The Leader in You

Connect your people; transform you culture. With Dr. Lola Gershfeld
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The Leader in You podcast is brought to you by EmC Leaders, helping companies to master the art of relationships so they can spend less time on people issues and more time accomplishing their most important goals.  We combine the science of attachment and emotional connection with insight from the last 20 years to overcome workplace conflict issues, build strong team relationships, and create a connected culture.Your hosts, Dr. Lola Gershfeld and Polina Marian.

  1. 12H AGO

    85. Beat the Fight in 4 Steps

    Workplace conflicts happen—but most leaders don’t know how to stop the cycle once it starts. In this episode of The Leader in You, Polina and Dr. Lola Gershfeld explain how to beat the fight in four steps using the Emotional Connection (EmC) process. Instead of escalating arguments or avoiding difficult conversations, leaders can guide teams through a structured process that helps people feel safe, understood, and connected—the foundation for real resolution. In this conversation, you’ll learn how the four moves help leaders: • Track the interactional pattern during conflict  • Clarify and organize the emotions driving reactions  • Facilitate bonding conversations between team members  • Create a corrective emotional experience that rebuilds trust When people feel emotionally safe, the brain opens to collaboration, empathy, and problem-solving. If you want to transform workplace fights into stronger working relationships, this episode will show you how. The Leader in You is the go-to podcast for anyone who wants to create a workplace culture where you can thrive. Envision a future where you are more grounded, confident, and in sync with your team. CONNECT: EmC Leaders Facebook Twitter LinkedIn YouTube Channel RESOURCES: TESA - TEAM EMOTIONAL SAFETY ASSESSMENT RESOURCES & DOWNLOADS EMC MASTER CLASS CONTACT US Connect with Dr. Lola Gershfeld: LinkedIn: Dr. Lola Gershfeld Instagram: @drlolaemc Connect with Polina Marian: LinkedIn: Polina Marian Instagram: @livewithfivekids Dr. Lola Gershfeld, a distinguished organizational psychologist, has dedicated her career to delving into the intricate layers of employee engagement, team ...

    37 min

  2. MAR 5

    84. Psychological Safety vs Emotional Safety

    In this episode of The Leader in You, Polina and Dr. Lola Gershfeld welcome leadership consultant and author Aoife O’Brien to explore a powerful question facing many leaders today: Is psychological safety enough — or do teams need something deeper to truly thrive? Drawing from her book Thriving Talent, Aoife shares her insights from working with organizations struggling with burnout, disengagement, and misaligned workplace cultures. She explains why many leadership initiatives fail to create lasting change and how psychological safety plays a foundational role in building healthier teams. Together, we explore the difference between psychological safety and emotional safety, how leaders unintentionally erode trust in everyday interactions, and what it takes to create workplaces where people feel safe to speak up, take risks, and bring their full capabilities to their work. In this conversation, you’ll learn: Why many workplaces struggle to retain and engage talentThe hidden signs of low psychological safety in teamsThe leadership blind spots that quietly damage cultureHow leaders can create environments where people feel safe and challengedIf you’re a leader who wants to build stronger relationships, healthier team dynamics, and a workplace where people can truly thrive, this episode will give you powerful insights and practical inspiration. Connect with Aoife O'Brien on LinkedIn The Leader in You is the go-to podcast for anyone who wants to create a workplace culture where you can thrive. Envision a future where you are more grounded, confident, and in sync with your team. CONNECT: EmC Leaders Facebook Twitter LinkedIn YouTube Channel RESOURCES: TESA - TEAM EMOTIONAL SAFETY ASSESSMENT RESOURCES & DOWNLOADS EMC MASTER CLASS CONTACT US Connect with Dr. Lola Gershfeld: LinkedIn: Dr. Lola Gershfeld Instagram: @drlolaemc Connect with Polina Marian: LinkedIn: Polina Marian Instagram: @livewithfivekids Dr. Lola Gershfeld, a distinguished organizational psychologist, has dedicated her career to delving into the intricate layers of employee engagement, team ...

    44 min

  3. MAR 4

    83. Pause Before You Lead

    What if the real breakthrough in leadership isn’t about strategy — but about learning to pause? In this episode of The Leader in You, Dr. Lola and Polina welcome entrepreneur and leader Lisa Zimmer for an honest, vulnerable, and deeply practical conversation about emotional growth in leadership. Lisa shares how learning the principles of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) — the foundation behind the EmC process — transformed not only her personal life after divorce, but also the way she leads her business, handles conflict, and navigates difficult conversations. She opens up about: Moving from anger and reactivity to self-regulationLearning to pause instead of proving she’s rightLetting go of the need to blameHolding two truths at the same timeRepairing relationships — even when letting someone goBreaking the “cut and run” pattern in leadershipSurrounding yourself with people who refill your emotional cupOne of the most powerful moments in the episode is Lisa’s story of terminating a personal assistant — not from anger, but from care. Instead of burning the bridge, she repaired the relationship first. The result? Growth on both sides, and a relationship preserved. This episode is a masterclass in what emotionally connected leadership actually looks like in real life — messy, human, and deeply courageous. If you’ve ever felt triggered at work, misunderstood, emotionally exhausted, or tempted to walk away from leadership altogether, this conversation will remind you: You don’t need to react. You don’t need to win. You can pause. And you can grow. Because leadership isn’t about control. It’s about connection. The Leader in You is the go-to podcast for anyone who wants to create a workplace culture where you can thrive. Envision a future where you are more grounded, confident, and in sync with your team. CONNECT: EmC Leaders Facebook Twitter LinkedIn YouTube Channel RESOURCES: TESA - TEAM EMOTIONAL SAFETY ASSESSMENT RESOURCES & DOWNLOADS EMC MASTER CLASS CONTACT US Connect with Dr. Lola Gershfeld: LinkedIn: Dr. Lola Gershfeld Instagram: @drlolaemc Connect with Polina Marian: LinkedIn: Polina Marian Instagram: @livewithfivekids Dr. Lola Gershfeld, a distinguished organizational psychologist, has dedicated her career to delving into the intricate layers of employee engagement, team ...

    43 min

  4. FEB 24

    82. When Positive Thinking Fails

    What if “just think positive” is actually keeping you stuck? In this powerful and slightly controversial episode of The Leader in You, we unpack a viral positive-thinking challenge that promises life change in seven days — no complaining, no criticizing, only positivity. Sounds inspiring… but does it really work? Drawing on neuroscience, attachment science, and real workplace stories, Dr. Lola and Polina explore why positive thinking alone cannot override emotional triggers, relational disconnection, or negative cycles at work. When the amygdala is activated, and emotional safety is threatened, the prefrontal cortex — the part of the brain responsible for clear, rational thinking — goes offline. And no amount of forced positivity can fix that. You’ll discover: Why suppressing “negative” emotions actually shuts down positive ones tooHow emotional disconnection fuels workplace conflictWhy avoiding complaints creates deeper relational fracturesWhat the Negative Cycle looks like in teamsA powerful 7-day challenge that replaces toxic positivity with emotional awarenessIf you’ve ever tried to “stay positive” while feeling hurt, dismissed, or disconnected — this episode will resonate deeply. Because real change doesn’t come from thinking differently.  It comes from connecting differently. Listen in — and learn how to shift from forced positivity to secure, emotionally connected leadership. The Leader in You is the go-to podcast for anyone who wants to create a workplace culture where you can thrive. Envision a future where you are more grounded, confident, and in sync with your team. CONNECT: EmC Leaders Facebook Twitter LinkedIn YouTube Channel RESOURCES: TESA - TEAM EMOTIONAL SAFETY ASSESSMENT RESOURCES & DOWNLOADS EMC MASTER CLASS CONTACT US Connect with Dr. Lola Gershfeld: LinkedIn: Dr. Lola Gershfeld Instagram: @drlolaemc Connect with Polina Marian: LinkedIn: Polina Marian Instagram: @livewithfivekids Dr. Lola Gershfeld, a distinguished organizational psychologist, has dedicated her career to delving into the intricate layers of employee engagement, team ...

    33 min

  5. FEB 18

    81. Success in Vulnerability

    Why is vulnerability so often seen as weakness—especially at work? And what if it’s actually the key to movement, motivation, and lasting success? In this episode, Dr. Lola and Polina build on their previous conversation about the basics of the EmC process and dive deeper into one of the most misunderstood leadership strengths: vulnerability. You’ll learn: The difference between withdrawers and pursuers—and how their negative cycle fuels disconnectionWhy we are biologically wired for emotional connectionHow society trained us to suppress emotions in the workplaceWhat vulnerability actually looks like in a professional settingHow sharing emotion safely creates empathy, reassurance, and engagementWhy vulnerability is the doorway to Stage 2 of the EmC process—healing, bonding, and repairWhen leaders suppress emotion, teams get stuck. When leaders access and share vulnerability in a regulated, professional way, they create safety—and safety creates movement. This episode reframes vulnerability not as emotional exposure, but as emotional clarity. Not as weakness, but as relational courage. Because we are not robots. We are wired for connection. And success begins when we stop shutting down—and start showing up. The Leader in You is the go-to podcast for anyone who wants to create a workplace culture where you can thrive. Envision a future where you are more grounded, confident, and in sync with your team. CONNECT: EmC Leaders Facebook Twitter LinkedIn YouTube Channel RESOURCES: TESA - TEAM EMOTIONAL SAFETY ASSESSMENT RESOURCES & DOWNLOADS EMC MASTER CLASS CONTACT US Connect with Dr. Lola Gershfeld: LinkedIn: Dr. Lola Gershfeld Instagram: @drlolaemc Connect with Polina Marian: LinkedIn: Polina Marian Instagram: @livewithfivekids Dr. Lola Gershfeld, a distinguished organizational psychologist, has dedicated her career to delving into the intricate layers of employee engagement, team ...

    24 min

  6. FEB 13

    80. When Silence Becomes a Lawsuit - The Hidden Cost of Manager Avoidance

    What happens when a manager doesn’t respond to an employee’s text? When a request is ignored? When “we’re just here to do a job” becomes the culture? In this powerful conversation, we sit down with employment attorney Hanna Ranaan, who has represented both employees and employers and now serves as in-house counsel for a publicly traded company. She gives us a rare inside look at how small moments of avoidance can spiral into miscommunication, discipline, termination—and costly litigation. We explore: How unresponsiveness creates a domino effect of negative assumptionsWhy managers are legally considered agents of the companyHow misunderstandings escalate into lawsuits costing $40,000–$300,000 in defense fees aloneThe hidden cost of turnover and preventable separationsWhy employees often don’t report concerns—even when companies create formal channelsThe resistance HR professionals have to “bringing emotions into work”And why emotional connection isn’t about being “touchy-feely”—it’s about creating secure, responsive relationships that reduce legal exposureHanna shares real-world examples of how five seconds of responsiveness can prevent months of frustration—and how respect in the workplace is not just a cultural value, but a safety issue. This episode bridges two worlds: legal risk management and emotional safety. Because when managers avoid difficult conversations, silence communicates something—and the consequences are rarely small. If you’re a leader, HR professional, or manager who wants to reduce conflict, prevent escalation, and create a workplace where people feel safe to speak up—this conversation is for you. The Leader in You is the go-to podcast for anyone who wants to create a workplace culture where you can thrive. Envision a future where you are more grounded, confident, and in sync with your team. CONNECT: EmC Leaders Facebook Twitter LinkedIn YouTube Channel RESOURCES: TESA - TEAM EMOTIONAL SAFETY ASSESSMENT RESOURCES & DOWNLOADS EMC MASTER CLASS CONTACT US Connect with Dr. Lola Gershfeld: LinkedIn: Dr. Lola Gershfeld Instagram: @drlolaemc Connect with Polina Marian: LinkedIn: Polina Marian Instagram: @livewithfivekids Dr. Lola Gershfeld, a distinguished organizational psychologist, has dedicated her career to delving into the intricate layers of employee engagement, team ...

    39 min

  7. FEB 5

    79. Love Is in the Air - Why Emotional Connection Changes Everything at Work

    As Valentine’s Day approaches, we’re talking about something we don’t discuss nearly enough—love, emotional connection, and why they matter so deeply in our work and relationships. In this episode, Dr. Lola Gershfeld and Polina explore the simplicity of the Emotional Connection (EmC) process and why reconnecting emotionally changes everything—from how clearly we think, to how effectively we work, to how supported we feel in our relationships. When we’re disconnected, even simple tasks feel exhausting. Our minds feel cluttered. Our energy drops. But when emotional connection is restored, clarity returns, motivation rises, and relationships soften. Dr. Lola shares a personal story that illustrates how quickly reconnection can shift our emotional and mental state—and why emotional safety is the foundation for productivity, collaboration, and trust. You’ll hear: Why emotional disconnection is so draining at workHow emotional connection brings us out of our heads and back into our heartsWhy the EmC process works because it’s simple, experiential, and humanHow reconnection creates corrective emotional experiences that repair trustWhy leaders, trainers, and teams need a clear process—not just communication tipsThis conversation is a reminder that emotional connection isn’t extra, soft, or optional—it’s essential. And when we learn how to guide ourselves and others through emotional experiences with care, we create more clarity, resilience, and yes—more love—at work and beyond.  The Leader in You is the go-to podcast for anyone who wants to create a workplace culture where you can thrive. Envision a future where you are more grounded, confident, and in sync with your team. CONNECT: EmC Leaders Facebook Twitter LinkedIn YouTube Channel RESOURCES: TESA - TEAM EMOTIONAL SAFETY ASSESSMENT RESOURCES & DOWNLOADS EMC MASTER CLASS CONTACT US Connect with Dr. Lola Gershfeld: LinkedIn: Dr. Lola Gershfeld Instagram: @drlolaemc Connect with Polina Marian: LinkedIn: Polina Marian Instagram: @livewithfivekids Dr. Lola Gershfeld, a distinguished organizational psychologist, has dedicated her career to delving into the intricate layers of employee engagement, team ...

    31 min

  8. JAN 29

    78. Turning Leadership Turmoil Into Purpose

    What happens when leadership feels overwhelming, disconnected, or quietly empty—even when success looks strong from the outside? In this episode of The Leader in You, we’re joined by Susan M. Taylor, CEO of Generon International and founder of Taylored Wisdom, for a powerful conversation about transforming leadership turmoil into deeper purpose, alignment, and connection. Together, we explore why leadership can lose its meaning over time—and how renewal begins not by reinventing ourselves, but by reconnecting to what matters most. Susan shares how authentic alignment helps leaders move from exhaustion and pressure into inspired, purpose-driven action. This conversation dives into the emotional realities leaders rarely talk about: The moment when work that once energized you starts to feel drainingThe difference between hustle and inspired actionWhy we say yes when we want to say noHow fear of disconnection shapes leadership decisionsThe role of emotional safety in rebuilding trust and cultureWhy clarity and honest dialogue are essential for repairing fractured teamsWe also explore the deeper human drivers of leadership—mattering, belonging, purpose, and connection—and how psychological safety is something leaders and teams create together. This episode is an invitation to pause, reflect, and ask: Where might current leadership challenges actually be pointing you toward greater purpose? If you’re navigating change, burnout, misalignment, or culture disruption, this conversation will help you reframe turmoil as a signal—not a failure—and show you how secure leadership is built through emotional connection with yourself and others. Connect with Susan Taylor on LinkedIn Visit her website - TayloredWisdom.com Register for her next in-person session here. The Leader in You is the go-to podcast for anyone who wants to create a workplace culture where you can thrive. Envision a future where you are more grounded, confident, and in sync with your team. CONNECT: EmC Leaders Facebook Twitter LinkedIn YouTube Channel RESOURCES: TESA - TEAM EMOTIONAL SAFETY ASSESSMENT RESOURCES & DOWNLOADS EMC MASTER CLASS CONTACT US Connect with Dr. Lola Gershfeld: LinkedIn: Dr. Lola Gershfeld Instagram: @drlolaemc Connect with Polina Marian: LinkedIn: Polina Marian Instagram: @livewithfivekids Dr. Lola Gershfeld, a distinguished organizational psychologist, has dedicated her career to delving into the intricate layers of employee engagement, team ...

    42 min
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The Leader in You podcast is brought to you by EmC Leaders, helping companies to master the art of relationships so they can spend less time on people issues and more time accomplishing their most important goals.  We combine the science of attachment and emotional connection with insight from the last 20 years to overcome workplace conflict issues, build strong team relationships, and create a connected culture.Your hosts, Dr. Lola Gershfeld and Polina Marian.

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    Connect your people; transform you culture. With Dr. Lola Gershfeld
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    85
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