Healthy Love & Money: Financial Therapy, Intimacy, Conflict & Communication for Couples

Ed Coambs - Therapy-Informed Financial Planning™

Why did you spend so much money on… Couples have fights, disagreements, and misunderstandings about money all the time. This is normal, but is it healthy for your relationship? The solutions to money differences are not always as apparent as smart couples would think. Listen to incredible interviews with financial therapists, couples therapists, and financial planning experts to learn, heal, and grow your way through your most resentment-building financial differences. There is no need to experience financial misery with your happily ever after when you can foster financial intimacy. If you are smart, ambitious, love your partner, and don’t want money to be a barrier to connection, meaning, and purpose in your life, then pop in your ear buds or crank up your speakers in your family mobile and let’s get you moving towards healthy love and money. This podcast is for you if If you are a female breadwinner or married to one If you are a successful professional but still feel miserable about money If you can’t stop thinking about money, and check your bank account three times a day If you spend money and then worry what your partner will think If you got a large sum of money and it has caused more problems than good If you are planning to get married no matter which time it is If one or both of your parents was a mess with money If your siblings can’t stop asking for financial help If you have adult children you want out of your wallet If your a first generation professional and you feel out of place with your income If you want your partner to participate in the finances with you If you feel guilt, shame, anxiety, or fear about money If you don’t see your money topic, let us know and we will be sure to cover it. [Occasional Explicit Content]

  1. Your Children Will Remember These Words Long After You’re Gone with Blake Brewer

    1D AGO

    Your Children Will Remember These Words Long After You’re Gone with Blake Brewer

    Ed sits down with Blake Brewer, founder of Legacy Letter, to explore how one handwritten letter can change families for generations. Blake shares the heartbreaking story of losing his father at 19, and the unexpected gift his father left behind that transformed his grief into purpose. Together, they unpack why love, apology, belief, and identity are the true foundations of healthy relationships. This conversation is both a call to action and a reminder that the words we leave behind may matter more than anything we pass on financially. Key Takeaways: • How can intentional words and written legacy shape a child’s identity for life? • Why are apology, love, and belief essential foundations for healing and strengthening family relationships? • What responsibility do parents have to pass on emotional wisdom—not just financial or material inheritance? Key Timestamps: (00:00) - How Blake Lost His Father (09:00) - Letter That Healed (12:00) - Grief And Growth (15:00) - Why Words Matter (18:00) - Parenting With Intention (21:00) - Apology In Parenting (24:00) - Affirming Child Identity (27:00) - Love, Pride, Belief (30:00) - Sharing Meaningful Memories (33:00) - Advice That Shapes Life (36:00) - Writing From The Heart (39:00) - Legacy Beyond Death Key Topics Discussed: Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Legacy Letter, Parent Child Relationships, Emotional Inheritance, Healing Family Relationships, Meaningful Parenting Conversations Mentions: Website: https://www.legacyletter.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/blakecbrewer/ More of Healthy Love & Money: Redefine your relationship with money and each other: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/ Ed’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/healthyloveandmoney/ Contact me at ed@healthyloveandmoney.com Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

    48 min
  2. Are You Risking Family Conflict with No Estate Plan? with Mikel Van Clelve

    JAN 20

    Are You Risking Family Conflict with No Estate Plan? with Mikel Van Clelve

    Ed and researcher and financial planner Mikel Van Clelve, unpack the hidden emotional dynamics, common misconceptions, legal pitfalls, and the critical conversations couples need before making long-term decisions. Whether you’re part of a blended family or simply connected to one through parents, children, or extended relatives, this episode gives you the clarity, language, and confidence to handle even the most complex family-money situations. Mikel’s work is transforming how blended families navigate money, communication, and legacy-building, so you’ll walk away with practical steps, deeper understanding, and the tools to protect the people you love most. Key Takeaways: • What risks do couples face when they avoid discussing inheritance, assets, and fairness? • How can financial therapy and professional guidance help families create clearer, more equitable plans? • How can blended families better navigate the emotional and financial complexities of estate planning? Key Timestamps: (00:00) – Blended Family Landscape (03:00) – Estate Planning Foundations (06:00) – Unintentional Disinheritance Risks (09:00) – Blended Families Statistics (12:00) – What Are Emotional Barriers? (15:00) – Kinship Theory Insight (18:00) – Fairness Versus Equality (21:00) – Stepchild Support Dynamics (24:00) – Family Systems Complexity (27:00) – Emotional Avoidance Costs (30:00) – Negotiation Within Marriage Key Topics Discussed: Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Blended Family Estate Planning, Stepfamily Financial Challenges, Unintentional Disinheritance, Financial Therapy Support, Legacy And Inheritance Planning Mentions: Website: https://www.myweb.ttu.edu/mvanclev/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mikel-van-cleve  More of Healthy Love & Money: Redefine your relationship with money and each other: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/ Ed’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/healthyloveandmoney/ Contact me at ed@healthyloveandmoney.com Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

    35 min
  3. Why Money Fights Aren’t About Money—Learn Why Your Partner Spends or Saves the Way They Do with Dr. Daniel Crosby

    JAN 6

    Why Money Fights Aren’t About Money—Learn Why Your Partner Spends or Saves the Way They Do with Dr. Daniel Crosby

    Dr. Daniel Crosby, psychologist, author, and Chief Behavioral Officer at Orion Financial joins Ed to explore the deeper meaning behind how we earn, spend, save, and relate to wealth. Drawing from his new book The Soul of Wealth, Daniel shares stories from his personal life, his faith background, and his years studying human behavior to reveal why our relationship with money is far more emotional than logical. Together, he and Ed unpack how childhood narratives shape our financial beliefs, why couples collide over money even when the numbers are fine, and how personal growth can dramatically increase both life satisfaction and earning potential. This episode goes beyond budgets and bank accounts to ask the profound questions of what wealth is for and how it can support a more meaningful life. Prepare for an honest, funny, and deeply human conversation about money, identity, and purpose. Key Takeaways: • How do childhood experiences and family beliefs shape the way we relate to money as adults? • Why do couples clash over financial decisions even when they share the same goals? • What role does personal growth and emotional awareness play in building true, sustainable wealth? Key Timestamps: (00:00) – Health Scare Perspective Shift (09:00) – Eating Disorders Background Connection (12:00) – Understanding Money Stories (15:00) – Budgets Reveal Priorities (18:00) – Couples’ Spending Conflicts (21:00) – Navigating Money Differences (24:00) – Anxiety’s Role In Finances (27:00) – Gender And Money Expectations (30:00) – Identity Beyond Net Worth (33:00) – Therapy Boosts Earnings (36:00) – Emotional Skills And Wealth Key Topics Discussed: Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Financial Psychology, Money And Meaning, Behavioral Finance Insights, Wealth And Well-Being, Couples And Money Dynamics Mentions: Website: https://orion.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/danielcrosby  Mentions: The Soul of Wealth Book More of Healthy Love & Money: Redefine your relationship with money and each other: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/ Ed’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/healthyloveandmoney/ Contact me at ed@healthyloveandmoney.com Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

    39 min
  4. Heal Inherited Financial Trauma Using IFS (Internal Family Systems) with Tamala Floyd & Saundra Davis

    12/23/2025

    Heal Inherited Financial Trauma Using IFS (Internal Family Systems) with Tamala Floyd & Saundra Davis

    Ed chats with psychotherapist and author Tamala Floyd and financial wellness leader Saundra Davis for an eye-opening conversation at the intersection of healing, money, and identity. Together, they explore how Internal Family Systems (IFS) helps people unlock deep emotional transformation, why legacy burdens shape our financial behaviors, and how ancestral wisdom can accelerate healing across generations. Through honest stories, vulnerable insights, and grounded guidance, this episode highlights the truth that money is never just about numbers, it’s about the parts of ourselves we’ve protected, the wounds we’ve carried, and the generations that came before us. Listeners will walk away with a new understanding of wholeness, the power of self-leadership, and the emotional roots underlying our financial lives. Key Takeaways: • How do internal parts and protectors shape the way we approach money and emotional healing? • In what ways do legacy burdens and ancestral patterns influence financial behavior across generations? • How can therapy, self-leadership, and mindful awareness create lasting change in both personal and financial well-being? Key Timestamps: (00:00) - Childhood Creativity Foundations (06:00) - Therapy Journey Beginnings (09:00) - IFS Core Principles (12:00) - Legacy Burdens Explained (15:00) - Generational Money Patterns (18:00) - Emotional Money Conflicts (21:00) - Wealth Fear Insights (24:00) - Therapy and Money (27:00) - Protectors And Wounds (30:00) - Trauma Healing (39:00) - Rupture Repair Process Key Topics Discussed: Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Internal Family Systems, Financial Healing, Legacy Burdens, Ancestral Wisdom, Emotional Money Patterns Mentions: Tamala’s Website: https://www.tamalafloyd.com/  Tamala’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamala-floyd-lcsw-2ba1a837  Saundra’s Website: https://www.sagefinancialsolutions.org/  Saundra’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saundradavis  More of Healthy Love & Money: Redefine your relationship with money and each other: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/ Ed’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/healthyloveandmoney/ Contact me at ed@healthyloveandmoney.com Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

    44 min
  5. Can't Enjoy Your Money? Break Free From Money Guilt with Haylie Castillo

    12/09/2025

    Can't Enjoy Your Money? Break Free From Money Guilt with Haylie Castillo

    Ed sits down with financial therapist Haylie Castillo, whose powerful story bridges finance, trauma healing, and liberation work. Haylie opens up about her path from corporate finance to financial therapy, revealing how deconstructing her faith, motherhood, and her relationship with power shaped her approach to money and meaning. Together, Ed and Haylie unpack how systems, pleasure, and play influence our money stories, and how embracing joy can be a radical act of financial freedom. Key Takeaways: • What role does pleasure play in reshaping our relationship with money? • How can decolonizing and liberation-centered therapy transform financial healing? • Why is storytelling such a powerful tool for financial and emotional growth? Key Timestamps: (00:00) - MLM And Disempowerment (10:00) - Navigating Corporate Finance (12:00) - Motherhood And Awakening (17:00) - Discovering Financial Therapy (22:00) - Taking Up Space (25:00) - Storytelling And Self-Healing (28:00) - Pleasure And Play With Money (34:00) - Parallels With Sex And Food (39:00) - Healing Through Relationship (41:00) - Ritual And Community Key Topics Discussed: Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Financial Therapy, Money And Trauma, Liberation-Centered Healing, Pleasure And Money, Decolonizing Wealth Mentions: Website: https://www.castillofinancialtherapy.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/c_financial_therapy/  More of Healthy Love & Money: Redefine your relationship with money and each other: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/ Ed’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/healthyloveandmoney/ Contact me at ed@healthyloveandmoney.com Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

    44 min
  6. 4 Types of Trauma Secretly Controlling Your Money Decisions with Lou Lebentz

    11/25/2025

    4 Types of Trauma Secretly Controlling Your Money Decisions with Lou Lebentz

    What if the missing link in your healing journey was trauma, and no one ever told you? In this eye-opening episode, Ed Coambs sits down with renowned trauma therapist Lou Lebentz for a deeply moving and transformative conversation. Together, they uncover the hidden layers of trauma that shape our lives, from the subtle emotional imprints of childhood to intergenerational pain and societal systems of shame and scarcity. Lou shares her personal journey through breakdown, financial extremes, and profound healing, leading to the creation of her pioneering program, The Voyage. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand how unresolved trauma shows up in relationships, mental health, and even your financial behaviors and how true healing is not just possible, but your birthright. Key Takeaways: • How can healing through programs like The Voyage help individuals move from survival to thriving? • What role do our childhood experiences and inherited beliefs play in how we relate to money and self-worth? • How does trauma—beyond just major events—shape our emotional, relational, and financial lives? Key Timestamps: (00:00) - Discovering trauma in addiction therapy settings (05:00) - Four aspects of trauma explained (08:30) - How classism and societal systems create trauma (10:00) - Internalizing parental fears and money beliefs (13:00) - The importance of addressing past, present, and future in healing (16:00) - The role of therapy and coaching in trauma recovery (19:00) - Understanding parts work: adult, wounded, and adapted selves (23:00) - How childhood money experiences shape financial behaviors (37:00) - Integrating soul, vision, and purpose in healing (38:00) - Thriving after trauma as a birthright Key Topics Discussed: Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Trauma recovery program, Inner child healing, Financial trauma therapy, Parts work psychology, Emotional healing journey Mentions: Website: https://loulebentz.com/  LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/loulebentz  Mentions: The Voyage More of Healthy Love & Money: Redefine your relationship with money and each other: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/ Ed’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/healthyloveandmoney/ Contact me at ed@healthyloveandmoney.com Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

    40 min
  7. Turn Financial Conflict Into Connection With This Simple Shift

    11/11/2025

    Turn Financial Conflict Into Connection With This Simple Shift

    Ed opens up about the deeply personal journey of buying a lake house with his wife, a dream years in the making that brought both joy and tension. Through raw reflection, Ed explores how financial decisions often uncover deeper emotional layers in relationships, revealing the power of vulnerability, trust, and emotional awareness. He shares how understanding attachment styles, embracing emotional honesty, and seeking guidance can transform financial conflict into deeper intimacy. This episode invites you to reflect on your own dreams, how you communicate them with your partners, and how shared meaning can strengthen love and money alike. Key Takeaways: • How can couples navigate emotional differences when pursuing shared financial dreams? • What role do attachment styles play in how partners communicate about money and security? • How can slowing down and seeking guidance turn financial conflict into deeper connection? Key Timestamps: (00:00) - Dream Meets Resistance (05:00) - The Turning Point (07:00) - Attachment And Awareness (10:00) - Meaning Behind Dreams (12:00) - Guidance And Growth (14:00) - Lessons From The Lakehouse Key Topics Discussed: Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples More of Healthy Love & Money: Redefine your relationship with money and each other: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/ Ed’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/healthyloveandmoney/ Contact me at ed@healthyloveandmoney.com Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

    17 min
  8. When Money Triggers You, Try This Approach with Lindsay Troxell

    10/28/2025

    When Money Triggers You, Try This Approach with Lindsay Troxell

    What happens when deep healing meets financial planning? Lindsay Troxell, business coach, certified life planner, and child-free entrepreneur, joins Ed to explore the profound intersections of money, identity, trauma, and relationships. Together, they unravel Lindsay’s personal journey through financial betrayal, her healing process, and the creation of a thriving life and business alongside her partner, Corey. From grounding practices to quarterly tax triggers, this episode is a masterclass in emotional resilience, authentic partnership, and what it means to truly thrive financially and emotionally. Key Takeaways: • How do our childhood experiences and past traumas shape our relationship with money and financial decision-making? • What does true financial intimacy look like in a romantic partnership, especially when personalities and money stories differ? • How can somatic practices and identity work support personal healing and professional growth for purpose-driven entrepreneurs? Key Timestamps: (00:00) - Integrating wealth, health, and life planning (08:00) - From financial crisis to empowerment (12:00) - Launching a values-based RIA (14:00) - Navigating relationship dynamics with money (16:00) -Emotional safety and personal growth (20:00) - Childhood money stories and triggers (23:00) - Somatic tools for nervous system healing (26:00) - Communication and deep financial intimacy (29:00) - Trauma work and psychedelics in healing (32:00) - The human experience of worth and fear Key Topics Discussed: Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples Mentions: Website: https://www.discretionaryinc.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lindsaytroxell  More of Healthy Love & Money: Redefine your relationship with money and each other: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/ Ed’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/healthyloveandmoney/ Contact me at ed@healthyloveandmoney.com Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

    39 min
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Why did you spend so much money on… Couples have fights, disagreements, and misunderstandings about money all the time. This is normal, but is it healthy for your relationship? The solutions to money differences are not always as apparent as smart couples would think. Listen to incredible interviews with financial therapists, couples therapists, and financial planning experts to learn, heal, and grow your way through your most resentment-building financial differences. There is no need to experience financial misery with your happily ever after when you can foster financial intimacy. If you are smart, ambitious, love your partner, and don’t want money to be a barrier to connection, meaning, and purpose in your life, then pop in your ear buds or crank up your speakers in your family mobile and let’s get you moving towards healthy love and money. This podcast is for you if If you are a female breadwinner or married to one If you are a successful professional but still feel miserable about money If you can’t stop thinking about money, and check your bank account three times a day If you spend money and then worry what your partner will think If you got a large sum of money and it has caused more problems than good If you are planning to get married no matter which time it is If one or both of your parents was a mess with money If your siblings can’t stop asking for financial help If you have adult children you want out of your wallet If your a first generation professional and you feel out of place with your income If you want your partner to participate in the finances with you If you feel guilt, shame, anxiety, or fear about money If you don’t see your money topic, let us know and we will be sure to cover it. [Occasional Explicit Content]

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