When You Don’t Know

Joy and Mathieu Rossignol
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When You Don’t Know is the faith-based podcast for Christians navigating dating while having relationship anxiety. Hosted by Joy & Mathieu, a married couple and therapist duo, we get real about the doubts, fears, and questions that often come with love. Through honest conversations, biblical wisdom, and powerful guest interviews, we’ll help you date with confidence, overcome anxiety, and build a marriage that lasts. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, this podcast is your safe space to discover what it means to love well—even "when you dont know".

  1. 1D AGO

    135. How to Talk to Your Partner About Relationship Anxiety

    👉 If you struggle with relationship anxiety or ROCD, one of the hardest questions is: “How do I tell my partner what’s going on in my head… without scaring them, hurting them, or damaging the relationship?” In this episode, we’re talking about how to have the conversation and how to know when you’re actually ready to have it. Because sharing your anxiety isn’t about confessing every intrusive thought. And it’s definitely not about offloading your anxiety onto them. In this conversation, we cover:     •    How to explain relationship anxiety to a partner who doesn’t experience it     •    What your partner actually needs to know — and what they don’t     •    How to talk about anxiety without making your partner responsible for managing it     •    Common mistakes that accidentally fuel more anxiety in the relationshipIf you’ve ever worried that being honest about your anxiety might push your partner away, this episode is for you. 👉 Our course Silence the Noise is officially out now! If you’re ready to finally quiet the noise and feel grounded in your relationship again, now is the perfect time to join. https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkout 👉 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignol 👉 Work with us: https://lnk.bio/joyrossignol 👉 Relationship Anxiety Academy: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at/checkout 👉 1:1 Coaching: https://gz43pjtl2nc.typeform.com/to/nRp3NRTy?typeform-source=lnk.bio

    34 min

  2. FEB 3

    134. When the Prophetic Becomes Harmful in Relationships

    The prophetic is often presented as a reliable way to discern relationships — but for many people, it becomes a source of fear, control, and harm. In this episode, we talk about spiritual abuse that took place in the context of prophetic language and relationships, and why relying on prophetic words to make dating or marriage decisions can be deeply unsafe. We unpack how “God told me” has been used to override consent, silence discernment, and create anxiety — and why this approach doesn’t reflect how God actually leads His people. This conversation is honest, grounded, and necessary for anyone who has been hurt or confused by spiritual authority in relationships. 👉 Our course Silence the Noise is officially out now! If you’re ready to finally quiet the noise and feel grounded in your relationship again, now is the perfect time to join. https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkout 👉 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignol 👉 Work with us: https://lnk.bio/joyrossignol

    45 min

  3. JAN 20

    133. When Spiritual Authority Replaces Discernment

    What do you do when spiritual advice about your relationship leaves you feeling anxious, confused, or afraid of getting it wrong? In this episode of When You Don’t Know, we talk about the tension many Christians experience when church leadership doesn’t support their relationship — not for biblical reasons, but because of feelings, preferences, or a perceived “lack of peace.” For many, this creates deep relationship anxiety and the fear that disagreeing with leaders means disobeying God. We explore: • The difference between spiritual guidance and spiritual control • Why anxiety often shows up when obedience to leaders is confused with obedience to God • How God actually leads His people — and why fear, pressure, and urgency aren’t part of His voice • What healthy spiritual leadership looks like in dating and relationships If you’ve ever felt torn between your faith, your relationship, and your own discernment, this conversation is for you. You’re not rebellious. You’re not faithless. And you’re not broken for wanting clarity and peace. 👉 Our course Silence the Noise is officially out now! If you’re ready to finally quiet the noise and feel grounded in your relationship again, now is the perfect time to join. https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkout 👉 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignol 👉 Work with us: https://lnk.bio/joyrossignol

    27 min

  4. JAN 6

    132. When You Don’t Know If Your Callings Align

    You’re in a relationship, but you’re unsure if your callings align. “What if this means we’re not meant to be together?” “What if I’m missing God’s will?” In this episode, we talk about why uncertainty around calling creates so much anxiety in Christian relationships, and why not having clarity doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. We also discuss how fear can disguise itself as discernment, and how to approach questions about calling without spiraling into overthinking. You’re not broken. You’re not behind. And you didn’t ruin God’s plan. Hope you enjoy! 👉 Our course Silence the Noise is officially out now! If you’re ready to finally quiet the noise and feel grounded in your relationship again, now is the perfect time to join. https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkout 👉 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignol 👉 Work with us: https://lnk.bio/joyrossignol

    38 min

  5. 12/02/2025

    131. The Cost of Anxiety: What It Steals From You and Your Relationship

    Relationship anxiety doesn’t just make you overthink — it takes things from you. Your confidence. Your peace. Your ability to enjoy your relationship. And for so many people, the anxiety becomes so overwhelming that ending the relationship feels like the only way to get relief. In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the real cost of anxiety and how it silently impacts your relationship even when nothing is actually wrong. We’re talking about: ✨ How anxiety steals your confidence ✨ Why it’s so hard to feel peace around someone you love ✨ How fear becomes the lens you see your partner through ✨ Why so many people consider breaking up just to feel “normal” again ✨ And most importantly… how to silence the internal noise so you can finally breathe If you’ve ever wondered, “Why can’t I just feel secure?” or “Why does my mind always spiral?”, this episode will make you feel deeply understood — and give you hope for a calmer, more grounded relationship. You’re not broken. You’re not alone. And there is a path back to peace. Our course Silence the Noise is officially out now! And as an extended Black Friday gift, you can get $200 off from today until December 6th. If you’re ready to finally quiet the noise and feel grounded in your relationship again, now is the perfect time to join. https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkout

    37 min

  6. 11/18/2025

    130. Imperfect Love Stories: From Anxiously Dating to Happily Married

    What happens when two best friends start to fall for each other… but one of them is battling intense relationship anxiety? In today’s episode, we sit down with Pedro & Aliah, a married couple who went from friends to lovers — and had to navigate fear, doubt, and anxiety to get there. One partner struggled deeply with relationship anxiety and eventually joined our Relationship Anxiety Group Coaching Program, where they did the inner work, gained clarity, and learned how to move toward connection instead of fear. Their persistence, vulnerability, and commitment to growth led them to choosing each other — fully, confidently, and wholeheartedly. Now they’ve been happily married for over a year, and they’re sharing their story with you. In this conversation, we explore: ✨ How their friendship turned into something more ✨ What relationship anxiety looked like behind the scenes ✨ How faith, community, and support made all the difference ✨ The turning points that helped them move toward marriage ✨ Encouragement for couples navigating similar fears If you or your partner have ever felt scared to choose the relationship — or feared choosing “wrong” — this episode will give you so much hope. ⸻ 👉 JOIN THE WAITLIST: Silence the Noise (our signature course) to get access to the biggest discount for the course that comes out next week— https://joyandmathieu.myflodesk.com/kpkuua0vpc 👉 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignol Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who needs encouragement today. 💛

    1h 36m

  7. 11/04/2025

    129. How to Finally Break the Cycle of Relationship Anxiety

    If you’ve been stuck in an anxious loop about your relationship — constantly questioning your feelings, your partner, or whether you’re in God’s will — this episode is for you. We’re breaking down the difference between reacting and responding to relationship anxiety, and why both can still leave you trapped in fear if you’re missing one key thing: your core beliefs. Many people learn to pause before reacting, but never get to the root of why they feel unsafe in love.We’ll talk about how your beliefs about love, commitment, and God shape the way you experience anxiety — and how shifting them can finally bring peace. 🎧 In this episode:     •    The difference between reacting and responding     •    Why awareness isn’t always enough to heal anxiety     •    How to uncover the core beliefs driving your fears     •    What it really means to trust God in relationships Join the waitlist for our relationship anxiety course to get a discount:https://joyandmathieu.myflodesk.com/kpkuua0vpc Sign up for 1:1 coaching with Joy:https://gz43pjtl2nc.typeform.com/to/nRp3NRTy Join our membership Relationship Anxiety Academy (RAA):https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at/checkout

    43 min

  8. 10/07/2025

    128. Imperfect Love Stories: Marrying Someone Who’s Divorced and Has Kids

    What’s it really like to marry someone who’s been married before… and already has kids? In this week’s Imperfect Love Stories, we’re talking with Tiph and Andrew — a couple who’ve built something beautiful out of life’s second chances. We talk about the fears, assumptions, and growth that come with blending lives (and families), and what it looks like to let go of “perfect” love so you can embrace real love. Work with us: https://lnk.bio/joyrossignol

    56 min
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When You Don’t Know is the faith-based podcast for Christians navigating dating while having relationship anxiety. Hosted by Joy & Mathieu, a married couple and therapist duo, we get real about the doubts, fears, and questions that often come with love. Through honest conversations, biblical wisdom, and powerful guest interviews, we’ll help you date with confidence, overcome anxiety, and build a marriage that lasts. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, this podcast is your safe space to discover what it means to love well—even "when you dont know".

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  • Creator
    Joy and Mathieu Rossignol
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    137
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Joy and Mathieu Rossignol
  • Show Website
    When You Don’t Know

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