Healthy Love & Money: Financial Therapy, Intimacy, Conflict & Communication for Couples

Ed Coambs - Therapy-Informed Financial Planning™

Why did you spend so much money on… Couples have fights, disagreements, and misunderstandings about money all the time. This is normal, but is it healthy for your relationship? The solutions to money differences are not always as apparent as smart couples would think. Listen to incredible interviews with financial therapists, couples therapists, and financial planning experts to learn, heal, and grow your way through your most resentment-building financial differences. There is no need to experience financial misery with your happily ever after when you can foster financial intimacy. If you are smart, ambitious, love your partner, and don’t want money to be a barrier to connection, meaning, and purpose in your life, then pop in your ear buds or crank up your speakers in your family mobile and let’s get you moving towards healthy love and money. This podcast is for you if If you are a female breadwinner or married to one If you are a successful professional but still feel miserable about money If you can’t stop thinking about money, and check your bank account three times a day If you spend money and then worry what your partner will think If you got a large sum of money and it has caused more problems than good If you are planning to get married no matter which time it is If one or both of your parents was a mess with money If your siblings can’t stop asking for financial help If you have adult children you want out of your wallet If your a first generation professional and you feel out of place with your income If you want your partner to participate in the finances with you If you feel guilt, shame, anxiety, or fear about money If you don’t see your money topic, let us know and we will be sure to cover it. [Occasional Explicit Content]

  1. Heal Inherited Financial Trauma Using IFS (Internal Family Systems) with Tamala Floyd & Saundra Davis

    21H AGO

    Heal Inherited Financial Trauma Using IFS (Internal Family Systems) with Tamala Floyd & Saundra Davis

    Ed chats with psychotherapist and author Tamala Floyd and financial wellness leader Saundra Davis for an eye-opening conversation at the intersection of healing, money, and identity. Together, they explore how Internal Family Systems (IFS) helps people unlock deep emotional transformation, why legacy burdens shape our financial behaviors, and how ancestral wisdom can accelerate healing across generations. Through honest stories, vulnerable insights, and grounded guidance, this episode highlights the truth that money is never just about numbers, it’s about the parts of ourselves we’ve protected, the wounds we’ve carried, and the generations that came before us. Listeners will walk away with a new understanding of wholeness, the power of self-leadership, and the emotional roots underlying our financial lives. Key Takeaways: • How do internal parts and protectors shape the way we approach money and emotional healing? • In what ways do legacy burdens and ancestral patterns influence financial behavior across generations? • How can therapy, self-leadership, and mindful awareness create lasting change in both personal and financial well-being? Key Timestamps: (00:00) - Childhood Creativity Foundations (06:00) - Therapy Journey Beginnings (09:00) - IFS Core Principles (12:00) - Legacy Burdens Explained (15:00) - Generational Money Patterns (18:00) - Emotional Money Conflicts (21:00) - Wealth Fear Insights (24:00) - Therapy and Money (27:00) - Protectors And Wounds (30:00) - Trauma Healing (39:00) - Rupture Repair Process Key Topics Discussed: Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Internal Family Systems, Financial Healing, Legacy Burdens, Ancestral Wisdom, Emotional Money Patterns Mentions: Tamala’s Website: https://www.tamalafloyd.com/ Tamala’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamala-floyd-lcsw-2ba1a837 Saundra’s Website: https://www.sagefinancialsolutions.org/ Saundra’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saundradavis More of Healthy Love & Money: Redefine your relationship with money and each other: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/ Ed’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/healthyloveandmoney/ Contact me at ed@healthyloveandmoney.com Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

    44 min
  2. Can't Enjoy Your Money? Break Free From Money Guilt with Haylie Castillo

    3D AGO

    Can't Enjoy Your Money? Break Free From Money Guilt with Haylie Castillo

    Ed sits down with financial therapist Haylie Castillo, whose powerful story bridges finance, trauma healing, and liberation work. Haylie opens up about her path from corporate finance to financial therapy, revealing how deconstructing her faith, motherhood, and her relationship with power shaped her approach to money and meaning. Together, Ed and Haylie unpack how systems, pleasure, and play influence our money stories, and how embracing joy can be a radical act of financial freedom. Key Takeaways: • What role does pleasure play in reshaping our relationship with money? • How can decolonizing and liberation-centered therapy transform financial healing? • Why is storytelling such a powerful tool for financial and emotional growth? Key Timestamps: (00:00) - MLM And Disempowerment (10:00) - Navigating Corporate Finance (12:00) - Motherhood And Awakening (17:00) - Discovering Financial Therapy (22:00) - Taking Up Space (25:00) - Storytelling And Self-Healing (28:00) - Pleasure And Play With Money (34:00) - Parallels With Sex And Food (39:00) - Healing Through Relationship (41:00) - Ritual And Community Key Topics Discussed: Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Financial Therapy, Money And Trauma, Liberation-Centered Healing, Pleasure And Money, Decolonizing Wealth Mentions: Website: https://www.castillofinancialtherapy.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/c_financial_therapy/ More of Healthy Love & Money: Redefine your relationship with money and each other: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/ Ed’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/healthyloveandmoney/ Contact me at ed@healthyloveandmoney.com Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

    44 min
  3. 4 Types of Trauma Secretly Controlling Your Money Decisions with Lou Lebentz

    MAY 7

    4 Types of Trauma Secretly Controlling Your Money Decisions with Lou Lebentz

    What if the missing link in your healing journey was trauma, and no one ever told you? In this eye-opening episode, Ed Coambs sits down with renowned trauma therapist Lou Lebentz for a deeply moving and transformative conversation. Together, they uncover the hidden layers of trauma that shape our lives, from the subtle emotional imprints of childhood to intergenerational pain and societal systems of shame and scarcity. Lou shares her personal journey through breakdown, financial extremes, and profound healing, leading to the creation of her pioneering program, The Voyage. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand how unresolved trauma shows up in relationships, mental health, and even your financial behaviors and how true healing is not just possible, but your birthright. Key Takeaways: • How can healing through programs like The Voyage help individuals move from survival to thriving? • What role do our childhood experiences and inherited beliefs play in how we relate to money and self-worth? • How does trauma—beyond just major events—shape our emotional, relational, and financial lives? Key Timestamps: (00:00) - Discovering trauma in addiction therapy settings (05:00) - Four aspects of trauma explained (08:30) - How classism and societal systems create trauma (10:00) - Internalizing parental fears and money beliefs (13:00) - The importance of addressing past, present, and future in healing (16:00) - The role of therapy and coaching in trauma recovery (19:00) - Understanding parts work: adult, wounded, and adapted selves (23:00) - How childhood money experiences shape financial behaviors (37:00) - Integrating soul, vision, and purpose in healing (38:00) - Thriving after trauma as a birthright Key Topics Discussed: Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Trauma recovery program, Inner child healing, Financial trauma therapy, Parts work psychology, Emotional healing journey Mentions: Website: https://loulebentz.com/ LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/loulebentz Mentions: The Voyage More of Healthy Love & Money: Redefine your relationship with money and each other: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/ Ed’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/healthyloveandmoney/ Contact me at ed@healthyloveandmoney.com Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

    40 min
  4. Turn Financial Conflict Into Connection With This Simple Shift

    MAY 4

    Turn Financial Conflict Into Connection With This Simple Shift

    Ed opens up about the deeply personal journey of buying a lake house with his wife, a dream years in the making that brought both joy and tension. Through raw reflection, Ed explores how financial decisions often uncover deeper emotional layers in relationships, revealing the power of vulnerability, trust, and emotional awareness. He shares how understanding attachment styles, embracing emotional honesty, and seeking guidance can transform financial conflict into deeper intimacy. This episode invites you to reflect on your own dreams, how you communicate them with your partners, and how shared meaning can strengthen love and money alike. Key Takeaways: • How can couples navigate emotional differences when pursuing shared financial dreams? • What role do attachment styles play in how partners communicate about money and security? • How can slowing down and seeking guidance turn financial conflict into deeper connection? Key Timestamps: (00:00) - Dream Meets Resistance (05:00) - The Turning Point (07:00) - Attachment And Awareness (10:00) - Meaning Behind Dreams (12:00) - Guidance And Growth (14:00) - Lessons From The Lakehouse Key Topics Discussed: Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples More of Healthy Love & Money: Redefine your relationship with money and each other: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/ Ed’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/healthyloveandmoney/ Contact me at ed@healthyloveandmoney.com Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

    17 min
  5. When Money Triggers You, Try This Approach with Lindsay Troxell

    APR 30

    When Money Triggers You, Try This Approach with Lindsay Troxell

    What happens when deep healing meets financial planning? Lindsay Troxell, business coach, certified life planner, and child-free entrepreneur, joins Ed to explore the profound intersections of money, identity, trauma, and relationships. Together, they unravel Lindsay’s personal journey through financial betrayal, her healing process, and the creation of a thriving life and business alongside her partner, Corey. From grounding practices to quarterly tax triggers, this episode is a masterclass in emotional resilience, authentic partnership, and what it means to truly thrive financially and emotionally. Key Takeaways: • How do our childhood experiences and past traumas shape our relationship with money and financial decision-making? • What does true financial intimacy look like in a romantic partnership, especially when personalities and money stories differ? • How can somatic practices and identity work support personal healing and professional growth for purpose-driven entrepreneurs? Key Timestamps: (00:00) - Integrating wealth, health, and life planning (08:00) - From financial crisis to empowerment (12:00) - Launching a values-based RIA (14:00) - Navigating relationship dynamics with money (16:00) -Emotional safety and personal growth (20:00) - Childhood money stories and triggers (23:00) - Somatic tools for nervous system healing (26:00) - Communication and deep financial intimacy (29:00) - Trauma work and psychedelics in healing (32:00) - The human experience of worth and fear Key Topics Discussed: Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples Mentions: Website: https://www.discretionaryinc.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lindsaytroxell More of Healthy Love & Money: Redefine your relationship with money and each other: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/ Ed’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/healthyloveandmoney/ Contact me at ed@healthyloveandmoney.com Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

    39 min
  6. Why Blame Breaks Relationships—Understand Your Partner Instead with Brendan Frazier

    APR 27

    Why Blame Breaks Relationships—Understand Your Partner Instead with Brendan Frazier

    What if the future of financial planning isn't in the numbers—but in the emotions behind them? In this episode, Ed sits down with Brendan Frazier—host of The Human Side of Money podcast and Chief Behavioral Officer at RFG Advisory—to explore why the most meaningful conversations about money aren’t about returns or budgets…they're about people. With deep insight into the psychology of money, Brendan shares why technology may soon outpace advisors on the technical front—and why human connection is the irreplaceable advantage. Whether you’re a couple trying to get on the same financial page, a planner aiming to deepen client relationships, or someone who just wants to feel seen in your money journey, this conversation is your invitation to shift from transactions to transformation. This is the episode you didn’t know you needed—but won’t stop thinking about. Key Takeaways: • How is the growing role of psychology reshaping the future of financial planning, especially in light of advancing technology and AI? • What challenges do financial advisors face when trying to help clients take meaningful action, and how can understanding human behavior improve outcomes? • Why are empathy and mutual understanding between partners crucial for navigating money conversations in relationships? Key Timestamps: (00:00) – The Emergence of Psychology in Financial Planning (03:00) – Technology's Role in Financial Advising (06:00) – The Human Side of Financial Planning (08:00) – Trust and Vulnerability in Client Relationships (10:00) – The Psychology of Spending and Understanding Behavior (17:00) – Financial Trade-Offs and Shared Decision-Making (19:00) – Automation and Willpower in Money Management (22:00) – When Knowing What to Do Isn't Enough (27:00) – Bridging the Financial Knowledge Gap Between Partners (35:00) – Taking Responsibility in Relationships Key Topics Discussed: Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Human side of money, Psychology and financial planning, Behavioral finance, Technology and financial advising, Financial advisor client relationships, Brendan Frazier Mentions: Website: https://rfgadvisory.com/ LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/brendanfrazier?original_referer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2F Mentions: Human Side of Money Podcast More of Healthy Love & Money: Redefine your relationship with money and each other: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/ Ed’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/healthyloveandmoney/ Contact me at ed@healthyloveandmoney.com Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

    40 min
  7. The 5 W’s Every Couple Must Ask for Stronger Relationships

    APR 23

    The 5 W’s Every Couple Must Ask for Stronger Relationships

    In this solo episode, Ed unpacks the Five W’s—Who, What, Why, Where, and When—as a framework for building deeper financial intimacy. Money isn’t just about numbers; it’s about the stories, fears, hopes, and histories that shape how couples connect. From uncovering the “who” that shows up at the table, to redefining the “what” of financial intimacy, and exploring the “why” behind money conflicts, this conversation helps you turn financial stress into a pathway for trust and closeness. Whether you’re navigating careers, kids, or retirement planning, Ed offers practical reflections and heartfelt insights to bring more honesty, compassion, and teamwork into your financial life together. Key Takeaways: • What does financial intimacy mean beyond budgets and numbers, and how can couples practice it with honesty and vulnerability? • Who shows up in your financial conversations—the present you, or the past experiences that still shape your money story? • Why does exploring the deeper meaning behind money conflicts transform financial stress into trust, compassion, and connection? Key Timestamps: (00:00) - Understanding financial intimacy (03:00) - Why money conflicts run deeper (04:00) - A story about mortgage vs. investing (05:00) - Where financial intimacy happens (06:00) - Couples and financial intimacy (07:00) - Pulling the Five W’s together Key Topics Discussed: Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Financial Intimacy, Healthy Money Conversations, Couples And Money, Building Trust With Finances, Relationship And Financial Wellness More of Healthy Love & Money: Redefine your relationship with money and each other: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/ Ed’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/healthyloveandmoney/ Contact me at ed@healthyloveandmoney.com Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

    9 min
  8. Why Sensitive People Struggle With Money (And How to Fix It) with Diana Gisel Yañez

    APR 20

    Why Sensitive People Struggle With Money (And How to Fix It) with Diana Gisel Yañez

    Ed is joined by the deeply insightful Diana Gisel Yañez—money coach, investment manager, and advocate for financial healing through a lens of social justice and sensitivity. Diana shares her unique journey from Wall Street disillusionment to empowering highly sensitive people (HSPs) to reclaim their financial narratives. Together, Ed and Diana explore the intersection of money, emotion, and meaning—unpacking how cultural background, nervous system regulation, and deep values shape our relationship with wealth. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by finances or questioned your place in traditional financial spaces, this episode will help you feel seen, soothed, and inspired to rethink your financial path with greater compassion and clarity. From navigating cash flow with intention to investing with purpose, Diana reminds us that money is more than math—it’s a mirror of our inner and communal lives. Key Takeaways: • What does it mean to be a highly sensitive person, and how does that shape one's relationship with money? • How can individuals align their financial decisions—like budgeting and investing—with their values and social justice commitments? • Why is understanding personal and cultural money stories essential for meaningful financial growth and healing? Key Timestamps: (00:00) - Cultural diversity, social justice, and money (06:00) - Where highly sensitive people feel most at home (10:00) - Class, status, and emotional dissonance in money (13:00) - Giving back, family dynamics, and survivor’s guilt (17:00) - Discovering and defining highly sensitive people (HSP) (21:00) - Personal reflections on sensitivity and identity (28:00) - Healing through regulation & body awareness (31:00) - Investment management with a regenerative, justice-aligned lens (36:00) - The broader money picture: cash flow and lifestyle alignment (40:00) - Emotional and psychological components of money Key Topics Discussed: Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Highly Sensitive Person and Money, Socially Responsible Investing, Financial Coaching for Empaths, Money Mindset and Emotional Wellness, Values-Based Financial Planning Mentions: Website: https://highlysensitivemoney.podbean.com/ LinkedIn: https://mx.linkedin.com/in/dianagyanez More of Healthy Love & Money: Redefine your relationship with money and each other: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/ Ed’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/healthyloveandmoney/ Contact me at ed@healthyloveandmoney.com Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

    45 min
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Why did you spend so much money on… Couples have fights, disagreements, and misunderstandings about money all the time. This is normal, but is it healthy for your relationship? The solutions to money differences are not always as apparent as smart couples would think. Listen to incredible interviews with financial therapists, couples therapists, and financial planning experts to learn, heal, and grow your way through your most resentment-building financial differences. There is no need to experience financial misery with your happily ever after when you can foster financial intimacy. If you are smart, ambitious, love your partner, and don’t want money to be a barrier to connection, meaning, and purpose in your life, then pop in your ear buds or crank up your speakers in your family mobile and let’s get you moving towards healthy love and money. This podcast is for you if If you are a female breadwinner or married to one If you are a successful professional but still feel miserable about money If you can’t stop thinking about money, and check your bank account three times a day If you spend money and then worry what your partner will think If you got a large sum of money and it has caused more problems than good If you are planning to get married no matter which time it is If one or both of your parents was a mess with money If your siblings can’t stop asking for financial help If you have adult children you want out of your wallet If your a first generation professional and you feel out of place with your income If you want your partner to participate in the finances with you If you feel guilt, shame, anxiety, or fear about money If you don’t see your money topic, let us know and we will be sure to cover it. [Occasional Explicit Content]

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