How We Can Heal

Lisa Danylchuk

A podcast to share deep conversations about How We Can Heal from life’s toughest circumstances.  46e25130-c4e4-11f0-b994-d9ed1c1b3183

  1. 1D AGO

    Borderline Dynamics Through a Trauma & Dissociation-Informed Lens with Dr. Janina Fisher

    This episode is sponsored by the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation (ISSTD). The International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation is an international, non-profit, professional association organized to develop and promote comprehensive, clinically effective and empirically based resources and responses to trauma and dissociation and to address its relevance to other theoretical constructs. To learn more and become a member, visit: https://www.isst-d.org/ Visit https://cfas.isst-d.org/ to access educational offerings for both professionals and non-professionals ----- What if the most misunderstood diagnosis in mental health is actually a trauma story told in code? We sit down with Janina Fisher to unpack why many “borderline” symptoms are survival adaptations and how Trauma-Informed Stabilization Treatment (TIST) helps people find steady ground without getting lost in overwhelm. This is a conversation about dignity, clarity, and the profound relief that comes when symptoms are seen as protective parts doing their best to keep us safe. Janina walks us through the core moves of TIST: recognizing structural dissociation, naming parts linked to fight, flight, freeze, submit, or attach, and using mindful awareness to “notice the part, then notice you noticing.” That simple shift creates a compassionate observing self that calms intensity and restores choice. We talk about reframing suicidality as a mercy offer from a protector, and understanding the inner critic as a rule-enforcer shaped by dangerous homes rather than a permanent enemy. Along the way, Janina shares how stabilization grows when curiosity replaces control, and why skills only work when tied to what is actually happening in the room. We also get practical. You’ll hear how to spot feeling memories when the past feels painfully present, how to ground in ways that are responsive rather than prescriptive, and how therapists can avoid old traps like trying to “make” clients connect with emotions. For those seeking help, Janina offers questions to ask when vetting clinicians and points to training pathways and her new workbook, Embracing Our Fragmented Selves, designed for survivors and therapists alike. If you’re ready to see borderline dynamics through a trauma lens, this episode offers a map filled with compassion and usable steps. Subscribe, share with a colleague or friend who needs this reframe, and leave a review to tell us which insight shifted your practice or your healing journey. Learn more about Dr. Fisher here: https://janinafisher.com/about/ Support the show

    54 min
  2. MAR 4

    Context Matters: Immigration, Racism & Resilience with Dr. Usha Tummala-Narra

    This episode is sponsored by the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation (ISSTD). The International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation is an international, non-profit, professional association organized to develop and promote comprehensive, clinically effective and empirically based resources and responses to trauma and dissociation and to address its relevance to other theoretical constructs. To learn more and become a member, visit: https://www.isst-d.org/ Visit https://cfas.isst-d.org/ to access educational offerings for both professionals and non-professionals ----- What if healing trauma started with a wider lens—one that includes history, culture, policy, and the daily negotiations of belonging? We sit down with clinical psychologist and researcher Usha Timolinarra to examine how immigration, racism, and collective memory shape individual symptoms, family dynamics, and community resilience. The conversation moves from the shift in care from “what’s wrong” to “what happened, to the include social, economic and political contexts, among others. Context matters, across childhood, adolescence, and adulthood. Usha unpacks dissociation as more than detachment, describing a dual sense of self that many immigrants and their children develop to survive competing expectations. We explore the costs and strengths of compartmentalization, the normalization of silence around sexual violence among Indian American and Mexican American families, and why breaking that silence can threaten belonging even as it opens space to heal. Listeners hear how survivors bridge Western psychotherapy with community-rooted and indigenous practices, building bicultural healing that honors both science and tradition. For therapists, we dive into staying steady in a volatile sociopolitical climate: tending to our own stress, practicing lifelong cultural learning, and inviting specificity around shame, guilt, and identity. Usha illustrates how psychoanalytic concepts—defense, transference, countertransference—become more powerful when joined with a social lens that recognizes racism, colorism, and policy as active forces in the room. We track practical routes from therapy to impact: mentoring students, briefings on the Hill during the DREAM Act era, and using media to translate data with empathy and urgency. We also tackle the debate on racial trauma as a diagnosis, the lived effects of chronic racism, and Usha’s current research on early-career psychologists of color and the intergenerational legacy of colorism. The throughline is hope with a backbone: speak truth, remember history, and keep widening the range of possible futures for our clients, our communities, and ourselves. If this resonates, follow the show, share with a colleague, and leave a review so more listeners can find these conversations. ----- Learn more about Dr. Tummala-Narra here:  https://www.bc.edu/bc-web/schools/lynch-school/faculty-research/faculty-directory/Usha-Tummala-Narra.html Support the show

    49 min
  3. FEB 25

    Voice As Medicine: Molly Mahoney On Hope And Healing Through Song

    When the world feels heavy and full of noise, how do we make space for breath, truth, and light? We invited mezzo soprano Molly Mahoney to share how singing— anything from opera to jazz to cabaret—became both her art and her way of meeting hard days with honest hope. Molly’s new recording of Over the Rainbow with Grammy-winning pianist John Wilson anchors our conversation: not as a sugar-coated escape, but as a grounded arc from jumble and rain to a place beyond the rainbow. We talk about why this timeless song still resonates, how long exhales settle the body, and what happens when a melody lets you feel before you have to explain. Together, we unpack the somatic side of voice: simple alignment resets, shhhh exhales, and micro-moments against a wall or on the floor that open the ribs and low back. Molly shares stories from her voice studio, where adult beginners—many told to “just mouth the words”—discover that singing is learnable, gentle, and deeply human. With breath support, vowel shape, and kind feedback, pitch becomes a skill and expression feels safe again. We explore live performance as co-creation, the quiet magic of audience attunement, and the way small imperfections turn into fresh choices on stage. Parenting threads through our talk too: prenatal lullabies, toddlers who light up when a song returns, and the rituals that bind families and friends in kitchens and living rooms. Music becomes a practice for everyday resilience, a place to set burdens down without denying them. If you’ve ever thought “I can’t sing,” this is your invitation to try—one inhale, one long note, one truthful lyric at a time. Press play to learn breath tools you can use today, hear the story behind Over the Rainbow, and remember why your unique voice matters. If this conversation moves you, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs some light, and leave a quick review so more people can find these tools and stories. Your voice matters, and it helps our healing community grow. --- Listen on Spotify and Apple Music: https://linktr.ee/mollymarymahoney Learn more about Molly: www.mollymarymahoney.com "Over the Rainbow" by Harold Arlen & Yip Harburg "Meadowlark" from The Baker's Wife by Stephen Schwartz Molly Mahoney, voice John Wilson, piano Cory Todd, recording engineer and mastering recorded December 2025 at the San Francisco Conservatory of Music on a Steinway piano Photo credit (sky with clouds): Veronique Kherian Support the show

    57 min
  4. FEB 18

    Beauty After Bruises: Healing Complex Trauma Together with Lexi & Anne

    What happens when compassion meets competence—and lived experience leads the way? We invited Anne Nicely and Lexi M., co-founders of Beauty After Bruises, to share how a homegrown effort to help one survivor of dissociative identity disorder expanded into a nationwide bridge for people living with complex trauma and dissociation. From funding care to educating clinicians, their mission is simple and urgent: make healing possible, practical, and grounded in research. We unpack the real differences between trauma informed and trauma competent care, why the best therapists’ rosters are often full, and how short trainings can’t substitute for years of learning with complex PTSD and DID. Lexi explains why she chooses anonymity for safety and modeling boundaries, while offering rich, accessible psychoeducation through articles, symptom management guides, and hope-centered resources. Together, we explore the daily practices that prevent burnout—tight boundaries, humor, brief news windows, playful resets, and a “hope folder” of wins—so survivors, families, and helpers can keep going. The conversation gets specific about consent and communication. Families often want to help but can overreach; meta-questions like “Would it help if I asked about this?” and “Is this helping or hurting?” return agency to survivors and protect pacing. We highlight practical stabilization: check basics first (sleep, food, water, movement), ask “What do I need right now?” and, if stuck, reverse engineer by testing a few supports. Anne and Lexi also share what scale could look like with serious funding: year-long therapy grants and more robust therapy boxes for those without local clinicians, ensuring continuity and real foundations for healing. If you care about complex trauma, dissociation, and the path from buzzwords to better care, this episode offers clarity, candor, and grounded hope. Listen, share with a colleague or loved one, and tell us your biggest takeaway. If it resonated, subscribe, leave a review, and pass it along to someone who needs honest encouragement today. Support the show

    1h 13m
  5. FEB 12

    Anti-Oppressive Trauma Care & Collective Healing with David Archer

    This episode is sponsored by the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation (ISSTD). The International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation is an international, non-profit, professional association organized to develop and promote comprehensive, clinically effective and empirically based resources and responses to trauma and dissociation and to address its relevance to other theoretical constructs. To learn more and become a member, visit: https://www.isst-d.org/ Visit https://cfas.isst-d.org/ to access educational offerings for both professionals and non-professionals --- What if therapy could feel creative, embodied, and joyful—and still deliver precise, measurable change? We sit down with David Archer—anti-racist psychotherapist, EMDRIA-approved trainer, and developer of Rhythm and Processing—to rethink how healing happens for complex PTSD, racial trauma, and dissociation. David lays out a clear, accessible path from predictive processing and memory reconsolidation to practical tools you can use right away: client-led actions, music and imagery, community rituals, and therapeutic “surprise” that helps the brain update old patterns without forcing catharsis. Across the conversation, we explore how EMDR grows stronger through an anti-oppressive lens that welcomes culture, faith, and art into the room. David shares real-world examples of using visualization, pets, numbers, and rhythm to create disconfirming experiences that soften hyper-vigilance and despair. We also talk frankly about therapist burnout and vicarious trauma, and why protecting helpers is non-negotiable if we want sustainable care. Boundaries and action alongside recovery and rest offer ways to organize both clinical work and daily life. We widen the lens to institutional betrayal, misdiagnosis tied to racial bias, and the urgent need for trauma-informed systems that value courage over comfort. Instead of fitting clients into rigid methods, David urges us to let clients generate the method—an approach that supports neurodiversity, scales to groups, and keeps humanity at the center of mental health. If you’re curious about predictive processing, memory reconsolidation, EMDR, or culturally responsive care, this is a grounded, hopeful roadmap for change. If this conversation resonates, follow the show, share it with a colleague or friend, and leave a review on your favorite app. Your words help others find the tools—and the courage—to heal. --- Connect with David here! Meeting Groups: https://calendly.com/archertherapy/ Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/rhythmandprocessing Anti-Ractist Psychotherpy: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1777450438 Racial Trauma Recovery: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1777450470 Trainings: https://archertherapy.com/ Support the show

    1h 7m
  6. FEB 4

    Generations of Resilience: Healing Beyond Individual Trauma with Lynette Danylchuk PhD

    Are you a therapist looking to organize your business? Try SimplePractice! Start with a seven-day free trial, then get 50% off your first three months.  Just go to https://www.simplepractice.com/ to claim the offer! --- Curiosity heals faster than control. That’s the thread we follow with Lynette Danylchuk, PhD—trailblazing psychologist, past ISSTD president, and coauthor of Treating Complex Trauma and Dissociation. We talk about why the field has exploded with research and lived-experience leadership, and how the best therapy now balances sturdy containers with deep listening. Tools matter, but timing, consent, and relationship matter more. When we lead with humility, the psyche reveals its own map. We get honest about clinician burnout and how to refill the well with beauty, community, and expressive arts. Long exhale singing, a moonlit walk, laughter with a trusted friend—these aren’t luxuries; they’re nervous system care. Lynette reframes dissociation as creativity under pressure, showing how fierce protectors once patterned after harm can be reclaimed in service of dignity. Integration becomes alignment: every self-state moving with the values the person chooses, not the rules of past abuse. We also zoom out to collective trauma. React or respond? That choice shapes movements and mental health alike. Using anger as fuel for care keeps the frontal cortex online and harm in check. We talk intergenerational resilience, asking about ancestors to find the strengths that carried families through. For those seeking help, we share practical routes—referrals, skill-building programs, and the persistence it takes to find a good fit. And for a culture that long blamed victims, we name the shift underway: more empathy, more protection for children, and more voices rising to end the silence. If this conversation gives you a spark—share it with someone who needs language for what they’re feeling, subscribe for more grounded healing talks, and leave a review so others can find us. Tell us: what practice helps you respond, not react, this week? Support the show

    1 hr
  7. JAN 27

    Disabled And Proud: Laszlo Jajczay’s Journey

    Are you a therapist looking to organize your business? Try SimplePractice! Start with a seven-day free trial, then get 50% off your first three months. Just go to https://www.simplepractice.com/ to claim the offer! --- What happens when accessibility stops being an afterthought and becomes the starting line? That question drives our conversation with journalist, podcast host, and disability rights advocate Laszlo Jacksai, whose work blends reporting, storytelling, and community care to challenge the subtle and not-so-subtle ways ableism shows up in daily life. We trace Laszlo’s path from launching Friends With Wheels to writing Disabled and Proud, and hear how authenticity—over algorithms—shaped his creative voice. He breaks down the difference between support and spectacle, explains why “you’re an inspiration” can land as a burden, and shares candid stories about accommodations that exist on paper but fail in practice. From IEPs and speech-to-text to seating at a crowded restaurant, he shows how small design choices add up to either friction or freedom. Laszlo also maps the power of community, highlighting the DO-IT Program at the University of Washington and the value of peer networks that turn isolation into belonging. We talk practical allyship—ask before helping, learn the language of disability justice, build feedback loops at school and work—and we look at simple tools that rebuild energy and confidence, like guided meditations and self-hypnosis apps. His view of resilience is refreshingly human: not a quick bounce-back, but a steady commitment to keep showing up, try new strategies, and trust yourself through the next curveball. If you care about disability advocacy, accessibility, inclusive education, and mental health, this conversation offers clear steps and real stories you can act on today. Listen, reflect, and share this episode with someone who’s designing a space, leading a classroom, or rethinking how they offer help. If the show resonates, follow, rate, and leave a review—then tell us: what’s one accessibility change you’ll champion this week? Listen to Friends with Wheels here! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/friends-with-wheels/id1623717823 Support the show

    38 min
  8. JAN 21

    How Organized Child Sexual Abuse Persists and How We Can Disrupt It with Dr. Michael Salter

    Are you a therapist looking to organize your business? Try SimplePractice! Start with a seven-day free trial, then get 50% off your first three months.  Go to https://www.simplepractice.com/ to claim the offer! --- What happens when we stop treating child sexual abuse as isolated “bad apples” and start seeing it as organized crime shaped by networks, money flows, and technology? We sit down with Dr. Michael Salter—criminologist, author, and global leader in child protection—to map the hidden systems that enable abuse and the practical steps that can disrupt it without re‑traumatizing survivors. Michael shares how internet evidence shattered old myths and revealed collaborative, often sadistic offender networks operating on encrypted platforms. He explains why public awareness has surged while policy and policing lag behind, and how offender demographics—more educated, higher income, well‑networked—complicate investigations. We unpack the stark difference between high conviction rates for online offenses and the uphill battle of prosecuting intrafamilial abuse without corroborating evidence, then dive into how banks and payment rails have become crucial terrain for detection and disruption. From the therapy room to the courtroom, we explore what it takes to support survivors of organized and extreme abuse. Michael offers grounded guidance for clinicians on pacing, reality testing, and building strong supervision so we can hold hope instead of collapsing into vicarious despair. We examine DARVO, the self‑protective reflexes of institutions, and how to prepare clients for the realities of reporting. Most importantly, we highlight shame‑sensitive, dignity‑affirming design—small details that signal worth at every step—and learn from Australia’s Royal Commission, which turned logistics into healing by treating survivors like they truly matter. This conversation is candid, compassionate, and actionable. If you’re a therapist, advocate, policymaker, or concerned listener, you’ll leave with a clearer map of the problem and a blueprint for change: integrate therapy, law enforcement, finance, and tech; design for dignity; and keep public attention focused even when headlines shift. Subscribe, share with a colleague, and leave a review to help bring more light—and more accountability—to this work. Learn more about Michael's work at: https://www.organisedabuse.com/ Support the show

    1 hr

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A podcast to share deep conversations about How We Can Heal from life’s toughest circumstances.  46e25130-c4e4-11f0-b994-d9ed1c1b3183

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