Self(ish) Confidence

Jess Clerke
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What if your confidence didn't depend on fitting into a box you never wanted to be in? Self(ish) Confidence is the podcast for women who are done living by someone else's timeline and ready to trust their own. Because let's be honest—it's hard to feel confident when you're constantly comparing yourself to everyone else's highlight reel or wondering if you're doing life "right." Comparison creeps in. Self-doubt gets louder. And suddenly, showing up as your authentic self feels impossible. But what if confidence wasn't about having it all figured out? What if it was about trusting yourself enough to take the next step? Each week, your host Jess Clerke, Confidence Coach, Human Design Guide, and creator of the Self(ish) Sisterhood, shares honest conversations, mindset shifts, personal stories, and practical tools to help you stop people-pleasing, embrace your uniqueness, and build confidence from the inside out. Whether your life looks unconventional, unexpected, or completely different than you imagined, you're in the right place. This is your permission slip to stop performing and start showing up as you. To trust your intuition. To shine your light. To create a life that feels deeply aligned—not one that simply looks good from the outside. Because you are not too much.You're not behind.And you don't need anyone else's permission to become the woman you're meant to be. Let's build that belief together.

  1. 2d ago

    [BOOST] What If Someone Needs What You Create?

    Your best ideas always show up at the worst time: when you’re driving, showering, or staring at the ceiling right before sleep. I'm jumping on the mic for a short bonus boost to turn that familiar spark into something bigger, a reminder that creation is a practice, not a personality trait. If you’ve been telling yourself you’re not consistent enough, not confident enough, or not “ready,” this is the kind of pep talk that actually tells the truth. We riff on the ripple effect of creators and mentors, including how the EmpowerHer podcast helped bring this show to life. Then we go straight into the sticky part: visibility. The fear of judgment is real, and so is the reality that you might feel awkward, sound cringe, or even cry before you hit upload. We don’t pretend that goes away. We talk about why it’s still worth doing, and how self confidence is built by showing up scared and doing it anyway. Follow my sisters: Charlene at Wind Waves and Wands Meghan: @teachonpause If you’ve been sitting on an idea, let this be your permission slip. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs a push, and leave a review if the show helps. What are you going to create this week? Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood: $33/month or $333/year. Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love!    Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

  2. Jul 14

    [315] How To Let Go Of Identities That No Longer Fit

    You can outgrow a label and still keep living like it’s true. We’re talking about the sneaky way old identities cling to us, even after we’ve healed, evolved, and built a life that proves we’re different now. I start with a rare quiet moment, a big love letter to this community, and a reminder that self-confidence isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about remembering who you are and letting that version of you take up space again. We also dig into practical tools for identity change: getting clear on the new version of you, catching your automatic “auto-reply” thoughts, and practicing a redo in real time. I share a helpful Human Design angle, the G Center or identity center, and how it can explain why some of us feel steady while others shapeshift around different people. Then we tackle comparison and social media boundaries with my favorite metaphor: we all have different microwaves, so stop timing your growth by someone else’s clock. If you’re ready to crumple up a label that no longer fits and let the real you lead, press play. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more women can find this kind of confidence work. Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood: $33/month or $333/year. Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love!    Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

  3. Jul 7

    [314] Seasons That Shake Your Identity

    Change can be exciting, but the part nobody warns you about is the identity whiplash. One day you’re handling life like you always have, and the next you’re in a new season, new schedule, new body, new priorities, and you’re still expecting the “old you” to keep up. I’m talking about the real impact of life transitions and why you don’t need to become someone brand new to grow, you need to remember who you are and come home to yourself. We start with a reminder to do everything with love, including how we treat ourselves when things feel messy. I share how community can feel “inconvenient,” but it’s also a privilege, and why support matters when you’re moving through a breakup, a new job, a move, parenthood, or any major shift that changes how you see yourself. We also get honest about the fear of judgment and why sharing your goals can feel vulnerable even with people who love you. If you’re in a season of change, come listen and be a little softer with yourself. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more sisters can find the support they’re looking for. 30-60-90 Day Consistency Tracker Confidently You Week 1 Free Trial Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood: $33/month or $333/year. Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love!    Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

  4. Jun 30

    [313] What If Your Best Summer Starts With Fun

    Summer doesn’t wait, and neither should your joy. I’m Jess, and I’m talking to the woman who loves a checklist but keeps putting her own fun at the bottom of it, the “I’ll relax after the dishes” mindset that quietly steals the best parts of the season. You’ll hear me unpack the difference between planning by time and planning by energy, plus practical, realistic ways to build an epic summer without needing a huge trip or a perfect schedule. Think tiny pockets of self-care, pairing your kids’ activities with something that fills you up, and creating a summer bucket list that includes you. If you’ve been craving more confidence, more fun, and a better work-life balance, this one is your permission slip. If this hits home, share it with a friend who needs a little more time for herself, then subscribe and leave a rating and review so more women can find the Selfish Confidence Podcast. Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood: $33/month or $333/year. Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love!    Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

  5. Jun 23

    [312] The Things I Swore I'd Never Do

    “I would never do that” can feel like a boundary, but sometimes it’s a wall. Today we get honest about the weird moment when you look back at your past self and laugh because you did the exact thing you swore you’d never do and it actually made your life better. I’m sharing my own never say never turns, plus the mindset shift that helped me stop treating every decision like a locked door. Then we go deeper than “confidence tips.” I’ve been feeling a shift toward self reclamation: figuring out who you are without labels, noise, and old rules you inherited. Confidence becomes the result of knowing yourself, trusting your gut, and letting yourself evolve through big life transitions like relationships, motherhood, and career pivots. The question I leave you with is simple and uncomfortable in the best way: what would happen if you didn’t say never? If this hits home, subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next, share it with a friend who’s in a pivot, and leave a review so more women can find the show. What’s the biggest “never” you’ve outgrown? Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood: $33/month or $333/year. Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love!    Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

  6. Jun 9

    [311] Your Lack Of Confidence Is Showing 🙈

    The fastest way to spot a confidence dip is not in what you say, it’s in what you do next: the overexplaining, the defensiveness, the mental replay of a one-minute interaction that suddenly feels like a life review. If that sounds familiar, you’re going to feel seen here. We unpack the sneaky signs your self-confidence is slipping and why it often happens during big life transitions. I share what’s been lighting up my own “seeds of doubt” lately, from parenting choices and toddler tantrums to the weird emotions around starting daycare, balancing work and family, and even stepping into an updated personal style and rebrand. When we’re not fully grounded in our decisions, other people’s opinions can shake us fast, even when they mean well. We also talk about the reality that everyone has opinions, and how the Let Them perspective can help you stop making those opinions your responsibility. The goal is not to become louder or tougher. It’s to build self-trust, get clear on the season you’re in, and practice responding in a way that keeps your peace. Think of it as watering confidence instead of watering doubt. If you’re ready for a mindset reset that’s practical and honest, press play. After you listen, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs a boost, and leave a review so more women can find this confidence coaching energy. What seed of doubt are you working through right now? Apply for 1:1 Confidence Coaching with me. Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood: $33/month or $333/year. Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love!    Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

  7. Jun 3

    [310] What If Your Distractions Aren’t Random At All

    Your attention is getting pulled in a hundred directions, and it’s not because you’re lazy or “bad at discipline.” It’s because modern life is designed to distract you and if you’re parenting, building a business, working a job, or just trying to feel like yourself again, those distractions can quietly eat the year you swore would be different. I’m sharing a real-life reset: how I think about showing up imperfectly, why I’m not “starting over,” and what it means to stay human and authentic in a world packed with AI content and constant noise. Then we get into the practical stuff, because motivation isn’t enough when your phone, your inbox, your clutter, and your mental load keep interrupting you. We talk about identifying your biggest distractions, running a simple one-day tally to find your patterns, and building small distraction-free pockets of time that actually fit real life. You’ll also hear the boundaries that help most, especially around social media and screen time, plus an easy way to keep a “distraction list” so your brain stops spinning with all the little things you’re afraid you’ll forget. And we end with the reminder I think you need: you don’t have to be perfect to make progress, but you do need to protect your attention if you want that vision board to turn into your real life. If this hits home, share it with a friend, leave a review, and send me a message with your number one distraction and what you’re trying to achieve so we can tackle it together. Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood: $33/month or $333/year. Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love!    Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

  8. May 26

    [309] Stop Letting Other People’s Fear Lead

    Someone hears your dream and suddenly it feels risky, unrealistic, or “too much.” That moment can look like advice, concern, or even excitement, but underneath it is often the same thing: projection. We’re talking about what happens when other people’s fears and “shoulds” get placed onto your choices, and how quickly that can shrink your confidence if you don’t have protection around your ideas. We also get real about social media comparison and information overload, because a five minute scroll can send you straight into the spiral of “Am I doing this right?” and “Do I need to change everything?” I share the boundaries that help me stop the loop, why I keep certain dreams private until they’re strong, and how community support can feel totally different when it’s built on safety instead of opinions. If you’re craving connection without the constant noise, I also share what we’re building inside the Selfish Sisterhood, with both in-person meetups and virtual calls. If this hits home, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs a confidence boost, and leave a review so more women can find Selfish Confidence. Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood: $33/month or $333/year. Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love!    Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

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What if your confidence didn't depend on fitting into a box you never wanted to be in? Self(ish) Confidence is the podcast for women who are done living by someone else's timeline and ready to trust their own. Because let's be honest—it's hard to feel confident when you're constantly comparing yourself to everyone else's highlight reel or wondering if you're doing life "right." Comparison creeps in. Self-doubt gets louder. And suddenly, showing up as your authentic self feels impossible. But what if confidence wasn't about having it all figured out? What if it was about trusting yourself enough to take the next step? Each week, your host Jess Clerke, Confidence Coach, Human Design Guide, and creator of the Self(ish) Sisterhood, shares honest conversations, mindset shifts, personal stories, and practical tools to help you stop people-pleasing, embrace your uniqueness, and build confidence from the inside out. Whether your life looks unconventional, unexpected, or completely different than you imagined, you're in the right place. This is your permission slip to stop performing and start showing up as you. To trust your intuition. To shine your light. To create a life that feels deeply aligned—not one that simply looks good from the outside. Because you are not too much.You're not behind.And you don't need anyone else's permission to become the woman you're meant to be. Let's build that belief together.

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  • Creator
    Jess Clerke
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    316
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 Self(ish) Confidence
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