that suggest different brain patterns/types? 55:36 What is the next step for INFPs and INFJs? 01:00:09 Where can people learn more?

    1h 1m

  7. 09/15/2025

    Why INFPs Suddenly Lose ALL Motivation

    ️ Grab the 5-day INFP tutorial and join 5,000+ people getting rare weekly insights → http://geekpsychology.com/infp-5day Ever feel like your passion just flatlines for no reason? Like even your biggest dreams sound kind of... meh? If you’re an INFP, you already know the pain: that lost-spark emptiness no “inspiration” quote can fix. You’re not broken—you might just be stuck in the world’s most annoying growth spurt. In this video, I break down exactly what’s happening, why your fire fizzles out, and how to invite the spark back in. Expect real talk, weird analogies, and a push to finally try something (anything) new. No hype, just honest stories and practical nudges for that next micro-experiment. Timestamps 00:00 – The INFP Emptiness Nobody Talks About 01:01 – Why Losing Passion Isn’t the End 02:13 – No, Doing This Won’t Save You 03:12 – My “Japan Experiment” & Learning the Hard Way 04:37 – Ignore the ‘Shoulds’ & Get Curious 06:01 – How Micro-Moments Fuel Real Purpose 07:23 – Why Your Brain Wants a “Big Meaning”—and Doesn’t Get It 08:45 – The Surprising Power of Helping Others 09:45 – What If You Can’t “Plant a Flag”? 10:29 – From Fizzle to Sizzle: One Small Step Forward ️ If you were nodding along, share your passion struggles in the comments—it really might help someone else. Sub for more INFP brain-hacks, stories, and psychology content. #INFP #Passion #MBTI #PersonalityTypes #GeekPsychology

    11 min

  8. 09/14/2025

    The world needs INFPs

    ️ Grab the 5-day INFP tutorial and join 5,000+ people getting rare weekly insights → http://geekpsychology.com/infp-5day​ If you’ve ever wondered why you crave meaning, struggle with “fitting in,” or feel like your passion fizzles out just when you need it most, this video is for you. This isn’t just another MBTI breakdown. It’s a real talk for INFPs about what it means to be authentic in a world that often misunderstands you. I talk about the struggles of being an INFP (like loneliness, self-doubt, and the pressure to be “normal”) and how to turn those so-called weaknesses into your greatest strengths. What you’ll get from this video: • Validation for your unique struggles as an INFP (or anyone who feels out of place) • Insights on why you lose passion, feel misunderstood, or crave deep connection • Stories and advice on embracing your quirks, honoring your need for alone time, and finding your true path • Practical tips for navigating relationships, self-acceptance, and building a life that actually feels right for you Key Takeaways: • Your sensitivity and idealism aren’t flaws—they’re your superpowers • It’s okay to need alone time (it’s not selfish, it’s survival) • You don’t have to change to be loved or successful • The world needs your depth, creativity, and compassion—now more than ever • Trust your inner compass, even if your path looks different from everyone else’s Like, subscribe, and drop a comment about your INFP journey or what you’re struggling with. 00:00​ Introduction: The INFP Identity 00:51​ Authenticity and Personal Values 01:27​ Relationships and Connection 02:11​ The Importance of Solitude 03:13​ Embracing Your True Nature 04:38​ Personal Journey and Final Thoughts

    6 min
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I help geeks and gamers to play life better. As an INFP, I've spent a lot of time trying to understand myself, forcing myself outside of my comfort zone, finding my purpose in life, gaining self-confidence, and learning how to have better relationships. Personality type is one of the main models I use to help clients regain control over their lives, but I also tend to use Neuro-Linguistic Programming and hypnosis as well. Stay awhile and listen!

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