Heal Your Relationships

Kavetha Sundaramoorthy
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This is a show about marriage, Unlike other shows about marriage, Heal Your Relationships is for women whose partners refuse therapy. If that is you, please know that you can still have the marriage you want, and we can help you get there. I’m your host Dr. Kavetha Sun, M.D. Even as a double board-certified psychiatrist, I struggled for years in my intimate relationships. This show is a culmination of everything I learned over ten years of stumbling through my own healing journey. My hope is that it gives you a head start. Each week, I will share simple, research-backed tools that you can use immediately to help you resolve conflict, restore connection, and pass on a legacy you are proud of. PS: Whenever you’re ready, here are two ways I can support you further: ⚡️Want my personalized help to break trauma patterns and heal your relationships in just 90 days? Book a free call to see if our flagship program Resilience 360 is the right next step for you → https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun ⚡️Have you seen my YouTube Channel? I'm putting a lot of energy into creating valuable content that you won't find anywhere else. Come check out my latest stuff, and give me a like and subscribe. → https://bit.ly/DrKavethaSunYouTubeChannel ⚡️ Or if you have any questions, feel free to write us an email at admin@drkavethasun.com — we’d love to hear from you. Let’s get started.

  1. 15H AGO

    Help! My relationship feels… boring

    There’s a particular kind of discomfort that doesn’t look dramatic from the outside. No screaming. No betrayal. No big rupture. Just a quiet shift. You sit across from your partner at dinner. You talk about schedules, bills, the kids, the weekend plans. You scroll next to each other on the couch. You go through the motions. And somewhere in the background, a subtle thought appears: “Why does this feel so… flat?” Not explosive. Not broken. Just… dull. Distant. Mechanical. In today’s episode, Help! My relationship feels… boring, I unpack the real reason this happens — and it’s probably not what you think. Because boredom in a relationship is rarely about “not having enough in common.” More often, it’s a sign that something true isn’t being voiced. A whisper you’ve been overriding. A part of you that’s been kept out of the room. And when we silence one truth long enough… we don’t just numb that feeling. We numb everything. In the episode, I share two personal stories that changed how I understand “aliveness”, and how radical honesty (not harshness) can bring realness back to a connection that feels dead. Episode timestamps: 02:05 — The question that’s been marinating in my mind 03:46 — What do we do when a relationship feels boring? 05:01 — The dilemma: wanting the spark before the effort 06:22 — When your relationship with yourself feels dull too 07:22 — The real reason boredom shows up 08:01 — A personal story about feeling flatlined 13:42 — The cost of hiding important truths 17:19 — What “radical honesty” actually means If you’ve been feeling “blah” lately — please don’t assume it means something is wrong with you, or that the relationship is doomed. Instead, let this be a gentle invitation: What truth wants a little more space? What part of you is waiting to be seen again? Oh—and if you have something you're navigating and would love my take on it... 🗣️ You can submit a question or situation for a future episode right here (totally anonymous!): 👉 Submit your question P.S. Love the podcast? Reviews help us spread these life-changing tools far and wide. 💛 If you leave a 5-star review and submit a screenshot here, I’ll send you my Rapid Relationship Repair mini-course—a short but powerful set of tools to reduce conflict and improve connection immediately. FREE tools: Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

    20 min

  2. FEB 12

    Valentine’s Day Pitfalls

    This time of year puts love under a spotlight. Flowers. Reservations. Big gestures. And sometimes… quiet pressure. For many years, I didn’t enjoy Valentine’s Day. Not because I didn’t believe in love — but because something underneath it didn’t feel steady. Here’s what I’ve learned: Valentine’s Day doesn’t create closeness. It reveals it. If the foundation feels strong, the day is sweet, but ... If it feels strained, the holiday quietly magnifies what’s already there. In this week’s episode, I share something I wish someone had told me years ago — even when I was training to be a psychiatrist. Why romantic gestures can’t compensate for emotional distance.Why date nights and “I-statements” only work when something deeper is already solid.And what the unseen part of a relationship truly requires. Believe me, it’s not flashy. And it’s not romantic in the Instagram sense. But it’s the work that makes an ordinary Tuesday feel calm and connected — instead of anxious and on guard. Episode timestamps: 01:13 — Why I didn’t enjoy Valentine’s Day in the past 02:26 — The relationship struggles no one prepares us for 04:06 — When Valentine’s Day started feeling different 05:51 — Icing vs. foundation: what really sustains love 07:32 — The “unsexy” work that changes everything 09:02 — Listening to the whispers you’ve been ignoring 10:52 — How to start strengthening your foundation If this season is bringing up anything — longing, disappointment, hope, or quiet frustration — this episode is for you. Happy Valentine’s Day! (And the rest of your days.) May it be sweet not because of the gesture — but because of what you’ve been building all along. 🗣️Oh—and if you have something you're navigating and would love my take on it... You can submit a question or situation for a future episode right here (totally anonymous!): 👉 Submit your question P.S. Love the podcast? Reviews help us spread these life-changing tools far and wide. 💛 If you leave a 5-star review and submit a screenshot here, I’ll send you my Rapid Relationship Repair mini-course—a short but powerful set of tools to reduce conflict and improve connection immediately. FREE tools: Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

    12 min

  3. FEB 5

    How To Rebuild Trust In A Relationship

    This time of year often brings relationships into sharper focus. February tends to celebrate a romanticized version of love — the ideal, effortless kind. But when real life doesn’t match those expectations, old arguments resurface. Disappointment, betrayal, and unresolved ruptures find a way of coming back into the conversation. And as you already know if you’ve been listening to the podcast, real love isn’t sustained by fantasy. It requires real work, especially when trust has been broken. The truth is that many people try to rebuild trust by rushing toward forgiveness or by hoping things can somehow go back to how they were. But that version of the relationship is gone. And honestly, it wasn’t working for either of you. So in this week’s episode, I walk you through a different path forward. Not back into the past… but toward a new normal — one that’s more honest, transparent, resilient, and emotionally grounded. If you’ve been carrying questions like: “Can I trust them again?” “How do I know this won’t happen again?” “Am I supposed to forgive… or protect myself?” This episode will help you slow down, ground yourself, and move forward with integrity. Episode timestamps: 01:06 — Why rebuilding trust starts with trusting yourself 04:07 — Creating a new normal instead of chasing the past 06:34 — Seeking to understand the other person (without excusing harm) 07:18 — The role of forgiveness — and why it can’t be forced 11:55 — Looking honestly at times you broke trust too 13:53 — What happens if you decide to part ways 14:51 — Reaching out for support when you don’t want to do this alone Whatever path you choose, rebuilding or releasing, my hope is that you do it from a place of self-trust rather than self-abandonment. That’s how healing actually lasts. 🗣️ Oh—and if you have something you're navigating and would love my take on it... You can submit a question or situation for a future episode right here (totally anonymous!): 👉 Submit your question 💛P.S. Love the podcast? Reviews help us spread these life-changing tools far and wide. If you leave a 5-star review and submit a screenshot here, I’ll send you my Rapid Relationship Repair mini-course—a short but powerful set of tools to reduce conflict and improve connection immediately. FREE tools: Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

    13 min

  4. JAN 29

    Parenting Your Sensitive Child with Dr. Ceara Deno

    Last week, we talked about two toxic emotions that can get triggered in children — even by loving, well-intentioned parents. This week is a beautiful follow-up… because many parents aren’t just parenting a child with big feelings — they’re parenting a sensitive child… while being sensitive themselves. And that combination can feel tender, intense, and confusing: You want to acknowledge your child’s emotions and hold clear boundaries… but in the moment, everyone’s nervous system can spiral together. So in today’s episode, Erica and I sit down with Dr. Ceara Deno — a newborn medicine physician in Boston, mom of two (11 and 13), and a parent coach who helps sensitive families build peaceful homes. We talk about what sensitivity actually looks like in real life, why parenting can reactivate our own childhood “tender spots,” and how to create more emotional safety without losing your leadership as the parent. Episode timestamps: 01:01 — Welcoming Dr. Ceara Deno 03:24 — How she became a parent coach (and why sensitivity became her niche) 10:39 — How to know if you’re part of a sensitive family 20:44 — The role of trauma in parenting patterns 24:29 — Anger as unmet needs (and what to do in the moment) 32:35 — Why role play and playfulness can unlock cooperation 43:44 — Connecting before correcting 48:55 — Repair in relationships (and why it matters with kids, too) If this episode resonates, I invite you to listen with gentleness toward yourself. Parenting is learned in real time — and awareness is always the beginning of change. 🗣️Oh—and if you have something you're navigating and would love my take on it...  You can submit a question or situation for a future episode right here (totally anonymous!):  👉 Submit your question P.S. Love the podcast? Reviews help us spread these life-changing tools far and wide. 💛 If you leave a 5-star review and submit a screenshot here, I’ll send you my Rapid Relationship Repair mini-course—a short but powerful set of tools to reduce conflict and improve connection immediately. FREE tools: Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

    47 min

  5. JAN 22

    Are You Unknowingly Triggering These Two Toxic Emotions In Your Child?

    Most parents I work with are loving, thoughtful, and deeply invested in their children’s well-being. And yet — even the best-intentioned parents can unintentionally trigger two emotions in their children that are deeply painful and long-lasting. Not because they don’t care. But because these patterns are so normalized, we rarely question them. So in this episode, I walk you through the two most toxic emotions for a child’s nervous system, and how they quietly show up in everyday moments. Also, why some common parenting techniques work but come at an emotional cost, but most importantly, how to teach emotional regulation without shame, fear, or isolation. Children are supposed to have big emotions. They are supposed to push limits. They are supposed to need help regulating what they don’t yet understand. Our job isn’t to make emotions disappear. It’s to show them how to move through those emotions without feeling bad, broken, or alone. If you’ve ever wondered: “Am I helping my child… or just stopping the behavior?” This episode will give you clarity, and practical alternatives. Episode timestamps: 01:00 — Why I feel deeply grateful for finding my purpose as a parent 03:04 — How even well-meaning parents trigger toxic emotions 04:50 — The two most toxic emotions for children 06:57 — How one toxic emotion quietly creates the other 08:16 — How these emotions show up in everyday parenting moments 11:29 — Why some techniques “work” but are emotionally harmful 13:15 — Teaching without shame or emotional abandonment 18:36 — Why isolation is the most damaging punishment of all If this episode resonates, I invite you to listen with gentleness toward yourself. Parenting is learned in real time — and awareness is always the beginning of change.

    20 min

  6. JAN 15

    10 Ways to Stop Feeling Numb Today

    Last week, we talked about why numbness happens — how it can feel like you’ve lost yourself… like you’re moving through life on autopilot, checking boxes but not really feeling alive. This week is Part 2. Because once you notice the numbness, the next question is usually: “Okay… what do I actually do now?” In today’s episode, 10 Ways to Stop Feeling Numb Today, I share the shifts that helped me stop living behind a mask — and start reconnecting with my emotions, my body, and my relationships. Numbness usually isn’t the real problem. It’s a protection strategy your system learned at a time when feeling everything wasn’t safe, possible, or supported. And the way back isn’t thinking harder — it’s gentle, embodied change that helps you feel again without flooding your nervous system. Timestamps: 00:00 — When you “have it all” but still feel disconnected 00:57 — Lesson 1: Drop the mask (it’s suffocating you) 01:26 — Lesson 2: Your nervous system state shapes everything 02:16 — Lesson 3: Stop intellectualizing (information isn’t transformation) 02:39 — Lesson 4: Why venting in therapy can keep you stuck 03:58 — Lesson 5: Your coping strategies are protecting you from something 05:24 — Lesson 6: How to actually process emotions (embodied release) 06:19 — Lesson 7: Why this work changes every relationship 08:26 — Lesson 8: Anger isn’t the enemy — impulsive reactions are 09:17 — Lesson 9: Boundaries are how you uphold your values 10:27 — A 60-second practice to try today when an emotion rises Try one small change today: When an uncomfortable emotion shows up, pause for 60 seconds. Find where it lives in your body. Place a hand there and say: “I’m willing to feel this sensation on and off for the rest of my life.” Then breathe… and soften. That minute of presence can change more than you expect.You don’t have to overhaul your life or “do this perfectly” for things to begin shifting. One moment of presence. One honest breath. One willingness to feel instead of numb. That’s how the path back to aliveness begins. I hope this episode meets you exactly where you are today. 🗣️Oh—and if you have something you're navigating and would love my take on it... You can submit a question or situation for a future episode right here (totally anonymous!): 👉 Submit your question P.S. Love the podcast? Reviews help us spread these life-changing tools far and wide. 💛 If you leave a 5-star review and submit a screenshot here, I’ll send you my Rapid Relationship Repair mini-course—a short but powerful set of tools to reduce conflict and improve connection immediately. FREE tools: Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

    13 min

  7. JAN 8

    Feeling Numb

    Happy New Year! As we continue into the new year, I want to stay with something many of us quietly experience…a sense of numbness. Many of us feel like we’ve lost ourselves. We’ve worked hard, achieved a lot, and built lives that look successful on the outside… yet inside, something feels flat. Distant. Empty. Days blur together. Joy feels muted. Even the things that once excited us don’t quite land the same way. We go through the motions, wondering quietly, Is this it? If that resonates, this episode is for you. In this week's episode Feeling Numb, I share why numbness isn’t a failure, it’s often a sign that something essential in you is asking to be heard. We explore what actually brings you back to your true nature: your joy, creativity, courage, and sense of aliveness, beyond productivity, self-care trends, or external success. Timestamps: 0:00 — Why this conversation matters: living honestly and fully1:06 — “I’ve lost myself”: when success still feels empty2:39 — The deeper questions beneath numbness3:34 — There is no fixed “real you” — finding aliveness instead5:39 — Why pleasure and luxury don’t bring lasting fulfillment6:22 — Aliveness isn’t always comfortable or easy9:28 — Finding your way back through values and desire16:10 — Numbness as the beginning of awakening Mentioned resources: 5 Questions to Create Your Best Year, a simple but powerful framework to reconnect with your values and desires. Although it was recorded with a previous year in mind, the questions are timeless and can be applied just as meaningfully now. If you’ve been feeling flat, bored, or quietly exhausted, please know you’re not alone. The fact that you’re noticing it may be the very beginning of finding your way back. 🗣️Oh—and if you have something you're navigating and would love my take on it... You can submit a question or situation for a future episode right here (totally anonymous!): 👉 Submit your question P.S. Love the podcast? Reviews help us spread these life-changing tools far and wide. 💛 If you leave a 5-star review and submit a screenshot here, I’ll send you my Rapid Relationship Repair mini-course—a short but powerful set of tools to reduce conflict and improve connection immediately. FREE tools: Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter li...

    20 min

  8. JAN 1

    How to Find Your North Star

    January 1st has a certain energy to it. Not the loud, performative kind — but the quieter kind that asks real questions. Questions like: What do I actually want this year? What am I willing to stay committed to when things get hard? And what keeps me going when motivation fades? In this week’s episode I talk about something I believe matters more than goals, resolutions, or discipline: Finding your North Star. Your North Star isn’t a checklist item. It’s not a vague intention or a temporary burst of motivation. It’s the deepest reason you’re on the journey at all. The WHY that keeps pulling you forward — even when life gets messy, slow, or discouraging. In the episode, I share a powerful story about a boy born into extreme hardship — poverty, violence, and limitation — who still kept moving toward a future he couldn’t yet reach or even fully imagine. Not because life was easy. But because he had a North Star. And I share why this matters so much for your life — especially if you’ve ever felt like change starts and stops, or like you’re constantly resetting instead of moving forward. Timestamps: 02:17 — Why meaningful change is never a straight line 03:42 — When life gets in the way (and why that’s not the real problem) 07:27 — What happens when you don’t have a clear North Star 09:52 — A grounded process to begin finding your own North Star I also guide you through a simple but profound reflection — a process of asking “why” again and again until you reach the place where your body responds before your mind does. That moment when the noise falls away and something inside you says, “Yes. That’s it.” That’s your North Star. If you’re standing at the beginning of a new year and wondering how to stay committed — not just in January, but all the way through — this episode is an invitation to start from a deeper place. Not pressure. Not perfection. But purpose. 🗣️ Oh—and if you have something you're navigating and would love my take on it... You can submit a question or situation for a future episode right here (totally anonymous!): 👉 Submit your question P.S. Love the podcast? Reviews help us spread these life-changing tools far and wide. 💛 If you leave a 5-star review and submit a screenshot here, I’ll send you my Rapid Relationship Repair mini-course—a short but powerful set of tools to reduce conflict and improve connection immediately. FREE tools: Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

    17 min
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This is a show about marriage, Unlike other shows about marriage, Heal Your Relationships is for women whose partners refuse therapy. If that is you, please know that you can still have the marriage you want, and we can help you get there. I’m your host Dr. Kavetha Sun, M.D. Even as a double board-certified psychiatrist, I struggled for years in my intimate relationships. This show is a culmination of everything I learned over ten years of stumbling through my own healing journey. My hope is that it gives you a head start. Each week, I will share simple, research-backed tools that you can use immediately to help you resolve conflict, restore connection, and pass on a legacy you are proud of. PS: Whenever you’re ready, here are two ways I can support you further: ⚡️Want my personalized help to break trauma patterns and heal your relationships in just 90 days? Book a free call to see if our flagship program Resilience 360 is the right next step for you → https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun ⚡️Have you seen my YouTube Channel? I'm putting a lot of energy into creating valuable content that you won't find anywhere else. Come check out my latest stuff, and give me a like and subscribe. → https://bit.ly/DrKavethaSunYouTubeChannel ⚡️ Or if you have any questions, feel free to write us an email at admin@drkavethasun.com — we’d love to hear from you. Let’s get started.

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  • Creator
    Kavetha Sundaramoorthy
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    206
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Copyright Kavetha Sundaramoorthy
  • Show Website
    Heal Your Relationships

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