The Adoption Files

Ande Stanley
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The Adoption files seeks to provide a place for adoptees and allies to discuss the laws preventing adoptees from accessing their identities, and the emotional and physical challenges adoptees face in the process of dealing with the obstacles we face. We recognize the need to expose the problematic aspects of the adoption industry and the narrative they perpetuate. We will not only talk about the laws and the challenges they create, but also the ways that the mythology around adoption impacts the way we move through our lives, as adopted people and as mothers and other family members.

  1. 4h ago

    Expecting Perfection, and other thoughts on control

    Please join Dani Joy and I as we discuss pages 174 and 175 in the book Holy Hurt: Understanding Spiritual Trauma and the Process of Healing. We have been talking about spiritual trauma and adoption using the book as a framework. Dani Joy is a mother of loss to adoption, a homesteader, blogger and human rights activist. She can be found at: https://danijoy.substack.com/ https://medium.com/@danijoy/no-sads-no-mads-trust-god-146f5cb54fb6 https://www.facebook.com/joyfuldj Holy Hurt: https://www.hillarylmcbride.com/holy-hurt If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out for help. https://www.healthcentral.com/mental-health/get-help-mental-health https://rainn.org/ https://www.thetrevorproject.org/ The opinions of the host and their guests are just that, their opinions. The host is not a lawyer, a therapist or an adoption professional Thank you for listening1

  2. 2d ago

    On Being Trafficked: a conversation with Patricia Knight Meyer, author and adoption reform advocate

    Please join me for a conversation with author and adoption reform advocate Patricia Knight Meyer, about being trafficked for the purpose of adoption; an adoption that never legally took place Patricias new memoir, Wonderland: Memoir of a Black-Market Adoption will be available from Unsolicited Press on 3 November 2026 Patricia can be found at: https://myadoptedlife.com/ Please visit her website and join the launch list to receive updates and to sign up for free giveaways related to the release of her memoir. Patricia can also be reached at Patricia@myadoptedlife.com, and at 512-289-5372 Patricia was born in Texas, and supposedly adopted under Texas adoption laws. https://adopteerightslaw.com/texas/ https://www.dshs.texas.gov/vital-statistics/birth-records/original-birth-certificate-adult Please be aware that, in order to receive a noncertified copy of an original birth certificate if adopted in Texas, the adopted person must already know the name(s) of any parents listed on the certificate Mentioned in the episode: Georgia Tann https://www.historydefined.net/georgia-tann/ https://lisacooperellison.com/ https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-human-design-8729468 https://psychiatrymagazine.com/why-trauma-affects-memory-ptsd-memory-loss/ The listing of services and of human design is provided for informational purposes and should not be considered an endorsement by the host or the podcast The opinions of the host and of their guest are just that, their opinions The host is not a lawyer, a therapist or an adoption professional https://www.healthcentral.com/mental-health/get-help-mental-health Thank you for listening!

  3. 6d ago

    Bearing Witness: Holding Space for Our Selves

    Hi! Please join Dani Joy and me as we continue our conversation about adoption and spiritual trauma. We are using the book Holy Hurt, Understanding Spiritual Trauma and the Process of Healing by Hillary L McBride PhD as a framework for our discussion. Dani Joy is a mother of loss to adoption, a blogger, a homesteader and an advocate for family preservation, mothers rights and adoptee rights. She can be found at: https://danijoy.substack.com/ https://medium.com/@danijoy/melissa-thank-you-for-adding-me-304c03f358be https://www.facebook.com/joyfuldj Holy Hurt: https://www.hillarylmcbride.com/holy-hurt Mentioned in the episode: https://ifs-institute.com/resources/articles/internal-family-systems-model-outline https://ifs-institute.com/store/419 https://concernedunitedbirthparents.org/ https://health.clevelandclinic.org/a-psychologist-explains-how-to-deal-with-imposter-syndrome https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/self-talk The opinions of the host and their guest are just that, their opinions The host is not a lawyer, a therapist or an adoption professional Please reach out for help if you are struggling. You matter. https://www.healthcentral.com/mental-health/get-help-mental-health https://rainn.org/ https://www.thetrevorproject.org/ Thank you for listening!

  4. Oct 19

    Seeing or Solving: Adoption and Spiritual Trauma

    Please join me and guest host Dani Joy as we continue our conversation on adoption and spiritual healing. We are using the book Holy Hurt: Spiritual Trauma and the Process of Healing, by Hillary L McBride, PhD as a framework for our series. Dani is a homesteader, writer, mother of loss to adoption and family preservation advocate. She can be found at https://medium.com/@danijoy/dissociation-8118d4adad70 https://danijoy.substack.com/ https:/www.facebook.com/joyfuldj Holy Hurt book can be found at : https://www.hillarylmcbride.com/holy-hurt Mentioned in the podcast: https://concernedunitedbirthparents.org/ https://www.healthcentral.com/mental-health/get-help-mental-health The opinions of the host and their guest are just that, our opinions. The host is not a lawyer, a therapist, or an adoption professional. Thank you for listening!

  5. Oct 14

    Being Held, or How Attending CUB 2026 Profoundly Impacted Me

    I did a scary thing. Now I am doing another scary thing and sharing some impressions from attending the annual retreat for Concerned United Birthparents without relistening or editing or anything! Because, why not? https://concernedunitedbirthparents.org/ https://savingoursistersadoption.org/ https://thefamilypreservationproject.com/ https://www.adopteeson.com/ https://www.adopteesffp.org/ https://adoptionpop.com/ https://kristalparke.net/ https://aireroots.com/ https://depts.washington.edu/mswnews/2024/11/adoptee-consciousness-model-workshop-w-bipoc-adoptee-collective/ https://dearabbycounseling.com/ If you are struggling, please reach out for help. https://www.healthcentral.com/mental-health/get-help-mental-health The opinions of the host are just that, my opinions. Thank you for listening.

  6. Oct 1

    Adoption Abolition: A Conversation

    What does Adoption Abolition mean? Please join me and my guest Lorah Gerald as we talk about some of our thoughts on this topic. Lorah is a Baby Scoop Era, Domestic US adopted person. She can be found athttps://lorahgerald.com/ There are some statistics quoted in the episode that may be difficult to believe, and hard to find. This is because they change from year to year, and the way you input your query changes the results you will receive. I am going to just list some of the sources for information and you can go and check them out. Regarding the number of private infant adoptions in the United States per year-these numbers are not adequately captured, as reporting is uneven and not tracked in many locations. The best we can do is estimates based on different adoption organizations. This means the numbers can vary even in a single calendar year. The numbers also vary depending on whether you consider the sale of frozen embryos to be adoption, which legally is not considered adoption, even if there is zero genetic connection between the birthing person and the embryo. This is because an embryo is not a person. It is a tissue transfer. Unicefs reports on children in substitute care and on quality of life for children and families https://unioncitizenship.com/best-family-friendly-countries/ childbenefitstracker.org https://gitnux.org/current-foster-care-statistics/ World Population Review https://www.usnews.com/news/best-countries/best-countries-for-quality-of-life Scotland's baby boxes: https://www.mygov.scot/baby-box vs the US version, which is not a resource program: https://stopshbbnow.org/ The opinions of the host and their guest are just that, their opinions The host is not a lawyer, a therapist or an adoption professional https://www.healthcentral.com/mental-health/get-help-mental-health Thank you for listening!

  7. Sep 28

    Quality Counts: Early Connections and Big Questions; continuing the conversation on adoption and spiritual trauma

    Please join Dani and I as we continue our conversation about adoption and spiritual trauma. We are using the book Holy Hurt: Spiritual Trauma and the Process of Healing by Hillary L McBride PhD as a scaffold for our conversation. Dani is a mother of loss to adoption, a writer, a homesteader and an advocate for the rights of mothers and adopted people. She can be found at: https://medium.com/@danijoy https://substack.com/@danijoy https://www.facebook.com/joyfuldj Holy Hurt https://www.hillarylmcbride.com/holy-hurt https://www.healthcentral.com/mental-health/get-help-mental-health The host and their guest's opinions are just that, their opinions. The host is not a lawyer, a therapist or an adoption professional Thank you for listening!

  8. Sep 21

    Holding Space: Healing in Relationship

    Please join Dani Joy and I as we keep working on exploring the spiritual trauma that is adoption! We are using the book Holy Hurt by Hillary L McBride, PhD as a scaffold for our conversation Dani Joy is a mother of loss to adoption, a homesteader, a writer and an ally. She can be found at: https://medium.com/@danijoy https://substack.com/@danijoy https://www.facebook.com/joyfuldj https://www.hillarylmcbride.com/holy-hurt https://health.clevelandclinic.org/grounding-techniques https://www.healthcentral.com/mental-health/get-help-mental-health The opinions of the host and their guest are just that, their opinions The host is not a lawyer, a therapist or an adoption professional Thank you for listening!

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The Adoption files seeks to provide a place for adoptees and allies to discuss the laws preventing adoptees from accessing their identities, and the emotional and physical challenges adoptees face in the process of dealing with the obstacles we face. We recognize the need to expose the problematic aspects of the adoption industry and the narrative they perpetuate. We will not only talk about the laws and the challenges they create, but also the ways that the mythology around adoption impacts the way we move through our lives, as adopted people and as mothers and other family members.

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  • Creator
    Ande Stanley
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    177
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Ande Stanley
  • Show Website
    The Adoption Files

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