The Adoption Files

Ande Stanley
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The Adoption files seeks to provide a place for adoptees and allies to discuss the laws preventing adoptees from accessing their identities, and the emotional and physical challenges adoptees face in the process of dealing with the obstacles we face. We recognize the need to expose the problematic aspects of the adoption industry and the narrative they perpetuate.

  1. 2H AGO

    At the Intersection of adoption and spiritual trauma; Holy Hurt: Understanding Spiritual Trauma and the Process of Healing by Hillary L McBride PhD,

    First mom Dani Joy joins me as we discuss spiritual trauma through the lens of adoption. We are reading and discussing the book Holy Hurt, by Hillary L McBride PhD. We hope the listeners will join us in this journey to understand and to navigate adoption related spiritual and religious trauma. https://medium.com/@danijoy https://hillarylmcbride.com/holy-hurt-book/ https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/post-traumatic-stress-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20355967?cjdata=MXxOfDB8WXww&cjevent=acd48c2d0b8111f1804e00550a1eba24&cm_mmc=CJ-_-100357191-_-5250933-_-Evergreen+Link+for+Mayo+Clinic+Diet&utm_source=cj&utm_content=100357191&utm_capaign=3-months https://www.ptsd.va.gov/professional/treat/txessentials/complex_ptsd_assessment.asp https://www.nicabm.com/program/a1-brain-trauma-fb2/?del=bing.1718.ptsd&network=o&utm_source=bing&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=530620131&ad_group_id=1351302280065123&utm_term=traumatic%20stress&utm_content=&del=bing530620131&msclkid=bee2c579db9c177b015bacea48f39198 https://www.mhanational.org/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/MHM-2025-Resource-List.pdf https://rainn.org/ https://www.thetrevorproject.org/ https://health.clevelandclinic.org/vagus-nerve-reset https://health.clevelandclinic.org/box-breathing-benefits The opinions of the host and their guest are just that, our opinions. The host is not a therapist, a lawyer or an adoption professional.

    1h 30m

  2. FEB 8

    Spiritual Trauma and Adoption, an unholy union. Reviewing Holy Hurt by Hillary L McBride PhD from the lens of an adoptee and a first mom's experiences

    Dani Joy, first mom, birthmothers rights advocate, adoptee ally. amazing friend joins me in reviewing the book Holy Hurt Understanding Spiritual Trauma and the Process of Healing by Hillary L Mc Bride PhD. https://hillarylmcbride.com/holy-hurt-book/ We are reviewing the book from the perspectives of a mother of loss to adoption and a person lost to adoption. Religion contributed a great deal to the trauma we have both experienced and informs the family severance narrative to this day. We hope you will join us in this journey. Please be aware that the episodes will discuss things that may be triggering to many of our listeners. Please take care of yourself. The host and their guest are not adoption professionals, lawyers or mental health professionals. Our opinions are just that, our opinions. They are informed by our respective educations and lived experiences.

    11 min

  3. FEB 6

    Did they or didn't they? The Conclusion to my trip to Georgia to maybe meet maternal family

    This episode is the conclusion to my trip to Georgia, hoping to meet maternal family, and walk in circles for a lot of hours just in case no one showed up.

    41 min

  4. FEB 1

    Movement

    Day two here. My day to stretch out after traveling. One of my free time days that I hoped to meet family. I deliberately included a week day and a weekend day, because, timing? Have you ever thought about the way you move? How some, any of your gestures may mirror those of a family member? How seeing them in yourself may make for a sense of belonging? I would love to experience that. Have you?

    15 min

  5. FEB 1

    A Very Messy conversation with myself

    This is a messy episode. I recorded this at the end of a very long day where i woke up at 2 am, drove an hour to an airport and then wore an itchy mask for ten hours to get to a place I am not sure I want to be in order to do one thing I want to do and feel conflicted about another thing I am not sure is going to happen or if I want it to happen if it does. I am in Georgia for an Ultra. I am in Georgia to maybe, finally, meet my mom. And maybe my maternal siblings. And also, the Ultra, which is put on by a group called Yeti Trail Runners and is called The Dark Anchor. If you have never done an endurance event-think about participating. Training to complete a marathon or an ultra or a century or, well, there are lots of options, teaches you a lot about yourself and about other people.

    30 min

  6. JAN 8

    California has a bill! Ca SB 381 needs your support.

    Listen to learn about Californias new bill designed to restore unrestricted access to original birth certificates for people adopted in California. You can be a part of making history and restoring equality! The bill: CA SB 381 2026 (this number was assigned to a housing bill for last legislative session. This will change when session for this year opens) Sponsor: Author Senator Aisha Wahab The bill restores unrestricted access to original birth certificates for adult people who were adopted as minors in the state of California  https://caallianceforadopteerights.org/legislative-updates/ https://concernedunitedbirthparents.org/how-we-can-help https://bastards.org/ https://savingoursistersadoption.org/ https://findyourrep.legislature.ca.gov/ https://registertovote.ca.gov/ https://www.adopteerightscoalition.com/ The opinions of the host are just that, their opinion. The host is not a lawyer or an adoption professional.

    15 min

  7. 11/08/2025

    Good Intentions A conversation on adoption with Lorah Gerald

    The road to hell is paved in good intentions. What might this have to do with adoption? Listen to this conversation with embodiment instructor and adoptee rights advocate Lorah Gerald, also known as The Adopted Chameleon on social media. Information about Lorah and links to her social media can be found at https://lorahgerald.com/ Mentioned in the episode http://kathrynjoyce.com/books/the-child-catchers/ https://www.relinquishedbook.com/ https://thefamilypreservationproject.com/ https://adopteerightslaw.com/ https://adopteesunited.org/ https://www.adopteesforjustice.org/ https://savingoursistersadoption.org/ The host is not a lawyer or a therapist. The opinions of the host and their guests are just that, our opinions.

    1h 5m

  8. 03/07/2025

    Every Voice: A conversation with North Dakota Adoptee Mary Kae Kelsch

    Mary Kae Kelsch was adopted in 1970 in North Dakota, but was she born there? Where is her birth certificate located? Please join as we talk about the laws in North Dakota and Minnesota, about reunion, and about the importance of every voice. Mentioned in the episode: https://www.health.state.mn.us/people/vitalrecords/adoption.html https://adopteerightslaw.com/north-dakota/ https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0057773/ The opinions of the host and their guest(s) are just that, their opinions. The host is not a lawyer, a therapist or an adoption professional. Thank you for listening!

    1h 3m
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The Adoption files seeks to provide a place for adoptees and allies to discuss the laws preventing adoptees from accessing their identities, and the emotional and physical challenges adoptees face in the process of dealing with the obstacles we face. We recognize the need to expose the problematic aspects of the adoption industry and the narrative they perpetuate.

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  • Creator
    Ande Stanley
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    132
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Ande Stanley
  • Show Website
    The Adoption Files

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