Confessions of a Recovering Micromanaging Perfectionist Martyr

Mags DePetris
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As a mother of four and a self-proclaimed micromanaging - perfectionist - martyr, I constantly need to be reminded that control leaves me lonely, perfection can paralyze me, and caring for others over myself leads to resentment. Join me as I try to navigate being a structure-luvin' gal, in an absolutely chaotic household.

  1. Happy Fend For Yourself Day!

    2D AGO

    Happy Fend For Yourself Day!

    🎉 Happy Fend For Yourself Day! 🎉 This episode celebrates doing absolutely nothing—with love, humor, and a dash of self-talk magic. 🛋️ Whether you're lounging or traveling, this one's a cozy reminder that rest isn’t lazy—it’s imperative. ✨ Kids, you're on your own! Links mentioned in this episode: Fend for Yourself Day Ferri Bueller JoinTeamConfessions!

    3 min
  2. BONUS: Positive Self-Talk – Helmstetter Book Recap

    DEC 19

    BONUS: Positive Self-Talk – Helmstetter Book Recap

    Curious about What to Say When You Talk to Yourself? 📖🧠 This bonus episode offers a gentle, bite-sized summary of Shad Helmstetter’s classic book on self-talk—what it is, how it works, and why it matters 💬💗. If you’ve been looking for a kinder way to speak to yourself, this is a soft place to start. 🎧 RESOURCES: The Book: What To Say When You Talk To Yourself, by Shad HelmstetterThe App: Self-Talk+ offers dozens of focused recordings The Summary: Mags’ book synopsis As an Amazon Associate, I could earn a small commission if you shop through my links. It costs you nothing, but helps keep this wildly underfunded oversharing experiment heading in the right direction 😜. JoinTeamConfessions!

    8 min
  3. Self‑Talk Wake‑Up Call – A New Voice That’s Changing Me

    DEC 19

    Self‑Talk Wake‑Up Call – A New Voice That’s Changing Me

    My kids gave me a wake-up call years ago 😳—and it turns out, I needed another one! This episode explores how our self-talk 🧠 becomes the soundtrack of our lives—and the power of softening the script 💗. No pressure, no perfection—just one curious step toward a kinder inner voice. 🎧 Ready to rewire that brain-box, TeamConfessioners?  Links mentioned in this episode: Mothering Can't Be This Hard YouTube video of Shad Helmstetter Fend for Yourself Day RESOURCES: The Book: What To Say When You Talk To Yourself, by Shad HelmstetterThe App: Self-Talk+ offers dozens of focused recordings The Summary: Mags’ book synopsis As an Amazon Associate, I could earn a small commission if you shop through my links. It costs you nothing, but helps keep this wildly underfunded oversharing experiment heading in the right direction 😜. JoinTeamConfessions!

    7 min
  4. Craving More Validation — See the Care Behind the Quiet

    DEC 12

    Craving More Validation — See the Care Behind the Quiet

    Ever feel like you're giving out standing ovations 👏... and getting occasional golf claps in return? 😬 This episode peeks behind the silence to explore the many ways love shows up—especially when praise isn't part of the package. From popcorn metaphors 🍿 to parallel parking 🚗, we're digging into validation, acts of service, and the quiet care that's there, but we might be missing 💛 JoinTeamConfessions!

    4 min
  5. All I Want for Christmas VIII - A Break from Being On Call

    DEC 5

    All I Want for Christmas VIII - A Break from Being On Call

    🎄 This season, I found myself juggling connection and control—again. A night out, a few unchecked texts, and a family FaceTime later, I realized the “hotline” I was running was one I created. Tune in for a reflection on presence, letting go, and that bittersweet shift when your kids grow up and stop needing you quite so much 😅 Let’s talk boundaries, and being where our feet are 💫 JoinTeamConfessions!

    4 min
  6. Learning to Prune – A Shift in Parenting Growing Kids

    NOV 28

    Learning to Prune – A Shift in Parenting Growing Kids

    What if your own branches 🌿  are crowding someone else’s light? A gentle look at parenting growing kids, inspired by gardening ✂️, overgrowth, and the quiet gift of letting go 💛 Posts referenced in this episode: P-L-A-N — The Importance of Planning Ahead Tightening the Screws — My 6 Essential Self-Care Routines JoinTeamConfessions!

    3 min
  7. Feeling Off? Linking Moods to What We Say

    NOV 21

    Feeling Off? Linking Moods to What We Say

    Ever think about how your mood might be linked to your words? Inspired by Rumi, my mom’s birthday 🎉, and a well-timed @ShawnAchor book 📖, this episode dives into the quiet power of praise 🙌—and how forgetting it might dim our inner light ✨ Other episodes referenced in this post: Mothering Can't Be This Hard Dashboard Lights JoinTeamConfessions!

    5 min
  8. Letting Go - Moving On From the Past

    NOV 14

    Letting Go - Moving On From the Past

    A tearful SUV saga 🚗💔 turns into a deeper look at why letting go can feel so impossible. From clingy car decisions to parenting text etiquette, this one’s for anyone feeling stuck between who they were and who they’re becoming. Come sit with us in the in-between 💭❤️‍🩹 JoinTeamConfessions!

    5 min
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As a mother of four and a self-proclaimed micromanaging - perfectionist - martyr, I constantly need to be reminded that control leaves me lonely, perfection can paralyze me, and caring for others over myself leads to resentment. Join me as I try to navigate being a structure-luvin' gal, in an absolutely chaotic household.

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