NVC Life with Rachelle Lamb

Rachelle Lamb
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Nonviolent Communication beyond technique and grounded in real life. Exploring relationships, culture, and the underlying conditions that shape how we relate. To learn more about adopting a life-centric approach to life and love, visit https://www.rachellelamb.com

  1. Jun 17

    Needs Are Not the Holy Grail

    There is often an assumption running quietly through much of how Nonviolent Communication is practiced, including how Rachelle practiced it when she first encountered the work 27 years ago. It is the unspoken assumption that our needs are above questioning. In 27 years of working with NVC, in her own life and with others, she has found it useful to challenge that assumption. Human beings, after all, are not simple creatures. We contain competing impulses, layered histories, and contradictory desires. We can name a need from the very part of us most committed to preventing its fulfillment. We can want change desperately while remaining, at a deeper level, committed to the status quo. In this episode, Rachelle explores the part of us that would prefer things to stay as they are and distorts our needs. She invites us to seriously consider that needs are not the Holy Grail but rather a starting point. The real work begins when we're willing to look honestly at what's underneath them. Referenced in this episode: John Gottman — perpetual problems in relationships (approximately 69%) James Hillman — Jungian depth psychology Marion Woodman — Jungian psychotherapy Clarissa Pinkola Estés — Women Who Run with the Wolves Rainer Maria Rilke — Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final Walt Whitman — Do I contradict myself? Very well then I contradict myself. I am large, I contain multitudes. Find Rachelle: rachellelamb.com

    12 min

  2. Jun 3

    Couples Stuck in a Story

    He always. She never. I can't trust you anymore. These aren't simply complaints; they are the architecture of a story. And the degree to which a couple is committed to that story is, in Rachelle's experience, very close to the degree to which the couple suffers inside it. In this episode, Rachelle explores one of the most consistent patterns she encounters in couples work: the pull toward generalization, and what it costs. When two people become entrenched in the narrative of their relationship, they lose contact with the actual relationship; the living, present-moment aliveness unfolding between them right now. She looks at why the story feels safer than specificity, what the move toward genuine presence requires, and what becomes possible when two people are willing, even briefly, to step out of the narrative and encounter each other directly. The episode touches on Rumi's field beyond right-doing and wrong-doing, and the difference between a conversation that ends in threat and one that ends in acknowledgment. It closes with a blessing by Irish poet John O'Donohue For Love in a Time of Conflict from his collection To Bless the Space Between Us. Referenced in this episode: Rumi, “Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I'll meet you there.” John O'Donohue For Love in a Time of Conflict, from To Bless the Space Between Us (2008) Find Rachelle: rachellelamb.com

    13 min

  3. May 20

    What Nonviolent Communication Was Meant to Be and What It’s Become

    After two years, Rachelle returns to revisit the foundations of Nonviolent Communication. What Nonviolent Communication Was Meant to Be, and What It’s Become Beginning with the opening page of Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg, this episode centers on two defining questions: • What disconnects us from our compassionate nature? • What allows us to remain connected to it, even under the most trying circumstances? From there, this episode explores how Nonviolent Communication is often criticized as ineffective, overly focused on feelings, or disconnected from reality. Drawing on the example of Etty Hillesum, this conversation points to a form of compassion that is not sentimental, but grounded, discerning, and rooted in a wider understanding of the human condition. This marks the beginning of a broader exploration into relationships, culture, and what it means to relate, not only from personal needs, but in response to life itself. If you’d like to stay connected and hear about future episodes, writings, and offerings, you’re welcome to join my mailing list: https://www.rachellelamb.com

    11 min

  4. 04/30/2024

    Mothers and daughters

    An exploration of the sometimes tumultuous relationship between mothers and daughters Mentions: After 37 Years My Mother Apologizes for My Childhood by Sharon Olds https://www.writersalmanac.org/index.html%3Fp=7034.html Bloodroot: tracing the untelling of motherloss by Betsy Warland https://www.betsywarland.com/project/bloodroot-tracing-the-untelling-of-motherloss/

    20 min

  5. 04/24/2024

    Under the pink moon

    In this episode: different names for the moon, Earth Day mission statement, excerpts from an interview with Martín Prechtel by Derrick Jensen, a poem titled: Where Am I? (Strange World) https://derrickjensen.org/dreams/martin-prechtel/

    14 min

  6. 04/09/2024

    Eclipsed by wonder

    Thoughts on yesterday's solar eclipse and the act of people gathering in large numbers for an awe inspiring celestial event.

    14 min

  7. 03/07/2024

    My God I’m crazy

    "Even to think that we're separated from nature is somehow a thought thinking disorder. You can't be separated from nature." These are the words of the great Jungian psychologist James Hillman. Listen to this episode to hear more about how we're going crazy. Referenced video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4tAtDaO8Qdw

    12 min
  8. How does your mind see?

    02/27/2024

    How does your mind see?

    Meeting Marshall Rosenberg was life changing for me. It completely altered my way of seeing and understanding the world as well as how I interacted with others.

    12 min
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