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Erika Alsborn
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This podcast is for you if you are dying to experience your most satisfying and mind-blowing sex, pleasure and orgasms – which inevitably means exploring and embodying your sexual confidence, sensual power, and learning the art of eroticism and feminine delight! If you want to embody a deep sense of “Yes, Please… I want MORE and BETTER sex, pleasure and orgasms!” – then you’re gonna love my podcast. The things you’ll learn here will expand and elevate your theoretical knowledge about your body, sexuality and pleasure AND birth… it will inspire you to explore all this knowledge in your life in a practical way and prioritize pleasure and sex as something for YOU – which obviously will change your whole life in the most amazing ways! Pleasure Rebels Fb group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn/ Website: www.erikaalsborn

  1. 2d ago

    126: Great sex, bad sex, big fights + making marriage work

    In this episode, I'm trying something new and recording from my car on the way home from school drop-off. And I want to talk about something very personal: the reality of sex and intimacy in a long-term marriage. After moving into our new house, starting renovations, navigating school routines, parenting, and all the stress that comes with it, my husband and I have had our fair share of ups and downs. Yes, we still have regular sex. But is it always amazing? Absolutely not. We have mismatched desires, misunderstandings, arguments, and moments when we struggle to connect. And even after ten years of teaching sexuality, I'm not immune to any of it. I share a recent fight with my husband, how stress affects our sexual desires differently, and why I believe the quality of a relationship isn't measured by how often you have sex or whether you fight, but by how you navigate those difficult moments and repair afterwards. In this episode: The reality of sex in a long-term marriage Why great sex isn't always great How stress affects our libido differently Navigating mismatched desires and conflict Why repair matters more than perfection This episode is a reminder that even sex coaches have messy, imperfect relationships. We're all human, and intimacy isn't about getting everything right. It's about continuing to show up, communicate, and find our way back to each other. Join the waitlist for my year-long mastermind SHAMELESS: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless-waitlist Related episodes: 121: We bought a house + a story about my marriage, patience, trust, and surrender → 117: Choosing family in a culture of “having it all” →

  2. Oct 22

    125: What renovating our house reminded me about sexual healing

    In this episode, I share something unexpected that renovating our new house has reminded me about sexual healing and personal growth. What started as a simple kitchen renovation turned into a much bigger project. As we began tearing things down, we discovered problems we had no idea were there. And I realized just how similar this experience is to sexual healing and expansion. I talk about the different phases of transformation, from the initial excitement to the messy middle, when everything feels difficult, progress seems impossible, and you start questioning whether it's even worth it. In this episode: What renovating our house taught me about sexual healing The different phases of personal transformation Why the messy middle feels like going backwards Uncovering unconscious beliefs and old patterns Learning to trust the process and keep going Real growth isn't always linear. Sometimes we have to tear down the old foundations before we can build something new.   Join the waitlist for my year-long mastermind SHAMELESS: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless-waitlist   Related episodes: 121: We bought a house + a story about my marriage, patience, trust, and surrender → 115: life updates + my season of expansion →

  3. Jul 14

    124: Crowding out negativity with love - a simple everyday practice

    In this episode, I guide you through a simple but powerful practice that has been transforming my own mindset and helping me feel more appreciation, joy, and connection in everyday life. Rather than focusing on gratitude, I invite you to explore something slightly different: love. What do you love about your life, your body, your relationships, your work, your friends, and the journey you're on? Together, we'll move through a series of prompts designed to shift your attention away from negativity and toward the things that are already beautiful, meaningful, and worth celebrating. This is an episode to listen to while walking, driving, journaling, or anytime you need a gentle reset and a reminder of what is already good in your life.   In this episode: Why focusing on what you love can shift your state of mind The difference between gratitude and love A guided practice to reconnect with appreciation How to soften negativity bias and cultivate more joy Simple prompts you can return to every day   Related episodes: 85: Empowering Narrative meditation → 81: Guided Practice: A 10-minute Self-Love Ritual →

  4. Jun 30

    123. Leaking, orgasms & p***y strength: A pelvic floor Q&A

    In this Q&A episode, I answer a listener's question: what does peeing when you sneeze tell you about your sexual health? We dive into the connection between the pelvic floor, pleasure, orgasms, core strength, and overall wellbeing. I share my own experience with postpartum incontinence and the journey of rebuilding pelvic floor strength after birth. We also explore the difference between a weak pelvic floor and a tight pelvic floor, why both can cause symptoms, and how understanding what's happening in your body is the first step toward healing. In this episode: The difference between a weak and a tight pelvic floor Common symptoms to look out for How pelvic floor health affects pleasure and orgasms Simple practices to build strength and awareness Why your body isn't broken and what you can do to support it Whether you've had children or not, this episode is an invitation to reconnect with your body, understand what it's communicating, and take small steps toward greater strength, pleasure, and confidence. Related episodes: 96: Sex after birth: intimacy, pleasure, and p***y rehab → 71: Gut, vaginal and mental health and the power of meat stock with Kate Pope. →

  5. Jun 16

    122: From hot preggo life to cold postpartum: finding your way back to desire

    In this Q&A episode, I answer a listener’s question about moving from a hot, connected sex life during pregnancy to feeling completely disconnected from desire in postpartum. I talk about why this shift is so common after birth, and how much your body, identity, relationship, and nervous system are moving through in this season. Before trying to “get the sexy vibe back,” we need to start with sensuality, self-connection, support, and honoring what your body has been through. This episode is about finding your way back to lust gently, honestly, and in a way that actually fits the woman and mother you are now.   In this episode: Why postpartum can feel so different sexually Reconnecting with sensuality before sex Honoring your body after birth Asking for the intimacy you actually want Rebuilding your erotic identity after becoming a mother   If you’re feeling disconnected from desire, this is your reminder that nothing is wrong with you. Your sexuality may simply be asking to return in a new way.   Join waitlist for my year-long mastermind SHAMELESS: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless-waitlist   Related episodes: 96: Sex after birth: intimacy, pleasure, and p***y rehab → 47: How to Resuscitate Your Erotic Mind as a Mother - Interview with Lisa O. → 69: The ultimate desire hack: how to have more sex in your longterm relationship →

  6. Jun 3

    121: We bought a house + a story about my marriage, patience, trust, and surrender

    In this episode, I share the personal big news: we bought a house. I talk about why having a home with a garden has meant so much to me, how long and stressful the process has been, and what it brought up along the way. From selling our apartment, moving in with my in-laws, going to around 50 house viewings, and almost buying the wrong house, this has been a huge learning experience. I also reflect honestly on my own patterns in our relationship, especially around rushing, pushing, and wanting things to happen on my timeline. This whole process helped me see where I needed to slow down, trust my husband more, and let us move as a team. This episode is about buying a house, but also about patience, partnership, mistakes, repair, and trusting the timing of life. In this episode: Why I’ve always wanted to live in a house What this house-buying process taught me The pattern I had to face in my marriage Learning to slow down and trust more How we finally found and bought our house   This is a celebration of a new home, a new chapter, and the lessons that came with getting here.   Join waitlist for my year-long mastermind SHAMELESS: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless-waitlist   Related episodes: 117: Choosing family in a culture of “having it all”→ 115: life updates + my season of expansion →

  7. Apr 20

    120: Why you are sexually disconnected (and how to come back to yourself)

    In this episode, I unpack what it really means to feel sexually disconnected and disempowered as a woman. I explore why so many women feel numb, shut down, resentful, bored, or distant from their sexuality – and why this is far more common than most people realize. I talk about the roots of sexual disconnection, from conditioning and negative experiences to lack of education, self-knowledge, and true safety. Most importantly, I share how to begin rebuilding a loving, empowered relationship with your body, desire, sensuality, and pleasure. In this episode: What sexual disconnection can look like in real life Why many women feel sex is “for someone else” How shame, numbness, and resentment are often learned patterns The missing link between sensuality and sexuality Why self-knowledge is the foundation of sexual empowerment How to begin reconnecting with desire, pleasure, and your body What becomes possible when sexuality finally feels like it belongs to you Join my Sensuality course: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/zen-suality Join waitlist for my year-long mastermind SHAMELESS: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless-waitlist   Related episodes: 113: Are you a teen or a woman in the bedroom? → 111: Flirting, feeling confident, masculine women, sexual growth in a relationship →

  8. Apr 2

    119: Not in the mood for sex? Let’s talk alternatives

    In this episode, I explore the nuance of sexual intimacy in long-term relationships and what it really means to meet each other in desire, even when you’re not fully “in the mood.” I share the deeper context behind a recent (and quite controversial) post about offering a b*****b as an alternative form of intimacy and unpack why this idea sparked so much conversation. We dive into the differences between male and female arousal, spontaneous vs. responsive desire, and why sexuality is far more complex than a simple yes or no. This episode opens up a more expansive way of thinking about intimacy, where communication, choice, and mutual satisfaction take the lead. This is an invitation to move beyond rigid definitions of sex, to explore what feels truly aligned for you, and to approach intimacy from a place of empowerment, generosity, and self-awareness.   In this episode: Why desire differs between men and women The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire Why intimacy doesn’t always have to include penetration How to stay connected when you’re not in the mood for sex The role of communication, consent, and boundaries Reframing giving (including oral sex) as a choice, not an obligation How sexual empowerment transforms your relationship   Related episodes: 67: Embrace your desire style: explaining spontaneous vs. responsive desire → 69: The ultimate desire hack: how to have more sex in your longterm relationship →

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This podcast is for you if you are dying to experience your most satisfying and mind-blowing sex, pleasure and orgasms – which inevitably means exploring and embodying your sexual confidence, sensual power, and learning the art of eroticism and feminine delight! If you want to embody a deep sense of “Yes, Please… I want MORE and BETTER sex, pleasure and orgasms!” – then you’re gonna love my podcast. The things you’ll learn here will expand and elevate your theoretical knowledge about your body, sexuality and pleasure AND birth… it will inspire you to explore all this knowledge in your life in a practical way and prioritize pleasure and sex as something for YOU – which obviously will change your whole life in the most amazing ways! Pleasure Rebels Fb group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn/ Website: www.erikaalsborn

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  • Creator
    Erika Alsborn
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    127
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Show Website
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